Those Annoying Little Comments

Okay, people are just rude, but I still try to find something to love/appreciate about them, which at times can seem impossible. I'm sorry that people are saying those things to both of you! At least we know better - just ignore them and keep doing our own thing.

Here's what I hear when I talk about having to do the modifications during T25 workouts because of my bad wrist that I've had multiple surgeries on: "Well, you're not really doing the workout if you're modifying, so what's the point?"

And after I recently posted a progress picture of myself on FB, one of my friends saw me in person the next day and said: "You look great, but you can totally tell you're sucking in your stomach in the picture." Um, no I wasn't. I'm just bloated right now, thank you very much.

Today my mom and my sister were "trying to build my confidence" by talking about how great im doing.... umm ladies, its been a week, and your talking about me like I'm not there. Its not at all a confidence builder.

Well actually two things are annoying. One is when despite having lost 118 pounds no one comments at all and the second is when someone notices you've lost weight and asks how much you weigh currently. After giving a truthful answer then the comment is, " Oh, well I weigh 125 and I'm the same height, so let's see, you still need to lose what...100 pounds?" This has happened to me or a similar conversation twice now. I'd be in heaven if I ever make it to 175!

I get annoyed by my friends who make comments about me not being able to go out last minute if I didn't workout that morning and I want to work out at night. Or when I'm training for a marathon so I can't go drink 1,000,000,000 margaritas on Friday night. Always hearing sarcastic comments about my workout schedule.

I've been vegetarian for most of my life but whenever I am with others I try my best not to be a burden. I will eat a roll of bread and nothing else happily if need be.

Anyway, I often end up in the uncomfortable situation where there is literally nothing available that doesn't contain meat and they tell me to just pick out the meat. can't do that...i would literally get sick everywhere just thinking about it.

Idk, I try as hard as possible not to burden anyone but inevitably it leads to a big to do regardless.

Now that people are noticing I am losing weight I keep getting "helpful tips" which obviously I don't need since what I am already doing is working amazingly.

"You're cold all the time because you're skinny," is the one I hear constantly from my boyfriend, roommates, coworkers...dude. I was cold all the time when I was 25 lbs heavier. I'm just cold. Sorry seeing me all bundled up makes you feel like you need to comment constantly.

It's such a stupid thing but it's like every day from someone. I'm just a cold person! I have bad circulation!

When people offer me meat, or processed food, and look shocked when i don't want it, when they KNEW i don't eat that anymore. "Oh, are you STILL on a DIET!?!?!?" - I'm not on a diet, that's the way i eat!

Or when some bro guy says something like, "Oh, you don't have huge muscles, even though you don't lift? Your diet must be lacking nutrients..." As if eating alone will build huge muscles.

No one annoys me twice. I'm usually a nice guy but my tongue is pretty acidic when talked to rudely. I had a boss once who said I was "indelicate" because of the way I talk to jerks. I guess that's why I'm self-employed now. :ohwell:

It's really discouraging to me when someone looks at me incredulously and says something along the lines of "you're losing weight"

Yeahhhhh.....I know I have a lot to lose and you might not notice it, but you know what?? I am not trying, I am succeeding!!! Lay off.

"Lose weight or you're fired. No one will tell you this but no one trusts fat people"

1) "Hey, there, Skinny Minnie!" a) My name is not Minnie b) skinny is not a complement. Fit, thinner, healthy/healthier - those are complements. Skinny says you are jealous

2) Don't ask me what I'm doing and then get huffy when I tell you all I've done is eat less than I want most of the time. I can't make you want to to weigh less/be fitter more than you want to eat ALL the food. I can and have made myself eat up to a certain number of calories and stop because I don't want knee replacements. That number of calories is more satisfying eating nutrient dense foods than birthday cake, but that doesn't mean I gave up birthday cake.

Those people need to

I've made friends here because I can't talk about it on FB without some dufus saying 'I don't think you need to lose weight, you looked fine the other day...' Yes, because the other day I'd already been doing my workout routine for a month, silly! You also haven't seen me without my clothes on - you don't know what I'm hiding and what's wrong with wanting to be fit? Another translated my goals (decrease body fat percentage, lift heavy things) as the beginnings of anorexia and I had a hard time trying to convince him that I wasn't aiming for a 'skinny fat' look...

There's one person out of all my friends who remotely understands, and that's because he's recomped his body. Totally inspiring work. Slightly dreading a night out with two friends who've never broken a sweat in their lives because I just know they'll try and pressure me to drink loads. My own mother seems to be developing a strange affliction where she expresses concern that I'll start looking like Arnie, I explain why I can't become Mrs Hulk without chowing down on the 'roids, and then I have to explain it all again next time I see her. While eating at a deficit.

So yeah, all I'd say is don't expect anyone who's not on a similar journey to understand why you're doing what you're doing or even celebrate when you hit a target. Hooray for MFP!

When a work colleague sees me eating fruit or plain salad - "Why are you on a diet when you're already so slim?" or variations of the theme.

I'm not on a diet to lose weight, I eat healthy because I like to eat healthy and I want to nourish my body and live a long healthy life and I want to lose fat and build muscle.

And my hubby calling me "Anna" short for anorexic everytime I don't want to eat anything fattening, or saying I will look like a man if I keep going to the gym.

I'm lucky that I have great supportive friends who don't try to sabotage me or bug me to drink too much when we go out for dinner.

You're too skinny.

Hell the word skinny and I don't belong in the same sentence. I think people think it is a compliment so I never let them know it's annoying I smile and make a joke with them about it. I've had lots of good comments too and I know people generally mean well.