Those Annoying Little Comments

I get upset when people think that diet/sugar free foods are the answer to everything calorie related. I can't have any artificial sweeteners because they trigger my migraines. I can't have Stevia (or RebA) because it cramps my muscles up. Cramping is a known side effect of Stevia. They don't understand why a person might need to eat actual sugar. I work in a Grocery store and stock the nutrition bars/supplements. The rude comments people make about fat people just needing to switch to diet food really irk me. Of course, I can never say that to a customer, so I just fume.

This is what my boyfriend does. Frustrating. We have different opinions of what "healthy" is though.

I hate it when I hear "You look fine at your size"
or "then get off your *kitten* and do something"

This is a takeoff on a thread from a different board I frequent. It’s really interesting to see what people have to say. Whether you are male, female, skinny, athletic, overweight, vegan, vegetarian, on the paleo diet, no diet, whatever we all have those frustrating comments we hear over and over again while we are on our path to a healthier life.... So I ask you… what annoying comments do you always seem to hear?

Note: This thread is NOT meant to be an attack thread. PURELY a venting/relating thread, since we’ve all been there. We can’t change the world, we can only change ourselves

Here are a couple of mine:

-“You’re skinny enough already!” Uhm, thanks… I wasn’t trying to get skinny. I was trying to get fit.


-“I didn’t invite you out to ____ restaurant because I know you’ve been trying to eat better.” Gee, thanks for excluding me. I am totally able to control myself when at a restaurant.

Whenever I read a thread like yours I wonder where on this planet people live. I have lived in 16 different countries over the last 39 years and no one has ever made a rude, unkind , insulting, uneducated or plain stupid comment in regard to my weight ( anywhere from 105 t0 188 pounds...and 105 is my normal weight at 4' 11.5" ), my health ( unless it was empathy ) or fitness. I really don't understand that there are so many posts about the subject, because the people I know ( and I know quite a few ) would never make any kind of comment.....

Everyone and their brother knows I've gone mostly plant-based and that I've had VSG. I'm 8 weeks post-op and I'm doing really well. I pretty much eat all the healthy stuff I was eating before surgery, just a lot less of it.

Even before surgery I would get the old, "What can you eat?" or "Should I cook something special for you?" or my favorite one "You're so picky!" and of course "Why do you eat vegetarian? Is it an ethical thing?"

While I appreciate that people ask me what I can eat (and I'm happy to tell people) it gets old.

I appreciate that people try to include my dietary needs when inviting us to their home for dinner or out to dinner. However, I know what I can and cannot, will or will not eat. Make whatever your making and I'll eat what I can. If there's an issue I always have a protein bar in my purse. I'm fine! Don't freak out!

I am NOT picky! I didn't get fat by being picky. I am, however, careful about what I eat and that's for a variety of reasons. I'm not going to push my reasons for not eating X, Y or Z on anyone. In all honesty, if I don't eat something because of ethical reasons you probably REALLY don't want to know. And if I just say, yes it's for ethical reasons you're going to feel obligated to ask what they are. And if I don't tell you more you're going to feel insulted. And if do tell you you're going to think I'm a fanatic. Most of the time there is a more important health reason I don't (or can't) eat X, Y or Z rather than an ethical reason.

If someone is truly interested I am happy to have a conversation with them. But I don't want people to feel obligated in anyway to cook anything special or be subjected to why I don't (or can't) eat certain things.

WOW! That felt GOOD!!!!

1. The Staff Sergeant at my station who whines about my BMI measurements and tells me to do really stupid things to drop weight even though I'm doing just fine. He can't do the BMI taping right, constantly adding more inches on, despite everyone else in the station measuring me 3-4 inches below his measurements- including the company's First Sergeant. Mind you, he's about as round as a pole and has never required a BMI taping himself; I'm sure he's measuring me that way to be a **** head.

2. My annoying mother-in-law saying I'm too skinny and I now look sick. I'm pretty sure the only reason she says that is because she's jealous of who I've become; one less thing about me for her to ***** about.

Im so sick of it also, gawd shut up already, the comments are BS and meant to annoy us, bringing our energy field down makes them feel empowered.

I laugh now and irritates the crap out of them.

My mom is always the one who gets me...

"I'm so glad you're losing that weight. Your arms were getting so big. Like my sister Carol. Bless her heart."

"You had gotten so big. Even ****ie at church was saying how big you'd gotten."

"Is that a Large? Hm. Those must run small."

"You're bigger than her." (pointing to random lady in TJMaxx)

This sounds like my mom. Then she continues to offer me food all the time. And gets mad at me when I finally blow up!

I don't get many comments for a few reasons:
1. I live 3,000 miles away from any family members
2. I don't have facebook
3. I no longer have a job.

When I was working, I had a very skinny coworker tell me that if I started eating 0% fat Fage greek yogurt instead of the 2% fat I ate daily, that I'd drop weight IMMEDIATELY.

WTF.

The only person in my life that knows about my calorie counting and MFP is my boyfriend, and he is 100% supportive in every way. I'd be biting people's heads off left and right if I had comments from close friends and family on a consistent basis. I'm a nice person, but my eyes turn to daggers in a fraction of a second when provoked.

I don't get negative comments but from the neighbors I get almost every single day.. wow how much you lost now? or man you look good or high fiving me as I walk by them... don't get me wrong, its nice that people notice but like I said its on a daily basis. Sort of gets annoying but I dotn let that show. my neighbors have been my biggest cheerleaders since day one and I started walking and swimming in the pool at 234lbs. it is what it is, I guese

"Muscle weighs more than fat."

YES, AND DOES NOT APPEAR OVER NIGHT 10 LB AT A TIME.

"Calories in Vs Calories out"

EXCEPT THAT I'VE EATEN BELOW TDEE FOR WEEKS WITH NO SCALE MOVEMENT

+1

I really don't know why it bothers me.. but I HATE IT when people told me "i can see you're losing weight! you can really tell in your face!" and that was when I hadn't even lost 5 lbs yet. They just knew I was working out because I posted it on FB. I know they're trying to be nice, but it erks me so hardcore.

I don't get negative comments but from the neighbors I get almost every single day.. wow how much you lost now? or man you look good or high fiving me as I walk by them... don't get me wrong, its nice that people notice but like I said its on a daily basis. Sort of gets annoying but I dotn let that show. my neighbors have been my biggest cheerleaders since day one and I started walking and swimming in the pool at 234lbs. it is what it is, I guese

I got this like weekly from my neighbor last summer when I first started MFP, and now she never says anything - since maybe like November - and I know it's SO silly but in the back of my head I'm thinking, "Does she think I regained?" which is ridiculous I know!! hehe Maybe eventually they will chill out.

I am honestly NOT complaining about this - but when I was at my heaviest I worked for a large nonprofit and they would always take dozens of photos of me (and all staff) every week, and those cringe-inducing photos were probably my biggest reason for starting to lose weight way back in '08. I worked SO HARD to lose about 40 lb while I was still working there but no one noticed or commented. Not a big deal...but now that I have lost an additional 70+ lb I keep running into these people I worked with there, and their reactions are SO extreme and sometimes a little embarrassing...I'm happy when they say "Hey you look great!" or something, but I have had some of these former coworkers SCREAM "Oh my god!" about it in the middle of a store. I do look slimmer. But seriously folks I don't look THAT different....wow. It kind of makes me feel like I previously resembled a 50 ton sea monster.

I'm sorry you all are having these problems. People really need to keep their thoughts to themselves. My dad used to make comments about me gaining weight or my butt getting big. He even said it to a friend of mine (who is skinny fat and scary weak) right in front of me. She didn't stick up for me or anything. She just told him me and her would go out and walk together even though she never even leaves her room. I was probably healthier than her even with an extra forty pounds.

Last time my dad made the fat comment I just looked him in the eyes and said "You're an @$$hole!" and walked away. He never did it again.

You look the same! Grrrrrr

I've had 3 people try to convince me to start taking diet pills or some magical potion drink when they found out I was working on losing weight. I've lost 17lbs in the last month and a half by simply eating better and working out 5-6 days a week. Why would I want to put some magical pills in my body if I can do it by myself? Plus, I'm losing weight at a pretty fast pace already so I feel like if I add diet pills I will lose it way too fast and end up with lots of extra skin.