Online Dating

I never got how guys can pay to be on match and mostly looking for a booty call...why would you pay money to find that when you can find that in a bar or something free!!

branflakes1980 wrote: »

jorodri7 wrote: »

iwillsucceed0444 wrote: »

Well I'm a 19 year old female. I consider myself attractive, especially when I do my hair and makeup. My body is a work in progress but it's still decent imo. Anyways I made a POF account, and holy crap, WOW. I got SOOOOOO many messages from guys in their 40's-50's+, guys who were over 300 pounds, very unattractive guys, and just complete losers.
No you don't have to be Brad Pitt, but seriously I'm not attracted to you in the least physically it's not gonna work. The one guy who actually looked dateable on there, well turned out he just wanted a hookup and wanted me to come over that day. Ugh, dude c'mon use tinder for that, you're only 20!! I deleted POF because there wasn't too many guys my age who were actually dateable on there. I still have tinder though but it's hard because most guys just want a hookup...:(

iwillsucceed0444 wrote: »

Well I'm a 19 year old female. I consider myself attractive, especially when I do my hair and makeup. My body is a work in progress but it's still decent imo. Anyways I made a POF account, and holy crap, WOW. I got SOOOOOO many messages from guys in their 40's-50's+, guys who were over 300 pounds, very unattractive guys, and just complete losers.
No you don't have to be Brad Pitt, but seriously I'm not attracted to you in the least physically it's not gonna work. The one guy who actually looked dateable on there, well turned out he just wanted a hookup and wanted me to come over that day. Ugh, dude c'mon use tinder for that, you're only 20!! I deleted POF because there wasn't too many guys my age who were actually dateable on there. I still have tinder though but it's hard because most guys just want a hookup...:(

I bet I could change your luck!!!!

Gross!! I think you should take your perving elsewhere!

Its just a joke. Some people are too sensitive these days, thanks bin laden.

Shots fired.

jorodri7 wrote: »

Belle8312 wrote: »

So I have been on almost every single dating website that has ever been created. The ones that are free, the ones that you pay for, the ones that are literally just for hook ups (POF and Tinder) and ones that seem could potentially be for long term (Match) and I seem to find the exact same thing: guys talk to you for about 2 minutes and then it's, can I have your number, can I have your e-mail address, etc. I'm sorry, but I am not giving you my number after exchanging 3 messages (literally 3, over the course of 10 minutes) with you.
The best though are the guys who jump straight into sexual conversations (POF and Tinder are the best examples, which in my defense, I didn't really know too much about them at first, so I didn't know that's what they were all about), and want nothing more than a hook up.
I had one guy who told me I had beautiful eyes and a great profile and that I was the type of girl he was looking for (this was on Match.com) and literally within 2 days of e-mailing back and forth, asked me if I liked a guy going down on me and when were we going to have sex.

REALLY??? That conversation was quickly ended and deleted.

I've never had success on POF or okcupid. I didn't even try tinder because I am sure it's completely superficial. Which is cool if that's your thing just know it's not mine. I agree with Verykatie. You get what you put into it. And a paying profile seems to be our best choice. I always tend to never get a response. Which sucks because it tears at your inner confidence. I would accept it if I was creepy but last time I checked saying things like, "hey there how was the weekend"? On a Monday wasn't a creeper like tendency. That's ok though we will find success somewhere haha just have to find the right way about it.

Oh dear.

There are some e-mails that will never get a response...unless I want to practice my stand-up or end up offering unsolicited advice and those include any variation of,
"How was your weekend?"
"Hey, you're pretty"
"Hi. I am emotionally stable, financially secure, and know how to take care of a woman."

To me, that just screams generic and something you sent to dozens of women. It does not make me feel special and part of wooing a woman, is making her feel special.

It also indicates that you read my profile...and found nothing to comment or discuss with me. Which, if after reading my profile you got nothing? Then you wouldn't be able to keep up in person either. Which...can only lead to awkward. Which, I don't mind awkward when it's funny, but that's...the sad type of awkward.

To me, messaging is reserved for people who you think you can find a connection. Similar sense of humor, pastimes, whatever. If you have people in your life already, friends and family, that make you happy and you're a happy person- you don't need to just find 'anyone' who can fill the spot of 'significant other'. Instead, you're using this as an avenue to find someone who can be special to you. Who...when you read their profile and see their picture, you are immediately drawn to send them a note about X, Y or Z because you know they would light up when they see it.

And those connections? Those are the fun ones.

Joannah700 wrote: »

jorodri7 wrote: »

Belle8312 wrote: »

So I have been on almost every single dating website that has ever been created. The ones that are free, the ones that you pay for, the ones that are literally just for hook ups (POF and Tinder) and ones that seem could potentially be for long term (Match) and I seem to find the exact same thing: guys talk to you for about 2 minutes and then it's, can I have your number, can I have your e-mail address, etc. I'm sorry, but I am not giving you my number after exchanging 3 messages (literally 3, over the course of 10 minutes) with you.
The best though are the guys who jump straight into sexual conversations (POF and Tinder are the best examples, which in my defense, I didn't really know too much about them at first, so I didn't know that's what they were all about), and want nothing more than a hook up.
I had one guy who told me I had beautiful eyes and a great profile and that I was the type of girl he was looking for (this was on Match.com) and literally within 2 days of e-mailing back and forth, asked me if I liked a guy going down on me and when were we going to have sex.

REALLY??? That conversation was quickly ended and deleted.

I've never had success on POF or okcupid. I didn't even try tinder because I am sure it's completely superficial. Which is cool if that's your thing just know it's not mine. I agree with Verykatie. You get what you put into it. And a paying profile seems to be our best choice. I always tend to never get a response. Which sucks because it tears at your inner confidence. I would accept it if I was creepy but last time I checked saying things like, "hey there how was the weekend"? On a Monday wasn't a creeper like tendency. That's ok though we will find success somewhere haha just have to find the right way about it.

Oh dear.

There are some e-mails that will never get a response...unless I want to practice my stand-up or end up offering unsolicited advice and those include any variation of,
"How was your weekend?"
"Hey, you're pretty"
"Hi. I am emotionally stable, financially secure, and know how to take care of a woman."

To me, that just screams generic and something you sent to dozens of women. It does not make me feel special and part of wooing a woman, is making her feel special.

It also indicates that you read my profile...and found nothing to comment or discuss with me. Which, if after reading my profile you got nothing? Then you wouldn't be able to keep up in person either. Which...can only lead to awkward. Which, I don't mind awkward when it's funny, but that's...the sad type of awkward.

To me, messaging is reserved for people who you think you can find a connection. Similar sense of humor, pastimes, whatever. If you have people in your life already, friends and family, that make you happy and you're a happy person- you don't need to just find 'anyone' who can fill the spot of 'significant other'. Instead, you're using this as an avenue to find someone who can be special to you. Who...when you read their profile and see their picture, you are immediately drawn to send them a note about X, Y or Z because you know they would light up when they see it.

And those connections? Those are the fun ones.

Well thank you for that. You see I always knew that but just needed to hear it some from someone else. Appreciate the help.

Belle8312 wrote: »

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Lets just say that this one date I went on. I started talking about sex and she said read a bible verse. I used to know the exact verse she recalled.

That's hilarious!

It gets better so when I finally broke up with her she wanted to see a marriage and family therapist at her church. I could not believe that.

Belle8312 wrote: »

Can I just ask why it seems like every guy on every dating site tends to put their interests as "camping, hiking, anything outdoors". Really? I have A LOT of male friends and there are only a few that like that enough to put it down as an interest. Now sports and shooting? (I am prior military after all, and so are a lot of my friends) But camping and hiking? When did this become so popular? Or am I completely out of it?

I know that I do not have those as hobbies. camping and hiking nope not a fan of that. I surprise you didn't say like long walks on a beach .

FatAsianNerd wrote: »

Belle8312 wrote: »

Can I just ask why it seems like every guy on every dating site tends to put their interests as "camping, hiking, anything outdoors". Really?

If I put down "playing checkers with grandma while drinking milk and cookies on a Friday night rager" as my interest, would that be sexier?

So true haha. Mine would be something like "love being a homebody at times, working out, sleeping".. Real winner here.

There was a guy that looked decent in his profile pic. It was of his facial features only. When I showed up this dude seriously weighed like 400+ pounds. I don't know who his photographer is, but I need to hire that person because they are a miracle worker.

I remember thinking "Appearance isn't everything, I'll have a couple beers and enjoy the conversation before I leave."

Then he told me "I wasn't expecting you to show up in clothing that looked like draperies."

Are you freaking kidding me?

It's called gauchos and a peasant top (which was in style at the time). At least I didn't have a completely misleading profile pic!

We had two beers and left.

Later he texted and texted and texted and I never replied.

Eventually he was texting "If I did something wrong just tell me!"

Nah.

acquilla30 wrote: »

One guy took me to McDonald's on a date for ice cream and than got angry when I wouldn't go home with him.

At least he could pony up for some Cold Stone! GEEZE.

I have several bad ones. But this one was awkward. I love eating at Perkins. I know I'm under the age of 70, but still LOVE. IT. A guy took me there and before our food had even came out I wanted to leave. It was so bad I was willing to give up on my Perkins. The whoooooole time he talked about how awesome he was and all these stories that made him sound bad @$$ but were obviously fake. I would tell him a story about me (when I could get a word in) and he'd have to one up me every time. Then he told me he wanted to get married really soon, as in a few months because his grandpa and dad didn't live long so he wanted to make sure he was married before he died. DIDN'T CARE TO WHO. Which by golly that made me feel special. Oh I told him when we left I didn't think there would be any more dates for us because I didn't think it was a good match. He texted me non-stop when I got home trying to convince me for another date and that if I didn't he'd kill himself. So me being an insensitive b***** because I had let him down nicely and he couldn't take a hint, I told him he'd have to wait to kill himself until after he found someone to marry.

He still didn't leave me alone, so I blocked his number.

I feel obligated to tell my best internet story. My boyfriend and I met through mutual friends online, and he decided to move to the area.

I thought he was going to date said mutual friend, but it turned out not.

We met a few weeks later and have been dating a couple of years now, making plans for the future.

It was Facebook.

We talked about Paleo recipes.

He did have a pic up of him standing in front of this super fancy black sports car looking all pretentious. When we met he up he was driving a Toyota that had really messed up paint.

I still love him, and joked that I thought he drove a sports car.

He pretended that he never even noticed it was there, just happened to be in the back ground of the picture.

Yeah right. I still love him, though.

Belle8312 wrote: »

I read on one guys profile "if we meet up and you don't look like your pictures, I am going to drink until you do...and you're going to pick up the tab"
I had to message him just because that's one of the most awesome things I've ever read on a profile!

I've seen that in a few guys' profiles but it's still pretty funny.

Let's see what I have experienced, in order:

One gal looked like her profile pictures, which were all from the waistline upward.  She seemed like a nice woman, until I met her.  Even though she had an average upper body, she had the hips and legs of a 400-lbs woman.

Another met with me and immediately was calling me "Sweetheart".  She was unemployed and way too clingy on the first (and only) date.

One girl did nothing but rip labels off her beer bottles.

A nurse in her mid-40s who dressed like a prostitute and loved to gamble at casinos.  In fact, she was almost thrown out of one casino because they thought she was a hooker.

One woman who showed up to the date covered with insect bites, which she had scratched so much that some had bled.  Her comment was "I must have something in the house."

One woman who refused to contact me on anything other than the online dating site, even after 4 dates.  After that, I presumed she was married.

Another woman who collected cats and was unemployed and kept asking me to speak in a British accent.