tattoo argument with spouse

Using big words does not make you sound intelligent when you clearly don't even know what they mean.

I think if you read all the posts, they are congruent commentaries on the dynamics of power and identity in a relationship, the destructive nature of insecurity, and how marriage is about love and sacrifice.

Which do you disagree with?

Or are you just going to stick with cheap tactics and ad-hominems the whole time?

I would have to take you seriously to answer any of your questions.

You would also have to learn to communicate in a way someone with a functioning brain can compehend.

I think its funny how that same comment represents the fact that the world is too big and complicated for most of you to synthesize as a whole in real time.

Which goes back to the original comment:

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

Tell me more.

Using big words does not make you sound intelligent when you clearly don't even know what they mean.

I think if you read all the posts, they are congruent commentaries on the dynamics of power and identity in a relationship, the destructive nature of insecurity, and how marriage is about love and sacrifice.

Which do you disagree with?

Or are you just going to stick with cheap tactics and ad-hominems the whole time?

You are hilarious!! Epic troll!! :drinker:

Now he's a marriage counsillor !! wow his resume keeps getting bigger, lol

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

I agree. When u become married ur body is not your own but now belongs to your husband and VISE VERSA. It's not just you that has to live with the tattoo he does too. It's not something like dying your hair that is temporary. I wouldn't get one anyway but if I knew my husband was against it I wouldn't get one just like I know if the situation was flipped he wouldnt.

Thats because you actually know the meaning of love.

These broken women weren't loved as children so they don't know how to love in return, to cherish it, to sacrifice for it.

They don't realize how low their value is on the market because there will always be some loser who puts in work for their vagina.

But that is not love.

What isn't love is not recognizing your husband or your wife is not YOU, when you get married you come together as a team you do not automatically own that person or their body. Marriage is sharing yourself with someone else it is not a purchase your husband does not own you your wife does not own you.

When you get married you should know each other well enough to know what the other persons interests, beliefs, as well as preferences are if you love tattoos and your partner does not that should have factored into your decision to become life partners. If a tattoo means a lot to you it should have meant a lot to you before you got married and should have been discussed.

I believe a true expression of love is acceptance, to accept and love your partner for all their flaws all their incompatibilities with you as well as all of their interests that may not be exactly what you like. Love is loving someone who compliments you in every way, who is different from you and makes you experience life outside of your own bubble. Love is two imperfect people coming together and loving each other despite your differences and embracing you for who are not who they want you to be.

In my opinion, the love I have is of a superior saturation compared to the love you expressed.

But this comes from me being so dominant socially and having such a high level of chemistry and charm with women.

They get super horny at what I do to them. And the pleasure they get is actually DERIVED from being subservient.

Referencing back the the master-stroke page-1 comment of the master-thesis, she was Christian! And though I am atheist, I thought it was a potent commentary on the way Religion teaches the beauty of being a good servant. Not female to male, but even male to male or general to a higher power (God, your boss, parents/familiy)

There is a certain point in the big picture where you realize, all the systems of society and the totality of our socially transmitted behavior patterns, morals, ideas, values, and all other products of human work and thought are based on a Leader-Follower relationship.

From the dawn of civilization (and the first profession all the way up until Twitter.

There has always been such a dynamic. It just works better. Two alphas head butting don't work.

So who is the one who should be who? There is pleasure in both. Which one is which?

Well I guess testosterone will decide that one. Who ever was genetically born with more. And if we go back to the idea that everyone wants attention, girls have the better benefits on their side arguably.

So my love is a lot more potent because I have high levels of testosterone to the point where girls actually ENJOY being beta to me because like the Bible teaches, there is in fact pleasure there.

Unless you're insecure....

In which case you get a tat and end up alone with cats.

She said "listen."

Not obey, not even respect.

Just to listen, is that so unreasonable?

there is so much wrong with here it isn't funny- but you are trying way to hard.

seriously.

way.
to.
hard.

Like what? lol. Have you been reading the whole thread? or just this paragraph out of context.

Im not sure many of you have the comprehensive abilities to remember what we were even talking about a couple pages ago and how it all ties in.

lol I guess you got bored when you realize you cannot defeat my logic with snark...

Yeah, people do tend to give up a futile fight after some time. Arguing with the illogical is just such an example of a futile fight.

LOL BRAH

Using big words does not make you sound intelligent when you clearly don't even know what they mean.

I think if you read all the posts, they are congruent commentaries on the dynamics of power and identity in a relationship, the destructive nature of insecurity, and how marriage is about love and sacrifice.

Which do you disagree with?

Or are you just going to stick with cheap tactics and ad-hominems the whole time?

I disagree with the supposition that you are in possesssion of a fully functioning brain.

I agree with your husband. Don't do it. It is very *kitten*-y :sick:

I hope you are kidding.

I agree with your husband. Don't do it. It is very *kitten*-y :sick:

I hope you are kidding.

*kitten*-y??? Really??

My husband was and I will quote him "Totally against it & He was putting his foot down and saying no" Look at my profile pic and you will see how well that worked out for him. Its something I wanted to do for me and no one else..He got over it

But this comes from me being so dominant socially and having such a high level of chemistry and charm with women.

They get super horny at what I do to them. And the pleasure they get is actually DERIVED from being subservient.

I just figured it out. He's read that "Fifty Shades" crap and thinks he's the main character and that women will flock to him because he's soooooo sexy and dominant and *swoooooon*.:sick:

But this comes from me being so dominant socially and having such a high level of chemistry and charm with women.

They get super horny at what I do to them. And the pleasure they get is actually DERIVED from being subservient.

I just figured it out. He's read that "Fifty Shades" crap and thinks he's the main character and that women will flock to him because he's soooooo sexy and dominant and *swoooooon*.:sick:

ROFL you figured it out :drinker: :drinker:

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

I agree. When u become married ur body is not your own but now belongs to your husband and VISE VERSA. It's not just you that has to live with the tattoo he does too. It's not something like dying your hair that is temporary. I wouldn't get one anyway but if I knew my husband was against it I wouldn't get one just like I know if the situation was flipped he wouldnt.

Thats because you actually know the meaning of love.

These broken women weren't loved as children so they don't know how to love in return, to cherish it, to sacrifice for it.

They don't realize how low their value is on the market because there will always be some loser who puts in work for their vagina.

But that is not love.

Bahahahaha. Omg! Broken? We're not broken, just bent and we will learn to love again.

Sing it with me broken ladies with losers in their vagina.

OMFG! I think I love you!! :drinker: :flowerforyou: :drinker: :flowerforyou:

lol so supposedly:::

the bitter, brittle, self-centered, insecure women get all the action.

And me the passionate 10/10 fitness model with a degree and fame status never gets any girls...

And big words are bad, snark wins. Lol at refusing to debate about things I got out of sociology books in college.

Was that a poem??

I'm not bitter, brittle, self-centered, or insecure...

lol so supposedly:::

the bitter, brittle, self-centered, insecure women get all the action.

And me the passionate 10/10 fitness model with a degree and fame status never gets any girls...

And big words are bad, snark wins. Lol at refusing to debate about things I got out of sociology books in college.

Who told you you were a 10/10? I'm not insecure, I've been married for 24 years, perfecty happy. I've got 2 degrees, and I took sociology in college also.

You aren't better than anyone here, and your continual use of big words you don't understand, and concepts you don't understand, and talking about your accomplishments, according to my psychology courses in college, prove your insecurity.

I've got to admit ... some mornings, the only thing I like about myself while looking in the mirror, is my tats!:glasses:

Listen to your husband and hopefully he will be your only one.

Let me get back in the kitchen where I belong, barefoot. :noway:

And pregnant.

With a baby on your hip.

*sigh* So most of the replies...are telling OP it's her choice. Which it absolutely is, BUT of course husbands and wives are supposed to be considerate of each other. Everyone is acting like he's saying she CAN'T get the tattoo or if she gets one he will DIVORCE her...it's not what she said. He's just stating his opinion. Which shouldn't be a problem, ESPECIALLY since his opinion should matter to her more than most, I mean they are MARRIED. Honestly, if she's committed to him, all of our opinions should fall AFTER his anyway. If he truly loves her, he'll cope if she gets it. The kind of advice given on this thread and the attitudes that bolster it is why marriage fails. Not because it's an antiquated social norm, but because we are an increasingly selfish race (humans). Love is a little about losing a bit of yourself. This may be why society is going down; people are more concerned with the individual (self) than the whole. ALL things said...folks are super judgy. What's striking is that the more "liberal" ones of us are actually seeming to be a lot more judgmental and close-minded and PUSHY nowadays LOL. We take the new "moral" and "politically correct" ideals (which happens to be more liberal now) and shove it down EVERYONE'S throat. Full Disclosure: I read as inconsistent on political gauges because I sit right around the middle, leaning to the left. So I'm not anti-leftist. Nor, am I pro-conservative. I'm just me. NO one has the right to force their thoughts on other...and everyone has the right express their opinions.

FOR THE TLDR Folks Bottom line: OP and her husband are MARRIED. Honestly, if she's committed to him, all of our opinions should fall AFTER his. If he truly loves her, he'll cope if she gets it. What does him thinking a tattoo is a bad choice have to do with feminism?? NOTHING. And why in the world would she NOT be concerned about what the one person she should definitely still want to respect and be attracted to her thinks! Sheesh.