Women in relationships aren't allowed to have male friends?
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My male friends dont let me have coffee with their girlfriends/wives. I mean I thought a friendship was a two way street, who cares If i discuss god knows what with your girl while youre at work, and she just so happens to really enjoy my company. pffft.:grumble:0
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I was in a relationship like that once...
It didn't last long.
Trust issues like that make good relationships next to impossible, and end up being a complete waste of energy IMHO.0 -
If my boyfriend told me I couldn't be friends with another guy...he wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore. Period.0
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The kitchen is a lonely place.
(kidding.)
(can you make me a sandwich?)0 -
Actually, I wouldn't want my husband texting a female friend often either. Maybe I am controlling.0
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You teach people how to treat you. Trust needs to be give and take, earned and deserved.0
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I think individual relationships have different dynamics, but I had a lot of male friends before I met my SO and no way I'm giving them up just because I'm involved with someone.
They were my friends before I met him and nothing happened. It isn't going to happen now. And if he has a problem with that, he isn't for me. I don't mind if he has female friends, but I think it's an issue if he tries to hide something like that because if you're hiding it, you're up to no good.
I'm not insecure, either. I figure if he's going to leave me for someone else, I didn't want him, anyway, so see ya!0 -
I wouldn't have a boyfriend who tells me I'm not allowed to have male friends. If I am calling someone my boyfriend, that means he has reached pretty rare status with me, and I trust and highly value his opinions on the character of other people. I would want to hear his thoughts in that regard (for instance, if he thought one particular male friend was interested in more than friendship). However, an all-encompassing "ban" on male friends? Absolutely not. I'm a grown woman, and unless our last names are the same, you don't have that much pull with me.0
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Funny. In my experience this double standard works the other way around... i.e. women are allowed to have male friends and no one bats an eyelid, but men aren't allowed to have female friends.
Most of my male friends are pretty trusting in their relationships and have no issues with pre-existing male friends of their girlfriends, however I have some male friends who have excessively jealous girlfriends who don't 'tolerate' him having female friends.0 -
Pfft, I keep my hos on lock. They know better than to stray. I'm more man than any one woman can handle that's why I gots multiple women but they are only allowed to have me.
Hell yea, Short leash, Pimp hand stay strong. GATOR DONT PLAY DAT !!0 -
Just a quick chime in, cause I've been on both ends of this one myself... Has he been hurt or burned in the past by someone, that he's mentioned? It doesn't make it right, but it might be a little more insight as to why he might get nervous about other guys. It also is an insecurity. I was the same way. I found a great girl once, but I was so in disbelief that she chose me, that I was always afraid some other guy was going to make her smile, and she'd realize they were better than I was, and leave me. I've also had a gf who DID end up with guys that started out as "just friends", so I can certainly understand where he's coming from.
However, he needs to ultimately realize that you're with HIM for a reason or reasons, and that those reasons are what are keeping you with him, and not looking to get out. It's hard for someone to grip that, but If he can get a handle on that, then maybe it'll ease up. Maybe you and him should get coffee with one of those guys, so he can see that you aren't all flirty and stuff with the other guy, and maybe it'll ease it.
Or, it's possible there's just no help for him, and then...that's a lot more difficult, to try to stay in where there's that much of a trust issue.0 -
Trust issues. I have female friends I talk to every day and my fiancee has male friends she talks to and hangs out with all the time. I am amazingly secure in my relationship and like she has no reason to think I would step out on her, I have no reason to distrust her around her male friends. She's a big girl and knows how to say no if someone makes an advance on her. Which if ineffective will likely be followed by a right hook from her.0
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Because women are the weaker gender and they cannot be trusted with their feelings. Who knows when feelings will overwhelm you and you will jump on that "friend". There is a reason all women are strictly prohibited from talking to men or even showing their face/bodies in the middle east.
Truth, brotha.0 -
Pfft, I keep my hos on lock. They know better than to stray. I'm more man than any one woman can handle that's why I gots multiple women but they are only allowed to have me.
OMG - I laughed so hard coffee came out my nose...THANK YOU :flowerforyou:
stop it..you're killing me....0 -
Mutual respect. He should not treat you in any way that he wouldn't find acceptable in receiving.
My husband & I both don't see the point in being super great friends with the opposite sex. As corny as this sounds, my husband IS my best friend. I should be able to do everything I love to do with him ~ no other man should take that role away from him.
Granted, I am friends with his guy friends, and actually am gym buddies with one of them, but not without making sure my husband was comfy first. He wanted it that way because he wanted them to accept me into their 'circle', so it'd be comfy. Same way with my friends.
Any way you look at it, in a healthy relationship, double standards are BS.0 -
I believe Chris Rock explained it best when he said men don't have women friends they just have women they haven't fuc@ed yet.0
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Would not fly in my relationship. I have lots of guy friends and I am friends with a lot of his too. If a guy ever told me what I could/could NOT do, I would dump him.0
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"Men and women can't be friends, the sex always gets in the way" ~Harry Burns~0
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"Trust and you'll be trusted"........................Said the liar to the fool.0
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