"You MUST send me a message if you want to be my friend"

OP-so you made an effort to post this message but you can't send one with a FR?

time well spent

you want to check out my snacks....but you can't be bothered to type a note that says, "i just want to check out your snacks?" yeah, you can go away now.

Do you have an instagram? Do you have to know everyone that follows you there as well? You've lost 101 lbs and I'm sure you're a motivation to a lot of people that you might not even know who just stumbled upon in a thread and have never talked to. I feel like it's more creepy to say "i saw that you posted in a thread but i never talked to you" than to just not say anything at all.

I am more creeped out by silence. It is like having a conversation at a restaurant, and some stranger wearing work out gear comes over and sits next to me, then picks through my salad, asking how many carbs are in spinach. At least tell my who the hell you are first...

I choked on my salad reading this... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Sounds like you're not the friend they're looking for and vice versa. I've met people on my FL and if I had the opportunity, there are a lot more I'd like to meet. Some I've added to FB, some I exchanged phone numbers with and we text, one has little's around the same age as mine and now our kids are friends too. I don't want to add just anybody to my list. If someone just wants to creep my diary, they can do that without being on my FL. They don't need access to my pics and personal thoughts.

So I've stumbled on a few profiles of people with similar body type as me or just people around my age and have added a few as a friend. I've also noticed that some people have this *****IF YOU DON'T SEND ME A MESSAGE FIRST I WILL REJECT YOUR FRIEND REQUEST***** notice at the top of their profile. If you're one of those people that only adds users who you know in real life on this site as a friend, I totally understand, but I've always noticed that people have 200+ friends, and all of them are not from the same area. It's the internet. I'm not about to show up on your f*cking door step and creep in your windows, I just wanna look at your diary and check out your snacks. Does anyone else find this a little funny? Like do I really have to explain myself to be your "friend" on a website when I'm probably never going to meet you and just comment "great job" when you have a 500 calorie burn workout and have it motivate me to get up off my butt and walk around the block?

I denied you before you even sent the request... :laugh:

you want to check out my snacks....but you can't be bothered to type a note that says, "i just want to check out your snacks?" yeah, you can go away now.

Mirin dem snacks

I understand if you have 60-70 requests per day, that would be annoying to deal with in a news feed. I'm clearly not internet popular like everyone else.

I get maybe one a month.

But if I've never seen you, and we've never had any exchange and no mutual friends...where did you even find me? Is the first thing I think.

It's the polite thing to send a message.I mean you don't go up to random strangers and just poke them and say "FRIEND?" Or maybe you do, maybe you were raised in a barn, but I don't know that unless you tell me.

Point is introduce yourself when sending a FR.

Exactly. For the most part, I don't get a ton of FRs. I got a lot when I had a different picture up, but otherwise, I get a few here and there. Not overwhelming. But many of them are from people with no mutuals, no forum posts, nothing. Why do you want to be my friend? You don't know anything about me.

ETA: That is on my profile, but my profile is private now so new people can't see it. lol I added it because of threads like these, though. I don't think it should ave to be specifically stated, but it makes people like the OP angry and that was worth it.

Do you have an instagram? Do you have to know everyone that follows you there as well? You've lost 101 lbs and I'm sure you're a motivation to a lot of people that you might not even know who just stumbled upon in a thread and have never talked to. I feel like it's more creepy to say "i saw that you posted in a thread but i never talked to you" than to just not say anything at all.

I am more creeped out by silence. It is like having a conversation at a restaurant, and some stranger wearing work out gear comes over and sits next to me, then picks through my salad, asking how many carbs are in spinach. At least tell my who the hell you are first...

I choked on my salad reading this... :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Could you even imagine MFP in real life? People just flashing each other, that one random guy that walks by and yells at you for not eating breakfast. A bunch of men with bleeding nipples stopping to talk about their fitbits.

Um, yeah... I'm not exactly a friend collector and I prefer to have friends who will interact with me and/or have similar goals, common interests, etc. It takes 2 seconds to add a message with the request to add where you found me, what your goals are, or why you want to be friends. Blank friend requests just annoy me, especially when your profile is private or blank, how am I supposed to know anything about you?

Do you have an instagram? Do you have to know everyone that follows you there as well? You've lost 101 lbs and I'm sure you're a motivation to a lot of people that you might not even know who just stumbled upon in a thread and have never talked to. I feel like it's more creepy to say "i saw that you posted in a thread but i never talked to you" than to just not say anything at all.

I am more creeped out by silence. It is like having a conversation at a restaurant, and some stranger wearing work out gear comes over and sits next to me, then picks through my salad, asking how many carbs are in spinach. At least tell my who the hell you are first...

How many times do I have to say, "I'm sorry"??????

You always had me at hello.

i wish i had someone that would make all my decisions for me.

I add everyone who requests, have rarely had a message sent with it, and haven't had any issues. But then again, I only read the top part of my friend feed and rarely scroll down. I will just delete people if I see something I don't like - under their calories by too much on too many days, posting of 'excuses' ( I understand skipping workouts - but assuming you don't need to work out because you just did a huge grocery shop/errand run and it was really 'hard work' unloading the car? No) or stuff that specifically makes me sad/uncomfortable, like baby posts or pregnancy posts.

I also go through my friendslist every month or so and delete people who haven't logged in for more than a month - that's too long for a regular vacation, and I don't like constant 'ok I was gone for a bit and gained xxlbs but I'm BACK WITH A TEASPOON OF MOTIVATION YAY' posts.

So right now I feel comfortable with my FL and I do get kind of attached to certain usernames who consistently log in and do their workouts and finish their diaries

I understand if you have 60-70 requests per day, that would be annoying to deal with in a news feed. I'm clearly not internet popular like everyone else.

yeah, i can't figure out why

Bleeding nipples? *perks up*

I'm equal opportunity, I'll reject your FR even with a message.