what mean/thoughtless comment has been said to you before?

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  • fatcity66
    fatcity66 Posts: 1,544 Member
    "I'll never love you deeply because you don't have nice legs". That was from a bf.

    Did he follow that with "I want you, I need you; but there ain't no way I'm ever gonna love you.
    Now don't be sad, 'cause two out of three ain't bad"???

    Now that would be ironic as, if he had, that would make him Meatloaf.... ;)

    No apparently ironic is having ten thousand spoons when all you need is a knife

    hahaha :laugh:
  • Emmajb8
    Emmajb8 Posts: 1
    Mine usually come from my 88 yr old grandma. Love her, but she doesn't have a filter anymore and I'm seriously the only grandchild that's not rail thin so that = fat. I can't really eat around her without a comment being said, lol.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    One time someone told me I was too attractive and it wasn't fair to other guys.....That really hurt my feelings.....like it's my fault. The nerve of some people.
  • kirili3
    kirili3 Posts: 244 Member
    I asked my husband if I was getting fat and he said yes.

    You asked your husband a question and he answered honestly. I've never understood why women get so mad about this.

    Honesty is never the proper answer. Women are far too hysterical to be told the truth


    Not to be crude, but what would you say if somebody's partner gave an 'honest' instead of polite/comforting answer to a question about penis size? Some things are sensitive.

    I'm trying to be polite, but the fact that you're willing to generalize against all women begs a serious question: do you ever have a terrible feeling of emptiness in your skull?
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I asked my husband if I was getting fat and he said yes.

    You asked your husband a question and he answered honestly. I've never understood why women get so mad about this.

    Honesty is never the proper answer. Women are far too hysterical to be told the truth


    Not to be crude, but what would you say if somebody's partner gave an 'honest' instead of polite/comforting answer to a question about penis size? Some things are sensitive.

    I'm trying to be polite, but the fact that you're willing to generalize against all women begs a serious question: do you ever have a terrible feeling of emptiness in your skull?

    No. I sometimes have a feeling that's kind of pity painted with a touch of amusement when I read the forums though.

    That could just be my womanly hysteria talking.
  • nyiballs
    nyiballs Posts: 147 Member
    Possible answers to: "honey, am I getting fat?"

    Not at all dear... You've always been fat
    Cankles are in this summer
    I dunno, take off the spanx
    What sweetie? I couldn't hear you through your jowels

    In all honesty, my wife asks me about her weight daily... And my truthful response is that I find her extremely attractive, and seeing her every day makes it impossible to notice any subtle changes. But if you feel like you are getting fat, let's actually track it and see.
  • PinkCupcakes84
    PinkCupcakes84 Posts: 235 Member
    In all honesty, my wife asks me about her weight daily... And my truthful response is that I find her extremely attractive, and seeing her every day makes it impossible to notice any subtle changes. But if you feel like you are getting fat, let's actually track it and see.
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    Now that's the right answer. All husbands should take note of this response ????????????
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member

    Perhaps I'm not being clear. It's not been a very good day for me at all, and I am struggling right now.

    I never meant that all women who ask how they look are automatically fishing for compliments. I just meant that asking "am I fat?" is a loaded and unfair question - if you're not willing to hear the truth.

    But apparently that was all a joke that I'm too dumb to get and though I have incredibly thick skin, sitting in the surgical waiting room and then by my mom's hospital bed all day has worn me out to the point that comments in this thread have brought me to tears, and the internet isn't worth crying over, so I'll bow out.

    Sorry to hear that,

    I'm also sorry that you are having a difficult day. ♥
  • CarolinaGirlinVA
    CarolinaGirlinVA Posts: 1,508 Member
    At my son's birthday party, my husband took a cupcake from my hand and said, "Do you really think you need that?" I've also been asked many times when my baby was due. I used to mutter I wasn't pregnant and try to make a hasty retreat, but last time I got mad and replied, "No baby, cancer took that super power away, I'm just fat." The woman was speechless.
  • thursdaystgiles
    thursdaystgiles Posts: 98 Member
    when I was 7 months pregnant we took a babymoon to Charleston. We were in a plantation house, the gift shop was in the basement, very narrow doorways. There were a couple women blocking a door and I said "excuse me." One of the woman said "well, maybe if you weren't so fat, you could fit." I was so dumbstruck I didn't even mention I was pregnant. I just couldn't believe how cruel people could be.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    when I was 7 months pregnant we took a babymoon to Charleston. We were in a plantation house, the gift shop was in the basement, very narrow doorways. There were a couple women blocking a door and I said "excuse me." One of the woman said "well, maybe if you weren't so fat, you could fit." I was so dumbstruck I didn't even mention I was pregnant. I just couldn't believe how cruel people could be.

    Wow!!! :noway:
  • Kazzam33
    Kazzam33 Posts: 210
    I try not to worry what others think of me & it works most of the time. I do get hurt when people I care about comment on my weight though. Last Xmas my uncle came to visit & when he saw me he hugged me & said 'Theres my Humpty Dumpty'. It made me feel awful. I know he didn't mean anything by it & probably considered it as an endearing term but it still broke my heart. :sad:
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    If you lost some weight, you could get the guy you want.

    Guess what? 40 pounds makes a difference. I got the guy I want! He told me the other day... I never thought you were ugly. I thought you were fat.
  • 321blueeyes
    321blueeyes Posts: 279 Member
    A coworker asked when my baby was due... I've never been pregnant :grumble: I was bordering obese at the time.

    Conversely, an friend gave me an ego boost when she called me "skinny lady" poolside at her bachelorette party (I was normal weight at the time but very self conscious to be in a bikini because I wasn't as thin as some others).

    There are all types in this world. I try to give compliments freely; it makes the world a better place.
  • thursdaystgiles
    thursdaystgiles Posts: 98 Member
    If you lost some weight, you could get the guy you want.

    Guess what? 40 pounds makes a difference. I got the guy I want! He told me the other day... I never thought you were ugly. I thought you were fat.

    Um, that wouldn't be the guy I wanted. Any guy who thought I wasn't worth the time because I was fat isn't worth *my* time.
  • marisarinde
    marisarinde Posts: 54
    If someone truly loves you, they wouldn't want to change a thing about you. Period. When I love someone, I love them for everything they are. If they medically obese, I'll tell them that, but either way I'll still find them absolutely freakin attractive, because I love them! All I want is for the person I love to be happy and healthy. If they're not at the weight they should be, health-wise, I'll let them know if they ask, because I care about them and want them to live their longest life possible. But if they're happy the way they are, who am I to stop them?

    To everyone out there trying to lose, gain, or maintain weight, please listen to this: you should be doing this FOR YOU. Not for some girl or guy. Not for your family or friends. Not for anyone else, but you.
  • kirili3
    kirili3 Posts: 244 Member
    I asked my husband if I was getting fat and he said yes.

    You asked your husband a question and he answered honestly. I've never understood why women get so mad about this.

    Honesty is never the proper answer. Women are far too hysterical to be told the truth


    Not to be crude, but what would you say if somebody's partner gave an 'honest' instead of polite/comforting answer to a question about penis size? Some things are sensitive.

    I'm trying to be polite, but the fact that you're willing to generalize against all women begs a serious question: do you ever have a terrible feeling of emptiness in your skull?

    No. I sometimes have a feeling that's kind of pity painted with a touch of amusement when I read the forums though.

    That could just be my womanly hysteria talking.

    Ah I didn't realize you were being sarcastic about all the women. Carry on.
  • marisarinde
    marisarinde Posts: 54
    Also, relating to the actual topic: Probably the most memorable insult was being called a "Polish sausage". They very much enjoyed it and continued to call me it numerous other times. Sort of a Polish joke and a fat joke all in one.
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  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    My daughter poked me in the stomach today before our run and slowly said dooooonuuuts.
    I ran her into the ground, smiled and said weeeeeeeeaaaaaaakkkkk.

    Wait a minute, there's different rules about anything that could possibly be taken as a competitive event surely. trash talk is still allowed, right?

    Well, it was thoughtless of her to say that in that moment as she got her butt, and then some, handed to her.
    She should have known that if she was selling woof tickets, I was buying and doubling down.

    It wasn't mean. Surprisingly, trash-talk is very restricted at some school competitions. I find it interesting how the cultural acumen develops with age and my girls understand when and how it's acceptable.

    Eta: honestly, I don't remember a weight relevant mean comment - that was all that stuck at the moment of posting.
  • Fab30s
    Fab30s Posts: 157 Member
    I had finished using the gym and was getting ready to get into sauna. One woman asked, "r u a zebra to have so many stripes." She was referring to the stretch marks on my shoulders and upper back. Her friends laughed. Now I cover up all my 'stripes' at all times
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    I asked my husband if I was getting fat and he said yes.

    You asked your husband a question and he answered honestly. I've never understood why women get so mad about this.

    Honestly, I'm with this guy. The guys we are in relationships with are allowed to have feels about how we look.
  • Wonderob
    Wonderob Posts: 1,372 Member
    If you lost some weight, you could get the guy you want.

    Guess what? 40 pounds makes a difference. I got the guy I want! He told me the other day... I never thought you were ugly. I thought you were fat.

    Um, that wouldn't be the guy I wanted. Any guy who thought I wasn't worth the time because I was fat isn't worth *my* time.

    I always wonder why it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to say that she prefers tall men, but completely unacceptable for a man to say he prefers slim women???
  • psych101
    psych101 Posts: 1,842 Member
    If you lost some weight, you could get the guy you want.

    Guess what? 40 pounds makes a difference. I got the guy I want! He told me the other day... I never thought you were ugly. I thought you were fat.

    What a horrible thing to say. He sounds like a douche and I wouldn't want anything to do with someone like that.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    What a horrible thread. I prefer not to relive the ****ty things that have been said to me, or anyone else.



    I'm out
    why comment then? your opinion of my thread was a tad bit rude.keep scrolling if you dont like the thread.

    Because...if you have one foot in yesterday and one foot in tomorrow, then you are pissing all over today. Also, you can't really dictate people's responses to a thread that you made publicly in a forum. He was merely commenting on the fact that dwelling on past negativity won't really aid in your progress. I actually do understand the need to work through past issues, but this comment, in my opinion, presents a healthier perspective on things. Just something to think about. :smile:
  • msbhavesalot
    msbhavesalot Posts: 15
    "Are you pregnant?"
  • kezzola
    kezzola Posts: 65 Member
    My 90 year old mother has dementia but every time I see her she makes a comment about how fat I am. Even though I've lost 16 kilos and actually weigh less than her ......... every time I see her out come the fat remarks. I know she doesn't mean it and that her "brain filter" is gone, but it still hurts.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    "Are you pregnant?"

    My friend once innocently asked a woman when her baby was due, and she was not pregnant. Then he attempted to make a joke about having permanent "foot in mouth" syndrome, which only made things more awkward. I have found that it is best not to ask women this question unless you know for a fact that they are pregnant.
  • msbhavesalot
    msbhavesalot Posts: 15
    "Are you pregnant?"

    My friend once innocently asked a woman when her baby was due, and she was not pregnant. Then he attempted to make a joke about having permanent "foot in mouth" syndrome, which only made things more awkward. I have found that it is best not to ask women this question unless you know for a fact that they are pregnant.

    I couldn't agree more.
  • cassidyamymommy
    cassidyamymommy Posts: 71 Member
    I dont understand why people get so upset when they get called fat, when they are indeed fat. I am 5'4 and 256 pounds. I know im fat. If someone were to come up to me and say You are fat, I would look at them and say no **** captain obvious. I understand there are more hurtful ways of saying it, but if you are indeed fat, then it is what it is. that being said what go to me was my grandmother. she would always say something about my weight and me eating, which never really bothered me until i actually tried to lose weight, and then it pissed me off. she knew that i was trying. i was passed a box of chocolates and took one and was about to pass it on when she said, better take the box away from her before she eats them all. it pissed me off because she knew damn well that i had been trying to lose weight. at that point i had lost 15 pounds and was feeling good about it.

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