Husband does not get it??

I don't like how some people are being really rude or discouraging. Telling this woman to break up or being rude about her husband isn't gonna help her!! She's not saying it's the end of the world, she's just having a little conflict and she wants help.

Should we encourage her to remain in such a terrible marriage? We CARE about her!

But how did you decide her marriage was terrible? I mean yeah a guy shouldn't be stopping his wife from doing what she loves (especially exercising) but from what I understood (maybe I got it wrong) he doesn't do it every time, and this incident it was -40 outside when she wanted to go running. How does this make her marriage terrible?

It's terrible because he's telling her what to do. He's trying to manipulate her by showing "concern". She needs to get out. NOW.

My wife has interpreted my wanting to get in shape as a mid-life crisis and attempt to find other women. I dunno what to make of it, I take it as a compliment on one hand but it causes arguments and resentment on the other.

I want to physically be fit while I still have some life in me. LOL. So, OP, I guess, upside is he cares enough to feel threatened still (as far as hassling you when you run in sports bra, or any other blocking type behavior, etc).

For the -40 thing, to paraphrase Sigmund Freud, sometimes a jacket is a jacket.

Also not canadian lol! I live in michigan!

What's the difference?

I think Michigan is more miserable.

People from Michigan are more meaner, and people from Canadia are more colder. And penguins and such.

You are watching too much Hardcore Pawn. Those people are totes mean!!!
All I know is that I live in So. IL and it feels damn near Canada right now, stupid winter!!!!

Also not canadian lol! I live in michigan!

What's the difference?

I think Michigan is more miserable.

People from Michigan are more meaner, and people from Canadia are more colder. And penguins and such.

PINGU is the SCHIZZZZZ!!!! (Moi Canadienne)

I wouldn't read anything into it ... put another layer of clothing on and go for the run.

NO! If she gives in, the terrorists win!

It sounds like you are reading into it too much. I'm not sure why you would want to run in that kind of temperature. He sound concerned for you not trying to sabotage.

It sounds like you are reading into it too much. I'm not sure why you would want to run in that kind of temperature. He sound concerned for you not trying to sabotage.

People who let things like extremely low temperatures stop them from running are quitters.

Move to an apartment complex and rent a place next to a really hot female neighbor that your husband will go ga-ga for... then accuse him of cheating, get drunk (because alcohol makes you warm, which burns calories - hence it is a negative calorie food), and call her at all hours to tell her to keep her mitts off of your man.

Then, just break up.

It's the only way.

40 below with windchill. I wouldn't let my wife out in that weather either. She could interpret that anyway she wants, but her safety is more important to me than harmony at that point.

I don't like how some people are being really rude or discouraging. Telling this woman to break up or being rude about her husband isn't gonna help her!! She's not saying it's the end of the world, she's just having a little conflict and she wants help.

Should we encourage her to remain in such a terrible marriage? We CARE about her!

But how did you decide her marriage was terrible? I mean yeah a guy shouldn't be stopping his wife from doing what she loves (especially exercising) but from what I understood (maybe I got it wrong) he doesn't do it every time, and this incident it was -40 outside when she wanted to go running. How does this make her marriage terrible?

It's terrible because he's telling her what to do. He's trying to manipulate her by showing "concern". She needs to get out. NOW.

Wait... So .... a husband telling his wife to put on a coat before she goes out in -40 temperature because he either 1. Is really concerned or 2. Just doesnt want other guys seeing her means he's a control freak?

There there, make him a sandwich and give him a beer or twelve like a good wife. He's just concerned about your uterus falling out while you run. Who can blame him?

normally I would say sabotage, but -40 windchill does sound frikkin scary to run in, so he could have been genuinely worried for your well-being.

I agree. I definitely think he is concerned about your health and doesn't want you to get sick! I think you should try talking to him about this, calmly of course. Obviously we are all here for support but we aren't your husband. You have to let him know how you feel. If you don't tell him, he won't know and therefore, nothing will change.

thanks for some help and no thanks to the rude people on here attacking me!!

He doesn't do it every time, just when i go out running in a sports bra.. I think he doesn't want others to see me?? I only started running since new years.

If you're running in only a sports bra in -40F weather, you're a moron .

thanks for some help and no thanks to the rude people on here attacking me!!

He doesn't do it every time, just when i go out running in a sports bra.. I think he doesn't want others to see me?? I only started running since new years.

Also not canadian lol! I live in michigan!

Good men are a prize. Sounds like he cares. Also, put a shirt on if he doesnt like you running in a sports bra. Small sacrifice if you ask me.

^^ this!!

Perhaps I needed to be there... if it is that cold, then perhaps it was simple concern of it being so cold.

Instead of venting, I would talk directly to him (I mean talk) it shouldn't be a defense/offense kinda situation - express how you really feel and perhaps tell him reasons why you are committed to doing this.

In all reality, no one can sabotage you except you