Harming children to make yourself feel good?

Have some marzipan babies

Wow! Who could actually bring themselves to eat those?!?!?

They are too adorable though!

Actually, I think those are fake but I love Marzipan.

That sixth cookie is vital. If a child eats six cookies in one day, ESPECIALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS, it can be deadly.

Educate yourselves!

This.

Your child will only be harmed if he has an allergy. And then it's your duty to tell everyone not to feed him anything. Who cares if he eats a bit too many cookies during the Holidays, seriously?

Well there goes one of the fun parts about being a kid.

Unless your kids are with these people for extended periods of time, I think you're being a bit melodramatic...a few extra cookies or a candy bar from grandma isn’t going to cause long-term damage.

As an Aunt, my philosophy was always "the parents are responsible for handling the things they NEED and day-to-day issues, and in the limited amount of time I get to see them, I'll handle the fun things they want (within reason)". :ohwell:

This is not a food issue. You should never undermine a parents rules unless it is illegal or harming the child.

Have some marzipan babies

Where can I get some of these?! I hate marzipan but I'd change my mind for these little things.

I don't like marzipan and I don't like babies. Now I like them both even less. :laugh:

It's not so bad if the child actually ate something of nutrition first, but I've seen it where the kid didn't even eat their meat and potatoes first and then all they ate was the sweets. My kids have gotten belly aches, and my daughter has thrown up before from eating too much sweets. I don't think it's very funny, either.

It's not so bad if the child actually ate something of nutrition first, but I've seen it where the kid didn't even eat their meat and potatoes first and then all they ate was the sweets. My kids have gotten belly aches, and my daughter has thrown up before from eating too much sweets. I don't think it's very funny, either.

No, but it's a good lesson.

Grandparents and aunties especially, and friends and relatives everywhere - please, please, please, please, please ask parents first BEFORE offering children sweets and treats!!!!! And NEVER sneak them treats when parents say no.

Of course you're not harming them on purpose, but a diet with too many cookies, cakes, candy and sweets is never good for anyone, especially children, especially when they are busy - and there are a lot of "special visits" during the holidays, so your offer might be a child's sixth cookie for the day.

Kids don't yet have the ability to make considered choices about their nutrition; their parents do. If you're going around Mom and Dad to feed them high calorie, nutritionally void food - you're getting your own, warm, fuzzy, heart warming smile, "thank you," and, "I love you," AT THEIR EXPENSE - in straight, harsh terms: YOU ARE HARMING THEM TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. STOP.

I agree with this..but not because I think the treats are going to make the kids unhealthy for life. My son starts to get sugared up at some point. He does not typically eat a lot of sweets and once he crosses the line of sugared up he starts acting goofy and then gets in trouble for being too wild. If I can make sure he gets treats but not too many FOR HIM then he can still enjoy the treats without having too much. No one is happy once the kids start getting in trouble. The stupid adults that think they are making his night better are now upset that he is running around. The stupid adults who think that they are letting him live a little by giving him another cookie without permission are then frustrated that I have to parent him and give him a time out. WELL morons try to abide by the rules of sweet treats need to be run past momma first. I am not denying him treats to be mean, I am allowing to a certain point then stopping when I see the signs that we have reached the point of too much.

Do I get frustrated at times by the amount of junk my kid eats at her grandparents house? Sure.

Do I mention in casual conversation her love of apples and yogurt? Yep. Do I bring bottled water and encourage her to drink it? Yes. Do I tell them how much she loves popcorn? Uh-huh.

Do I slam their food choices and make them feel bad for giving her something they see as a treat? No. Do I critique them and criticize their relationship with food and my child? Nope.


Have they changed the food that they feed her based on the hints and clues I give them? Yes. Does she still get a few treats? Yep.



Balance. You need to find it.

OP pay attention to this. This is a completely reasonable response to the concerns you're expressing.

Calling grandmas and aunties selfish for giving your child a cookie is not.

As a grandmother to 2 teenagers, I approve this message. I have them a few times a year. I don't mainline sugar into them, but they know when they are at my house, we have some treats and we eat their favorite dinners. Part of the human experience. LIghten up people.

Have some marzipan babies

Wow! Who could actually bring themselves to eat those?!?!?

They are too adorable though!

adorable?! creepy as ****!!!!

Yes yes 100 times yes! CREEPY!!!!

Would it be safe to say that children, for the most part, are trainable just like dogs? Because I can fully attest to the fact that they're really not all that different in the beginning.

My son did sh1t in the garden but he never licked his balls.

If he could have reached them, though ...

I have a dog (not exactly the same thing) but you would be amazed how many people think it's ok to give an animal people food. Anytime I go to a social gather I make it clear to everyone that it is not OK to feed my dog anything. I think it's a parent's responsibility (or pet owner) to have that talk with family/friends. Don't just assume that everyone should know.

This was my initial thought. I've gotten very mad at relatives that fed my dog table food during holiday dinners. It's extremely disrespectful to knowingly go against someone's wishes that were just told to you.