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I get so frusterated with my mother. I want to lose weight and I try to eat healthy and exercise. But she doesn't want to eat healthy and always eats junk food and keeps it around the house. I get so tired of cleaning, because she is a slob. She dosn't clean her own room, her dishes, she doesn't even do her own laundry. I have to do all her laundry, and then put them up when I get home. I wish I could just live with my husband alone but my mother can't live alone. I am so tired. I try and exercise and then she always calls me because she needs something. I can never get through a workout without having trying to stop at least 5 times in a 20 min window. I get so mad and frusterated.


But what can I do...

Would anyone be interested in doing 30 Day shred with me come May 1st?

I'll do it with you. I started it and got to day 8 then my knee started to give me probs so I stopped. I'll start it again and see how it goes. Just one thing: May 1 is a Sunday and I usually have Sunday as my rest day, so I will start it one day after, if thats ok? Also, lets make sure to measure ourselves and see if we lose any inches!

Would anyone be interested in doing 30 Day shred with me come May 1st?

I will do it with you. I have the video

mds- I agree with the others, you need to take care of you. This walking friend is not a good fit for your needs, physically or emotionally. She's toxic and a drain on you! Let her know you are kicking it up a notch and you are switching around your workout schedule and ooops, it doesn't include a slow-paced walk anymore.

virgo - you described my wardrobe! I have been wearing the same clothes for over 10 years! If it's newer, it's a hand me down because someone else lost weight. No more!!! I'm actually to the point where I don't have to unbotton any of my pants to get them off. LOL! and...I'm ready to start the 30 Day shred again....for the third time!! Third time's the charm, right??

Chrystal - that's another bad situation. So sorry you have to live like that. I lived with my mother for 2 years with my husband and son, and it was a drain on our relationship. Is your mother elderly? Is that why she can't be alone? Hoping you find a solution to that situation. Once we moved out of my mother's house, my relationship with her improved 1000%!

Learning- hopefully that quiz won't way against your grade too bad. Do you get to drop your lowest grade? Hope so!! Good luck for the rest of the semester....not much longer!

Would anyone be interested in doing 30 Day shred with me come May 1st?

I think I would die if I tried :laugh: Jillian's workouts are HARD for me. I've tried her banish fat, boost metabolism one and I was dying after the warmup LOL, I could only do a few exercises out of each circuit... the rest were way too hard on my knees. I'm assuming 30 day shred is the same?

In May, I'm going to really get going (after the 10th) and start walking everyday increasing length and speed, work in C25K, go back to my thursday night beachbody classes... and my co-worker and I are going to do her zumba dvd's a couple times a week after work.

@MDS- I agree with everyone else. I understand your frustration, because I've been in similar situations. I know that everyone says working out WITH someone is a good motivator, but to be honest I actually prefer to do it by myself. Exercise time for me is my alone time to regroup and think to myself. Maybe you should just tell her that the routine you two have isn't working out and you want to try something new and do it by yourself.

@Virgo- I feel your pain. Baggy clothes really aren't flattering at all, and they don't make you look any thinner. At the same time, plus size clothes are often frumpy looking or like you said, expensive. Even the stuff from Torrid or LB, although it is trendier, isn't always the best quality. When I shopped there I was always a little peeved that I could spend $45 on a top that would start to come apart after 4 washings.

@Learning- ouch! I'm sorry to hear that. I can empathize with you because I'm a perfectionist when it comes to grades and I get upset if I get anything lower than an A-... Good luck getting your teacher to drop the grade!

@Renee- good luck keeping everything together while you're away!


Wednesday Whining:

It's humid outside today, and that's irritating me. I guess that's all I really have to whine about at this very moment!

Wednesday Whine:

I'm SICK of people telling me I complain too much!!! AAHHH!! Especially people on my Facebook (who I think are just jealous that I exercise more than they do). They say I whine too much about my body aches and blah blah blah. My opinion... KISS THIS AND SCREW OFF!!!

Thanks for letting me vent.

@Sue - I think telling her that the pace needs to inhibit talking will be a great start and if it doesn't work, then I will just have to go solo because I need to do this for ME not for her.

@Claudia - thanks! Just saying that you've made me laugh (after a not so good day) and I really appreciate it! It seems like you have had a very busy time with vacation and to be honest, sometimes we need to sleep and let our bodies recover before trying to push them too much. Don't use it as an excuse (because that leads to bad habits) but don't beat yourself up about it. Your body knows best.

@neuroticvirgo - I think I might do that. I may try to get her to toughen it up for the last bit of the semester but tell her that when summer school starts, I am going to stick to a routine at the rec center (early morning with a friend that wants to as well-as long as she doesn't bail on me!)

I also know exactly how you feel about clothes. I realized I have had a lot of my clothes for years and they aren’t in the best of condition any more. In fact, I am wearing jeans that have worn thin between my thighs at the moment but I don’t really have any others and can’t afford $60-$80 for new ones from Torrid. I did buy a couple new dresses from Old Navy this weekend because I love dresses and also because if I lose weight, at least they won’t fall off of my like jeans will. I love clothes, I won’t lie. I also love Glamour magazine and the advice they do have for plus-sized women. Believe me, I still have very off days-quite often, but there are some days when I just have to learn how to love my body and show it off. Curves aren’t bad. I am a bit more than curvy at this point, but still, confidence in a pencil skirt makes you more gorgeous than you can ever imagine. Do you have any Dots stores near you? They have more affordable plus-sizes. They are hit or miss with casual clothes but I love their professional clothes.

@Chrystal – I know how you feel about fighting with someone who brings unhealthy food into the house. (It’s why I dread going home for the weekend). Is there any way you can organize everything to keep her stuff separate (and hopefully out of view) of your healthier snacks?

@Learning2LoveMe – It is awesome to hear that you are doing well with staying on track. Keep it up, that’s awesome! About your grades, I would recommend just talking to the professor about where your grade is and how you need to address the rest of the assignments to get what you would like in the class. They are generally pretty helpful and understanding as long as you show initiative and concern.

I am glad to know I am not the only person that has struggled with a chatty slow “work-out buddy.” I am afraid I won’t be able to hold myself accountable without her, but hopefully, as I get more active on this thread, all of you can help be my support team and we can help each other.

@Becky – I do feel like she has been draining me lately, I just worry about her getting very upset or something. I don’t know how I got myself into this mess.

@Renee – I hope your visit with your mom goes well. Hopefully she will see that you are trying and be supportive rather than critical.

@Pinstripepirate – I think I may be somewhat similar. I like to have someone exercising at the same time as me (getting up and going to the gym) but I don’t necessarily want to be right next to you talking. I want to turn on my ipod and work my butt off so hard that I don’t breath to talk.

@TNAJackson – I don’t think you ever have to worry about complaining too much here! In the end though, they will just have to realize that complaining about muscles is much more admirable than complaining about someone complaining.



Just a last minute additional whine - I keep hearing something that sounds like a cell phone on vibrate on but its not in my room/apartment (no roommate and my phone is next to me) so I can't find it and stop it. (I think it might be in the apartment upstairs). Its just one of those things that drives me crazy!

Just a last minute additional whine - I keep hearing something that sounds like a cell phone on vibrate on but its not in my room/apartment (no roommate and my phone is next to me) so I can't find it and stop it. (I think it might be in the apartment upstairs). Its just one of those things that drives me crazy!

That reminded of this story my brother-in-law told me. One night- it was pretty late, maybe 2am? he was woken up by the sound of a phone buzzing as on vibrate. He started looking all over the bedroom, shaking the blankets around thinking his or his wife's phone was in there. Needless to say, he woke up the dog and his wife and STILL couldn't find the phone! Turned out that my niece had left her phone in the bathroom upstairs charging, and since their bedroom is directly under her bathroom, it sounded like the phone was in the room with them! :laugh: So it's probably your neighbors phone- or their vibrator! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

ugh! an additional whine! nasty thuderstorms, get home from work, no power! So, here I sit in McD's, kids in the play place. Did okay staying under calories, but fat and sodium are out of control!

We are under tornado "Watch." Sitting here in McD's looking out the large windows at the storm is pretty cool!

Stay safe! I hope that the storms calm down where you are!

@Claudia - hahaha. I actually just noticed that it has stopped and am so glad but I am just going to hope that it was a phone!

Whiny Wednesday: Well...I don't even know how to start. I just know that I hate this whole having to diet thing with a passion! I just can't seem to get it down. I feel like I just want to eat whatever I want whenever I want...pity party here we come...lol. I'm in a huge rut gaining weight, not losing at all. I feel like giving up half the time but I know that I can't afford too. I'm not healthy. I'm so frustrated, beyond frustrated actually. And I know it's my own fault. I'm the one putting the food in my mouth. I'm the one making the bad choices. I feel like I need structure, some kind of diet that tells me what to eat and when. So I'm looking into The Zone diet to see if that is one to try. I don't know. I'll just keep searching....

Hi Tamanella!!! I know it is Whiny Wednesday but I cant help it!!!!
I have to tell you my experience with this is about making sure all my bases are covered. Nutritional and sweets.
All my life I've been "big" - "diet" is not what I am doing. Modifying my intake get what my body needs to nurish and drop the excess. Feel free to look at my diary.. However, I am insulin resistant -pcos too so I have to take in more protein than normal. So what I am trying to say is that if your not losing - think about going to a nutritionist (bloodwork) the nutritionist can help you figure out what food to help you get where your going. That's what made a world of difference. I didn't know that protein was going to make my body work better!! OMG!!! Chicken, Yogurt, cottage cheese with fruit (100 calorie). wholly guacamole 100 calorie, so much more options that can satisfy you temptations (food). Email me anytime :flowerforyou:

Once I sat with her she helped me figure out my balance b/4 I eat what helps me GOOD and BAD but to my benefit. So I eat what I want but not a whole bag or a small bag...OR a half a small bag. Portion it out and enjoy....:flowerforyou:

This past 7 months was a dream and I know once I plateau it will be worse BUT right now I enjoy what I am eating and hunny I AM EATING ...

My point is stay focused YOU CAN DO IT!!!


My Whine for Wednesday is I was mad that I couldnot find a cadbury creme egg - So mad.... 3 stores ALL SOLD OUT & I had calories to cover it Otherwise..I found caramel eggs (bought 4 bogo and they are in the freezer for the future)

My Hubby says were under a Tornado warning so I am going to log off now - Take Care Ladies!!!

Thank you both for your help and suggestions. I've really been thinking about seeing a nutritionist and so that's probably a good way to start. I've heard about clean eating and have been interested in that too, so I'll look into that also. Thank you so much for wanting to help me. I really don't want to give up, I'm just so frustrated with myself and where I'm at right now mentally that it scares me some days because this is such a mental game. Anywho, thank you!!