How disgusting is this...

I'll tell you what I think is disgusting about it:

-She's blaming her weight on her past
-She's saying that other people's expectations have led her not to want to lose weight (doctors who worry about her health, a lady on the street while she's out walking)
-She's visibly insecure, but saying she has a right to be that way
-She's playing with her life in an effort to "make a point," to who?
-She's being irresponsible
-She is not addressing her mental health issues and seeing that they may be resolved by making a large change in her life: therapy, weight loss, feeling good about herself.
-She isn't TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR HER LIFE, SHE'S BLAMING EVERYTHING ON OTHER PEOPLE: Her past, her doctors, the fact that she has to overeat. There's a point in life when you have to realize that you're the one who has to make the change and stop justifying everything!

That's what I find disgusting...

truth!

But that's NOT disgusting. That's very sad. It's tragic. It's likely a need for further mental and emotional work, but its not an excuse to use such a loaded word to describe a human being, now matter how you dress it up.

Whatever happened to 'judge not lest ye be judged'?

I think it's sad. It's not like she's choosing to eat Taco Bell several times a day to gain weight. She sounds like she is just broken because of the process. She's right. All you hear are stories about how "I went from a size 24 to a size 2!" with before and after photos, but that's it. NO one talks about the struggle to get to 24 to 22 to 20 to 18 back to 22.

Obviously she knows she has issues. She's in therapy. She hit the nail on the head. She wants doctors who are concerned about her blood work. I'm obese and have perfect labs. My weight isn't causing any problems...yet. And I' m not naive enough to believe that I can be like this forever. Maybe she will get it one day. We all have our IT moments. MAybe she hasn't had that yet. Maybe she's still messed up from her childhood.

Disgusting? no. I wouldn't say she is disgusting. I guess it's easy for someone who has never been in her situation to say that.

She needs to be okay with herself first before she begins to change. She needs to be able to forgive her mother and father. She needs to be able to just come to terms. She doesn't need a quick solution or magic pill. She just needs her IT moment.

Way to judge her, the same way she talks about other people judging her. So lame. Big deal. Let her choose her own destiny. It's not our life to judge or be 'disgusted' by. What is disgusting is how judgemental someone can be on a weightloss/fitness website -- and sad.

gosh you're worse than tumblr.
why do you care, exactly?
she's decided to be comfortable with who she is (for now, anyways) and you decided to lose weight. so?
so what?
none of it really matters, you know.

As for the OP, I have to say and I mean this in the most respectful way possible, but I would not respond positively to you were you my healthcare provider. I have had physicians and nurses in the past who I knew were disgusted by me. They didn't have to outright say it but it was evident in the manner in which they provided care. All it did was make me more resentful and determined to rebel. Some people may respond positively to that sort of treatment but I do not. I don't want anyone making excuses for me or to even letme make excuses for myself . But I can appreciate and receive constructive feedback delivered without judgement. That is why I get along much better with my nurse than my nutritionist. And just because I've lost almost 100 lbs I don't feel that gives me license to to look down on other people who are at a different point in their journey or have yet to start. Just something to consider as you will most likely have patients who cover a wide spectrum in the level of care they need and respond to.

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yes... cause posting on a forum = how one gives quality of pt care.

Yes because you referred to her as disgusting. If you think that's never going to translate into how you approach your patients then you are mistaken. Your judgements will show and your patients will see it. Trust me, I've been there. I'm not trying to convince you to change or even shame you for it. We feel how we feel. But not everyone will respond to the care that you provide. That's my point.

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In all seriousness, I think she's misguided, naive, ignorant even... but disgusting? No. Disgusting would be forcing her unhealthy ideals on other people.

Mmm, yes pretty much this. The author chooses to be fat. The OP chooses to judge her. Neither of those things are wrong. The only thing that would be wrong is if the OP forced her to lose weight or she forced him to get fat again.

You can have all the opinions you want, as long as you don't force them on others.

I don't know if this is disgusting at all. My heart breaks for this girl (or woman, now) because she clearly has a lot of emotional issues and yes, maybe even some mental health challenges. It's clear to me that her weight is a defense mechanism, and she even alludes to it as being a sort of armor for her. That is not disgusting, but sad.

My question is, why is anorexia and bulimia treated with much more care than a disorder such as the author of the article? It's clear to many posters that in this situation, there is more than meets the eye. Yet, there is little sensitivity shown towards her and her plight. Most are under the impression that this is something she "chooses" to do. For me, my eating was a compulsion. No matter what anyone told me, I could not control it. "Everything in moderation," my doctors used to say. I used to feel my blood boiling at that comment, because even at 12 years old I knew that they would not say that to an alcoholic or a drug addict, and truly, wasn't my addiction destructive too? I felt frustrated because the only "resources" they gave me were to treat my weight, not my brain or my emotions. I feel that frustration in the author.

Eating disorders do not always lead to low body fat percentages and gaunt appearances. Sometimes they cause weight gain instead. But why is that worse and somehow despicable vs. someone who starves themselves? Being overweight can cause health problems, but so can being far too thin as you see in anorexics. I just don't understand this double standard. And yes, that, to me, is disgusting. Somehow society has accepted anorexia and bulimia as disorders that need to be treated with care. Yet being fat because of binging disorders and emotional eating just brings shame and judgement. It's not disgusting, it's sad.

So well written I am suspicious if it is real.
(I am NOT saying fat people can't write)

I was exactly there in almost the same situation and I felt and reacted exactly that way. Emphasis on "reacted" instead of "acted" - one's emotional and one's intellectual. She's really young (and still obviously really emotional about her life). But weren't we all convinced that our reasons, rationalizations and ideas were the only possible good ones when we were in our teens/early 20's, whether we had the best or worst upbringing? I just hope she will grow and change for the healthier, like I and a lot of people on here have, but disgusting is not the right word to use for someone who has these issues and makes these choices. Sad, yes, and definately in need of help, but that will only come once she's ready to change. Kinda like you had to be ready to change to lose your weight, right OP?

This girl made peace with her body. She decided that she loves it, and it is what it is no matter what anyone else thinks.

We celebrate talk like this all the time. Accepting a bit of stubborn flab, extra skin, stretch marks, weirdly shaped belly buttons, etc.

So there must be some kind of limitation on it. Like, if you are 'too fat', it's 'disgusting' for you to love your body. Or if you aren't 'doing something about it", you better not love your body. Or if you do...you better not tell anyone...

Now I'm wondering if I'm disgusting for loving mine while I took a break from cutting at 209lbs? Am I under the limit?

It's the mental illness piece, not the number on the scale piece that is being reacted to.
She has a binge eating disorder, and seems to be using societal norms to justify it by refusing to conform.

BTW:You look great and healthy, and this thread has absolutely nothing to do with you or your health/fitness goals.

The book is selling disinformation to dieters that don't want to take responsibility for their bad decisions. They don't have an innate genetic disposition to be hungrier than others. Their continued overeating has changed their urge to eat (google epigenetics if you want to learn more). So technically they do have more urges to eat, but that's only because they have consistently overate throughout their life. Habits, good and bad are formed and can be undone. She just doesnt want to.

I just looked through the author's other articles and saw one called "My best relationship is with my dog". I'm not surprised.

Are you serious? The only reason someone overeats is because they overate in the past?

You seriously need to get your head out of your butt and take a look around. There are a lot of reasons people overeat, and for some it has no connection to creating a habit of overeating. There are serious hormonal imbalances that turn off the signaling that tells someone they are full and others which can make a person feel very hungry all the time. Could this author have one of these imbalances? It's possible. I'm not saying it's likely....but it's possible. I really don't think ANY of us here are in a position where we should be judging her or her decisions as 'disgusting' when we don't have much of any information to go off of.

someone didnt google epigenetics

I know what epigenetics is. I was not in any way referring to anything having to do with genetics or a change in genetics. I was referring to a hormonal imbalance that can cause one to feel hungry all the time because the hormone that signals 'I'm full' is not present or is deficient to a degree. Yes, maybe, down the line, her choices will or won't cause genetic changes in herself which will further exacerbate the issue, or even be passed to any future children. But for the immediate here and now I'm referring only to an immediate hormonal imbalance.

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I don't know if this is disgusting at all. My heart breaks for this girl (or woman, now) because she clearly has a lot of emotional issues and yes, maybe even some mental health challenges. It's clear to me that her weight is a defense mechanism, and she even alludes to it as being a sort of armor for her. That is not disgusting, but sad.

My question is, why is anorexia and bulimia treated with much more care than a disorder such as the author of the article? It's clear to many posters that in this situation, there is more than meets the eye. Yet, there is little sensitivity shown towards her and her plight. Most are under the impression that this is something she "chooses" to do. For me, my eating was a compulsion. No matter what anyone told me, I could not control it. "Everything in moderation," my doctors used to say. I used to feel my blood boiling at that comment, because even at 12 years old I knew that they would not say that to an alcoholic or a drug addict, and truly, wasn't my addiction destructive too? I felt frustrated because the only "resources" they gave me were to treat my weight, not my brain or my emotions. I feel that frustration in the author.

Eating disorders do not always lead to low body fat percentages and gaunt appearances. Sometimes they cause weight gain instead. But why is that worse and somehow despicable vs. someone who starves themselves? Being overweight can cause health problems, but so can being far too thin as you see in anorexics. I just don't understand this double standard. And yes, that, to me, is disgusting. Somehow society has accepted anorexia and bulimia as disorders that need to be treated with care. Yet being fat because of binging disorders and emotional eating just brings shame and judgement. It's not disgusting, it's sad.

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