What nobody tells you about losing weight
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CaliforniaRower wrote: »Nobody told me that I have to be my own biggest supporter. My own biggest fan. And that if I didn't want others to belittle, berate, or beat me down for not the greatest choices, then I couldn't do it to myself.
I can't be hoping for affirmations from others or for others to notice.
I didn't know how many people could/would give "back-handed" compliments. Or how painful they would be.
I didn't know how strong, committed, dedicated, and tenacious I am. I do now.
This post brought tears to my eyes. I can totally relate. Thanks for writing this.
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+ You realize you don't need to go into the handicap stall in the bathroom any more to feel like you have enough room. Strange things like that.
Literally this is me now! I still have 78 to lose (current weight loss=35lbs!) And i always went into the handicap stall. Now i go in the normal ones!4 -
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- Old clothes start looking baggy and I feel more comfortable in gym clothes:D
- I've started to wear less make-up because my skin is in a lot better condition
- That pencil skirt and those crop tops are finally welcome to my closet
- I get so much more attention from men, which is flattering but I find it slightly confusing as I'm not used to it at all!
- Rest days feel like torture. I just want to work out!!!
- I used to love french fries but now even the smell makes me feel ill.
- I'm so much more energetic
- Eating healthy is no longer something I try to do - it's a lifestyle. I don't even crave junk food anymore!8 -
LadyDi632015 wrote: »I love this thread! I remember finding whatever that bone is below the collarbone...I thought I had a tumor for about a week before I realized what it was! Duh!
I knew it wasn't anything wrong when I caught a glimpse of mine but it was great!2 -
SingRunTing wrote: »Serious for a second:
- Realizing that it wasn't my weight that was making me unhappy. There was something broken in my head. Once I fixed that, I was able to start losing the weight. I had to learn to love myself so that I could lose weight, instead of losing weight so that I could love myself.
Not so serious:
- Waking up in the morning and feeling my hip bones. I've never felt them before. I didn't realize how high up into my abdomen they go!
- Looking forward to my workouts (and feeling miserable if I miss them)
- Realizing that I can actually eat cake and ice cream, as long as I fit them into my calories. I went years without eating them or feeling guilty when I did. I don't feel guilty about food any more.
- Being able to breathe easier. I don't get winded walking anymore. I actually like to park on the other side of the parking lot. I don't have to hold my breath when I tie my shoes.
- Sleeping better. I think I used to have a touch of sleep apnea (I would snore really bad and was always tired no matter how long I slept). I just feel better rested and actually wake up earlier without being so cranky.
- Putting on a pair of pants that I bought two weeks ago and having them be a little loose. It's kind of annoying, but feels good too.
- Realizing that my brain doesn't keep up with my weight loss. If I have big clothes in the house, I will wear them. I have to donate them in order for me to not wear them. I have a box of clothes in smaller sizes that were handed down to me. I have to force myself to try them on once a month, or I will never think that they will fit me (even though I see the previous bullet point happen).
That's a great quote---"there was something broken in my head...." I think there's a lot of that out there!5 -
mstiffluvspink wrote: »The fact that eating all this wonderful healthy food gives you GAS! All I do is FART and it smells HORRIBLE!....Cmon I cant be the only one LOL
You're not the only one, you're the only BRAVE one!3 -
sjadev1108 wrote: »I love this thread because I notice weird things all the time:
-I don't need to use the exceptionally large bath towels I bought because they are the only ones that covered me
-I don't have to lift up rolls to shave certain intimate parts
-I can snap my bras much more easily
-I feel smaller in people's arms when they hug me
-I have to stop myself from saying things to people who talk about losing weight but then walk in my office with a piece of cake
-I no longer have perpetual heartburn
-I snore significantly less (I'm told lol)
-I got rid of many toxic people and situations
-Figuring out that most of the reasons I held on weight, or ate like crap was emotional and dealing with those issues from my past
-Sometimes this journey is lonely as you realize the people you were around before are negative and subconsiously liked you fat, so you removed yourself.....or they removed themselves because hearing about calories, the gym and your success bothers them....or you just ran out of time to connect between the gym and the grocery and the rest of life
-how my mom would try to take credit because of the "constructive criticism" she's given me for years about my weight
-Not recognizing my own body in the mirror sometimes
-finding a zest for challenging myself with this journey and in other things
I am sure I'll think of more, but this is it for now.....congratulations to everyone on this
"wild ride" with their successes:)
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PrettyPearl88 wrote: »But on a much more serious note, what shocked me the most about losing weight was...myself. I've heard that losing weight gives you confidence, but no one told me that weight loss would give me a whole new personality. Being overweight my ENTIRE life, I never realized how much my weight and insecurities affected my personality. I was hiding behind my weight my whole life and I never even knew it. Once the weight came off, the true me that had been hiding for years emerged. And she is radically different from the person I always thought I was! It's been an interesting journey getting to know this new me!
I love this and can't wait to get to this point. I can feel myself coming out of my shell a little bit but have a way to go. Reading your post gives me inspiration. When I was at my biggest I constantly had a voice in the back of my head telling me that I shouldn't do anything that would embarrass myself to the point of being made fun of for my weight or insulted because of it. I was afraid if I gave an opinion on a topic or started talking others would wonder why the ugly fat chick was talking to them. So, this resulted in me withdrawing from others unless they showed me kindness immediately. In my head, the people who weren't nice to me as soon as they met me didn't like me because I was fat. The nice people were able to see through it. Now, I really don't feel this way. Except for the fact that I am still very quiet and lack a lot of confidence. I just don't have the thoughts about being disliked die to my weight anymore. I am excited and hope I can gain the confidence as a result of losing the weight.
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IncredibleShrinkingSandy wrote: »PrettyPearl88 wrote: »But on a much more serious note, what shocked me the most about losing weight was...myself. I've heard that losing weight gives you confidence, but no one told me that weight loss would give me a whole new personality. Being overweight my ENTIRE life, I never realized how much my weight and insecurities affected my personality. I was hiding behind my weight my whole life and I never even knew it. Once the weight came off, the true me that had been hiding for years emerged. And she is radically different from the person I always thought I was! It's been an interesting journey getting to know this new me!
I love this and can't wait to get to this point. I can feel myself coming out of my shell a little bit but have a way to go. Reading your post gives me inspiration. When I was at my biggest I constantly had a voice in the back of my head telling me that I shouldn't do anything that would embarrass myself to the point of being made fun of for my weight or insulted because of it. I was afraid if I gave an opinion on a topic or started talking others would wonder why the ugly fat chick was talking to them. So, this resulted in me withdrawing from others unless they showed me kindness immediately. In my head, the people who weren't nice to me as soon as they met me didn't like me because I was fat. The nice people were able to see through it. Now, I really don't feel this way. Except for the fact that I am still very quiet and lack a lot of confidence. I just don't have the thoughts about being disliked die to my weight anymore. I am excited and hope I can gain the confidence as a result of losing the weight.
I lived for years listening to those same voices and withdrawing from everyone and everything. Shut those voices down and keep working hard towards your goal. You will get there and you'll slowly but surely come out of your shell. And when you finally do, you'll feel so liberated! All of the sacrifices will be worth it in the end! Don't give up! You can do this! *hugs*
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mstiffluvspink wrote: »The fact that eating all this wonderful healthy food gives you GAS! All I do is FART and it smells HORRIBLE!....Cmon I cant be the only one LOL
So glad someone mentioned this, I haven't lost much at all (5lbs since starting a month ago) but ive noticed w/ eating healthier I usually have a higher fiber intake naturally --which is good, but also causes more toots. At work it's embarrassing but thankfully Im usually sitting alone at a console away from others. The first couple nights this happened I would blush every time. Then I realized its gonna happen with the healthier food choices. And that's okay. Embrace it and carry spray if need be.3 -
I've lost only 32 lbs so far but I've noticed more women looking at me and flirting. I also seem to intimidate more guys. Guys have gone out of their way to greet/acknowledge me. The other day I was walking and some guy walked ahead of me real quick and opened a door for me. I thought this was weird.
I've had an improvement with back and knee pain since dropping weight and strengthening muscle.7 -
A combination of losing 58 pounds, eating healthily and exercising 600 calories a day has totally transformed me physically, but above all, mentally. I have so much more drive, ambition and I feel organised and in control of my life. Nobody told me that serious phobias would go away, or that I would get back to the discipline of writing and publish my first novel for adults! It is definitely about so much more than just looking good in clothes. I am 65 now and hope to get younger each year!17
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@cityjaneLondon That's a great NSV, the positive power of the mind.2
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- That your mind will constantly play tricks on you. I take the subway and I'll look at a seat between 2 people and gauge if I will even fit. Once I do sit, I'll notice that I'll easily have an inch of space on each side, like, What?!
- That sometimes you have to be okay with being on this journey on your own. I secretly enjoy working out alone. It's hard to deal with people who say they want to change but always make excuses to not go to the gym AND try to sabotage you in the process. BYE, FELICIA!
- That your family will always think you are either too fat or too thin, meh.
- Being able to climb, jump, skip, run with your kids is the most incredible feeling in the world.
- That your husband will try to kick up his health factor just because he wants to make sure you keep your eyes on him and not some buff jockey type at the gym (LOL, as if I pay attention to anything else but my form and dope muscles!).
- That it's okay to not always feel victorious but as long as you keep at it you are WINNING!30 -
Being able to pull down your pants and realizing you didn't unbutton them!16
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- That your mind will constantly play tricks on you. I take the subway and I'll look at a seat between 2 people and gauge if I will even fit. Once I do sit, I'll notice that I'll easily have an inch of space on each side, like, What?!
- That sometimes you have to be okay with being on this journey on your own. I secretly enjoy working out alone. It's hard to deal with people who say they want to change but always make excuses to not go to the gym AND try to sabotage you in the process. BYE, FELICIA!
- That your family will always think you are either too fat or too thin, meh.
- That it's okay to not always feel victorious but as long as you keep at it you are WINNING!
THIS ALL OF THIS!!
I love working out by myself because i know that i will actually do something there. love my friends but sometimes they chicken out going to the gym lol
I already lost 25+ lbs and with all yall saying that your cold all the time....im naturally cold all the time and now im officially afraid of winter lol
see my abs wanting to come in, still gotta gut but those 2 lines on the sides, oh yeah, those are abs forming!
see just little changes here and there.
i sweat alot, like alot when working out. i thought i was a "sweater" until i started drinking all this water
im not afraid to cook, im actually starting to like it, healthier options for the win!!
this topic is so motivating!! Keep it up ladies and gents!
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- That your mind will constantly play tricks on you. I take the subway and I'll look at a seat between 2 people and gauge if I will even fit. Once I do sit, I'll notice that I'll easily have an inch of space on each side, like, What?!
- That sometimes you have to be okay with being on this journey on your own. I secretly enjoy working out alone. It's hard to deal with people who say they want to change but always make excuses to not go to the gym AND try to sabotage you in the process. BYE, FELICIA!
- That your family will always think you are either too fat or too thin, meh.
- Being able to climb, jump, skip, run with your kids is the most incredible feeling in the world.
- That your husband will try to kick up his health factor just because he wants to make sure you keep your eyes on him and not some buff jockey type at the gym (LOL, as if I pay attention to anything else but my form and dope muscles!).
- That it's okay to not always feel victorious but as long as you keep at it you are WINNING!
The family thing... often I've been asked if I'm pregnant and why I am fat... For this Easter my uncle took a look at me and said, 'you got fatter' in his usual mocking smile. When I had lost 32 lbs since we last met! Then I argued with him and took off my sweater. Then he said, 'Well, now you're just sucking in'. Which I wasn't case closed! I know he's bigger than me, so I never understood why he and the other family members criticize me. Instead making evil comments he should congratulate me or keep his mouth shut. I wonder if my family is so focused on people's weight because they are uncomfortable with their bodies? When one of my cousins lost weight I congratulated her. Especially because she looks so much happier.
My mind does tricks with me as well! Lately its been with clothes, I have been trying on clothes and for some reason I want to give up when my arms go in. It's hard to explain, but I went from morbidly obese to overweight, so when I used to put my arms in a shirt there was certain length my arms would stretch while my head is in the shirt; before it goes through the hole. Now my arms stop and are restrained by the shirt, and I tell myself, 'this isn't going to fit' and it does and sometimes it loose.
' That it's okay to not always feel victorious but as long as you keep at it you are WINNING!'
I love this very inspirational!
Losing weight is worth it, I feel so much better! I am not done yet, but I am not giving up either!8
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