Those Annoying Little Comments

Just looking at this thread, see an over abundance of women. Seems to me women get pretty riled up and annoyed too easily. Quit worrying about what other people say and do things for yourself. Be yourself! All the other things will follow.

Or maybe more people feel more entitled to comment on a woman's body than a man's.

Maybe they've heard this all so many times that they just need to vent without getting further backlash.

Maybe we'd like to display some negativity once in a while without being accused of hysteria.


My father deemed it appropriate to comment on the size of my stomach (it was too big, according to him and his beer belly) while ordering at a restaurant when I was TWELVE. "You've got a bit of stomach there, haven't you? You've got to watch your weight!" (He was later diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes because he is overweight)

People comment on my size all of the time. The first time I met someone, she said "Oh my god, you're so skinny!". Not even a "hi" or "hello".

Start eating protein bars? Quinoa? Avoiding excessive sweets? "You're one of the THOSE people."

So yeah, I'm pretty tired of the comments.

Just looking at this thread, see an over abundance of women. Seems to me women get pretty riled up and annoyed too easily. Quit worrying about what other people say and do things for yourself. Be yourself! All the other things will follow.

Or maybe more people feel more entitled to comment on a woman's body than a man's.

Maybe they've heard this all so many times that they just need to vent without getting further backlash.

Maybe we'd like to display some negativity once in a while without being accused of hysteria.


My father deemed it appropriate to comment on the size of my stomach (it was too big, according to him and his beer belly) while ordering at a restaurant when I was TWELVE. "You've got a bit of stomach there, haven't you? You've got to watch your weight!" (He was later diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes because he is overweight)

People comment on my size all of the time. The first time I met someone, she said "Oh my god, you're so skinny!". Not even a "hi" or "hello".

Start eating protein bars? Quinoa? Avoiding excessive sweets? "You're one of the THOSE people."

So yeah, I'm pretty tired of the comments.

I think men hear just as many comments. The difference is I think women put the pressure on other women. Men say things and we just say things back and that is the end of it.

Now comments from your parents is another story completely. Though maybe your dad didnt know how to communicate with you, but wanted to save you from the same fate he had with his big beer belly.

People tell me that I am 'addicted to exercise' because I work out several days a week, every week and work really hard which is apparently abnormal and therefore I must have a problem,

I personally HATE when someone tells me that i'm overdoing fitness and that everything should be done in moderation while they are shoving a 1.5k cal super-size pizza down their throat. Yea... cause I'M the one who's overdoing it really... And the best part is, when the summer comes and me and my friends go rollerskating (without shirts obviously... its 30 degrees celsius and we want to get a tan) and they look(or even say out loud) at you like its unfair that they look like crap while there's visible muscles on you they didn't even know exist. And, again... simultaneously stuffing themselves with ice cream...

Just looking at this thread, see an over abundance of women. Seems to me women get pretty riled up and annoyed too easily. Quit worrying about what other people say and do things for yourself. Be yourself! All the other things will follow.

Or maybe more people feel more entitled to comment on a woman's body than a man's.

Maybe they've heard this all so many times that they just need to vent without getting further backlash.

Maybe we'd like to display some negativity once in a while without being accused of hysteria.


My father deemed it appropriate to comment on the size of my stomach (it was too big, according to him and his beer belly) while ordering at a restaurant when I was TWELVE. "You've got a bit of stomach there, haven't you? You've got to watch your weight!" (He was later diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes because he is overweight)

People comment on my size all of the time. The first time I met someone, she said "Oh my god, you're so skinny!". Not even a "hi" or "hello".

Start eating protein bars? Quinoa? Avoiding excessive sweets? "You're one of the THOSE people."

So yeah, I'm pretty tired of the comments.

I think men hear just as many comments. The difference is I think women put the pressure on other women. Men say things and we just say things back and that is the end of it.

Now comments from your parents is another story completely. Though maybe your dad didnt know how to communicate with you, but wanted to save you from the same fate he had with his big beer belly.

I think we see more fat men that are successful than fat women. Fat men can be in the media, but fat women can't. And when they are, people comment on it (see that youtube video of an anchorwoman responding to a rude email about her weight). Even aging is an area where women are discriminated against. Men can age--women can't. (See leading men and their ages, vs. leading women)

Now, obviously you don't know the whole story or why it was particularly hurtful, so I aim for concision:

My sister was, at this time, battling undiagnosed anorexia. My parents didn't know, but I was a nosy brat and found her blog that had her counting calories to 500 or less a day. So, he brings up my "fatness" (by the age of 18, I had never been above 135 lbs at 5'7") while we're out dining and comments in front of EVERYONE. It was utterly humiliating and brought me to the edge of the precipice. I could make a choice: I could try doing what my older sister was, or I could just let it go. I wasn't--by any means or stretch of the imagination--a fat kid.

I've tried letting it go 100%, but every so often, that sort of creeps into my head and I have to question: am I getting that stomach? So yeah, those comments get to me. So then, rather than "saving me from his fate", he made me a very insecure, quiet, teenager who became an adult who still struggles with weight and body image.

You don't say that stuff to a kid. You just don't.

Just looking at this thread, see an over abundance of women. Seems to me women get pretty riled up and annoyed too easily. Quit worrying about what other people say and do things for yourself. Be yourself! All the other things will follow.

Perhaps it is because MFP is 90/10 F/M?

If you made a similar post on BB.com, would you try to find significance in the gender of those responding?

Just looking at this thread, see an over abundance of women. Seems to me women get pretty riled up and annoyed too easily. Quit worrying about what other people say and do things for yourself. Be yourself! All the other things will follow.

Or maybe more people feel more entitled to comment on a woman's body than a man's.

Maybe they've heard this all so many times that they just need to vent without getting further backlash.

Maybe we'd like to display some negativity once in a while without being accused of hysteria.


My father deemed it appropriate to comment on the size of my stomach (it was too big, according to him and his beer belly) while ordering at a restaurant when I was TWELVE. "You've got a bit of stomach there, haven't you? You've got to watch your weight!" (He was later diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes because he is overweight)

People comment on my size all of the time. The first time I met someone, she said "Oh my god, you're so skinny!". Not even a "hi" or "hello".

Start eating protein bars? Quinoa? Avoiding excessive sweets? "You're one of the THOSE people."

So yeah, I'm pretty tired of the comments.

Calm down. You sound hysterical.

This guy told me I shouldn't lift too heavy because I don't want to get bulky :noway: :grumble:

he's probably just scared I'll end up lifting more than him!

"You don't need to lose anymore weight ... You look fine."
"Lose anymore and you'll blow away (or shrivel up and die)" --- soooo dramatic & hardly the truth!
"It's because you only eat 'healthy' now" --- In regards to my wt loss --- "I could do it too if I ate like you." Uhm, ok?
"Oh, we can't go to that restaurant because they don't have healthy foods you'll eat" --- there are always options.
Checking out at the store "geez! That's A LOT of fruit and veggies!" --- I don't comment on your chips, candy and soda do I?

Sometimes it's just sheer annoyance that leaves you going whhhhhhy? Hahaha

Just looking at this thread, see an over abundance of women. Seems to me women get pretty riled up and annoyed too easily. Quit worrying about what other people say and do things for yourself. Be yourself! All the other things will follow.

Or maybe more people feel more entitled to comment on a woman's body than a man's.

Maybe they've heard this all so many times that they just need to vent without getting further backlash.

Maybe we'd like to display some negativity once in a while without being accused of hysteria.


My father deemed it appropriate to comment on the size of my stomach (it was too big, according to him and his beer belly) while ordering at a restaurant when I was TWELVE. "You've got a bit of stomach there, haven't you? You've got to watch your weight!" (He was later diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes because he is overweight)

People comment on my size all of the time. The first time I met someone, she said "Oh my god, you're so skinny!". Not even a "hi" or "hello".

Start eating protein bars? Quinoa? Avoiding excessive sweets? "You're one of the THOSE people."

So yeah, I'm pretty tired of the comments.

Calm down. You sound hysterical.

You're quite the comedian!

I personally HATE when someone tells me that i'm overdoing fitness and that everything should be done in moderation while they are shoving a 1.5k cal super-size pizza down their throat. Yea... cause I'M the one who's overdoing it really... And the best part is, when the summer comes and me and my friends go rollerskating (without shirts obviously... its 30 degrees celsius and we want to get a tan) and they look(or even say out loud) at you like its unfair that they look like crap while there's visible muscles on you they didn't even know exist. And, again... simultaneously stuffing themselves with ice cream...

ive actually come to think that most people who have never been as fit as you genuinely dont know what it takes and just how much work and discipline it requires. maybe they think you have good genes and have it easy.

I hate the pressure I feel from others that are on diets.

I'm not trying to lose 30 pounds in the next 6 months. I'd be fine with 10-15 in 6 months, as long as it is lost in a steady and healthy way. I don't hate my body, I'm just not completely comfortable with it.

When I say I want to lose weight and then I eat pasta for dinner that week, I always get "should u be eating that? I thought u were trying to lose weight. You'll never hit your goal like that. Will that blow your calories for the day? How long did you work out before that?"

Get off of me! I'm not in a hurry, I'm not huge, I'm just trying to make better choices and exercise more so I can be healthy.

"are you addicted to exercise?'' (intervention ready)

my aunt, to her still obese niece. lol

hilarious.

my number one pet peeve is when SKINNY GIRLS complain about being "FAT." I know that no one is ever 100% happy with their bodies. but i hate it when i'm sitting there, the heaviest one in the room, and the girls i work with are all talking about going shopping for bathing suits and complaining about how their bikinis don't fit just right. When I've only worn a bikini once in my life and probably never will again. Or when they pull at their microscopic tummy 'roll' and complain about how its getting to look like a 'baby bump.' Those girls have never known the struggle of what it is to shop in only plus sized stores/sections, only be able to wear one piece swimsuits, or how it feels to be the one thats sitting there listening about how they've gained so much weight since high school when theyre still a size 2.

This x1000. It doesn't happen as much with guys but it does get a little annoying overhearing some guy at the gym talking about how he really needs to drop a few pounds to get from 12% body fat to below 10%. Fit people have no idea what actual struggle is.

What a silly statement that is. How do you know that fit person hasn't struggled with weight his whole life? Hasn't lost 100lbs to hit his current 12% body fat? Isn't struggling with grievous medical issues?

Your comment is much more annoying than someone commenting about trying to get from 12% to 10%. And for what it's worth, it is much, much more difficult to lose weight when you are already lean like that. It's very easy to lose weight when you are obese. So going from 12% to 10% IS a real struggle in itself.

If I decide to eat a salad for lunch I hear, "You need to eat some real food!" Mind you, this is coming from a client of mine who is morbidly obese and puts gravy on EVERYTHING.