Why is MFP so mean??

Because this is the internet...and people represent themselves differently in their virtual worlds then they do in their real lives.

I personally don't get it. If anything the way I interact on-line is dialed way back from how I act in my real life, because...well, this is not my real life. I come on here to log my food and exercise. I visit the forums when I have a specific question or, yeah, when I am bored and wondering who is attacking who today. The forums are informational or entertaining, depending on what I need to get out of them that day.

However, I do avoid certain members. If I see their name in a thread, I just back out and move on. I've learned that no matter how accurate some people may be, I just don't like them so I don't bother with them.

Not sure if you're aware or not, but you can block members. Just use the little arrow button next to their user name in a thread they've posted in.

Because this is the internet...and people represent themselves differently in their virtual worlds then they do in their real lives.

I personally don't get it. If anything the way I interact on-line is dialed way back from how I act in my real life, because...well, this is not my real life. I come on here to log my food and exercise. I visit the forums when I have a specific question or, yeah, when I am bored and wondering who is attacking who today. The forums are informational or entertaining, depending on what I need to get out of them that day.

However, I do avoid certain members. If I see their name in a thread, I just back out and move on. I've learned that no matter how accurate some people may be, I just don't like them so I don't bother with them.

Not sure if you're aware or not, but you can block members. Just use the little arrow button next to their user name in a thread they've posted in.

Good to know. Hate to have another experience ruined by the dysfunctional. That way but for the grace go I, you know. I'm here recovering from liver disease, and the last thing I need is to hear people justify venting anger and alcoholism, and stumping for factory farmed/sugar industry cao dung. I do hate to see them hazing the newbs, but I have to take care of me first. Thanks. :flowerforyou:

So I just want to make sure I'm understanding...Because you don't agree with people drinking and fitting it into their calories, and if they choose to eat whatever they want and still lose weight, and they advise the newbies that they can do all that too....that's a bad thing because you don't like it?

Because this is the internet...and people represent themselves differently in their virtual worlds then they do in their real lives.

I personally don't get it. If anything the way I interact on-line is dialed way back from how I act in my real life, because...well, this is not my real life. I come on here to log my food and exercise. I visit the forums when I have a specific question or, yeah, when I am bored and wondering who is attacking who today. The forums are informational or entertaining, depending on what I need to get out of them that day.

However, I do avoid certain members. If I see their name in a thread, I just back out and move on. I've learned that no matter how accurate some people may be, I just don't like them so I don't bother with them.

Not sure if you're aware or not, but you can block members. Just use the little arrow button next to their user name in a thread they've posted in.

Good to know. Hate to have another experience ruined by the dysfunctional. That way but for the grace go I, you know. I'm here recovering from liver disease, and the last thing I need is to hear people justify venting anger and alcoholism, and stumping for factory farmed/sugar industry cao dung. I do hate to see them hazing the newbs, but I have to take care of me first. Thanks. :flowerforyou:

So I just want to make sure I'm understanding...Because you don't agree with people drinking and fitting it into their calories, and if they choose to eat whatever they want and still lose weight, and they advise the newbies that they can do all that too....that's a bad thing because you don't like it?

Go to love all the passive aggressive little nice nasties in there, too. She's just so nice.

Because this is the internet...and people represent themselves differently in their virtual worlds then they do in their real lives.

I personally don't get it. If anything the way I interact on-line is dialed way back from how I act in my real life, because...well, this is not my real life. I come on here to log my food and exercise. I visit the forums when I have a specific question or, yeah, when I am bored and wondering who is attacking who today. The forums are informational or entertaining, depending on what I need to get out of them that day.

However, I do avoid certain members. If I see their name in a thread, I just back out and move on. I've learned that no matter how accurate some people may be, I just don't like them so I don't bother with them.

Not sure if you're aware or not, but you can block members. Just use the little arrow button next to their user name in a thread they've posted in.

Good to know. Hate to have another experience ruined by the dysfunctional. That way but for the grace go I, you know. I'm here recovering from liver disease, and the last thing I need is to hear people justify venting anger and alcoholism, and stumping for factory farmed/sugar industry cao dung. I do hate to see them hazing the newbs, but I have to take care of me first. Thanks. :flowerforyou:

So I just want to make sure I'm understanding...Because you don't agree with people drinking and fitting it into their calories, and if they choose to eat whatever they want and still lose weight, and they advise the newbies that they can do all that too....that's a bad thing because you don't like it?

Go to love all the passive aggressive little nice nasties in there, too. She's just so nice.

Yeah who is she calling dysfunctional??? She don't know me...or does she...:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

(no she doesn't.)

But if their aggression is passive then they can't actually be considered rude or mean right?

Of course not. Words don't matter when you hide them behind a smile and a flower.

Because this is the internet...and people represent themselves differently in their virtual worlds then they do in their real lives.

I personally don't get it. If anything the way I interact on-line is dialed way back from how I act in my real life, because...well, this is not my real life. I come on here to log my food and exercise. I visit the forums when I have a specific question or, yeah, when I am bored and wondering who is attacking who today. The forums are informational or entertaining, depending on what I need to get out of them that day.

However, I do avoid certain members. If I see their name in a thread, I just back out and move on. I've learned that no matter how accurate some people may be, I just don't like them so I don't bother with them.

Not sure if you're aware or not, but you can block members. Just use the little arrow button next to their user name in a thread they've posted in.

Good to know. Hate to have another experience ruined by the dysfunctional. That way but for the grace go I, you know. I'm here recovering from liver disease, and the last thing I need is to hear people justify venting anger and alcoholism, and stumping for factory farmed/sugar industry cao dung. I do hate to see them hazing the newbs, but I have to take care of me first. Thanks. :flowerforyou:

So I just want to make sure I'm understanding...Because you don't agree with people drinking and fitting it into their calories, and if they choose to eat whatever they want and still lose weight, and they advise the newbies that they can do all that too....that's a bad thing because you don't like it?

Go to love all the passive aggressive little nice nasties in there, too. She's just so nice.

Yeah who is she calling dysfunctional??? She don't know me...or does she...:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

(no she doesn't.)

But if their aggression is passive then they can't actually be considered rude or mean right?

Of course not. Words don't matter when you hide them behind a smile and a flower.

Like this? :flowerforyou:

Perfect. You are now officially ready to start your own mean people thread.

Because this is the internet...and people represent themselves differently in their virtual worlds then they do in their real lives.

I personally don't get it. If anything the way I interact on-line is dialed way back from how I act in my real life, because...well, this is not my real life. I come on here to log my food and exercise. I visit the forums when I have a specific question or, yeah, when I am bored and wondering who is attacking who today. The forums are informational or entertaining, depending on what I need to get out of them that day.

However, I do avoid certain members. If I see their name in a thread, I just back out and move on. I've learned that no matter how accurate some people may be, I just don't like them so I don't bother with them.

Not sure if you're aware or not, but you can block members. Just use the little arrow button next to their user name in a thread they've posted in.

Good to know. Hate to have another experience ruined by the dysfunctional. That way but for the grace go I, you know. I'm here recovering from liver disease, and the last thing I need is to hear people justify venting anger and alcoholism, and stumping for factory farmed/sugar industry cao dung. I do hate to see them hazing the newbs, but I have to take care of me first. Thanks. :flowerforyou:

So I just want to make sure I'm understanding...Because you don't agree with people drinking and fitting it into their calories, and if they choose to eat whatever they want and still lose weight, and they advise the newbies that they can do all that too....that's a bad thing because you don't like it?

I think this calls for...


...waaaaaait for it.



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Eh, I think the truth lies in the middle between the mean camp and the butthurt camp.

I have noticed that the most knowledgeable people, whom I respect (Stroutman, SarahUK, Sidesteel), tend to reply to threads with considered responses, taking into account all sides and present facts in an easily understandable way.

I try to emulate them when replying (not that I do much of that). *Shrugs*.

Then why do it? Why keep opening and responding when it's so frustrating that you feel the need to be mean?

Many time these "mean" people are being honest, straight-forward, or just blunt. Not the same as being mean. Also having different opinions is often interpreted as being mean.

I disagree. I saw one poor person discuss her opinions about sugar this morning and bam 8 or 9 pages of personality disordered evil. A few nights ago someone posted they might have realized they are drinking too much, and page after page of "just work it into your calories. I still drink (burp)" People need fitness for a lot of different reasons: some people are sick, some were never taught a decent relationship with food, or sugar, or alcohol. The OP suggests that the reason we came on here was to learn the truth which she then immediately conflates with accepting abuse. I just wish people would understand that you may prefer your truth administered with a hammer, but others have a right to their path as well. Mean people suck. :flowerforyou:

Because this is the internet...and people represent themselves differently in their virtual worlds then they do in their real lives.

I personally don't get it. If anything the way I interact on-line is dialed way back from how I act in my real life, because...well, this is not my real life. I come on here to log my food and exercise. I visit the forums when I have a specific question or, yeah, when I am bored and wondering who is attacking who today. The forums are informational or entertaining, depending on what I need to get out of them that day.

However, I do avoid certain members. If I see their name in a thread, I just back out and move on. I've learned that no matter how accurate some people may be, I just don't like them so I don't bother with them.

Not sure if you're aware or not, but you can block members. Just use the little arrow button next to their user name in a thread they've posted in.

Good to know. Hate to have another experience ruined by the dysfunctional. That way but for the grace go I, you know. I'm here recovering from liver disease, and the last thing I need is to hear people justify venting anger and alcoholism, and stumping for factory farmed/sugar industry cao dung. I do hate to see them hazing the newbs, but I have to take care of me first. Thanks. :flowerforyou: