Dating someone 22 years older?

20 dating 42: 1. Hello daddy issues. 2. Either he's reallllly immature or they have a very surface relationship. I was an extremely mature 20 year old, but I still can't see myself having had anything in common with someone age 42. The fact that you're asking the internet also speaks volumes (as in, "I want reasons why this isn't a good idea")

20 dating 42: 1. Hello daddy issues. 2. Either he's reallllly immature or they have a very surface relationship. I was an extremely mature 20 year old, but I still can't see myself having had anything in common with someone age 42. The fact that you're asking the internet also speaks volumes (as in, "I want reasons why this isn't a good idea")

Fast forward 25 years:

45 year old dating a 67 year old: He's elderly and she's still rearing to go. Resentment. Declining health. Life in your 40s is about travel, kids all out of the house, doing things you put off while you were establishing yourselves.

Also, think of children. If the 20 year old wants kids, they will never get the time with their dad that other kids have. This will also lead to resentment. If they waited 4-5 years to have kids (which is about average), when said child is 8 years old and wants to play baseball or go to the park or interact with dad.. dad will be 55 years old. He'll be dead before the kid hits 30 years old (based on average life expectancy of US Males being 77.4 yrs). My husband had an elderly father. His dad was in his 40s when he was born. It meant that his dad couldn't go on boy scout trips or show him how to play sports or even wrestle. His dad died when my husband was 26. My husband's mom is 15 years younger and spent most of the years before her husband's death whining about how she was married to an elderly man, how she'd have to take care of him for all of her good years. It was a miserable situation.

Not to mention don't women ~40, start having their sex drive ramp up??

That being said, you'll probably get asked 39430 times if he's your father when you go out together. So have fun with that.

I know I'm an adult and I shouldn't care what the public thinks. I was honestly just asking since I don't have parents to ask and I didn't know who else to ask.

I guess the question should have been more like 'if you had a 20 year old daughter would you approve of her dating a 42yo'

...why would a 42 y/o man want to date a 20 y/o girl? seriously? As someone said previously "date" and "marry" are two different things. I'd be quite surprised if he was looking for an actual long term future with you, but dating? If I were him I'd be doing backflips getting a girl less than half my age. Of course, after your last post it kinda sounds like you might have some daddy issues...

If not having a dad equals daddy issues then I guess so. I don't really know.

If none of that matters to you, then go for it. If you have to ask opinions, then something must be bothering you about this. You can figure it out.

I guess the thing that bothered me most (and made me want to ask people'e opinions) is because while I like him and we have a lot that we seem to talk about, and like a lot of the same activities, I was wondering why he would want to date a 20yo. Maybe I would not want to date him if my dad was still around and my dad was around his age, maybe then I would have seen this as weird? Sometimes people from the outside can have more insight than someone inside the situation, and I was just curious if people thought I was making a dumb decision.

That being said, you'll probably get asked 39430 times if he's your father when you go out together. So have fun with that.

In my experience no one asks, actually. It's not hard to figure out the man you're calling "honey" isn't your dad.

Ah, I'm just used to people confusing family members for my boyfriends and boyfriends for family. >.> Every single time I get dinner with my dad, they think we're married.