Do you men really want a low maintenance woman?

Men may say they want a low maintenance woman, but if many people like myself were truly low-maintenance, they'd be singing a different tune.

Between having PCOS, high testosterone levels and all of the side effects of that: cystic acne that is no longer an issue but has left scarring all over my face, excessive hair growth that makes me have to shave not only me legs and armpits, but also my belly, chest and neck. If I didn't wear enough makeup to smooth out my complexion, you would think I was in some kind of chemical spill.

To regulate my condition and my hormones I have to eat right, constantly struggle to lose weight, take medication. It takes a lot of effort for me to just feel normal and feminine and be happy with myself, let alone look attractive or presentable to others.

To me, that's a different animal than a woman who already looks fine and then plasters makeup all over her face.

This thread make me want to punch a puppy. WTF is 'high maintenance'? If it about looks, then yes I want someone who looks and smells good. If it is about money then NO, but who would want that?

Men may say they want a low maintenance woman, but if many people like myself were truly low-maintenance, they'd be singing a different tune.

Between having PCOS, high testosterone levels and all of the side effects of that: cystic acne that is no longer an issue but has left scarring all over my face, excessive hair growth that makes me have to shave not only me legs and armpits, but also my belly, chest and neck. If I didn't wear enough makeup to smooth out my complexion, you would think I was in some kind of chemical spill.

To regulate my condition and my hormones I have to eat right, constantly struggle to lose weight, take medication. It takes a lot of effort for me to just feel normal and feminine and be happy with myself, let alone look attractive or presentable to others.

To me, that's a different animal than a woman who already looks fine and then plasters makeup all over her face.

That IS true. Though, I still have to remind my fiance at times why I spend 30 minutes in the shower or why it takes me a long time and lots of heartache to find an outfit that covers those flaws.

This thread make me want to punch a puppy. WTF is 'high maintenance'? If it about looks, then yes I want someone who looks and smells good. If it is about money then NO, but who would want that?

high-maintenance :





1. Require (ing) a lot of work/attention to maintain.

2. Require (ing) a lot of money or attention to appearance.

3. Require (ing) a high emotional investment or en excessive amount of money.

EXAMPLES OF HIGH-MAINTENANCE BEHAVIOR:
-Having frequent professional cosmetic consultations, such as hair-dressing, manicures and pedicures
-Excessive worthless spending (tricking)
-Attention craving
-Being too delicate or suavé

Yeah, so um, which men want a woman like this?

This thread make me want to punch a puppy. WTF is 'high maintenance'? If it about looks, then yes I want someone who looks and smells good. If it is about money then NO, but who would want that?

high-maintenance :





1. Require (ing) a lot of work/attention to maintain.

2. Require (ing) a lot of money or attention to appearance.

3. Require (ing) a high emotional investment or en excessive amount of money.

EXAMPLES OF HIGH-MAINTENANCE BEHAVIOR:
-Having frequent professional cosmetic consultations, such as hair-dressing, manicures and pedicures
-Excessive worthless spending (tricking)
-Attention craving
-Being too delicate or suavé

This sounds like all women...and all Italian men.

This sort of falls in line with my definition I stated earlier in the thread. In my eyes, high maintenance has nothing to do with appearance or grooming. High maintenance is a measure of how much constant effort, work, and sacrifice she requires her man to go through to keep her, because seeing him make unnecessary sacrifices in other aspects of his life to appease her is the only form of expression of love and affection she is capable of understanding. Grooming and appearance have NOTHING to do with it. I've known high maintenance women who went out in sweats and a hoodie with their hair up, and I've known low maintenance women who were well groomed.

Once a boyfriend gave me that bs. Said I am high maintenance, which I strongly disagree with, but I didn't even discuss it. Just asked him what difference that made to him, as I work and pay for my own stuff. What an *kitten*!

A high maintenance woman will constantly put her man in a position where he must make otherwise unnecessary sacrifices--whether of his money, time, effort, or of his mental/emotional well being--because unlike a normal woman, who can understand and process many different forms of love and affection, she is only capable of understanding sacrifice.

:huh: you've got to be kidding right?
I pay for my own hair, nails, cosmetics, clothes, shoes, procedures, etc. I make more money than my SO. I require nothing from him other than friendship and love. Time, effort and sacrifice for the good of the family is something we BOTH put in and is to be expected for any relationship.

You got all that from his response?

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LOL! I was wondering the same thing.

The post he made was pretty reasonable, but the reactions to it was bizarre.

I was wondering where people got all that from my reply too. I was like "WTF?"

No, we LOVE, LOVE, LOVE high maintenance. Please tell me more about the new Ulta in town.

hahaha

I mean, really? Whether it's the monetary cost or time savings, do you really think you'd be happier with a low maintenance woman? All I hear is complaining about how much a haircut/color costs or how much time it takes to straighten hair, put on makeup, etc. I'm just wondering. Only about 2% of us can get away with being naturally pretty. We all need a little help.

Thoughts?

For me low-maintenance means that she knows what she wants and she goes with it. If she goes clothes shopping she generally knows what she wants, gets in, tries the clothes on, and gets out in less than hour. Comparatively, my ex-wife would spend 4 hours in a single clothing store and walk out with NOTHING. I'd be like please just by something so I don't feel like I completely wasted my day. If things are 100% perfect she doesn't worry about it and just goes about the day. Something being expensive isn't high maintenance to me.

My fiance' and I are about 7 months out from our wedding and we basically have all the major stuff done, she's been very easy going about everything. She picked out her wedding dress in about 4 hours one afternoon, the reception hall in less than a week and we met with two photographers over two weeks. It took 3 weeks to make a decision and that was only because the times were spaced out, it was actually a very easy decision for us. Yes, I love the fact that she is generally low-maintenance.

I mean, really? Whether it's the monetary cost or time savings, do you really think you'd be happier with a low maintenance woman? All I hear is complaining about how much a haircut/color costs or how much time it takes to straighten hair, put on makeup, etc. I'm just wondering. Only about 2% of us can get away with being naturally pretty. We all need a little help.

Thoughts?

monetary cost or time savings??? seriously? Never crossed my mind ... but hair & makeup don't take up any of my waking thoughts either.