Sexting in a relationship

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  • jeardawg
    jeardawg Posts: 110 Member
    If you have to ask the question, you probably know what the answer is....
  • angel79202
    angel79202 Posts: 1,012 Member
    Best thread ever..I needed a laugh :)
  • caspergirl7
    caspergirl7 Posts: 590 Member
    If my SO were doing this it would be the same as cheating to me. If you're happy in your relationship you shouldn't be going elsewhere for that attention. If you're not happy then just end it and stop wasting their's and your time..
  • GeekChiccc
    GeekChiccc Posts: 10 Member
    I believe if you're doing something you wouldnt do in front of your partner, then you probably shouldn't be doing it

    ^This

    TOTALLY AGREE.
  • angel79202
    angel79202 Posts: 1,012 Member
    Texting is taking it too far, but if you send headless pics, you should be ok. :laugh:

    LOL..so many people believe this!
  • Junken_Diraffe
    Junken_Diraffe Posts: 716 Member
    In my relationship, it's perfectly fine. Half the time, we're sexting the same people. Or we're in the same room sexting others. It works for us.

    I honestly am shocked that someone compared this to abusing children. After 2 years, I thought I'd seen it all. Well done, mfp. Well done. :flowerforyou:
  • CollieFit
    CollieFit Posts: 1,683 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it.

    So exactly what line of 'business' are you in? :huh:

    And how does this sit with running for office?
    I work nights as a phone "companion". It helps keep a roof over our heads and food on the table as well as an emergency fund for when the car breaks down or the pipes freeze.

    As for running for office, apparently my constituents don't think that my little side job affects my ability to help run a town.

    Fascinating. I guess people have quite low expectations from their local politicians...
  • Inkratlet
    Inkratlet Posts: 613 Member
    Why sext in the first place? Booooooriiiiing!
  • d4ley1
    d4ley1 Posts: 73
    whats sexting?
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    Nope. If I don't want my husband doing it I don't do it.

    Every "revealing" picture I put anywhere goes throughout my husband first. If he is ok with me posting it then I do. It's all about respecting him and our marriage.
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    whats sexting?

    Give me your number I'll show you
  • d4ley1
    d4ley1 Posts: 73
    lol
    whats sexting?

    Give me your number I'll show you
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
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  • MissKitty9
    MissKitty9 Posts: 224 Member
    I wouldn't call it "cheating", but it'd definitely be shady & not okay in my relationship. However, it's all about rules in your own relationship. In open relationships, sexting wouldn't be a problem, most likely. Even in some physically monogamous relationships, sexting can be considered not a big deal. It's pretty sad to see people judging (i.e. the one commenter who says she gets paid to do it--- why does it matter to anyone what she gets paid to do/what her partner is cool with?)
  • d4ley1
    d4ley1 Posts: 73
    what about the old man?
    lol
    whats sexting?

    Give me your number I'll show you
  • yksdoris
    yksdoris Posts: 327 Member
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it.

    So exactly what line of 'business' are you in? :huh:

    And how does this sit with running for office?
    I work nights as a phone "companion". It helps keep a roof over our heads and food on the table as well as an emergency fund for when the car breaks down or the pipes freeze.

    As for running for office, apparently my constituents don't think that my little side job affects my ability to help run a town.

    Fascinating. I guess people have quite low expectations from their local politicians...

    ah, yet another case of morality over capability. Maybe she'd be a supremely capable administrator? she clearly knows how to keep a household afloat in tumultuous economical times.

    as for the topic at hand though, it depends on the relationship and the people in it. In my relationship, that's a BIG no-no partly because we met each other online and for the first year we had a long-distance relatioship with plenty of online naughty things going on... so if he were to do that with someone else it'd be like double betrayal.
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    if she cant get pregnant, whats the problem?
  • allifantastical
    allifantastical Posts: 946 Member
    I would consider that cheating.
  • JasonAxelrod
    JasonAxelrod Posts: 58 Member
    We all have our own boundaries for what is acceptable and what is unacceptable in our relationships.

    In the context of a monogamous relatonship, overtly romantic or sexual self-investment into another person is not okay with me. I won't kid myself into thinking that I or a potential partner of mine will never look at another person sexually, or that we'll never have the desire to flirt with others, be it for validation or self-assertion, or what have you. However, I draw the line fairly early there.

    It really doesn't matter if it's over the phone, in a text message, or on the computer. If it's a medium through which intimacies are being shared that my SO knew I'd wanted reserved for myself, her actions would be a knowing betrayal of trust.


    I won't say I'd never consider an open relationship in my lifetime, though.
  • caramelgyrlk
    caramelgyrlk Posts: 1,112 Member
    Why sext in the first place? Booooooriiiiing!

    This

    Also, this can be subjective depending on the rules of one's relationship.

    In a monogamous relationship most would consider it cheating. Spend that time, energy, and creativity on your SO and you will not have time for sexting.
  • BattleTaxi
    BattleTaxi Posts: 752 Member
    With my partner, DEFINITELY! It is a fun way to keep things fresh and flirt with your new squeeze.

    With others if I'm not in a relationship with them, not interested.

    If I'm dating someone, and they are sexting someone else? Not ok, in regards to myself. With the changes in technology and ways in which we communicate with others; this is just a new form of cheating imo. Then again, there seems to be a trend with open relationships being more or less an accepted 'norm' among a lot of couples I know. I'm not saying this is good OR bad, I'm just making a generalized observation; this is definitely not a cultural thing I will ever be inclined to tolerate in any relationships I am involved in though.

    Also, to anyone new to e-dating or the like, BE CAREFUL!!!!! Not everyone is as genuine as they may SEEM! <3<3<3
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    for me, if I was in a relationship, I'd consider that cheating, but that's just me. I' old fashioned that way.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    If there are more than 14 pubes present in the photo or a mention of more than 14 pubes in the body of the sext, then yes. It is cheating.
  • DashDeV
    DashDeV Posts: 545 Member
    I send Tyler pictures of my Poutine all the time :heart:
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    If there are more than 14 pubes present in the photo or a mention of more than 14 pubes in the body of the sext, then yes. It is cheating.

    the photo that is being sent or the photo that is being viewed?
  • doorki
    doorki Posts: 2,576 Member
    If there are more than 14 pubes present in the photo or a mention of more than 14 pubes in the body of the sext, then yes. It is cheating.

    So hardwood floor is fair game?
  • just_Jennie1
    just_Jennie1 Posts: 1,233
    My husband actually encourages it...of course, that's also because I get paid to do it.

    So exactly what line of 'business' are you in? :huh:

    And how does this sit with running for office?
    I work nights as a phone "companion". It helps keep a roof over our heads and food on the table as well as an emergency fund for when the car breaks down or the pipes freeze.

    As for running for office, apparently my constituents don't think that my little side job affects my ability to help run a town.

    Fascinating. I guess people have quite low expectations from their local politicians...

    Fascinating.

    I never quite understood how something that someone does in their personal lives is directly related to their professional lives. You're probably the same person who thinks that a teacher who flashes her boobs in a drunken episode in Cancun and the picture is found that she should be fired for it. Or that someones sex life is directly related to how they run a business or what they do for a living too.

    I'd have more respect for a politician who owned up to past indiscretions and gave a heads up about what they do on the side and the possibility that there could be questionable photos out there than one who blatantly lies about their affairs and sexting their junk to interns. But then I guess this means I have "low expectations" because I don't see the correlation between the two. :flowerforyou:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    If there are more than 14 pubes present in the photo or a mention of more than 14 pubes in the body of the sext, then yes. It is cheating.

    the photo that is being sent or the photo that is being viewed?

    The viewer is innocent until proven hoor.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    If there are more than 14 pubes present in the photo or a mention of more than 14 pubes in the body of the sext, then yes. It is cheating.

    Not if they have paid good money and got them permed!
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    any married women want to sext?

    Every time I see your name, I miss the 2nd "n". That is all. Carry on.

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