My fiance can be such a jerk sometimes

rml_16
rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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I'm really trying hard to do this whole lifestyle change thing and I like to exercise outside. It gets dark so early these days, though, and I can only go after work. We're really close to the projects in Baltimore and he keeps telling me I shouldn't run there at night, but I NEED to get my workout in.

I'm pretty sure he just doesn't want me to lose weight. It's just his insecurity, thinking I'll leave him if I do. Anyone else dealing with an unsupportive SO?
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  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    Yeah, I kicked him in the balls and made him move out.
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    He doesn't want you running near the projects at night and that's because of his insecurity??? Uh, no. Sounds to me like he just wants you to be safe. Is there somewhere else you can run that isn't near the projects? Can you stick to the treadmill until daylight savings time starts? Could you run during lunch? Sorry OP, but if I was in your fiance's situation, I would likely feel the same way.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    He doesn't want you running near the projects at night and that's because of his insecurity??? Uh, no. Sounds to me like he just wants you to be safe. Is there somewhere else you can run that isn't near the projects? Can you stick to the treadmill until daylight savings time starts? Could you run during lunch? Sorry OP, but if I was in your fiance's situation, I would likely feel the same way.
    I'm not going to change my workout routine just to make him happy!
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  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Just break up.
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    He doesn't want you running near the projects at night and that's because of his insecurity??? Uh, no. Sounds to me like he just wants you to be safe. Is there somewhere else you can run that isn't near the projects? Can you stick to the treadmill until daylight savings time starts? Could you run during lunch? Sorry OP, but if I was in your fiance's situation, I would likely feel the same way.
    I'm not going to change my workout routine just to make him happy!

    I'm not suggesting you change it to keep HIM happy; I'm suggesting you change it to keep YOU safe. It's a good idea to work on a compromise on something like this. Him worrying about your safety is a good thing.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    He sounds controlling
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Just break up.
    I think that might be the answer.

    I forgot to add that once we went to the grocery store together and after we left he said something about how he thought the cashier was pretty. He says things like that, which obviously means he thinks I'm fat and ugly, and then won't even support me running at night in the projects.
  • Whambam087
    Whambam087 Posts: 170
    Well his fears sound perfectfully rational...high chance of being mugged, raped or who knows what. I would worry about those things myself if I ran in a risky area at night
  • Muddy_Yogi
    Muddy_Yogi Posts: 1,459 Member
    My suggestion? Carry a gun...that's what I do.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Just break up.
    I think that might be the answer.

    I forgot to add that once we went to the grocery store together and after we left he said something about how he thought the cashier was pretty. He says things like that, which obviously means he thinks I'm fat and ugly, and then won't even support me running at night in the projects.

    I think he is scared you are gonna pick up another dude from the projects who appreciates you. Also he is just jealous.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Just break up.
    I think that might be the answer.

    I forgot to add that once we went to the grocery store together and after we left he said something about how he thought the cashier was pretty. He says things like that, which obviously means he thinks I'm fat and ugly, and then won't even support me running at night in the projects.

    I think he is scared you are gonna pick up another dude from the projects who appreciates you. Also he is just jealous.
    I'm so glad SOMEONE understands.

    Seriously, all of you who have nothing supportive to say should just move on. This is MY thread.
  • mmartinez_az
    mmartinez_az Posts: 580
    Come to Arizona I will let you run anywhere as long as you run to bed with me.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Come to Arizona I will let you run anywhere as long as you run to bed with me.
    I dunno. I've been told a bear a strong resemblance to Howard Stern. Are you sure you want that?

    This is why I stay with this unsupportive man. I mean, a woman who looks like Howard Stern doesn't have many options.
  • cks3d1
    cks3d1 Posts: 36 Member
    "He says things like that, which obviously means he thinks I'm fat and ugly, and then won't even support me running at night in the projects. "

    Are you kidding?
  • SamanthaD1218
    SamanthaD1218 Posts: 303 Member
    Just break up.
    I think that might be the answer.

    I forgot to add that once we went to the grocery store together and after we left he said something about how he thought the cashier was pretty. He says things like that, which obviously means he thinks I'm fat and ugly, and then won't even support me running at night in the projects.

    Ha... please tell me this is a joke.
  • xtinalovexo
    xtinalovexo Posts: 1,376 Member
    He says things like that, which obviously means he thinks I'm fat and ugly, and then won't even support me running at night in the projects.


    :laugh:
  • patrickblo13
    patrickblo13 Posts: 831 Member
    He doesn't want you running near the projects at night and that's because of his insecurity??? Uh, no. Sounds to me like he just wants you to be safe. Is there somewhere else you can run that isn't near the projects? Can you stick to the treadmill until daylight savings time starts? Could you run during lunch? Sorry OP, but if I was in your fiance's situation, I would likely feel the same way.
    I'm not going to change my workout routine just to make him happy!

    This sounds like a soon to be marriage that will end rather quickly....there is something called communication and compromise that you should be working on with your fiancé not us!
  • GGDaddy
    GGDaddy Posts: 289 Member
    10/10. That is all.
  • mmartinez_az
    mmartinez_az Posts: 580
    Come to Arizona I will let you run anywhere as long as you run to bed with me.
    I dunno. I've been told a bear a strong resemblance to Howard Stern. Are you sure you want that?

    This is why I stay with this unsupportive man. I mean, a woman who looks like Howard Stern doesn't have many options.

    lol
  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    Just break up.
    I think that might be the answer.

    I forgot to add that once we went to the grocery store together and after we left he said something about how he thought the cashier was pretty. He says things like that, which obviously means he thinks I'm fat and ugly, and then won't even support me running at night in the projects.

    Are you a troll?

    Is this a joke?
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Just break up.
    I think that might be the answer.

    I forgot to add that once we went to the grocery store together and after we left he said something about how he thought the cashier was pretty. He says things like that, which obviously means he thinks I'm fat and ugly, and then won't even support me running at night in the projects.

    Are you a troll?

    Is this a joke?
    I am not a troll.
  • ebayaddict0127
    ebayaddict0127 Posts: 523 Member
    You sound very insecure. I wouldn't want to run in the projects at night. I think his worry is valid. As for saying a cashier is pretty.. did he then say to you "You're fat and ugly!"? No... that's what you perceived. Find a cheap gym membership and go run on the treadmill at night. And, tell him not to tell you about the other girls he thinks are pretty if it bothers you.
  • jlshea
    jlshea Posts: 494 Member
    Make him go with you when running. Compromise for a safer area or ask him what exercises he'd like to do with you. Make it a team effort and maybe he'll get into being more healthy too and understaning your drive.
  • LishieFruit89
    LishieFruit89 Posts: 1,956 Member
    I came in to tell you to just break up but Tai beat me to it!
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    Dangit. I hate when I fall into the derp traps. :angry: :grumble:
  • April_KT
    April_KT Posts: 332 Member
    Well his fears sound perfectfully rational...high chance of being mugged, raped or who knows what. I would worry about those things myself if I ran in a risky area at night

    this!
  • The_Aly_Wei
    The_Aly_Wei Posts: 844 Member
    BAHAHAHAHA, this cant be real.
  • MadeinChelseaGirl
    MadeinChelseaGirl Posts: 22 Member
    Hey, if you feel like he is hiding another reason why you shouldn't go and exercise, then he is a jerk! Maybe explain how you feel, I am sure you can work it out. And don't listen to anyone who tells you to break up with him. They don't know you or your boyfriend, you can't just break up with someone just like that. Good luck with him and with your weight loss!
  • oberon0124
    oberon0124 Posts: 10,524 Member
    He doesn't want you running near the projects at night and that's because of his insecurity??? Uh, no. Sounds to me like he just wants you to be safe. Is there somewhere else you can run that isn't near the projects? Can you stick to the treadmill until daylight savings time starts? Could you run during lunch? Sorry OP, but if I was in your fiance's situation, I would likely feel the same way.
    I'm not going to change my workout routine just to make him happy!

    How is him wanting you safe just making him happy?? I agree that you don't want to change a lot of what you do. Why not hop in your car and drive to a safe area to run. A mile here is a mile there. They don't change. I am surprised you would want to run in a bad area at night by yourself.

    Oh and the other comment about Howard Stern, I don see it and you should quit being so hard on yourself. I think for one that you are good looking!
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