FWB ignored me at bar ...

This may sound harsh, and perhaps old fashioned, but please understand there's absolutely no judgment here......But if you already disrespected yourself by sleeping with him only a couple weeks in to your "friends with benefits" relationship, what did you honestly think would happen? You forfeited any rights to his respect in return. I am truly sorry if this is painful, but you asked.

Many people will try to argue this as "back in the days" times. But it is what it is, and no amount of arguing will change it. Intimacy is for married couples, it is Biblical, and the way God intended it to be saved for.

Now having said that, you ended things with him, and rightly so, why would you let him get to you, and worse yet, let him know he got to you?

You deserve to find someone whom shares your same values, someone whom will treat you right, and in turn, you treat him right as well. A relationship takes a lot of understanding, communication, and give and take. Hopefully you do things differently next time.

Best Wishes to you.

[If he ever needed me as a friend (not physical/sexually at all) I want to be there...........

What did you do to be treated this way? You let him think his Johnson was dipped in gold and you let him have you and tell you he didn't want you. The problem that women make which took me years to learn is that men pretty much tell you the truth from the beginning and we think we can persuade them or we talk ourselves into thinking we are so fabulous that he will eventually see how great we are and want us. He just wanted the "cookie" as Steve Harvey says and he will keep telling you he didn't mean any harm and he just didn't see you ect ect. He knows the game, you are part of the game whether you want to play or not but you don't know the rules. Stop asking yourself why you are being treated this way. He won't be the last if you don't learn how these guys play the game. I learned and what a difference it took 7 years of my life to learn the game and I have learned to set my standards because my happiness and quality of life is important and I am now very happily married. Here is some advice so you don't spend years getting played. Read Steve Harvey's book, "Act like a lady, think like a man". Trust me you will learn that game these guys play of all ages. It is real and men that play women don't want you to know. I also had a friend that was a true player. He even bought Steve Harvey's book so he could use it to learn what Steve Harvey was teaching women so he knew what to say to keep his game going on women who were getting enlightened by the book. Eventually it gets old because it's hard to keep up a play when the women know and understand the game. Good Luck, don't get used. My husband always says, women can get a nice, good man, Men are not unicorns!

Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?

I believe the bovine metaphor was established in previous posts, but thank you for your input. By the way, is the milk 1% or skim?

full fat

Women are emotional beings and men are physical beings. FWB is never a good situation for any woman for as long as you let it go on... just my opinion... :huh:

So now that you have all these answers, OP, the next step you need to take is to heal yourself. The quicker you start, the sooner you'll get over this dude. The best way is to remove all evidence (if possible) of him being in your life. You are not friends, nor should you be holding on to the hope that you ever will be. People are in and out of our lives for a reason. Some to teach us valuable lessons, even if it doesn't seem that way at the time. Good luck!

Yes I do ... more then I ever imagined when I posted my situation to this site! In a positive way though ... it's all good!

It was totally meant for me to deal w/ what I saw Friday, opened my eyes even more to what's right in front of me! I do need to heal myself, not punish myself for what I chose to allow, learn and grow from this! I do believe that he came into my life for a reason and now he is out of my life ... that reason will be clearer soon! I know that deleting him from my life is the best thing to do, but easier said then done. If he ever needed me as a friend (not physical/sexually at all) I want to be there b/c that's just genuinely who I am at heart, but by no means would I initiate anything at all ... EVER!!!

Thank you for the advice ... I am seriously taking it in