Those Annoying Little Comments

I get upset when people think that diet/sugar free foods are the answer to everything calorie related. I can't have any artificial sweeteners because they trigger my migraines. I can't have Stevia (or RebA) because it cramps my muscles up. Cramping is a known side effect of Stevia. They don't understand why a person might need to eat actual sugar. I work in a Grocery store and stock the nutrition bars/supplements. The rude comments people make about fat people just needing to switch to diet food really irk me. Of course, I can never say that to a customer, so I just fume.

This is what my boyfriend does. Frustrating. We have different opinions of what "healthy" is though.

I hate it when I hear "You look fine at your size"
or "then get off your *kitten* and do something"

This is a takeoff on a thread from a different board I frequent. It’s really interesting to see what people have to say. Whether you are male, female, skinny, athletic, overweight, vegan, vegetarian, on the paleo diet, no diet, whatever we all have those frustrating comments we hear over and over again while we are on our path to a healthier life.... So I ask you… what annoying comments do you always seem to hear?

Note: This thread is NOT meant to be an attack thread. PURELY a venting/relating thread, since we’ve all been there. We can’t change the world, we can only change ourselves

Here are a couple of mine:

-“You’re skinny enough already!” Uhm, thanks… I wasn’t trying to get skinny. I was trying to get fit.


-“I didn’t invite you out to ____ restaurant because I know you’ve been trying to eat better.” Gee, thanks for excluding me. I am totally able to control myself when at a restaurant.

Whenever I read a thread like yours I wonder where on this planet people live. I have lived in 16 different countries over the last 39 years and no one has ever made a rude, unkind , insulting, uneducated or plain stupid comment in regard to my weight ( anywhere from 105 t0 188 pounds...and 105 is my normal weight at 4' 11.5" ), my health ( unless it was empathy ) or fitness. I really don't understand that there are so many posts about the subject, because the people I know ( and I know quite a few ) would never make any kind of comment.....

Everyone and their brother knows I've gone mostly plant-based and that I've had VSG. I'm 8 weeks post-op and I'm doing really well. I pretty much eat all the healthy stuff I was eating before surgery, just a lot less of it.

Even before surgery I would get the old, "What can you eat?" or "Should I cook something special for you?" or my favorite one "You're so picky!" and of course "Why do you eat vegetarian? Is it an ethical thing?"

While I appreciate that people ask me what I can eat (and I'm happy to tell people) it gets old.

I appreciate that people try to include my dietary needs when inviting us to their home for dinner or out to dinner. However, I know what I can and cannot, will or will not eat. Make whatever your making and I'll eat what I can. If there's an issue I always have a protein bar in my purse. I'm fine! Don't freak out!

I am NOT picky! I didn't get fat by being picky. I am, however, careful about what I eat and that's for a variety of reasons. I'm not going to push my reasons for not eating X, Y or Z on anyone. In all honesty, if I don't eat something because of ethical reasons you probably REALLY don't want to know. And if I just say, yes it's for ethical reasons you're going to feel obligated to ask what they are. And if I don't tell you more you're going to feel insulted. And if do tell you you're going to think I'm a fanatic. Most of the time there is a more important health reason I don't (or can't) eat X, Y or Z rather than an ethical reason.

If someone is truly interested I am happy to have a conversation with them. But I don't want people to feel obligated in anyway to cook anything special or be subjected to why I don't (or can't) eat certain things.

WOW! That felt GOOD!!!!

1. The Staff Sergeant at my station who whines about my BMI measurements and tells me to do really stupid things to drop weight even though I'm doing just fine. He can't do the BMI taping right, constantly adding more inches on, despite everyone else in the station measuring me 3-4 inches below his measurements- including the company's First Sergeant. Mind you, he's about as round as a pole and has never required a BMI taping himself; I'm sure he's measuring me that way to be a **** head.

2. My annoying mother-in-law saying I'm too skinny and I now look sick. I'm pretty sure the only reason she says that is because she's jealous of who I've become; one less thing about me for her to ***** about.

Im so sick of it also, gawd shut up already, the comments are BS and meant to annoy us, bringing our energy field down makes them feel empowered.

I laugh now and irritates the crap out of them.

My mom is always the one who gets me...

"I'm so glad you're losing that weight. Your arms were getting so big. Like my sister Carol. Bless her heart."

"You had gotten so big. Even ****ie at church was saying how big you'd gotten."

"Is that a Large? Hm. Those must run small."

"You're bigger than her." (pointing to random lady in TJMaxx)

This sounds like my mom. Then she continues to offer me food all the time. And gets mad at me when I finally blow up!

I don't get many comments for a few reasons:
1. I live 3,000 miles away from any family members
2. I don't have facebook
3. I no longer have a job.

When I was working, I had a very skinny coworker tell me that if I started eating 0% fat Fage greek yogurt instead of the 2% fat I ate daily, that I'd drop weight IMMEDIATELY.

WTF.

The only person in my life that knows about my calorie counting and MFP is my boyfriend, and he is 100% supportive in every way. I'd be biting people's heads off left and right if I had comments from close friends and family on a consistent basis. I'm a nice person, but my eyes turn to daggers in a fraction of a second when provoked.

I don't get negative comments but from the neighbors I get almost every single day.. wow how much you lost now? or man you look good or high fiving me as I walk by them... don't get me wrong, its nice that people notice but like I said its on a daily basis. Sort of gets annoying but I dotn let that show. my neighbors have been my biggest cheerleaders since day one and I started walking and swimming in the pool at 234lbs. it is what it is, I guese

"Muscle weighs more than fat."

YES, AND DOES NOT APPEAR OVER NIGHT 10 LB AT A TIME.

"Calories in Vs Calories out"

EXCEPT THAT I'VE EATEN BELOW TDEE FOR WEEKS WITH NO SCALE MOVEMENT

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