Sexting in a relationship

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  • SweetLilyR
    SweetLilyR Posts: 283 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it.

    So exactly what line of 'business' are you in? :huh:

    And how does this sit with running for office?
    I work nights as a phone "companion". It helps keep a roof over our heads and food on the table as well as an emergency fund for when the car breaks down or the pipes freeze.

    As for running for office, apparently my constituents don't think that my little side job affects my ability to help run a town.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.


    Why even be married?

    Um, why even say that? Just because somebody's relationship is outside of what you are personally comfortable with, it doesn't make it less valid.

    Many people are into sex with children so I guess based on your immoral standards that is ok if they are personally ok with it.

    Dude,that is just wrong.
  • Shady, shady. I believe if you're doing something you wouldnt do in front of your partner, then you probably shouldn't be doing it


    yup.
  • pjlove1
    pjlove1 Posts: 341 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.

    Why even be married?

    Um, why even say that? Just because somebody's relationship is outside of what you are personally comfortable with, it doesn't make it less valid.

    Exactly. The world has a lot of grey in it that people refuse to see, especially in the US with sex stuff it seems. Get over your judgmental narrowness and realize that if it's okay and clear between both parties (my favourite phrase - Legal. Consenting. Adults) then it's okay for them. Period. It doesn't mean someone loves someone less - it means they define their relationship boundaries different than you. Big frickin' deal. :)

    And to the OP: Hey, in my relationship, we fantasize a lot and share those, we talk about it a lot and all that, but we know our comfort level is such that it stays in our bedroom between us. So if I sexted someone else or if he did, it would be cheating, because those are our parametres. If you're online asking if it's okay, you haven't sussed out your own parametres for your relationship, so I would suggest that common wisdom would consider the sexting cheating or at least borderline behaviour until you talk it out and decide if it's okay. If it is okay, then it's not cheating. And it's not up to anyone else to judge.

    The "gray area" is for people that want to justify various perversions and lack of responsibility. It's also used to continuously push the envelope on social issues. You ever hear of NAMBLA?
  • JDBLY11
    JDBLY11 Posts: 577 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.


    Why even be married?
    Because we love each other. Same reason most people get married. And shockingly, we've been married longer and are more in love with each other than any of our friends and family. 13 1/2 years together and still acting like newlyweds!

    I would feel like I was cheating if I sexted with someone online. I met my husband online and did sext with some people before marriage, but now that would not be appropriate because he would not go along with it. It would be too easy to take it to real life if I was very attracted to the person, which is another reason my husband would not go along with it.
  • clarkeje1
    clarkeje1 Posts: 1,641 Member
    Why not? It's a free country.
  • It's cheating.
    My boyfriend cheated on me for five months physically and once all that was out in the open and we were working on it, I found out he was still sexting all different girls via facebook, he was under the impression that it was okay but now on earth would that be okay? Why even be in a relationship if you're going to go off with other people.
  • tmanfromtexas
    tmanfromtexas Posts: 928 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.


    Why even be married?
    Because we love each other. Same reason most people get married. And shockingly, we've been married longer and are more in love with each other than any of our friends and family. 13 1/2 years together and still acting like newlyweds!

    I would feel like I was cheating if I sexted with someone online. I met my husband online and did sext with some people before marriage, but now that would not be appropriate because he would not go along with it. It would be too easy to take it to real life if I was very attracted to the person, which is another reason my husband would not go along with it.

    So, if he was alright with it then would you do it?
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.

    Why even be married?

    Um, why even say that? Just because somebody's relationship is outside of what you are personally comfortable with, it doesn't make it less valid.

    Exactly. The world has a lot of grey in it that people refuse to see, especially in the US with sex stuff it seems. Get over your judgmental narrowness and realize that if it's okay and clear between both parties (my favourite phrase - Legal. Consenting. Adults) then it's okay for them. Period. It doesn't mean someone loves someone less - it means they define their relationship boundaries different than you. Big frickin' deal. :)

    And to the OP: Hey, in my relationship, we fantasize a lot and share those, we talk about it a lot and all that, but we know our comfort level is such that it stays in our bedroom between us. So if I sexted someone else or if he did, it would be cheating, because those are our parametres. If you're online asking if it's okay, you haven't sussed out your own parametres for your relationship, so I would suggest that common wisdom would consider the sexting cheating or at least borderline behaviour until you talk it out and decide if it's okay. If it is okay, then it's not cheating. And it's not up to anyone else to judge.

    The "gray area" is for people that want to justify various perversions and lack of responsibility. It's also used to continuously push the envelope on social issues. You ever hear of NAMBLA?

    What is it with people comparing adult relationships as the same as a relationship with children? Again, HUGE difference between consenting adults having a relationship, and an adult having a relationship with a child! :noway:
  • Sexting someone else is cheating on your partner, period. It's practically the same thing as having a physically sexual relationship with another partner.
  • Once a cheater, always a cheater.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    That's cheating IMO.

    Besides, with the NSA and all i don't know if i would want pictures of myself on any electronic device. Plus, theres 4chan... so many pics of dumb girls posted. I wouldn't want my family friends and future employers to see that crap.


    Have some decency people!
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.


    Why even be married?

    Um, why even say that? Just because somebody's relationship is outside of what you are personally comfortable with, it doesn't make it less valid.

    Many people are into sex with children so I guess based on your immoral standards that is ok if they are personally ok with it.

    How in God's name are you equating sex between consenting adults (or 'sexting' rather, which as far as I know isn't actual sex) to child molestation? Please educate me so I can be a beacon of moral righteousness too.
  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
    All for it with my own husband. Outside the relationship? No way.
  • My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.


    Why even be married?

    Um, why even say that? Just because somebody's relationship is outside of what you are personally comfortable with, it doesn't make it less valid.

    Many people are into sex with children so I guess based on your immoral standards that is ok if they are personally ok with it.

    So my standard, that consenting ADULTS (who are not children, I see you found that issue confusing) can define their intimate relationships as they please, so long as everyone is informed and happy is some how immoral, however your standard, which marginalizes those who do not share it, is upright.

    Sounds totally legit.
  • FindingAmy77
    FindingAmy77 Posts: 1,268 Member
    its cheating and disrespectful to your partner
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    if you wouldn't do it with your SO looking over your shoulder then you probably shouldn't do it at all.
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.

    I just threw up in my mouth.
  • Maidofmer
    Maidofmer Posts: 908 Member
    I feel like it's cheating. why would my husband need to see someone else's goodies. why would I need to see another mans junk when I have free all day access here? that's not with only marriage. if you're in a relationship, then it's still cheating. want to sext other people, break up and have fun.


    ETA, once you send a nudy pic out, it's out. it can be sent to anyone, everyone, and put online where it will never go away
  • Maidofmer
    Maidofmer Posts: 908 Member
    All for it with my own husband. Outside the relationship? No way.

    yeah, have fun that way
  • SrJoben
    SrJoben Posts: 484 Member
    Well...look it's not adultery. But it's not faithful either and it's not really leading anywhere good for the relationship.

    If you're on a diet what are you doing with your nose pressed to the cake shop window?
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.

    I just threw up in my mouth.

    :huh: :noway:
  • SweetLilyR
    SweetLilyR Posts: 283 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.

    I just threw up in my mouth.

    I could have offered you an airsick bag :flowerforyou:
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.

    I just threw up in my mouth.

    That's hot.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,230 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.

    I just threw up in my mouth.

    I've heard that's a fetish - do you indulge in your gastronomic pyrotechnics with your partner, or just sext it to people?
  • My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it. The non-paid sexting is only with him or my boyfriend.

    And, to be honest, if he wanted to sext with another woman, I'd be fine with it.

    It's all about the rules of YOUR relationship, not someone else's.

    I just threw up in my mouth.

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  • SkimFlatWhite68
    SkimFlatWhite68 Posts: 1,254 Member
    It's why I am now single. IMHO - Not really a good thing for a so-called loving and devoted relationship and it's very hard on the kids when they open Dad's phone and see things that they really shouldn't be seeing.

    I say keep it in your pants.
  • emmawoolf84
    emmawoolf84 Posts: 243 Member
    Its only cheating if your significant other would define it as such.
  • angel79202
    angel79202 Posts: 1,012 Member
    I wont even send my wife pics.... With my luck, she would leave her phone somewhere or loose and and my junk would be on public display or end up on some website.... lol.

    I couldn't stop laughing at this one..lol
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    This is my favorite thread, evar! free junk pics for everyone!