"Why are you single?"

I pretty much always give the same answer:

"That's a damn good question!"

And then we laugh and move on.

Good answer or bad answer I'm not too sure.....but it doesn't matter because I don't much care :laugh: :bigsmile: :drinker:

"Because much like the praying mantis, I involuntarily rip the head off my mate at the point of orgasm"

Ask a silly invasive question, get a smart-assed and irreverant answer.

It's a very common question on dating sites... I've been asked many times.

never been asked that before never really dagted before let alone speed dated. my ex 2 montsh after we met he got me pregnant then it was we are getting married now or never (should of told him to take a hike) and my ex boyfriend was always wanting to kick me out of the apartment. other guys i start talkign to them and even though at the time i only had a slight weight problem they were looking for a trophy wife (never married, no kids, and super modiel thin) even in high school i couldnt get the guys to give me the time of day of course alot of that was they all thought i was like my big brother and a pratical joker (it wasnt til he graduated and i spent 2 years at the schol without him they realized i was the shy quiet person but by that time it was to late and they still wouldnt have anythign to do with me) now its thehell with all of them if they are that stuck on themselves or their mom, or looks, gay or already married (yes i had that happen before as well they start hitting on me only to find out they are already married) i dont need it. yes i want to be in a relationship but not that bad

I am working healing myself. In the last two years my daughter's dad died, and even thou we had not been together for a couple years, it really hurt my heart. If the right guy or girl comes along, I am open to it,but I am happy alone with kids also.

I'm thinking about this, and I'm not sure I'd like to be asked that question on a date, off the bat. Because anyone I'd want to spend a serious amount of time with would know that sometimes things don't work out, that grownups have histories, etc. They wouldn't attribute being single to some personal flaw, they'd know that we all go through stuff. & figuring out compatibility, etc, would come from just a normal conversation, at first.

if my particular reasons & circumstances didn't arise out of an organic conversation (probably after a drink or two, and way after general life stuff got covered), I probably wouldn't want to get into it with him.

"Why am I single? Because I don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend!"

Honestly, does it matter that much? Sure, you may want to know if your partner has had a history of cheating or similar events, but it's not really something you ask on a first date.

Also, does being single make you any less of a person than you are? You are who you are, regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not.

Because being alone is better?

I strongly disagree with that as a married person, though it may be true for you. I don't feel lonely anymore since I got married. I don't have to deal with that pain anymore and it was excruciating. My depression has decreased so much since I got married. I feel comfortable with myself and life. I am happy to be alive. I always have someone to talk to about the things that are important to me. I have someone to focus on me and love me. I have a wonderful son who brings so much joy to my life.

I am not made to be single. Being married, even though my husband and I can fight, has so many benefits.

This need for another is extremely puzzling. I do not experience loneliness and pain associated with loneliness. I am truly a born loner. I feel relaxed, at ease, peaceful, happy and in my zone when I am alone. Other people freak me out. So, being single is perfect. I'm not a relationship person. It would really take an extremely special person to break my bubble. It is definitely possible and I am always open to the idea, but it would take a truly amazing woman.

That's exactly how I felt for many years before meeting my husband. I was truly, honestly 100% happy being single and content with the fact that was how it was likely to be for the rest of my life. Which is why it now blows my mind how attached I am to another human being, lol! But yeah, I was never lonely when I was single, or looking for someone.

Easy-I have to leave town a lot for work, and until recently, moved frequently. No point in putting effort into a relationship I will just have to terminate a few months down the line. Now that I do not move so often, I still leave for 10 or more days at a time, usually to places with no phone/Internet/electricity, sometimes with very short notice. I haven't had time to go meet people I don't work with, yet, and if I do date, the person will have to be cool with me disappearing a lot.