My Boyfriend thinks I'm Fat

Yeah, you're gonna get hate because no man in his right mind would ever say what this loser said to the woman he loves and respects! Chubby and out of shape...I'd like to see a phot of the loser she calls her boyfriend - he's probably got more than 15 pounds round his middle, but that's "Okay" for men.

If he thinks she's put on weight, that's fine, but she's got to make the decision for herself. If she decides to not lose the weight because she is happy with herself, then he should not let the door smack him in his *kitten* as he leaves...run along little boy.

Tell him to take a hike.

he is a wasteman you should want to lose weight for your own reason not for someone else only weight you need to lose is him

Tie him down and sit one his face until he agrees that you are perfect. That usually works best on men.

you need to be teabagged

My boyfriend called me Fat and now we're no longer together. No man who claims to love you would hurt you like that. Would make you feel less about yourself. And btw I'm 5'5" and the most I've ever weighed was 141 and now I'm at 132 and it keeps going down, I'm losing the weight for me and losing him as a boyfriend for me.

First I think we should set a ground rule: If anyone in a relationship is their current weight because they DON'T eat healthy, and indulge in bad foods all the time, and don't care about their health, then I don't really think it's a problem for him to point out that you should do something about it, just like it wouldn't be a problem for you to look at him and say the same thing! THAT is love: helping others when they need to be helped because you want what's best for them.

However, you sound like a healthy person, so to me, it's him saying stuff to you because he wants you to be what he wants, not what you are. I don't say dump him if you really think you love him, but I'd definitely confront him about how he goes on and on.

And just for the record, no one deserves to be called fat.

Tell him to kick rocks all the way down the street! Guys who say crap like this are not happy with themselves, and try to reflect that on to you. You deserve better. If you want to lose weight. (I think your weight sounds decent for your height) Do it only for yourself NOONE ELSE!

Also real man would never do that! only insecure boys would tell you things like that. i'd consider dumping him because you don't want to be around someone who's trying to make you feel worthless!

are you trolling? you do know how to find a BMI calculator, right?

SMH, hi there I am new to here, but so excited to get started. I have to agree with the lady that replied to this before me. If he is doing that with you and already, you are better off calling it quits with him. He is projecting his insecurities about something about himself, onto you. That is wrong and unhealthy, not only physically, but emotionally. My husband has seen me through some tough ups and downs, and has been awesome at being able to tell me that I can "afford" to make some changes, but he loves me and my body either way. And he is a fireman that would typically go for a much more slender type, more like I was when I first met him.
This guy isn't worth your time, or the headache of trying to please him, 140/145 is awesome, and you are taller than me! Cut the fat=the insecure and downing boyfriend, and you will feel much better both physically and emotionally. Which will also allow the right man the opportunity to step in.

Hun im just going to be honest....What man doesn't want that??? I am in the same boat...However again, I agree with him. I am not upset or hurt or feel insecure in any way...I simply agree that I have been at a better point and that I CAN get there. The way I see it....he works 17 hour days for our family, and so I can sit with my child and do whatever I want to and just focus on school and life, and the least I can do for him is be the girl of his dreams, I like that actually. I want to know my man is looking at me mainly (since we all know men will look elsewhere...pigs or not they are men ) so id rather be the one he is worried about anyways......I am doing it for me, him, and my daughter so she can make better eating choices for herself. Also.... as far as working out hun u can ALWAYS make time. I work part time, go to school fulltime, and I have a 10 month old, and I still work out twice a day. Its tough but so worth it in the end. I m eating only veggies and fruits and protein in chicken and tuna. and so on. Im not giving up. So again if u feel he is wrong then do what u want with it but some men just don't know how to word it right. There Is no way to word that right really. I would do the same to him if he was getting out of a shape a lil. Simply put hope this helps even just a little

My boyfriend thinks I am out of shape and chubby. I am 5'6" and weigh 140 pounds. At 145, he thinks I'm fat, and he can deal with it when I'm 135. Oh the things we do for love...

Is this ok? I'm not sure whether to be upset about or agree with him. Its true i'm not at my most idea weight, but I eat healthy, do yoga all the time, and do the best I can with exercise for having a job that requires me to be sitting 9 hours a day.

I used to be good with how I looked, but he really likes skinny girls and makes me feel like "I look good" is not as adequate as "I look like a sport's illustrated model."

You definitely need to can that guy. 140 is a great weight for 5'6.

Dump his loser *kitten*!

My boyfriend thinks I am out of shape and chubby. I am 5'6" and weigh 140 pounds. At 145, he thinks I'm fat, and he can deal with it when I'm 135. Oh the things we do for love...

Is this ok? I'm not sure whether to be upset about or agree with him. Its true i'm not at my most idea weight, but I eat healthy, do yoga all the time, and do the best I can with exercise for having a job that requires me to be sitting 9 hours a day.

I used to be good with how I looked, but he really likes skinny girls and makes me feel like "I look good" is not as adequate as "I look like a sport's illustrated model."

My husband has very similar standards to your boyfriend. When people suggest you might be a 'troll', they think this might be a joke post, because to them, the figures just don't add up: how could someone call YOU fat at THAT weight?

Sadly, my DH (darling husband) did. Not only that, but he prodded the 'fat' bits until I cried. So I tried to lose weight for him: I lost it, and when he was still nasty to me, I gained it all back.

His behaviour was awful, but I'm glad I never considered leaving him over it. Instead, I read Fat is a Feminist Issue and lost the weight for myself.

And he didn't need to see the scales for me to know what weights he found me fat at. Once he said 'You WERE a bit podgy at Christmas,' when I'd been 60kg (132lb), which I blew up at him over, but if I get below about 120lb, he worries I'm too thin, so my window of attractiveness is rather narrow for him.

The good thing is, I know I'm attractive to others when I'm not to him, so it has little effect on my overall self-esteem, but is not good for our relationship.

wow...I actually was not going to post to this post again but after reading this it literally makes me nauseous and makes me want to throw up. I could not live with someone like that. It physically makes me ill just just reading this.

No seriously I keep thinking about it and want to puke.

I really don't even know what to say except that this makes me sick. I don't actually know what is worse...that he does this to you or that you are ok with it. But hey it is all ok though because you read a book.

Agreed about the puking! I was married to someone that did that to me. It's not love. Why would you stay with someone who doesn't know how to love properly?