Boyfriend's Mom Is Unreasonable. Help?
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Where is the trip to?
Is she footing the bill?
& where are you staying?
Also, she can hardly keep you from going to a public theme park. But if you're planning on staying at her house, that's a different battle.
Maybe he just doesn't want you to go..0 -
Run. Run fast. Run far. Do not look back and be glad you got away.0
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You're adults, act accordingly.0
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If mommy is footing his bills, and mommy is providing food and shelter then like the rules or not, he needs to adhere.
Only a fool would walk away from that for a girl at 19
If he wants the full responsibility of an adult, then the option is to move out.... Not a wise move for him
If you want a boyfriend who has the same freedoms your parents give you, this guy is not him
Dry your tears and move on.... Or if this guy is that important to you and he feels the same, then WAIT. A new concept for younger people in 2014 but it is an available option. Him focusing on school and not dating right now will not hamper his decision making abilities as an adult, and is probably a GOOD thing for him..... So if you care about him, why so upset? Do you not want the best for this guy?0 -
Maybe he just doesn't want you to go..0
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He's an ADULT - tell him to M.T.F.U ... or rip his man card up0
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Sounds more like the mom doesn't want him dating you for whatever reason.0
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I've read this three times and can't see the fitness question.
What am I missing here?0 -
Google "Oedipal complex. "
@Nissi- of course I want the best for him. It's that she makes all the decisions for him when he's not at school that I disagree with.0 -
Maybe he just doesn't want you to go..
Well I would suggest talking to him.
None of us here on the internetz know your story, know your relationship, so it's always a guess.
He's probably cheating..
or he doesn't want to leave his mom
or he doesn't want you to go
or there are a hundred other reasons..
The good news is that you're 19, you're young. You've got a bunch of other boyfriends coming your way.
Good luck!0 -
I've read this three times and can't see the fitness question.
What am I missing here?
@Jigsaw- Heh I agree. But i've never met her so I dunno why.0 -
19...adults...
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What am I missing here?
A sense of humour.
It's in the Chit-chat forum - anything goes :grumble:0 -
What am I missing here?
A sense of humour.
It's in the Chit-chat forum - anything goes :grumble:0 -
Google "Oedipal complex. "
@Nissi- of course I want the best for him. It's that she makes all the decisions for him when he's not at school that I disagree with.0 -
Well I would suggest talking to him.
None of us here on the internetz know your story, know your relationship, so it's always a guess.
He's probably cheating..
or he doesn't want to leave his mom
or he doesn't want you to go
or there are a hundred other reasons..
The good news is that you're 19, you're young. You've got a bunch of other boyfriends coming your way.
Good luck!0 -
Well I would suggest talking to him.
None of us here on the internetz know your story, know your relationship, so it's always a guess.
He's probably cheating..
or he doesn't want to leave his mom
or he doesn't want you to go
or there are a hundred other reasons..
The good news is that you're 19, you're young. You've got a bunch of other boyfriends coming your way.
Good luck!
So what would you like us all to say or do?
You're not telling us the whole story, and no matter what anyone says you're trying to discredit it...0 -
Here's my honest opinion: I agree with the mom on this one. I believe that until a kid is out of the house, has graduated, found a decent job and makes enough money to take care of themselves and a potential baby (just in case) then they can't a girlfriend or boyfriend.
Right now you need to focus on your education and career. Crying over a boy at this age is not worth it because 10 years from now you might look back and wonder why you ever bothered with him. Because your taste in men would have changed / evolved. And also because right now, it's not easy to tell which boy will turn into a real man and which boy will stay a boy. And you don't wanna be stuck with the wrong one.
No worries, it's good that you came here to ask questions. And to answer your question: No I don't believe in parents who think it's their way, or the highway. Debates / conversations need to happen just like we are having here. Compromises need to be made where the parents / kids win some battles but lose others, ...?
And there's a lot of other experiences that can be encouraged such as traveling, working, starting a small business, socializing with friends, volunteering, ....
But for sexual experiences, I still think that it's best to wait until you are financially independent. And you sound like a smart kid, so it might take you only a couple years. is a couple years going to kill you ? And trust me you will still have plenty of time / opportunities to experience, make mistakes and learn from them. The difference is you will suffer a softet landing as you will have the maturity, independence, and $$$ to fix / deal with the mistakes / consequences however, whenever you want it.0 -
Maybe it's you.0
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Here's the thing: Talk to your bf and explain your feelings. Either he will make things right or he won't. I know it's disappointing, but sometimes things happen that we really hate and later they turn out to be for the best.
You're young. Go have some fun!0
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