Not bothering to date.. Its all frankly worrying..

I've just got bored of putting myself out there. So I don't bother now.

I've had some fantastically bizarre dates from dating websites, normally stemming from the fact that people either lie on their profiles, or omit things that you would really like them to include.

The one I have found in my experience that women lie about the most is body type. I wouldn't know about the guys, but I'm sure it's probably the same. A lot of women I've met have selected 'a few extra pounds' which seems to cover anything from 'a few extra pounds' to 'a few extra pounds at each serving' And they're artful when choosing pictures, I've been quite shocked to meet a few people.

I suppose the two that stand out for me are the girl that I really liked, we got on well for three or four dates, but it turned out she only had one foot. Now I have nothing against this per se, but she let me find out on my own. I thought that was a bit out of order. If she'd mentioned it somehow, I don't think it would have been a problem, but to just let someone discover it for themselves is a bit much. In my opinion.

The second one was a girl that I spoke to quite a bit on the phone before we met, because her photos were kind of hard to make out. She seemed really nice, described herself as 'a few extra pounds' one of the things that I did notice was that she kept telling me on the phone how guys fell in love with her all the time, and it was really annoying, I just put it down to nerves. She was determined we would meet at her flat, rather than going out somewhere, so I thought okay, I'm a big boy, I'm not scared. Well. When I arrived, turns out that she was extremely large, three times my size. It seemed to me that the reason she didn't want to go out was because it was difficult to do so. She also kept steering the conversation round to sex, and insisted on showing me her terrifying collection of apparatus, including shackles, cuffs, plugs and a double ended black *kitten* so huge that when I first saw it, I thought Samuel L Jackson was laying on the sofa.....

I don't really date now.

same. single for 2 years.

- the man who said "Chaka Khan" the way people say "your mom" or "thats what she/he said." just said Chaka Khan all the time for no apparent reason.

I'm sure a picture is worth a thousand words when it comes to describing ones self.

I don't think so. He held a conversation just fine when we first met and when I got to his house while he showed me around, then when we went to the video store (where we ran into a friend of his and he introduced me). Everything was perfectly normal and fine until he TV thing.

I would have been OK with it if he had turned it off after the movie, but he didn't and he wouldn't even look at me. It was incredibly bizarre.

lol I was joking.......but yes

pigs are weird.

Sorry about your dating issues, I have them too.

A recent date I had with a guy that looked nothing like his online profile. Now I am not the most fit person, but I am pretty darn active. He was not active at all, I had just finished a half marathon. His hobbies were TV and TV, my hobbies are pretty much anything to get me out of the house. It was like pulling teeth to get him to talk and I can understand being nervous but to answer a direct question with: "I dunno, I got nothing" Um, what? Needless to say, it didnt go past date 1.

Another date I had with a guy that saw me at work and wanted to ask me out but had his friend ask me. I said yes but then learned that 1. He didnt have a job, he was only a temp. 2. Didnt have a car, so I had to pick him up. 3. Still lived at home. 4. Had a crazy ex-girlfriend. He got back together with his crazy ex-girlfriend and she found the slip of paper with my home number. The guy didnt have the testicular fortitude to tell her he dated while they were split, he asked me that if she calls I had to say my number was meant for his friend. WHAT? Well, she did call, about 10 times and once was pretty nasty to my own mother. I cussed her out and basically said she is welcome to the ball-less wonder; I wouldnt date him if the continuation of the human race depended on us procreating. Better to die out than to have his DNA infecting the gene pool.

Other dates were just sad.

So I gave up, for now. I'll just be happy with me and when it happens, it happens.

Oh dear. That would put me off dating, too, OP!

I've been part of a couple for a long time now, so I have no recent bad date stories. But years ago, I met a guy through speed dating who was really nice, cute, a cop, had just built a house -- whole package kind of thing. He invited me over for a movie and we ended up sitting RREEEEEAAALLLLLLYYYY far away from each other on his sectional couch and he turned the volume up so loud, there was no way to have a conversation. Then when the movie was over, he turned on a TV channel and kept the volume up and stayed sitting really far away until I finally just left.

so he was deaf? or had hearing loss?

I don't think so. He held a conversation just fine when we first met and when I got to his house while he showed me around, then when we went to the video store (where we ran into a friend of his and he introduced me). Everything was perfectly normal and fine until he TV thing.

I would have been OK with it if he had turned it off after the movie, but he didn't and he wouldn't even look at me. It was incredibly bizarre.

Sounds like he just wasnt that interested in you, if he was, he'd pay attention..

Uuummmm ... Yeah. I'm not an idiot. But we'd met before, liked each other enough to set a second date and he refused to even have a conversation during that date. He was into me and then 10 minutes later wasn't. If he wasn't into me, why did he set up a date to begin with? This wasn't an online thing. We had actually met each other once before and talked and stuff.

I get deciding after date 1 that you don't want date 2. But for a grown man to behave that way to someone in his own house (who he invited to his own house) is just plain rude.

There's never calling again "not that into you" and then there's that experience.