Do you men really want a low maintenance woman?

I would just like for you to be able to go outdoors without it being a two hour long process.

Really, you don't need to dress your best and have perfect makeup to pop to the petrol station to buy some milk.

Also, no, I really do not give a crap about reality TV or the newest gossip/drama happening between people I have no involvement with.

Yes, but low maintenance has nothing to do with that. I have my own definition for a high maintenance woman. A high maintenance woman, to me, is a woman who is only capable of understanding and processing one expression of love/affection: sacrifice. A high maintenance woman will constantly put her man in a position where he must make otherwise unnecessary sacrifices--whether of his money, time, effort, or of his mental/emotional well being--because unlike a normal woman, who can understand and process many different forms of love and affection, she is only capable of understanding sacrifice.

That being said I do prefer a woman who doesn't invest too much effort in appearance. I prefer a practically minded woman who doesn't place much value in pointless accessories.

A high maintenance woman will constantly put her man in a position where he must make otherwise unnecessary sacrifices--whether of his money, time, effort, or of his mental/emotional well being--because unlike a normal woman, who can understand and process many different forms of love and affection, she is only capable of understanding sacrifice.

That is a really good way of explaining it. I never thought of it that way but I'mm'a keep this definition in my back pocket.

I mean, really? Whether it's the monetary cost or time savings, do you really think you'd be happier with a low maintenance woman? All I hear is complaining about how much a haircut/color costs or how much time it takes to straighten hair, put on makeup, etc. I'm just wondering. Only about 2% of us can get away with being naturally pretty. We all need a little help.

Thoughts?

a woman is not a car. every relationship requires effort for it to be productive. "maintenance' should be replaced by 'drama'

Well. I guess I'll be the only woman in here who will voluntarily state that she IS high-maintenance. Kind of.

I am high maintenance in the sense that I routinely go for hair / nail appointments. I even got TWO massages last week. When I go shopping I DO buy designer clothes / jewelry and I don't feel guilty about it. I drive "high end" cars...with plans to go "exotic" in the near future. I like to travel, and I want to travel more.

BUT.....I am the bread winner. It's MY money. I still get up and out of the house in 15-30 mins and I am NO DRAMA. I hate drama. Matter of fact, I have very few female friends (outside of MFP, ironically) because I was grew up TomBoy and just can't deal with most women any better than the guys can. When I shop, I buy what I want, right then and there, no wandering from store to store trying to find deals, discounts, or sales. I get what I need, and leave....just like a guy. I am married to a career Navy guy and I spend a lot of time at work....which means a lot of time alone / not with my significant other. Eight deployments later, we're still married and going strong, so I guess I'm definitely not co-dependent.

The truth is that low-maintenance is relative. My personal grooming habits are technically HIGH maintenance in terms of cost / time to ME....they have no impact to my spouse, who only benefits from having a well-groomed, pretty wife. I suppose if HE was paying for it, I would then be deemed truly high maintenance. In addition, I enjoy a variety of hobbies that a very male-oriented, so hubby gets to benefit from me not complaining about doing stuff that any red-blooded man would enjoy.

Low maintenance to me doesn't equal skimping on anything they want to do to feel better about themselves. To me, it's being able to be their own woman and having enough confidence to be able to find their own happiness outside of a relationship. There are many relationships where one participant (men too, I'm not being sexist) has self esteem issues to the point that they're questioning the others' motives for having interests, goals, etc, that don't concern them.

I am as low maintenance as it can get- almost NIL. I get ready before my husband(which in itself says a lot), hate shopping, don't like to wear make up or go a lot to parlors. Hubby met me when i was this way and loved me for who i am and so works out great for both of us :drinker:

If I wore yoga pants 80% of the time, I think my boyfriend would be ok with that. I don't do that, lol, but he would probably be ok with it.

how boring

I consider myself high-maintenance. Would he have to pull me kicking and screaming from my comfy bed everyday? Yes. Would I make him cancel dinner reservations because my sixth run of Skyrim is more important? Yes. Would he have to tell me to cut my hair because my fringe had slowly covered my whole face? Damn right he'd have to. I can't even make a bed or work a washing machine. My hands aren't used to temperatures above 'cold' so forget the dishes.

Everyone has stuff that makes up for the bad stuff though. I'm an awesome cook, I can fix anything if it's electronic, I don't need constant reminders that he's into me because it's always sexytime, I don't even own a phone to send nagging texts with, I have no female friends to ***** about him to, I'm awesome, I give great hugs... I'm awesome -wait did I say that before?

I think high/low-maintenance is really whether a guy thinks the pros out-weigh the cons. If the cons are too much the relationship will be hard to maintain, if he can look past that then it'll be easy. People who don't spend 2 hours getting ready can be high-maintenance too, y'know, just in a different way.