Boyfriend has roadrage
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gottahavefaith2014
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Hello everyone. I'm not really new here.... lurked for a while, created a profile and then lurked some more.... finally got the nerve to post this as I am having a really hard time with it.
My boyfriend is just horrible with his road rage. There have been many times that I asked him to go home after returning from shopping and him going ballistic on someone in another car. This isn't a new topic for us. We have discussed it in great length.
He says he will try to control it. Then he says that I am a pushover for not getting angry at other drivers, seriously? I'm a calm person, driving relaxes me, if someone drives like an idiot, what will my honking and swearing at them resolve? I just blow it off and just steer clear of them.
So what I'm asking is what would you do? I can't expect him to change can I? And do people really change anyway?
What would you do?
My boyfriend is just horrible with his road rage. There have been many times that I asked him to go home after returning from shopping and him going ballistic on someone in another car. This isn't a new topic for us. We have discussed it in great length.
He says he will try to control it. Then he says that I am a pushover for not getting angry at other drivers, seriously? I'm a calm person, driving relaxes me, if someone drives like an idiot, what will my honking and swearing at them resolve? I just blow it off and just steer clear of them.
So what I'm asking is what would you do? I can't expect him to change can I? And do people really change anyway?
What would you do?
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Give him road head, yeah I just wanted to be first to say it.0
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Anger management???0
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No one's winning with road rage. You're either making your blood pressure go up, or pissing someone off enough that they'll start doing dangerous stuff to get even.0
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Anger management???
Yeah right. He's so thick headed. He doesn't believe it's an anger issue.0 -
No one's winning with road rage. You're either making your blood pressure go up, or pissing someone off enough that they'll start doing dangerous stuff to get even.
I agree. When he does it in my ghetto neighborhood, I'm just waiting to get shot.0 -
+1. He'll forget about everyone else.:laugh:Give him road head, yeah I just wanted to be first to say it.
If I'm being honest, I'm horrible at patience with driving too. I don't drive fast, but I do talk out loud in the car (I need to stop this because my kid hears it) when it seems people aren't paying attention (looking at their phones instead of actually driving), or when someone gets on my *kitten* and tailgates me because they want to go faster on a single lane street.
Good thing my commute is short to work.
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Hello everyone. I'm not really new here.... lurked for a while, created a profile and then lurked some more.... finally got the nerve to post this as I am having a really hard time with it.
My boyfriend is just horrible with his road rage. There have been many times that I asked him to go home after returning from shopping and him going ballistic on someone in another car. This isn't a new topic for us. We have discussed it in great length.
He says he will try to control it. Then he says that I am a pushover for not getting angry at other drivers, seriously? I'm a calm person, driving relaxes me, if someone drives like an idiot, what will my honking and swearing at them resolve? I just blow it off and just steer clear of them.
So what I'm asking is what would you do? I can't expect him to change can I? And do people really change anyway?
What would you do?
Couple of questions:
What does he do when he "goes ballistic"?
Is he like this all of the time or is it just when driving?
I doubt there is much you can do, he has to recognize it as a problem himself.0 -
Do what my wife did..........................record it. Then let him listen to it. Since I have, I've changed a lot of what I do now. Every word used to be the f bomb. Now it's "frickin" because I have a kid in the car. It's getting better too because now I'm just mumbling more than speaking out.Anger management???
Yeah right. He's so thick headed. He doesn't believe it's an anger issue.
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I would say to really emphasize that it bothers you when he does it.
Make it clear how much anxiety it gives you.
Make him feel like a tard for a second.
But this takes a certain amount of "influence" and if you're not a natural sales person you might not be able to sell him on it.
I would just freak out like 'WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU! YOU DRIVE ME OUT OF MY WITS WHEN YOU GET CRAZY LIKE THAT! IM TRYING TO RELAX AND YOURE DRIVING ME NUTS! DO YOU NOT COMPREHEND THAT ACTING LIKE A LUNATIC IS NOT GONNA FIX OTHERS DRIVING?? CAN YOU REALLY NOT COMPREHEND THAT? ALL YOU DO IS GET ME ALL WORKED UP AND UNCOMFORTABLE I CANT HANDLE IT WHEN YOU DO THAT!!!"
And hopefully he will make an effort to temper himself at least around you.0 -
Wait till he goes ballistic on the wrong person and someone kicks his *kitten*. No more road raging I would suspect.0
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My road rage has considerably went down since I stopped listening to heavy metal whilst driving.
eta; depends on if im in the mini van or the Excursion also. im much more polite in the wifes mini van. Lol0 -
My road rage has considerably went down since I stopped listening to heavy metal whilst driving.
Ha! Yea I don't bust nearly as many caps now as I use to when I listened to gangsta rap.0 -
+1. He'll forget about everyone else.:laugh:Give him road head, yeah I just wanted to be first to say it.
If I'm being honest, I'm horrible at patience with driving too. I don't drive fast, but I do talk out loud in the car (I need to stop this because my kid hears it) when it seems people aren't paying attention (looking at their phones instead of actually driving), or when someone gets on my *kitten* and tailgates me because they want to go faster on a single lane street.
Good thing my commute is short to work.
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That's me... I stopped flipping people off when a car abruptly turned from going in the opposite direction to following me... yeah, that was scary... anyway, I don't do that now... but I'm still not the most patient person with drivers either... I don't like people that cut me off or speed in a merging lane to cut me off later... I also will slow my happy *kitten* down to people tailgating me when I'm already going 5 over... but I have become more Southern passive aggressive... thumbs up instead of flipping them off and telling them "good job (for being an idiot)"... because like you I have my daughter in the car.
But super aggressive driving doesn't do anything but ups the risks for an accident... it rarely gets you anywhere faster either.0 -
It's easy to be angry at a complete stranger on the road..tell him to pretend it's his mom/friend etc. you would easily shake your head and just think...damn my mom sucks at driving etc. rather than go into a fit of rage wishing you had built in machine guns to take out the stupid drivers that can't get the heck out of the way ...it's the fast lane....move over or get run over...0
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Give him road head, yeah I just wanted to be first to say it.
be mine? :flowerforyou:0 -
Hello everyone. I'm not really new here.... lurked for a while, created a profile and then lurked some more.... finally got the nerve to post this as I am having a really hard time with it.
My boyfriend is just horrible with his road rage. There have been many times that I asked him to go home after returning from shopping and him going ballistic on someone in another car. This isn't a new topic for us. We have discussed it in great length.
He says he will try to control it. Then he says that I am a pushover for not getting angry at other drivers, seriously? I'm a calm person, driving relaxes me, if someone drives like an idiot, what will my honking and swearing at them resolve? I just blow it off and just steer clear of them.
So what I'm asking is what would you do? I can't expect him to change can I? And do people really change anyway?
What would you do?
Couple of questions:
What does he do when he "goes ballistic"?
Is he like this all of the time or is it just when driving?
I doubt there is much you can do, he has to recognize it as a problem himself.
What he does is hold down the horn (not just beep) and call them names. They can't hear him, it's friggen winter time and our windows are closed, I'm the one blessed by his intense madness. He also drives very close to them then zooms by them and stares them down. I mean, come one. He's 58 years old!!
Only when he's driving but he does complain often about other things.... that'll be another topic0 -
I would say to really emphasize that it bothers you when he does it.
Make it clear how much anxiety it gives you.
Make him feel like a tard for a second.
But this takes a certain amount of "influence" and if you're not a natural sales person you might not be able to sell him on it.
I would just freak out like 'WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU! YOU DRIVE ME OUT OF MY WITS WHEN YOU GET CRAZY LIKE THAT! IM TRYING TO RELAX AND YOURE DRIVING ME NUTS! DO YOU NOT COMPREHEND THAT ACTING LIKE A LUNATIC IS NOT GONNA FIX OTHERS DRIVING?? CAN YOU REALLY NOT COMPREHEND THAT? ALL YOU DO IS GET ME ALL WORKED UP AND UNCOMFORTABLE I CANT HANDLE IT WHEN YOU DO THAT!!!"
And hopefully he will make an effort to temper himself at least around you.
Other than use of the word "tard" (which is extremely disrespectful and ignorant) I think we just got a normal response out of Nutellabrah?? Apocolypse or??? :huh:0 -
Assuming it's as serious as you say it is, I'm just wondering why you would continue to date someone who behaves like this. Is this not a red flag for you?0
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Wait till he goes ballistic on the wrong person and someone kicks his *kitten*. No more road raging I would suspect.
I know. Hopefully I am not in the car.0 -
Here locally a guy flipped a woman off before cutting her off and slamming on his breaks...ish got real at the stop light when she walked up to the car and SHOT HIM....true story!0
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