Being hit on/flirted with?

I always assume people who hit on me are trying to sell me something, trying to rob me, or wants me to join their cult.

Lmao^^^^ totally!!!

In all seriousness there are appropriate ways and then there are just major pervs. :noway:

In truth, I never actually believe people hit on me in real life. I'm not that girl who thinks that every guy who talks to me thinks I'm hot. Flirting is fun, but I will say that it can be taken to an extreme on MFP. Whether you love it or hate it, you never know who is going to find what you say offensive or if someone will think it's an opening for them to do something in return. My rule for myself is that if i wouldn't do it in real life, I shouldn't do it on the internet.

I think as long as you're respectful and mindful of the other person or people, a little harmless flirting is ok. It does make people feel good about themselves and will make them smile

I usually assume people are just being nice and not flirting. The last guy that hit on me had to flat out tell me he was asking me out. I just thought he wanted advice on restaurants.

oh the get in your pants kind??? umm yeah that is extremely annoying and inappropriate. but the harmless flirtation i don't mind. lol but yeah just depends on the person i suppose.

I never flirted or hit on a women in my life and I just turned 33 last Friday.I just figure since I am fat and in my mind ugly that they would think it would be weird or creepy but I am also really shy as well so I live in my head and talk myself out of it.It takes courage to go up to a women.Women for some reason don't do it but they have the pick of the litter as we men just wait in line.

You know, I have no idea where you got that idea from. The same way as there are men with low self-esteem, there are plenty of women who think like that, too. I was always the tall or the ugly or the less petite or less outgoing/bubbly type next to my friends. Plus I am blessed with a so-called resting b1tchface; people sometimes ask me why I'm mad and then I was simply pondering something in peace and quiet. That in combination with my extremely guarded, sensitive and serious personality doesn't lend itself well to being hit on in bars.

My male friends have had a good time with me on the dance floor, but very few guys have ever tried to "pick me up"; I can count them on one hand. There's a messed up marriage and a string of awkward dating in my past, but the whole theory on having men waiting in line is someone else's life, not mine. In fact, an old classmate said a few weeks ago that he finally saw a new, more open side to me, because when we grew up I was always so guarded. All of a sudden I saw my whole childhood and youth in a whole new perspective and while I had had some of those thought already beforehand, now I'm certain most of my social difficulties regarding the opposite sex simply stem from my own insecurities and distorted self-image. I've done a lot of work to become more secure and these days I view myself as someone, who has something to offer to someone special, but it's been a long road with quite a few tears.

Maybe you shouldn't overthink the "talking to women" part, but simply do what you love to do and meet people, be they women or men, through a common interest and take it from there. Everyone who is passionate about something can talk for hours on end about that topic and you just have to find someone who gets you. The eyes are the window to one's soul? Passionate people are beautiful and attractive to others, no matter what they talk about.

ETA
Re "the ulgy", that was up in my head. With my excess fat gone and a healthy, strong body created, I could go for a model in some fitness magazine. I just thought I was really ugly when I grew up. How sad is that. When I look in the mirror these days I still see "her" and I don't think much of myself, but when I force myself to be objective, the truth doesn't match at all my inner image of myself.

Never happens to me :sad:

There's a reason for that

I have No issue with flirting, it's healthy and natural. It's an ego boost without going too far. I usually don't pick up on it when a woman is flirting with me, not till way after lol

I really don't pay that much attention to it. I don't flirt back, though I'm polite.

I got hit on once and it was awesome.

Lies. I doubt it was just once.

I don't have to worry about that...

How does anyone else feel about it?
I personally hate it.

if your eating below your maintenance caleries will you still poop because your body is using all of your food to make energy?

I'm 40 years old and the only time I've ever been hit on is in the boxing ring.

Being ugly. Yay!*

*Not yay

If I had boobs more people would flirt with me.

I hate it when I'm with my children and I get hit on. It's the only time I don't welcome it. I probably shouldn't welcome it at all since I'm married lol

I've never noticed it before so I have always just assumed it never happens. Haha.

I don't notice it either, so I assume it doesn't happen for me lol