What nobody tells you about losing weight
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PrettyPearl88 wrote: »But on a much more serious note, what shocked me the most about losing weight was...myself. I've heard that losing weight gives you confidence, but no one told me that weight loss would give me a whole new personality. Being overweight my ENTIRE life, I never realized how much my weight and insecurities affected my personality. I was hiding behind my weight my whole life and I never even knew it. Once the weight came off, the true me that had been hiding for years emerged. And she is radically different from the person I always thought I was! It's been an interesting journey getting to know this new me!
I love this and can't wait to get to this point. I can feel myself coming out of my shell a little bit but have a way to go. Reading your post gives me inspiration. When I was at my biggest I constantly had a voice in the back of my head telling me that I shouldn't do anything that would embarrass myself to the point of being made fun of for my weight or insulted because of it. I was afraid if I gave an opinion on a topic or started talking others would wonder why the ugly fat chick was talking to them. So, this resulted in me withdrawing from others unless they showed me kindness immediately. In my head, the people who weren't nice to me as soon as they met me didn't like me because I was fat. The nice people were able to see through it. Now, I really don't feel this way. Except for the fact that I am still very quiet and lack a lot of confidence. I just don't have the thoughts about being disliked die to my weight anymore. I am excited and hope I can gain the confidence as a result of losing the weight.
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IncredibleShrinkingSandy wrote: »PrettyPearl88 wrote: »But on a much more serious note, what shocked me the most about losing weight was...myself. I've heard that losing weight gives you confidence, but no one told me that weight loss would give me a whole new personality. Being overweight my ENTIRE life, I never realized how much my weight and insecurities affected my personality. I was hiding behind my weight my whole life and I never even knew it. Once the weight came off, the true me that had been hiding for years emerged. And she is radically different from the person I always thought I was! It's been an interesting journey getting to know this new me!
I love this and can't wait to get to this point. I can feel myself coming out of my shell a little bit but have a way to go. Reading your post gives me inspiration. When I was at my biggest I constantly had a voice in the back of my head telling me that I shouldn't do anything that would embarrass myself to the point of being made fun of for my weight or insulted because of it. I was afraid if I gave an opinion on a topic or started talking others would wonder why the ugly fat chick was talking to them. So, this resulted in me withdrawing from others unless they showed me kindness immediately. In my head, the people who weren't nice to me as soon as they met me didn't like me because I was fat. The nice people were able to see through it. Now, I really don't feel this way. Except for the fact that I am still very quiet and lack a lot of confidence. I just don't have the thoughts about being disliked die to my weight anymore. I am excited and hope I can gain the confidence as a result of losing the weight.
I lived for years listening to those same voices and withdrawing from everyone and everything. Shut those voices down and keep working hard towards your goal. You will get there and you'll slowly but surely come out of your shell. And when you finally do, you'll feel so liberated! All of the sacrifices will be worth it in the end! Don't give up! You can do this! *hugs*
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mstiffluvspink wrote: »The fact that eating all this wonderful healthy food gives you GAS! All I do is FART and it smells HORRIBLE!....Cmon I cant be the only one LOL
So glad someone mentioned this, I haven't lost much at all (5lbs since starting a month ago) but ive noticed w/ eating healthier I usually have a higher fiber intake naturally --which is good, but also causes more toots. At work it's embarrassing but thankfully Im usually sitting alone at a console away from others. The first couple nights this happened I would blush every time. Then I realized its gonna happen with the healthier food choices. And that's okay. Embrace it and carry spray if need be.3 -
I've lost only 32 lbs so far but I've noticed more women looking at me and flirting. I also seem to intimidate more guys. Guys have gone out of their way to greet/acknowledge me. The other day I was walking and some guy walked ahead of me real quick and opened a door for me. I thought this was weird.
I've had an improvement with back and knee pain since dropping weight and strengthening muscle.7 -
A combination of losing 58 pounds, eating healthily and exercising 600 calories a day has totally transformed me physically, but above all, mentally. I have so much more drive, ambition and I feel organised and in control of my life. Nobody told me that serious phobias would go away, or that I would get back to the discipline of writing and publish my first novel for adults! It is definitely about so much more than just looking good in clothes. I am 65 now and hope to get younger each year!17
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@cityjaneLondon That's a great NSV, the positive power of the mind.2
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- That your mind will constantly play tricks on you. I take the subway and I'll look at a seat between 2 people and gauge if I will even fit. Once I do sit, I'll notice that I'll easily have an inch of space on each side, like, What?!
- That sometimes you have to be okay with being on this journey on your own. I secretly enjoy working out alone. It's hard to deal with people who say they want to change but always make excuses to not go to the gym AND try to sabotage you in the process. BYE, FELICIA!
- That your family will always think you are either too fat or too thin, meh.
- Being able to climb, jump, skip, run with your kids is the most incredible feeling in the world.
- That your husband will try to kick up his health factor just because he wants to make sure you keep your eyes on him and not some buff jockey type at the gym (LOL, as if I pay attention to anything else but my form and dope muscles!).
- That it's okay to not always feel victorious but as long as you keep at it you are WINNING!30 -
Being able to pull down your pants and realizing you didn't unbutton them!16
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- That your mind will constantly play tricks on you. I take the subway and I'll look at a seat between 2 people and gauge if I will even fit. Once I do sit, I'll notice that I'll easily have an inch of space on each side, like, What?!
- That sometimes you have to be okay with being on this journey on your own. I secretly enjoy working out alone. It's hard to deal with people who say they want to change but always make excuses to not go to the gym AND try to sabotage you in the process. BYE, FELICIA!
- That your family will always think you are either too fat or too thin, meh.
- That it's okay to not always feel victorious but as long as you keep at it you are WINNING!
THIS ALL OF THIS!!
I love working out by myself because i know that i will actually do something there. love my friends but sometimes they chicken out going to the gym lol
I already lost 25+ lbs and with all yall saying that your cold all the time....im naturally cold all the time and now im officially afraid of winter lol
see my abs wanting to come in, still gotta gut but those 2 lines on the sides, oh yeah, those are abs forming!
see just little changes here and there.
i sweat alot, like alot when working out. i thought i was a "sweater" until i started drinking all this water
im not afraid to cook, im actually starting to like it, healthier options for the win!!
this topic is so motivating!! Keep it up ladies and gents!
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- That your mind will constantly play tricks on you. I take the subway and I'll look at a seat between 2 people and gauge if I will even fit. Once I do sit, I'll notice that I'll easily have an inch of space on each side, like, What?!
- That sometimes you have to be okay with being on this journey on your own. I secretly enjoy working out alone. It's hard to deal with people who say they want to change but always make excuses to not go to the gym AND try to sabotage you in the process. BYE, FELICIA!
- That your family will always think you are either too fat or too thin, meh.
- Being able to climb, jump, skip, run with your kids is the most incredible feeling in the world.
- That your husband will try to kick up his health factor just because he wants to make sure you keep your eyes on him and not some buff jockey type at the gym (LOL, as if I pay attention to anything else but my form and dope muscles!).
- That it's okay to not always feel victorious but as long as you keep at it you are WINNING!
The family thing... often I've been asked if I'm pregnant and why I am fat... For this Easter my uncle took a look at me and said, 'you got fatter' in his usual mocking smile. When I had lost 32 lbs since we last met! Then I argued with him and took off my sweater. Then he said, 'Well, now you're just sucking in'. Which I wasn't case closed! I know he's bigger than me, so I never understood why he and the other family members criticize me. Instead making evil comments he should congratulate me or keep his mouth shut. I wonder if my family is so focused on people's weight because they are uncomfortable with their bodies? When one of my cousins lost weight I congratulated her. Especially because she looks so much happier.
My mind does tricks with me as well! Lately its been with clothes, I have been trying on clothes and for some reason I want to give up when my arms go in. It's hard to explain, but I went from morbidly obese to overweight, so when I used to put my arms in a shirt there was certain length my arms would stretch while my head is in the shirt; before it goes through the hole. Now my arms stop and are restrained by the shirt, and I tell myself, 'this isn't going to fit' and it does and sometimes it loose.
' That it's okay to not always feel victorious but as long as you keep at it you are WINNING!'
I love this very inspirational!
Losing weight is worth it, I feel so much better! I am not done yet, but I am not giving up either!8 -
I suspect that I've finally breached that plateau I was stuck on for the past two months. Why? I've started to feel my bones, and not always in a good way either. Sitting is more uncomfortable, but so is resting my wrists against my computer when writing, or leaning over my desk while studying. As someone who was restless before the weight loss, this doesn't exactly help me during exam times where I, like it or not, have to spend a lot of time in front of my books.
And I've started appreciating how nice backs, shoulders and arms look, and that those are areas of myself that I am very pleased with. I had no idea that lifting, even when aiming towards improving my legs (that I've never been happy with) would lead to other areas looking much nicer. Very welcome change!4 -
PrettyPearl88 wrote: »How has it affected your relationships in a negative way?
For me, the change has had mostly a positive effect. I don't have as much in common with a few of my old friends anymore, but I was never really THAT close to those specific people anyway. My relationships with my closest and dearest friends have only grown stronger with my new confidence and self-esteem.
Primarily with my SO. It's changed our relationship with me having so much more confidence. We are working on finding a new equilibrium, which is tough. Primarily my other ones are ok, besides a few who got jealous, but like you said, I wasn't that close to them anyway.4 -
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Doctors and nurses who you are supposed to turn to for advice and medical care will ask you how you lost weight. When you tell them they will act confused, look like concussed kittens and ask, "That's all?" Every time I tell one of them that I'm also lifting heavy they get this smirk on their faces and inevitably ask me if I'm lifting 5lb dumbbells. I sort of hate them all.10
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I have one that made me aware that despite losing over 90lbs I still have some unconscious maneuvers (? not sure if that's the right word) I still do as if I was 90lbs heavier.
Hubs came home with an upgraded television last night which has a much larger screen than our old tv, and while he was setting it up (the tv was off) I saw my reflection on the tv screen, I was "in frame", and got really uncomfortable and felt an urge to move to get out of frame, but then I realized that where I was positioned at that moment in our living room was because, on our smaller tv if it was off, I would not be in frame.
It's like there are these position markers that my brain took note of, where I knew it's safe to stand or sit to avoid my reflection, even in the television, and the new larger tv screwed that all up.
The good thing about it was that I looked alright, my reflection wasn't embarrassing to me or anything, but at one time it was, and it seems I am still doing some unconscious things/behaviors/maneuvers as if my body still does embarrass me.10 -
I'm nowhere near goal yet, but one thing I have noticed is, um.... how much I touch myself in the morning! Not in a sexual way, more like "I think I got smaller overnight, there was more cushioning here yesterday!!"9
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Once you reach your goal weight, it isn't over. You still have to watch what you eat and workout 5-6 days a week. That too much sodium causes your body to hold onto water and sabotages your weight loss.
Shopping is so much fun!! Especially when you pick out the new smaller size and find it's too big!!
It's not just about the scale, it's about getting healthy and feeling so much lighter!
Too much eating out can impede your weight loss even if you choose healthy low calorie menu items because of the high sodium content.
That the social aspect of weight loss is very energizing and very encouraging. I am talking about connecting with others who have the same health and fitness goals for their life as you do.4 -
That it's easier to delay putting food into my mouth if I'm unsure what I'm hungry for. And that I'll have the patience to wait for it while it cooks once I figure it out.
That the first time I ran I wanted the ENTIRE WORLD to know. I wanted to scream it out loud that I just RAN!!!
I'm learning just how much I want this. And how much I LOVE to cook!
All that negative self talk was nothing more than repeating what others had said about me and NONE of it was true.
The limits I believed I had are temporary and self-imposed. I never thought I'd run again. But I did yesterday. Blew my mind! Now I know...the only limits I have are the ones I place on myself, therefore, I now have NO LIMITS.
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I had to buy a new belt. Not just because my other one was too big but because it looked terrible. Before I wouldn't notice how terrible I looked because my gut was hanging over it anyway4
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That the day will come when you realize you have to go swimsuit shopping, and you're (almost) looking forward to it.5
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What a cool thread!
The icky feeling you get when you go off healthy eating and consume calorie- and fat-laden foods. That's what happened on my birthday. Hubby took me to our favorite Mexican restaurant, and I was looking forward to it all day! And I chowed down, believe me. Then we came home to cake and ice cream, which I had not had since his birthday, months before.
Afterwards, I felt SO SICK! Couldn't wait to eat good-for-you meals the next day.
The unbelievable satisfaction I feel after hitting the gym and lifting and doing cardio for about 2 hours. Exhausted but on such a high! I can't imagine ever going back to my old lifestyle.6 -
That guys who never gave you the time of day when you were heavy, are suddenly interested in talking to you. But you see past their game and aren't interested in them. 21
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I love this thread! Just started my journey, but I can't wait to have NSV's like these!4
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PrettyPearl88 wrote: »IncredibleShrinkingSandy wrote: »PrettyPearl88 wrote: »I lived for years listening to those same voices and withdrawing from everyone and everything. Shut those voices down and keep working hard towards your goal. You will get there and you'll slowly but surely come out of your shell. And when you finally do, you'll feel so liberated! All of the sacrifices will be worth it in the end! Don't give up! You can do this! *hugs*
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MichaelVakili wrote: »-Also when you start taking care of yourself ,you inspire other people to train / to have healthier habits . Which inspires you to continue doing what you do (beautiful circle )
My good friend who HATES exercising (If exercise was a wounded animal in need of some tlc, she'd walk around it!) told me that she wants to start taking better care of herself and that I am inspiring her to start doing more. I felt like I was on top of the world at that moment!11 -
Frappleberry wrote: »My belly used to rise up out of the bath water even when the bath was filled to the top, that does not happen anymore!
This is one of my major goals as I loooove to take baths.
I've noticed that, like others have said, if I don't get in a workout I am either angry or start to feel down. Today for example was a "rest day" but I had to do just a few sets of weight lifting.
Again, as others have said, junk food is starting to just taste gross. I bought a bag of cheetos to go with my sandwich and couldn't even finish it. Pop is getting easier to give up- I went from drinking at least one bottle a day (if not more) to maybe one a week. Usually it will last me more than one day now.
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Frappleberry wrote: »My belly used to rise up out of the bath water even when the bath was filled to the top, that does not happen anymore!
This is one of my major goals as I loooove to take baths.
I took a bath last Sunday night and it was kind of uncomfortable. I do only have a combination shower/bathtub instead of a dedicated tub, so that might be an issue. All I know is that I could feel how bony my butt has become
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that... i can't wait til the weight comes off so i can go and eat it all back again 3
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Here is a couple of mine:
- Loose skin is much easier to conceal than a fat belly/*kitten*.
- Bad food = smelly as poops. In fact, my tummy gets very upset if I eat bad food a couple of days in a row. Hello gas. I never realised before I ate healthy that there was even something wrong with me.
- People will not recognise you - I finished losing weight 2 years ago and still get compliments/shocked looks
- Clothes shopping is just as hard at a size 8 as it is at a size 18. Just less depressing. It also makes it longer. Instead of having only two shops to find nothing to wear you have 40 shops to find nothing to wear.
- You cannot MAKE someone else lose weight this is the hardest one to accept. I wish my Partner would JFDI.
- Exercise is, shockingly, fun sometimes. Not so much when you are overweight but as you get fitter it becomes more enjoyable
- Getting used to your new body takes a long time. I am still shocked when I get a size 8 off the rack, try it on, and this skinny woman looks back at me. I still have no idea what looks good on me so I have to try alot of things. I still feel fat.16
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