What nobody tells you about losing weight

Lebatsirk

RaeBeeBaby wrote: »

Buy separates instead of dresses.

hehe that's a very sensible suggestion! I might find the boobs annoying, but my husband is quite happy that I'm not losing them just yet

Fatgirlontheloose

It's called ketosis! It's apart of losing weight...

Love that feeling!

S_Evanson613

I am only starting my journey and only down 14 lbs with 28 more to go, but i have already noticed that my boyfriend is not extremely supportive. While he wants me to do what will make me happy (and he is starting to track food also) he actually told me last night that if this starts to take over my life he won't deal with that.

Mind you, I have been on this journey now for 2 months - i have never pushed working out or healthy food on him. If he wants to go out to eat, we go, and i just order something healthier instead of a burger. Unfortunately, my ideal body type is not what he would like me to look like. I want a lean body with muscle definition (not bulky), but he says any muscle showing on a girl is gross. I'm hoping that once I start slimming out and he sees how much happier I am he will realize this is a GOOD thing and not something to "take over my life" but just be a part of my life.

Also, i am SO sick and tired of explaining to people that i will not be GAINING muscle or looking like a man with the amount of cals i eat. Just because I lift does not mean i will be bulky and veiny. So frustrating.

andympanda

That people will get upset when you don't eat 3 portions of calorie dense food.

AnxiousPenman

- That, no matter how much you lose, people that have *never* had any lasting weight loss success will tell you you're doing it wrong and then tell you how to do it right.

PaulaWallaDingDong

Chandrajv wrote: »

cakegoddess1 wrote: »

Being ACTUALLY handicapped, I get really annoyed when large girls take the handicapped stall. It's NOT for you...it's for us who really need it. Please...a little respect.

With all due respect, as the daughter and niece of longtime wheelchair bound women (advanced MS), you are incorrect in your statement. The only handicapped-related facility that is exclusively for handicapped users (and is thus protected by law) is handicapped parking. Ramps, toilets, elevators, support bars, and so on are available for use by anybody, including the able bodied. They are made available because some handicapped people are not physically able to use the regular facilities or entrances, stairs, etc., but they are not reserved for the exclusive use of disabled people. If the handicap bathroom stall is the only one available, I will use it with no qualms or guilt whatsoever, and I know that my mother and aunt would not begrudge that in the slightest. Now, if there is a disabled lady waiting for a stall, I would certainly leave the handicap stall open for her, but only in the same way as I would encourage an elderly lady to go ahead of me in line. It's common courtesy, not entitlement. I'm sorry, but as one who lives closely with disabled people, I find your attitude disappointing.

Thank you. I was biting my tongue on this, because I can get very witchy when I go on a rant. You said it nicely. Sorry, but I don't want my fat butt rubbing all over the wall of a public restroom stall, and neither does anyone else.

PaulaWallaDingDong

softballgirl712 wrote: »

Feeling comfortable enough to say to others when you are hungry. Sounds crazy but I used to never announce it because I thought everyone would think "of course you are"

Same for me. I always have to justify it with "I haven't eaten since x-o'clock" or else I'm just a piggy who likes to eat.

Kalici

PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »

softballgirl712 wrote: »

Feeling comfortable enough to say to others when you are hungry. Sounds crazy but I used to never announce it because I thought everyone would think "of course you are"

Same for me. I always have to justify it with "I haven't eaten since x-o'clock" or else I'm just a piggy who likes to eat.

Yep, me too. Also I love your name.

rayw89

aksteve777 wrote: »

That's it's not "working out" but about proper diet and calorie deficit. Working out is the next but not until you control input.

This is so true. I had been working out for months before I cut calories, and there was no weight loss. I like to think it prevented even more weight gain, but who knows. As soon as I paired calorie deficit with that exercise though, the pounds started coming off in no time. 80-20. It's 80% diet and 20% exercise, for sure.

rayw89

Oh, and that my in-laws didn't notice a difference, but the lady who works at my apt. office noticed I'd lost weight! And she called me "skinny" today, haha.

rayw89

@S_Evanson613: Just don't let him influence your goals. Your body, mind, and spirit are not another's to control. Your happiness is important.

NickJustin44

Everything around weight loss seems to be tied up with emotions for me. I realize that my workout and eating habits change depending upon that. Its not just words, sticking to a plan is the most important thing you can do. The best piece of advice for working out is change into your workout clothes before you decide to work out or not. I've found that once I'm dressed and ready to go, there is no turning back.

Also the clothes. I'm thrilled to be losing weight, just not sure I can afford buying new clothes every couple of months.

Finally, the sleep. Its awesome and I almost always wake up energized and ready to go.

marlanaperry

yesimpson wrote: »

brightresolve wrote: »

How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"

I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...

This winds me up too... Some people genuinely don't seem able to connect that those behaviours are why you look the way you do!

I got that at the gym once from a guy who was hitting on me. He told me I looked too good to need to be at the gym...and while on one hand it was a compliment, on the other it really upset me because the only reason I'm not a whale is because I work out and eat right most of the time. Totally ignorant of the hard work it takes, especially for us women with slower metabolisms.

crazygooselady

They don't tell you that it starts to feel good to be a little hungry, and that eating amounts of what you used to eat will make you feel I'll.

scaryg53

I've found that people love to be discouraging. A supervisor at work said, "you're so tiny, don't worry, you'll gain it all back." She also said, "you're starting to look frail." Why would you tell someone who has lost weight that they are going to gain it all back?!

SamTJones

How loose my clothing really are. They flap in the wind.

SamTJones

sc0tt14 wrote: »

The confidence boost and projecting it onto others!!!

Yes, indeed. My confidence goes through the roof when I'm losing weight.

rayw89

NickJustin44 wrote: »

The best piece of advice for working out is change into your workout clothes before you decide to work out or not. I've found that once I'm dressed and ready to go, there is no turning back.

This is so true! In the beginning of my journey I did just this! It works, once I'd gotten dressed I had to go. (*)

BodyByBex

crazygooselady wrote: »

They don't tell you that it starts to feel good to be a little hungry, and that eating amounts of what you used to eat will make you feel I'll.

This.

gingertreat

Two years ago I didn't dare to pin my hair up because I felt my face (note: fat cheeks melding into my neck) would be too exposed. Now I'm totally fine with bunning it, even on public transport!

The amount of times I have to pee per day!! I drink about 3L per day now. I think I pee every hour or maybe more...