Would you date someone overweight?
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No, I wouldn't.
Never really been an issue. All the guys I've dated were at a healthy weight. Can't date now since my husband would probably divorce me for it. :laugh:0 -
I'm a big girl. My partners have always been thin though. My SO now is thin and very active. It's just what I have been attracted to.0
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I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.
Fit people are all meanies who treat their SOs poorly?
That is not what I wrote at all.
Don't take the bait. He knows that's not what you said. Guy likes trying to stir up trouble.
Put him on ignore.
Please do. :flowerforyou:0 -
No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Oh yeah!?!? You closeminded ***hole!!! That's not what you were saying last night!!!! I was good enough for a one night stand I guess, but not to date, huh?
Yeah...go ahead, delete my ****ing number.
Don't hate the playa, hate the game...
You INFURIATE me!!!!! :explode:
Stop calling me!!
That was ma nu girl telling you straight up to leave us the h*** alone
Oh hell no!!! You probably at Red Lobster with her right now!!!
I'm fixin to tear UP your pick up truck!0 -
I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.
Fit people are all meanies who treat their SOs poorly?
That is not what I wrote at all.
Don't take the bait. He knows that's not what you said. Guy likes trying to stir up trouble.
And some like white knighting before there is even trouble.
It was bad logic. But meh
nice try to stir $**t up, dude.
busted.
What's your damage? It was a joke. So very clearly a joke that it could only be made clearer if he'd put a little
in it.
The only pot stirrers I see here are you and the other guy who jumped on a clear JOKE and tried to make trouble.
Get over yourself.
MFP Start Date: Feb 2014. She'll learn.
:laugh:
I'm a fast learner. So far I've learned that you're kind of stirring the pot unnecessarily. You have a beef with the guy. I get it. You'll probably hunt him down in another thread and do the same thing at some point. :yawn:
Oh, and OP, sure I'd date an overweight guy. I have. I married one. He got fit after we got married and got me interested in fitness.
Actually, no. I could not care less about that dude. I just know that he likes to stir the pot and suggested that my friend not take the bait. Never said one word to him directly, nor will I.
And with that, enjoy your thread. I'm done. :flowerforyou:
It's okay, I know, logic isn't strong with you. Neither is mild humor. But don't cry.0 -
I've dated all shapes and sizes. I've been with people who gained or lost significant amounts of weight while I was with them. It doesn't matter. Body shape is, in no rational way, indicative of how someone is as a lover. I dare say the greatest lover I've known would be classified as morbidly obese. Likewise, one of the worst I've ever known had a body that most women on here would kill to attain. It simply doesn't matter.0
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No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Oh yeah!?!? You closeminded ***hole!!! That's not what you were saying last night!!!! I was good enough for a one night stand I guess, but not to date, huh?
Yeah...go ahead, delete my ****ing number.
Don't hate the playa, hate the game...
You INFURIATE me!!!!! :explode:
Stop calling me!!
That was ma nu girl telling you straight up to leave us the h*** alone
Oh hell no!!! You probably at Red Lobster with her right now!!!
I'm fixin to tear UP your pick up truck!
Baby girl, come over tomorrow afternoon and we can patch things up. Then go to Red Lobster on Tuesday0 -
I would date someone slightly chubby, but probably not bigger than that. Honestly, part of the reason I'm losing weight is so I'll be more desirable to people either fit or at a normal weight.0
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I'm hearing that song "fat bottomed girls" by Queen play in my head0
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Yep! ...and I plan on marrying one! He has lost 30lbs in the last while and hoping to lose more. However, he was big when I met him and I was attracted right away. I will love him whatever he weighs and actually prefer he maybe keeps a wee bit of chunk.0
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No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Oh yeah!?!? You closeminded ***hole!!! That's not what you were saying last night!!!! I was good enough for a one night stand I guess, but not to date, huh?
Yeah...go ahead, delete my ****ing number.
Don't hate the playa, hate the game...
You INFURIATE me!!!!! :explode:
Stop calling me!!
That was ma nu girl telling you straight up to leave us the h*** alone
Oh hell no!!! You probably at Red Lobster with her right now!!!
I'm fixin to tear UP your pick up truck!
Baby girl, come over tomorrow afternoon and we can patch things up. Then go to Red Lobster on Tuesday
Ok baby, I can't wait to see you.
You gonna be with the new girl on Monday? Why we got to wait til Tuesday?0 -
I only care about what is on the inside.0
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No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Oh yeah!?!? You closeminded ***hole!!! That's not what you were saying last night!!!! I was good enough for a one night stand I guess, but not to date, huh?
Yeah...go ahead, delete my ****ing number.
Don't hate the playa, hate the game...
You INFURIATE me!!!!! :explode:
Stop calling me!!
That was ma nu girl telling you straight up to leave us the h*** alone
Oh hell no!!! You probably at Red Lobster with her right now!!!
I'm fixin to tear UP your pick up truck!
Baby girl, come over tomorrow afternoon and we can patch things up. Then go to Red Lobster on Tuesday
Ok baby, I can't wait to see you.
You gonna be with the new girl on Monday? Why we got to wait til Tuesday?
Girl, you know I have my GED classes Monday night, stop trippin0 -
No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Aren't a good number of the users of this website overweight and 1)extremely conscious of their diet and 2)very active. I mean, there are kind of hordes of us on here who have lots of pounds to lose that you exchange advice and information with here every day! Doesn't that count as having something in common?0 -
No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Aren't a good number of the users of this website overweight and 1)extremely conscious of their diet and 2)very active. I mean, there are kind of hordes of us on here who have lots of pounds to lose that you exchange advice and information with here every day! Doesn't that count as having something in common?
Why is he being questioned by so many?
A question was asked, he answered it honestly based on his preferences. Why pile on him? It's his personal preference.0 -
No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
LMAO. I know few overweight folks run faster than me and have completed multiple Boston Marathons and live extremely active lifestyle..0 -
No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Aren't a good number of the users of this website overweight and 1)extremely conscious of their diet and 2)very active. I mean, there are kind of hordes of us on here who have lots of pounds to lose that you exchange advice and information with here every day! Doesn't that count as having something in common?
Why is he being questioned by so many?
A question was asked, he answered it honestly based on his preferences. Why pile on him? It's his personal preference.
He's entitled to his opinion. I wouldn't have had any reaction at all if he'd just said "no, I don't find them attractive." Instead, he made a ridiculous assumption about activity levels and commonality. So I'm mostly pointing out that he's hiding his real answer behind something that he thought would sound inoffensive.0 -
It means I don't think any less of someone who is overweight as a person. It's like how a lot of women aren't attracted to men who are shorter than them. I almost didn't reply here since I figured someone would find a way to twist what I said.
I was pointing out that relationship preferences are always about judgement. That's what they are; judging another person as to whether you find them attractive/compatible. I don't have a problem with that and wasn't twisting what you meant (or at least I don't think I was) - my intention was to highlight that "I have X preference" and "it's not a judgement" are incompatible statements. And regarding your response, I think it actually does mean you think less of people with that characteristic since you have decided they aren't worthy of dating (in other words you rank them lower than people you would consider dating). Don't get me wrong, I have certain characteristics that I find more or less attractive, but ruling out an entire group of people based on a given characteristic is a judgement, and it certainly involves thinking less of people with that characteristic. I'm not saying you have to be attracted to overweight people, I'm just saying don't pretend you aren't judging them because you are.0 -
sure i would not the mega big though0
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yes , I have and would again
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I would never date anyone who is overweight!!!!
Then again, I'd never date someone who is a healthy weight or too skinny.
The reason is simple. If I dated anyone, my wife would probably find out. And then there would be hell to pay. Her temper is bad enough now. If I added in a bit of infidelity, I would have to:
1) Always be ready to dodge flying plates and silverware
2) Learn to sleep with one eye open
3) Somehow hide all the knives in the house
4) Hire a professional food taster so I wouldn't come down with a mysterious case of arsenic poisoning.0 -
I am more attracted to the personality than their appearance. I would date an overweight girl, if she had the right attitude to life.0
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No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Aren't a good number of the users of this website overweight and 1)extremely conscious of their diet and 2)very active. I mean, there are kind of hordes of us on here who have lots of pounds to lose that you exchange advice and information with here every day! Doesn't that count as having something in common?
Why is he being questioned by so many?
A question was asked, he answered it honestly based on his preferences. Why pile on him? It's his personal preference.
Because he is pretty much saying he wouldn't have anything in common with an overweight woman because she is lazy and inactive (based on her weight).0 -
I'm married now but yes I have dated some overweight and underweight and healthy weight. Why? I guess it is more about personality than physical features.0
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Yes.
Would also date someone underweight.
But not looking.0 -
I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.
Fit people are all meanies who treat their SOs poorly?
That is not what I wrote at all.
Don't take the bait. He knows that's not what you said. Guy likes trying to stir up trouble.
And some like white knighting before there is even trouble.
It was bad logic. But meh
Maybe you misunderstood her. I'm pretty sure she was just saying it's more important that someone treats her properly than that they be physically fit.
Which is exactly my position on the subject. My husband is probably overweight technically, but he treats me like a queen. I wouldn't trade him for anybody else!
It's what is known as a false dilemma. Logic. It's what's for Forum.0 -
No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Aren't a good number of the users of this website overweight and 1)extremely conscious of their diet and 2)very active. I mean, there are kind of hordes of us on here who have lots of pounds to lose that you exchange advice and information with here every day! Doesn't that count as having something in common?
Why is he being questioned by so many?
A question was asked, he answered it honestly based on his preferences. Why pile on him? It's his personal preference.
Because he is pretty much saying he wouldn't have anything in common with an overweight woman because she is lazy and inactive (based on her weight).
I think you're reading way too much into his one sentence response.0 -
No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common
Aren't a good number of the users of this website overweight and 1)extremely conscious of their diet and 2)very active. I mean, there are kind of hordes of us on here who have lots of pounds to lose that you exchange advice and information with here every day! Doesn't that count as having something in common?
Why is he being questioned by so many?
A question was asked, he answered it honestly based on his preferences. Why pile on him? It's his personal preference.
Because he is pretty much saying he wouldn't have anything in common with an overweight woman because she is lazy and inactive (based on her weight).
I think you're reading way too much into his one sentence response.
That never happens0 -
It means I don't think any less of someone who is overweight as a person. It's like how a lot of women aren't attracted to men who are shorter than them. I almost didn't reply here since I figured someone would find a way to twist what I said.
I was pointing out that relationship preferences are always about judgement. That's what they are; judging another person as to whether you find them attractive/compatible. I don't have a problem with that and wasn't twisting what you meant (or at least I don't think I was) - my intention was to highlight that "I have X preference" and "it's not a judgement" are incompatible statements. And regarding your response, I think it actually does mean you think less of people with that characteristic since you have decided they aren't worthy of dating (in other words you rank them lower than people you would consider dating). Don't get me wrong, I have certain characteristics that I find more or less attractive, but ruling out an entire group of people based on a given characteristic is a judgement, and it certainly involves thinking less of people with that characteristic. I'm not saying you have to be attracted to overweight people, I'm just saying don't pretend you aren't judging them because you are.
I don't like how it looks/feels. It is not because of a PRE-JUDGEMENT about personally, lifestyle, or anything else. Hope that clarifies....... If not, I'm thinking you just want something to argue about.0 -
I'm hearing that song "fat bottomed girls" by Queen play in my head
me too!0
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