which parent is the jerk in this instance

I haven't read any of the replies. I feel like you're probably mom B, just b/c of the tone when explaining about the crying kid. I think if mom A were posting, she wouldn't have made the post sound so completely sympathetic to the crying kid.

Anyway, I think mom B's response was emotional and ridiculous. A simple "I can get note from the doc confirming they're gone" probably would have resolved it. From what I hear, lice a flipping hassle and I get their being concerned. Being the mom of a totally emotional and disappointed kid doesn't make you an expert on lice. I don't blame them for not just taking mom B's word for it, no matter how close they are. If I were mom A, I would have called our ped and gone with their advice. If that advice was to stay away for another week, that's that. Maybe that's what happened. Or maybe they just went with an uneducated decision, in which case mom B could have offered a doc note or something. Either way, I feel like mom B is butthurt b/c her kid is upset, and should probably apologize for the emotional response to family A.

i dont know a single person who has had lice, i remember inspections at school when i was young and there was always an announcement that we were lice free. considering a few people said lice are inevitable, are they really all that common in other areas?

I grew up in very crappy, poor neighborhoods, and had lice all the freaking time.

I would just like to add that I asked because I genuinely feel like I handle it badly and overreacted just a smidge ;-). My husband was not very helpful cause he is lovely and supports me to a fault. I needed the opinions of people who don't know myself or my friend so I could perhaps look at the situation with different eyes.

I think it's a good idea that you asked Hope you got some useful answers

Mom B is a major B.

i dont know a single person who has had lice, i remember inspections at school when i was young and there was always an announcement that we were lice free. considering a few people said lice are inevitable, are they really all that common in other areas?

I grew up in very crappy, poor neighborhoods, and had lice all the freaking time.

They aren't inevitable. My daughter never got them.

I did, though. My mom's best friend had a neighbor who wasn't the best parent and sent her kids to my mom's friend's house to spend the night knowing they had lice (never bothered treating). So of course, the friend and her kids got it and we got it from them. We basically had a big de-licing party. I still remember the pain of that awful nit comb and I think I was 7 or 8 at the time.

They're pretty common, but not everyone gets them. And it isn't about how clean or dirty you are, either.

Mom B is over-reacting. Mom/Husband A is just trying to be on the safe side, just in case. But seems to be a little on the passive aggressive side.

I'm agree with this.
Mom A are just being overly cautious - and they did say they were sorry and would try and make it up.

I think Mom B is being overly sensitive. Grow up.

Why did mom whichever, say anything in the first place? If the lice was gone and had been gone for 2 weeks, why even bring it up. Of course people are going to have an opinion about it, it's lice. LOL

Is anyone else's head suddenly itchy?

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me too. ick.

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I still remember being 5 and one of my sisters catching it from a little league helmet and it spread to the rest of us 4 girls. I remember having to sit still for 8 hours (I had a ridiculous amount of hair for a 5 year old) while my Mom went through all my hair after she worked on the rest of my sisters. I understand the paranoia.

mom b And how can I not be hurt when I had to hold my kid while he cried himself to sleep asking my why you guys don't like him

Does anyone else find this part odd and far fetched…?

Seems like somebody could have done a better job explaining this to her son. Sounds like he has the over-reacting bug as well.

i dont know a single person who has had lice, i remember inspections at school when i was young and there was always an announcement that we were lice free. considering a few people said lice are inevitable, are they really all that common in other areas?

I never had lice. I asked my husband and he never had it either. I think it's fairly common, but it's not like it's a rite of passage we all go through. Many kids get it, but probably not a majority.

At this point it seems to be about 50/50 with the overall consensus being we both overreacted. I do believe apologies are in order.

Thank You
I am not sorry I asked
we all get touchy about our kids and parenting abilities. We are only human.

Thanks again
I am overwhelmed by how many responses I got and I appreciate every one of them.

So... you're Mom B? You can't leave us hanging here, OP!

I was originally thinking Mom A, but now I might jump ships...

To be completely honest, I also would have cancelled. Better safe than sorry. And they did make an attempt to reschedule, which is exactly what I would have done. That being said if it were my son that had the lice two weeks prior, I probably also would have been upset. Call your friend. We are parents and we all get a little nuts over protecting our children. I got into it with a friend over a TB scare. I called her and said I wanted to meet when she was cleared. I brought some beer we apologized to each other and it was done.

How is head lice even remotely comparable with TB? One is a harmless, albeit annoying, insect that can easily be killed with shampoo treatments from the pharmacy, the other is a killer disease of which there are several strains that are resistant to antibiotics.... I'm with you on the TB scare thing, but head lice are just an annoyance.

They aren't comparable. I meant to only relate to her situation. They are just an annoyance, but one I would rather avoid if possible.

At this point it seems to be about 50/50 with the overall consensus being we both overreacted. I do believe apologies are in order.

Thank You
I am not sorry I asked
we all get touchy about our kids and parenting abilities. We are only human.

Thanks again
I am overwhelmed by how many responses I got and I appreciate every one of them.

Mom B is the jerk. That's not 50/50 from what I've read.:laugh:

I thought OP was "A" probably because I could personally identify a little more with Mom "A" --- thinking "why did B even mention lice?"

...until the OP she said her husband supports her to a fault.... "A" sounds like her husband was at least 50% in charge of the "don't come here" decision. Which makes me think that if "A"'s husband was that overly supportive of anything and everything (i.e. to a fault) he would have been all, "sure bring over a bunch of lice-ridden friends if it makes you happy, hon!"

So I'm guessing OP is mom "B".

Let's play another mystery game!