Husband does not get it??

firstsip
firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
edited February 11 in Chit-Chat
Hi guys, I've seen you help others on here for martial problems before, and i finally need it..

I was going to go running today.. My husband said it was too cold and that he was worried!! Is he worried that I'm going to get too hot and leave him?? is this sabotage?? I told him that I'm my own woman and I'm doing this for me!! He said honey you need to put on a coat and hat if your going to run in -40 windchill.. But I read that running increases your body temp anyway, so i told him to check the science. plus being cold burns more calories!!

I'm really upset right now!! why doesn't my husband get my fitness journey?? any advice??
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  • JoPa9477
    JoPa9477 Posts: 65
    Do you not feel that he is worried for you, or he really just doesn't want you to get too hot?

    It is tough when you don't have solid support at home. But that is why you are here. As in any other relationship, communication is key. Tell him how you feel and that you need more help, encouragement, etc from him. Maybe you already have tried this?
  • LishieFruit89
    LishieFruit89 Posts: 1,956 Member
    Just break up.
  • PghPensFan69
    PghPensFan69 Posts: 2,393 Member
    Just break up.

    This

    Or at least borrow Lishie's hat
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Awww, sweets. I think he's genuinely worried.
    Just explain it to him calmly. <3

    He wouldn't have said "I do" if he didn't love you. -huggg-
  • pawnstarNate
    pawnstarNate Posts: 1,728 Member
    My spousal unit was the same way. I always felt like she was sabotaging my fitness. Mainly with the meals she prepares and the grunts n groans when I would go workout. I did it anyway. Did and do it my way. She's lightened up a lot. I feel once you keep doing what you do. It will become routine. Not only for you but, for the others in your life as well.
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    I don't get "it" either.
  • JUDDDing
    JUDDDing Posts: 1,367 Member
    Definitely sabotage.

    http://www.jci.org/articles/view/68993
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    LOL, my husband doesn't get it either...
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    LOL, my husband doesn't get it either...
    You told me I was your only one!!! :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry: :angry:
  • gmhaggie06
    gmhaggie06 Posts: 207
    normally I would say sabotage, but -40 windchill does sound frikkin scary to run in, so he could have been genuinely worried for your well-being.
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    Is he worried that I'm going to get too hot and leave him?? is this sabotage??

    I can tell you it DEFINITELY isn't this.

    He probably doesn't want you to catch a cold or get sick.
  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    Just Forrest Gump it and never stop running
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    take your protein designed especially for women and remember tomorrow is another day.

    great burn! you got this! :flowerforyou:
  • ldalbello
    ldalbello Posts: 207 Member
    -40 F or -40 C ?
  • Escloflowne
    Escloflowne Posts: 2,038 Member
    You could leave him for me!?

    I won't care at all about your well being as long as you do certain things....
  • Rogiefreida
    Rogiefreida Posts: 567 Member
    My hubby was pretty resistant to me working out and trying to get in shape at first. Actually, he'd say he supported me but then he'd get irritated when I took off to go to Zumba and tell me the same thing about me getting hot and leaving him. In the end it boiled down to his own insecurities with himself and now he works out with me.

    So, maybe it's him and his own insecurities. You gotta work out for you, and your hubby should be proud of you for doing that.

    Or, maybe he's just worried and wants you to wear a hat. :happy:
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    -40 F or -40 C ?

    as if it matters...
  • Mother_Superior
    Mother_Superior Posts: 1,624 Member
    So many martial problems....

    funny-gifs-martial-arts-moves.gif
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    whats -40c?
  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
    Don't you see it, OP?
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    Get out while you still can!
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    So many martial problems....

    funny-gifs-martial-arts-moves.gif

    I've always wondered why people can't just powerbomb people who do that...
  • LishieFruit89
    LishieFruit89 Posts: 1,956 Member
    whats -40c?

    Canadian
  • asimmons221
    asimmons221 Posts: 294 Member
    Sounds like he just wants you not to die of hypothermia or get frost bite, or maybe your looking for an excuse to convince yourself to leave him cause of your hotness.
  • broox80
    broox80 Posts: 1,195 Member
    Going through a similar thing here!! My hubbs cholesterol is through the roof. I told him that if he just started taking better care of himself, he wouldnt have to be a 34 year old guy on meds. He said that he doesnt want to end up like me, being obsessed with calories and trying to get "HOT". I want to do this to LIVE LONGER!!!! I want to be able to tie my shoes without feeling like I am going to die!!!! I doubt I will ever be "HOT", but a cuter healthier more happy version of me would be awesome!! I think they just get insecure and worry that we will lose interest in them since they are not wanting to live the same kind of lifestyle that we are. You probably should wear a coat though. He is right about that.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    You could leave him for me!?

    I won't care at all about your well being as long as you do certain things....
    Oh man XD
  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    whats -40c?

    Guessing it is a joke because it is equal to -40F
  • WickedPineapple
    WickedPineapple Posts: 698 Member
    I would agree you shouldn't run when it's that cold. My husband and I don't even hike when it's below ~15F because it hurts to breathe air that cold. Is this the only example? I mean if he's saying that every time you try to run I would say yeah, ignore him and go do your thing.
  • pawnstarNate
    pawnstarNate Posts: 1,728 Member
    by the way...that is FRRRRICKIN cold!!!! This would be me getting ready to go run in that kind of weather. of course I'm from the south though.

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  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    He said honey you need to put on a coat and hat if your going to run in -40 windchill..

    He's definitely not going to get it if you freeze it. On the bright side at least you know he's not into necrophilia.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,151 Member
    LOL, my husband doesn't get it either...

    ABC, baby.
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