Online Dating

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  • blueyellowhorse
    blueyellowhorse Posts: 708 Member
    Online dating guys in my area completely suck. No it doesn't matter what their age is, they all suck. They are all losers. Gosh I really can't wait to move, if I ever get the chance. Please dear lord, get me out of this hellhole! They are so cheap, seriously even the ones who are older than 40 are still cheap as hell. They all just wanna *kitten* you in their dirty *kitten* truck and call it a first date. I'm sorry but I'm not personal blow up doll ready to *kitten* whenever it's convenient for you...I have standards that no one apparently can meet. Btw I didn't even think i had standards. At least take me out for a dollar burger at McDonald's before *kitten* in your old, dirty, smelly truck.
  • praksindiafit
    praksindiafit Posts: 526 Member
    I surprisingly had met / chatted many awesome people ..females online. Most of my long term friends have been girls i met online. I believe there are beautiful people out there..just like you and me. Been on decent and awesome dates too with whom i met online..
  • blueyellowhorse
    blueyellowhorse Posts: 708 Member
    I had a first date at a theme park with a guy that didn't like rides! All the queues were long and I stood in them on my own and was the 'single rider' for everything! Not fun- declined date number 2!!!

    Lol was it his idea to go to the theme park?

    I had said on my profile that a theme park would be fun for a date but it would be safer to go for a drink- he picked up and suggested we went. I thought it was really sweet until he wouldn't go on anything!!

    What a dumbass haha. Don't blame you for not going on date #2.
  • Jojomotivated
    Jojomotivated Posts: 141 Member
    I've always wanted to try online dating, but I was always afraid of being judged for being on a dating site instead of going out to find people like normal 20 year olds. Social anxiety will be the death of me xD
  • lenica
    lenica Posts: 14 Member
    Belle8312 wrote: »
    I read on one guys profile "if we meet up and you don't look like your pictures, I am going to drink until you do...and you're going to pick up the tab"
    I had to message him just because that's one of the most awesome things I've ever read on a profile!

    I think I need to steal this if I get brave enough to try online dating again.
  • The only remotely weird thing that happened to me through online dating was a guy who literally fed himself like he was a momma bird feeding its babies. He threw his head back and dangled the food over his mouth before eating it. It was truly disgusting. Thankfully that was my first and final online dating experience before I met my husband (who I also met online!), because I couldn't have handled any more of those lol.
  • Belle8312
    Belle8312 Posts: 2,151 Member
    Joannah700 wrote: »
    Belle8312 wrote: »
    So kind of a random question, but what would you do in this situation?

    There's a woman I work with and she had some guy stop by her desk to talk to her about a week ago about whatever, I don't know, something related to work. I noticed him, he seemed kind of cute. So I guess when he got back to his desk (he works in a different part of the building) he IM'd my co-worker to ask about me. Who's the "new girl", age, am I single, etc. Well she IM'd and asked me what I thought about him because he was asking about me and wanted to know if he asked me out what would I say. I told her to go ahead and tell him I am available.
    Fast forward to two days later and I had a meeting with one of the bosses, and when I came back he had sent me a contacts request for our IM, IM'd me and sent me a FB friend request.

    First of all, a little overboard? So we started chatting and by the end of the day, I had accepted his friend request.
    Now keep in mind, he works IN MY SAME BUILDING! But he hasn't come by once to talk to me in person and hasn't asked me out. What gives?

    Not only that, but he is crazy into fitness. (Another reason why I am posing the question here. :smiley: )
    Like he is a freak of nature fitness crazy. Triathlons, sticks to a specific meal plan each week, etc.

    Now don't get me wrong, I am working on my fitness and eating, and am doing really well sticking to my calories, etc. And maybe someday I could do triathlons, but right now I am not there. I really don't think I would be able to keep up in the event he did ask me out.

    What do you all think?

    I think he's super shy.

    He had the opportunity to turn around while talking to your co-worker and introduce himself - but he chose not to.

    If you're ok with dating a shy guy - then realize it's going to take time for him to warm up. Some people are always going to be socially anxious. If it becomes serious and you have to introduce him to friends and family? It's going to be an ordeal. If you're cool with that, maybe you can try to ease his way into it - teasingly IM him, I'm going to be going past your cubicle in 5 minutes - want to dramatically lock gazes and say nothing while I walk by?

    Don't know if it would work, but it's progress.

    Yeah, this dude isn't shy. This dude is one of the most self-centered, arrogant, judgmental people I have ever met. This dude will hit on/ask out any female that works in this building. Even if they are married! We chatted for a bit, but he's moved on to the two new girls that work here....both are married and have kids.
    PIECE. OF. CRAP.
  • shiraLA
    shiraLA Posts: 272 Member
    Horrible experiences with online dating. The only positive was that I actually made a couple of friends off of it. Other than that, I will never do it again.
  • irongrinder
    irongrinder Posts: 202 Member
    so would this be a bad time to put out there that I'm looking for a girlfriend?
  • Jessica_L_E
    Jessica_L_E Posts: 1,969 Member
    I went on a second date with a guy last night...who I met online...spent 15-20 minutes texting with his son more like arguing via text and then be openly belched and farted...uh no

    I'm so done lol
  • Jessica_L_E
    Jessica_L_E Posts: 1,969 Member
    so would this be a bad time to put out there that I'm looking for a girlfriend?

    Are you house trained? Listen to simple commands? You don't chew shoes do you? I'm totally kidding! Just went by your profile pic lol
  • cheryld12001
    cheryld12001 Posts: 34 Member
    I had a person message me on a dating site, and said he had a really strange request, then proceeded to tell me that he wanted me to piss on him... Where do these ppl one from?
  • Jessica_L_E
    Jessica_L_E Posts: 1,969 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    then he openly belched and farted

    I can only imagine what it must have been like for the woman who was once married to this gent if he was openly and audibly airing out his gasses on a second date. He probably propped his bare feet on the dinner table during meals and picked at his toes.

    lol yes he was married at one point...
  • danielles19862015
    danielles19862015 Posts: 48 Member
    I have had two bad online dates and have vowed never to do it again. Friend has done it for years and has a plethora of horrid stories. My two are:

    1. Profile picture must have been verrry old as he was at least 50kg heavier...now, it isn't all about looks and all of that but I felt really misled and did not really know how to react. He must have known it would be a surprise for me...

    2. I turned up and he asked me how to get his flatmate to do the washing up, slagged off his trip to South America as being "boring", asked me how to chat girls up in bars and then tried to follow me home. Oh and then got mad when I did not respond to his text saying he had a nice time...?!

    Ugh. Never again.
  • HumboldtFred
    HumboldtFred Posts: 159 Member
    I just created an online profile again after a 3 year break from all dating. I answered eleventy-billion questions, paid the big bucks, screened out and blocked anyone I had prior professional contact with, and hit the matches button. The algorithm picked.....MY EX WIFE as number one, and her girlfriend as number two. The gene-pool out here in the ding-weeds is drying up mighty fast folks, mighty fast.
  • musicandarts
    musicandarts Posts: 187 Member
    edited April 2015
    Belle8312 wrote: »
    Can I just say.....it sucks.

    Worst date with someone you met online...GO!!!

    I met my wife online. We have been happily married for twelve years now. Online dating is no different from meeting someone in a bar. After the first contact, everything is same. On the plus side, online dating allows better screening of candidates.

    The key to online dating is to quickly go to a face-to-face meeting, preferably a quick coffee during the day. Long protracted emails/chats create a false intimacy that can be disappointing.
  • Jojomotivated
    Jojomotivated Posts: 141 Member
    I'm glad this thread got revived again xD
  • kbxiii
    kbxiii Posts: 865 Member
    Worst experience ever.

    I got let down by someone i met online because i was overweight and had long hair. Yes, these were the reasons. I know his cousin and she told me.
  • monstalosta
    monstalosta Posts: 2,248 Member
    kbxiii wrote: »
    Worst experience ever.

    I got let down by someone i met online because i was overweight and had long hair. Yes, these were the reasons. I know his cousin and she told me.

    Wouldn't be the case with me ;)
  • _incogNEATo_
    _incogNEATo_ Posts: 4,537 Member
    kbxiii wrote: »
    Worst experience ever.

    I got let down by someone i met online because i was overweight and had long hair. Yes, these were the reasons. I know his cousin and she told me.

    Wouldn't be the case with me ;)

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  • monstalosta
    monstalosta Posts: 2,248 Member
    kbxiii wrote: »
    Worst experience ever.

    I got let down by someone i met online because i was overweight and had long hair. Yes, these were the reasons. I know his cousin and she told me.

    Wouldn't be the case with me ;)

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    Haters gonna hate, hate, hate...
  • lulucitron
    lulucitron Posts: 366 Member
    Tried it a few times and not a fan. It doesn't allow for chemistry. You can text and get along just super and then meet and nada. Many I find are single for a reason and the nice ones are taken and kept.
  • greco16
    greco16 Posts: 465 Member
    Online dating is great. You hardly ever have to worry about them being normal.
  • siport
    siport Posts: 7,429 Member
    well tbh i have been using dating sites for the last few months now to get back out there and they have gone pretty well. have met some really nice girls and had several second and third dates but then in the end we have not gone further for whatever reason be it me or them.

    i find though that you need to chat to the person on the phone and try and see if you connect then get out for a "first date" or meet for a coffee/drink to see if you actually want to progress with that person. before then having the actual first date activity. I have been Bowling, watched the British superbikes at a race circuit, Rock climbing, Been to a theme Park and had dinners on decent first dates recently.
  • moya_bleh
    moya_bleh Posts: 1,375 Member
    edited April 2015
    Just deleted my profile. Been on POF since March 2013 and I've had not one date in that time. The only attention that I received was from either women in their mid 50s (I've just turned 41) or morbidly obese. Everybody else straight up hated on me for my appearance and/or height (5ft 8ins)

    Let's just say that my confidence is at absolute zero and I've now walked away in the knowledge that I'm never going to meet anybody (unless they're at least 200lbs and ten years older than me, that is!!!) I haven't even had a face-to-face conversation with a woman (and no, family, lifelong platonic friends or cashiers in the shop asking if I need any bags don't count!)
  • PowerKickChic
    PowerKickChic Posts: 108 Member
    I met my husband online BUT I realize we are the exception, not the rule. We met the same day we contacted each other via email/dating site because no matter what anyone says, you really don't know someone until you meet them in person(even on skype). Body reactions and vibes are sooo important.

    We were engaged a week later and married less than a year after that. We will have our 15th wedding anniversary next January <3

    Don't give up hope ;)
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    I had a first date from an online connection on Saturday. It was my first one in about 6 months of being on three different sites.

    I get: you're very active (from someone who described himself as boring- for real), you're going to give me a heart attack (from someone 5 years older, upon seeing me in a short skirt). Some of the pithy first contacts include: you can contact me if you'd like and, I like your picture (I'm really bowled over by their effort)

    Anyway, I had a nice time on Saturday. He wasn't the best looking guy I've ever met, but he was funny and intelligent and if I hear from him again, I would be pleased. If I hear from him again, I'll also be surprised, but you never knlow.

    Why would you be surprised to hear from him again if you had a nice time? If you're interested, it wouldn't hurt to tell him you enjoyed the date and give a suggestion for a second one.

    I may do that. ;-)

    So, I did that. I actually suggested going to an event together the coming weekend And I got: Oh, I have a friend in town, but enjoy yourself. And now it's been a month and I'd forgotten about the whole thing, but I never heard from him again.

    On OurTime, you can buy time to promote yourself, which I've done because it's pretty reasonably priced. The results have been more of the same (see above) or non existent.

    When this subscription runs out, I'm not renewing.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    Online flirting? Online dating? UUUUUmmmmm....

    Never give your real name, location and make sure your profile picture is not you.. And never a full body shot of your self..
  • monstalosta
    monstalosta Posts: 2,248 Member
    With you....sure ;)
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    gia07 wrote: »
    Online flirting? Online dating? UUUUUmmmmm....

    Never give your real name, location and make sure your profile picture is not you.. And never a full body shot of your self..

    That is the guide to getting zero dates right?