Horrible experience in the gym tonight

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  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    This is exactly why I open carry in my gym.

    No one's taking my weights when I'm lifting.

    i have never heard of anything more ridiculous.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    This is exactly why I open carry in my gym.

    No one's taking my weights when I'm lifting.

    i have never heard of anything more ridiculous.

    You're here every day, so I know that's just not true. :flowerforyou:
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    This is exactly why I open carry in my gym.

    No one's taking my weights when I'm lifting.

    i have never heard of anything more ridiculous.

    ROFL.

    I'm a french model too. That's not why I'm carrying. ;)
  • ArroganceInStep
    ArroganceInStep Posts: 6,239 Member
    I rip a loud greasy one before I squat.

    Keeps ppl from stealing my stuff AND it helps when I have to get tight!!!
  • hddeuce1966
    hddeuce1966 Posts: 104
    last night I walked up to two guys benching.

    i waited till one was done his set and asked the one standing how many sets they had left and smiled.

    he said one.

    I said great, thank you, and stood off to the side.

    He wiped down the bench for me when they were done and said all yours and have a good workout.






    imagine that.

    It works differently when you are female.
  • froeschli
    froeschli Posts: 1,292 Member
    And it *never* happens that a female may sit on a bench texting and ogling guys and not actually working out...

    So the guys are there as a group rotating their sets - makes sense, doesn't leave the equipment empty.
    Anyone else, I doubt they'd be offended if you asked (reasonably) to use whichever equipment in question.

    If you're embarrassed to ask for the 'girly' :tongue: weight, then you'll have to make do puffing air for reasons other than exertion.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    last night I walked up to two guys benching.

    i waited till one was done his set and asked the one standing how many sets they had left and smiled.

    he said one.

    I said great, thank you, and stood off to the side.

    He wiped down the bench for me when they were done and said all yours and have a good workout.






    imagine that.

    It works differently when you are female.

    bullchit

    that's exactly what I do... and I have a vagina.
  • TR0berts
    TR0berts Posts: 7,739 Member
    last night I walked up to two guys benching.

    i waited till one was done his set and asked the one standing how many sets they had left and smiled.

    he said one.

    I said great, thank you, and stood off to the side.

    He wiped down the bench for me when they were done and said all yours and have a good workout.






    imagine that.

    It works differently when you are female.


    Ummm... Did you not notice who posted that? I'll give you a hint: it was a woman.
  • MissB46
    MissB46 Posts: 143 Member
    3 second rules comes to mind, at the end of the day you are also paying for membership so you have just as much right to be there...I myself will not get intimidated by anyone....I had a couple of episodes at my previous gym with one of the 'pretty boys', basically I just told him to 'do one...'
  • hddeuce1966
    hddeuce1966 Posts: 104
    :devil:
  • beckydragonpoet
    beckydragonpoet Posts: 50 Member
    You just described my gym in the afternoons. You have to go over there (to the guy that's hoarding) and ask him if he's using the dumbbells that very moment and you'd like to switch off in between sets. I highly doubt he would say no. If he did, just take them. Kidding. Sort of. :tongue: You have to step out of your comfort zone and let them realize that you know what you're doing and you have a right to the equipment also. Speaking from experience. They can smell fear. :wink:

    Like Bees and Dogs humans can smell fear. Fake your confidence until it becomes real. These people are not going to know you are intimidated if you don't act like it.

    FYI a lot of people who hoard equipment like the guy in the corner do not realize they are being jerks. Be nice, smile and ask for what you need.

    Also the TV, you can ask the people behind the desk for the remote. Let them know it is too LOUD there is nothing wrong with getting the gym to become more friendly for you and other people (not just women) like you.
  • hddeuce1966
    hddeuce1966 Posts: 104
    last night I walked up to two guys benching.

    i waited till one was done his set and asked the one standing how many sets they had left and smiled.

    he said one.

    I said great, thank you, and stood off to the side.

    He wiped down the bench for me when they were done and said all yours and have a good workout.






    imagine that.

    It works differently when you are female.


    Ummm... Did you not notice who posted that? I'll give you a hint: it was a woman.
    No I didn't. The profile pic has changed since I posted that.
  • RosaliaBee
    RosaliaBee Posts: 146 Member
    In my experience, men - especially when engrossed in their own thing and in groups - are less acutely sensitive to unspoken social etiquette / social tensions than women are. That's no criticism of men by the way, I just think you can't expect them to automatically be super conscious of you nervously hanging back when you want something. It's like that thing in relationships where men complain that women expect them to magically 'know' that they need a cuddle or something, asking nicely works nine times out of ten. Try directness, assertiveness, politeness and friendliness and you might just find that the gym no longer feels intimidating.
  • FishingFan123
    FishingFan123 Posts: 48 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.

    Rude people are more likely to have infections?

    I sincerely doubt this.
  • FishingFan123
    FishingFan123 Posts: 48 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.

    Rude people are more likely to have infections?

    I sincerely doubt this.

    Re-read: "probably"

    The skill of Reading, is something most people wish they had. It may just benefit you in life.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.

    Rude people are more likely to have infections?

    I sincerely doubt this.

    Re-read: "probably"

    The skill of Reading, is something most people wish they had. It may just benefit you in life.

    Are you being serious? Really? You're calling me out on reading comprehension for equating "probably" with "more likely"? What exactly do you think "probably" means?

    :huh:

    The CG (all hail) prohibit me from giving you the response your comment deserves. Instead, I'll just suggest that you heed your own advice. Reading...it isn't just a town in Pennsylvania.



    ETA: The irony of your stinging rebuke of my reading comprehension distracted me from the salient point of my previous response. I'll use your choice of words so as not to confuse you any further:

    Rude people probably leave infections on the equipment?

    I sincerely doubt this.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.

    Rude people are more likely to have infections?

    I sincerely doubt this.

    Re-read: "probably"

    The skill of Reading, is something most people wish they had. It may just benefit you in life.

    Are you being serious? Really? You're calling me out on reading comprehension for equating "probably" with "more likely"? What exactly do you think "probably" means?

    :huh:

    The CG (all hail) prohibit me from giving you the response your comment deserves. Instead, I'll just suggest that you heed your own advice. Reading...it isn't just a town in Pennsylvania.

    its a railroad right? amirite?
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.

    Rude people are more likely to have infections?

    I sincerely doubt this.

    Re-read: "probably"

    The skill of Reading, is something most people wish they had. It may just benefit you in life.

    Are you being serious? Really? You're calling me out on reading comprehension for equating "probably" with "more likely"? What exactly do you think "probably" means?

    :huh:

    The CG (all hail) prohibit me from giving you the response your comment deserves. Instead, I'll just suggest that you heed your own advice. Reading...it isn't just a town in Pennsylvania.

    its a railroad right? amirite?

    Not only do you get to pass Go, you also get $200!!
  • LiftAllThePizzas
    LiftAllThePizzas Posts: 17,857 Member
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  • Sovictorrious
    Sovictorrious Posts: 770 Member
    You don't like rap???
  • clarabkyu
    clarabkyu Posts: 11 Member
    It seems more like the intimidation factor and the fact that it's something that is very annoying and rude to OP that's preventing her from going to get what she needs in the free weights area. Totally understandable. Unfortunately, what you need to do, OP, is exactly what everyone says; just ask. It helps if you ask in a booming voice, don't be timid. Sometimes there are some muscle heads who will act horrible, but that's when you give them some attitude back. If a muscle head can't intimidate a woman, they usually turn to being polite to make up for their mistake. (My personal experience talking, sorry if it sounds like I'm generalizing to all guys who workout a lot)

    At the rec on campus there are a lot of guys who are like that. Luckily, they're still in college and most are well-mannered so when a girl asks to use a bench or a few weights or a bar, they'll oblige.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.
    Excuse me? I had MRSA and trust me it has nothing to do with what people are like. WHAT does that even mean?
  • FishingFan123
    FishingFan123 Posts: 48 Member
    You know what it means. If you don't ask the CDC.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    You know what it means.
    If I knew what you meant I would not ask you to clarify.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.

    Can we put some parameters on "probably"? I mean, how many people contract this MRSA you speak of from public gym equipment? Has there been some outbreak that the CDC is trying to keep under wraps? And if so, is it more likely to be spread by rude people? I mean, sense these rude people refuse to share, it seems like they would be helping to stem the spread of this MRSA. Does not spreading MRSA make people more rude, or less rude?

    And by "rude people" I mean people that are minding their own business and aren't blessed with the ability to read minds, since mind reading would be required because the OP never once asked to use any of the gym equipment. Well, not with her voice, I mean. I guess she did try to signal to them. With her mind.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    It seems more like the intimidation factor and the fact that it's something that is very annoying and rude to OP that's preventing her from going to get what she needs in the free weights area. Totally understandable. Unfortunately, what you need to do, OP, is exactly what everyone says; just ask. It helps if you ask in a booming voice, don't be timid. Sometimes there are some muscle heads who will act horrible, but that's when you give them some attitude back. If a muscle head can't intimidate a woman, they usually turn to being polite to make up for their mistake. (My personal experience talking, sorry if it sounds like I'm generalizing to all guys who workout a lot)

    At the rec on campus there are a lot of guys who are like that. Luckily, they're still in college and most are well-mannered so when a girl asks to use a bench or a few weights or a bar, they'll oblige.

    ^this...with the help of hubby well timed support and advices I am learingin to be quite assertive and stand and hold my ground in a much more hostile environment where the stakes are much higher. with grace, no less. You can do it OP! :flowerforyou:
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.

    Can we put some parameters on "probably"? I mean, how many people contract this MRSA you speak of from public gym equipment? Has there been some outbreak that the CDC is trying to keep under wraps? And if so, is it more likely to be spread by rude people? I mean, sense these rude people refuse to share, it seems like they would be helping to stem the spread of this MRSA. Does not spreading MRSA make people more rude, or less rude?

    And by "rude people" I mean people that are minding their own business and aren't blessed with the ability to read minds, since mind reading would be required because the OP never once asked to use any of the gym equipment. Well, not with her voice, I mean. I guess she did try to signal to them. With her mind.

    I just dont' get why we can't just call it staph?
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    They seem pretty rude to me.

    I am so glad I had the $ to buy my own gym equipment & set it up in my house, & avoid people like this.

    People like that are probably the ones who leave Methicillin Resistant Staph aureus (MRSA) on all the equipment, anyway, uugh.

    Rude people are more likely to have infections?

    I sincerely doubt this.

    Re-read: "probably"

    The skill of Reading, is something most people wish they had. It may just benefit you in life.

    Are you being serious? Really? You're calling me out on reading comprehension for equating "probably" with "more likely"? What exactly do you think "probably" means?

    :huh:

    The CG (all hail) prohibit me from giving you the response your comment deserves. Instead, I'll just suggest that you heed your own advice. Reading...it isn't just a town in Pennsylvania.

    its a railroad right? amirite?

    please marry me
  • fitfreakymom
    fitfreakymom Posts: 1,400 Member
    I'm a bit surprised by some of these comments. You have a legitimate issue here and I'm not sure most of the men here get it. How about going to management and suggesting a women's weight area/room? This is an intimidating issue at least. And yes there is value in confronting or asking them. But there is also such a thing as gym etiquette and you might look around and see if there are places that value such etiquette. At my gym there are busy periods, which I avoid if possible...personal preference.

    Much luck on this!!! And don't give up!!

    I am not really sure what is intimidating here, all she needs to do is say excuse me are you using this or that and chances are they will say no go ahead or yes and I will be done in 5 or 10 min etc.

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