"Please include a message with your friend request.."

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  • _JPunky
    _JPunky Posts: 508 Member
    Dude, who the heck accepts FB friend requests without knowing the person? Man, I'm pickier there than I am here.

    Oh, and also ^THIS! Seriously, I have NEVER accepted an FB friend request from someone I didn't know.
  • laceyfowler
    laceyfowler Posts: 127 Member
    I'm not here to collect friends - I'm here to support others and to get support from others, and to in this process have actual postivie/meaningful relationships with those I'm supporting/supported by.

    If I want to be someone's friend, I send them a message saying why (e.g. "I loved your helpful response to ____ in the ___ post! Would like to be your friend so we can provide positivity and support one another here in MFP"). If someone wants to be my friend, I'm generally pretty open to it, I just want to know why, and so I appreciate a short message along with the request.

    I like having a small friends list because I feel like I can be supportive to everyone one my little list... and I appreciate the support I get from each of them :-)

    This is what works for and feels comfortable to me :-)
  • candiceh3
    candiceh3 Posts: 379 Member
    Freedom... it's awesome. You should try it sometime.
  • arghbowl
    arghbowl Posts: 1,179 Member
    It is why I always include a junk shot with FR... and expect nothing less in return

    Well played brah
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    It seems like this is something said because someone else said it on their profile. To be exclusive you must add this disclaimer to your profile. Miss me with that...
    When did this become so important or the norm?
    Just sounds like some MFPers are becoming friending snobs.
    Some of them won't admit they are quick to accept a friend request on FB and 9x/10 there is no accompanying message.
    Some people have gotten a little above themselves.

    Or the other one that gets me is, "I'm not adding anymore new friends"

    What the what?! It's not like there's a fire code for your friend's list...

    Then another thing that gets me is that people go on to justify why they need a message LOL. As if the message makes the person no longer a stranger.

    Insanity at its best....
    That's team too much for me...
    The honest truth about why it's on my profile is because of people like you complaining about people having it on their profiles. It is there, specifically, to annoy you.

    I am not being sarcastic.
  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
    I accept 9/10 requests with no message on FB because they're people I know IRL. We're already friends or related. When I get a FR here it's from a stranger. I wouldn't just walk up to a stranger and ask them to be friends. I would introduce myself and break the ice a little. Especially important online when there's not a physical body in front of you. If that's not important to you, great. Not sure why you give a s**t if it's important to anyone else.:huh:
  • _Pseudonymous_
    _Pseudonymous_ Posts: 1,671 Member
    Bacon AND ice cream is apparently now a thing. With caramel.

    Oh holy mother of yes...
  • Sovictorrious
    Sovictorrious Posts: 770 Member
    I'm popular on the internet so I don't just associate with just anyone. YOU CAN"T SIT HERE!
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.

    I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.

    I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.

    I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.

    If I do accept someone on my list and then they don't interact with me I delete them.

    I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?

    ETA: I'm really just a b!tch. That's what it boils down to.

    All of this. She was recommended by a mutual. How this should work, really.
  • delicious_cocktail
    delicious_cocktail Posts: 5,797 Member
    I don't like to waste my time with people who don't even have the courtesy to introduce themselves.


    So . . . no, you don't get to come to the party.
  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    I accept all FR but clean out my FL if they do not interact or log on. Nothing against them, just no point in having them on the list.
  • Sovictorrious
    Sovictorrious Posts: 770 Member
    It seems like this is something said because someone else said it on their profile. To be exclusive you must add this disclaimer to your profile. Miss me with that...
    When did this become so important or the norm?
    Just sounds like some MFPers are becoming friending snobs.
    Some of them won't admit they are quick to accept a friend request on FB and 9x/10 there is no accompanying message.
    Some people have gotten a little above themselves.

    Or the other one that gets me is, "I'm not adding anymore new friends"

    What the what?! It's not like there's a fire code for your friend's list...

    Then another thing that gets me is that people go on to justify why they need a message LOL. As if the message makes the person no longer a stranger.

    Insanity at its best....
    That's team too much for me...

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    and just for the record, im only accepting mutuals at this point in time.

    good luck OP!

    Wanna be freinds?
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    Dude, who the heck accepts FB friend requests without knowing the person? Man, I'm pickier there than I am here.

    I have 20 FB friends and I'm related to 15 of them.

    Nothing more to be said about that.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    It seems like this is something said because someone else said it on their profile. To be exclusive you must add this disclaimer to your profile. Miss me with that...
    When did this become so important or the norm?
    Just sounds like some MFPers are becoming friending snobs.
    Some of them won't admit they are quick to accept a friend request on FB and 9x/10 there is no accompanying message.
    Some people have gotten a little above themselves.

    Or the other one that gets me is, "I'm not adding anymore new friends"

    What the what?! It's not like there's a fire code for your friend's list...

    Then another thing that gets me is that people go on to justify why they need a message LOL. As if the message makes the person no longer a stranger.

    Insanity at its best....
    That's team too much for me...

    haters-gonna-hate-snow-white_large.gif

    and just for the record, im only accepting mutuals at this point in time.

    good luck OP!

    Wanna be freinds?

    hell yes!
    hit me up gurrrrrrrrrl!
    :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love:
  • catneon
    catneon Posts: 911 Member
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  • Mainebikerchick
    Mainebikerchick Posts: 1,573 Member
    I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.

    I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.

    I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.

    I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.

    If I do accept someone on my list and then they don't interact with me I delete them.

    I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?

    ETA: I'm really just a b!tch. That's what it boils down to.

    My response was pretty much this...so I will just say QFT!

    And welcome to the Internet. :flowerforyou:
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    I could care less and accept any friend request sent to me

    I am not a good mfp friend .. I dont leave "good burn" or "wow nice food man " or whatever on peoples stuff

    I never even really look at the feed thing... people just add me..meh
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    Um it's my profile, my choice, what's it to you anyway.
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.

    I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.

    I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.

    I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.

    If I do accept someone on my list and then they don't interact with me I delete them.

    I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?

    ETA: I'm really just a b!tch. That's what it boils down to.

    My response was pretty much this...so I will just say QFT!

    And welcome to the Internet. :flowerforyou:

    This is perfect!
  • suziepoo1984
    suziepoo1984 Posts: 915 Member
    I don't have that disclaimer either, but typically do not accept without a message.

    A ticket into my freak show, also called my MFP wall, requires some sort of admission and a message is always helpful. You know, so I can see if you will fit in with my freak show (meaning awesome and sexy) FL.

    :smooched: :drinker:
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    That's funny? When I've read those, I never took it as self important?

    I took it as them politely apologizing in advance for why they might not have accepted certain FR's.

    ETA: If I decide to write one of those statements it will be decidedly more rude. As it stands though I don't have to write one b/c my profile's set to private. Snobby enough for you OP? It could be worse.

    Also if I deny an FR, I don't always even say why. That FR just lands in a dismal abyss of limbo like Mark Zuckerberg's eternal F5 button...


    ...oh! the humanity!
  • _Pseudonymous_
    _Pseudonymous_ Posts: 1,671 Member
    What I want to know is why it concerns you so much. You don't have to send them a friend request, ya know? I have/had a disclaimer on my page after my friends list got out of control and decided that I wouldn't accept people who wouldn't do the same courtesy to me as I would to them. With profiles being private most of the time the only way to get to know who is adding you is a compatible personality. For all I know we could be two warring personalities which would result in stress and a delete anyway. Requesting for messages saves me time... and avoids unwanted perviness...

    emphasis on the UNWANTED perviness.

    Wanted perviness is still perfectly acceptable.
  • Sovictorrious
    Sovictorrious Posts: 770 Member
    It seems like this is something said because someone else said it on their profile. To be exclusive you must add this disclaimer to your profile. Miss me with that...
    When did this become so important or the norm?
    Just sounds like some MFPers are becoming friending snobs.
    Some of them won't admit they are quick to accept a friend request on FB and 9x/10 there is no accompanying message.
    Some people have gotten a little above themselves.

    Or the other one that gets me is, "I'm not adding anymore new friends"

    What the what?! It's not like there's a fire code for your friend's list...

    Then another thing that gets me is that people go on to justify why they need a message LOL. As if the message makes the person no longer a stranger.

    Insanity at its best....
    That's team too much for me...

    haters-gonna-hate-snow-white_large.gif

    and just for the record, im only accepting mutuals at this point in time.

    good luck OP!

    Wanna be freinds?

    hell yes!
    hit me up gurrrrrrrrrl!
    :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love:
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  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    i accept everyone I also dont cull my list. no note? who cares. they dont comment on my diary? who cares? They aren't on the same path as me? who cares? They eat meat? are religious? republican? lifters? who cares? I dont need tons of support and I offer what I can. I appreciate everyone for where they are and who they are.
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    I require a resume and references...
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    I could care less and accept any friend request sent to me

    I am not a good mfp friend .. I dont leave "good burn" or "wow nice food man " or whatever on peoples stuff

    I never even really look at the feed thing... people just add me..meh


    You really should see a therapist.
  • Byrdsong1920
    Byrdsong1920 Posts: 336 Member
    I have 400+ friends....about 20% are steadily active. I know all the names of my active friends and would like to know who is peeping at my diary and seeing my pics etc.

    I think social media makes people lazy, it never hurt to introduce yourself ...u wouldn't walk into a meeting and not acknowledge people in the room or go to a work conference without a name tag, you'd seem rude, it's the same thing.

    Since the new year I have 18 pending requests we no name, message etc.i jus think its odd not to say something.... But I'm a Public relations major, so maybe it's just me. I believe in real interaction and true support. i like when people say my name in a comment occasionally vs "wtg girl" all the time.

    Snobs rule,lol!

    Shannon... atl girl
  • Mischievous_Rascal
    Mischievous_Rascal Posts: 1,791 Member
    It's not snobby. And sending blank FR is creepy and getting them is rather insulting. There are a LOT of "collectors" on this site. If not a creep, then it shows they didn'y bother to read my profile. I don't have time to support everyone on MFP - nobody does, and for me this isn't a game of "see who has the biggest friends list". If someone is just blindly adding people without a real reason, that's how it comes across. I also delete people's a$$es if they don't bother to interact (after a certain grace period, of course). Support is a two-way street for me.

    (I just deleted a second request from someone I deleted from my FL due to inactivity. A blank request...LMFAO!)
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
    I accept all FR but clean out my FL if they do not interact or log on. Nothing against them, just no point in having them on the list.

    QFT

    I add all my request, and then about once a month I clean up my list. It clearly states on my profile that I'm a needy friend and love accolades from strangers. If you don't give me a "great burn" or "nicely done", then you get deleted.
  • Candi_land
    Candi_land Posts: 1,311 Member
    So, who declined you to inspire this butthurt rant?

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