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I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.nicsflyingcircus wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example
). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!
you are seriously awesome, thank you
Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.
My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.
We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.
i absolutely detest flowers.
most ppl who know me, know this.
of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.
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Glinda1971 wrote: »The trypophobia is the weirdest one. Why am I afraid of things with small holes in them?
Ahh, I admitted to that earlier in this thread and warned people not to google it. I hate looking at those pictures! I'm in agreement with you on that one.
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omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
O M G
yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...
I almost want to look. But the reactions have been unanimous so I think I'll spare myself.
The first thing I thought of with tiny holes was a colander. Specifically, The World's Most Useless Colander, which I happen to own and it's only good for draining something really fine because it has TINY HOLES. (My SO insists on using it to drain pasta, which is incredibly ineffective, and I hate watery pasta but I can't seem to steer him toward one of the other two perfectly normal colanders. Sigh.) Anyway, the colander is annoying but not exactly horrifying or freakish so I assume no one is googling pictures of my colander.
No it's organic things. Like lotus pods. Tiny bubbles all together. Stuff like that.
Or if you've had a pilleated woodpecker have a go at a tree.
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Ok, I had to Google. I obviously don't have it - all I see is bad photoshop jobs.Glinda1971 wrote: »
omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
O M G
yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...
I almost want to look. But the reactions have been unanimous so I think I'll spare myself.
The first thing I thought of with tiny holes was a colander. Specifically, The World's Most Useless Colander, which I happen to own and it's only good for draining something really fine because it has TINY HOLES. (My SO insists on using it to drain pasta, which is incredibly ineffective, and I hate watery pasta but I can't seem to steer him toward one of the other two perfectly normal colanders. Sigh.) Anyway, the colander is annoying but not exactly horrifying or freakish so I assume no one is googling pictures of my colander.
No it's organic things. Like lotus pods. Tiny bubbles all together. Stuff like that.
Or if you've had a pilleated woodpecker have a go at a tree.
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noaddedsugarx wrote: »It's been the most traumatic day. I've mentioned here before about being a full time carer for my Grandma who suffers with dementia.
Today she had a bad fall from the top to the very bottom of the stairs. She hit her head and has suffered bruising and bleeding to the brain and fractured her skull in two places along with breaking her elbow. The Doctors say there's nothing they can do but to wait it out and see if the bruising on her brain heals itself within the next 48-72 hours and her condition is going to get worse before/if it gets better. If it does heal itself they don't know what her level of function will be after.
I'm sick with worry and there's nothing I can do. It was 12 hours in hospital before she got seen by a specialist after lying there drowsy with a confirmed bleed on the brain!
I can't help thinking somehow that this is my fault and I should have been watching her (I was in my bedroom getting dressed) even though she is always steady on her feet and hasn't had a problem with stairs at least recently anyway. If she doesn't recover from this I don't think I'll be able to forgive myself.
oh sweetie
eventually, you'll realize that you have to forgive yourself.
my grandma was 93 and rocking it out. then one day, she was walking into her bedroom and tripped on a fan cord. she stumbled and fell against the bed. and even said as she was getting up, "well that was stupid of me" my aunt who was with her at the time, of course panicked and insisted that she go to the hospital just to make sure everything was ok. she walked into the ER on her own and said how silly she thought the whole situation was. the dr took her in for a CT scan and while on the table, she fell asleep.
she never woke up again.
the slight fall 'caused a brain bleed and there was no way to know or to fix it. there was nothing any of us could have done. unfortunate as these things are, sometimes they just happen, and there's no amount of good intentions that can change it.
i wish your grandma the absolute best and hope for nothing but positive healing and a quick recovery. but please, please realize this is not your fault. whichever way it goes, you are not to blame at all. *hugs*
at least your aunt had the sense to go take her to get her head checked out. It would have been so much worse for your aunt if she didn't. There was nothing more your aunt could have done.
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Ok, I had to Google. I obviously don't have it - all I see is bad photoshop jobs.Glinda1971 wrote: »
omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
O M G
yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...
I almost want to look. But the reactions have been unanimous so I think I'll spare myself.
The first thing I thought of with tiny holes was a colander. Specifically, The World's Most Useless Colander, which I happen to own and it's only good for draining something really fine because it has TINY HOLES. (My SO insists on using it to drain pasta, which is incredibly ineffective, and I hate watery pasta but I can't seem to steer him toward one of the other two perfectly normal colanders. Sigh.) Anyway, the colander is annoying but not exactly horrifying or freakish so I assume no one is googling pictures of my colander.
No it's organic things. Like lotus pods. Tiny bubbles all together. Stuff like that.
Or if you've had a pilleated woodpecker have a go at a tree.
That's good. Apparently you're immune.
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omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
O M G
yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...
I almost want to look. But the reactions have been unanimous so I think I'll spare myself.
The first thing I thought of with tiny holes was a colander. Specifically, The World's Most Useless Colander, which I happen to own and it's only good for draining something really fine because it has TINY HOLES. (My SO insists on using it to drain pasta, which is incredibly ineffective, and I hate watery pasta but I can't seem to steer him toward one of the other two perfectly normal colanders. Sigh.) Anyway, the colander is annoying but not exactly horrifying or freakish so I assume no one is googling pictures of my colander.
according to google it is NOT like lil colander holes. it is terrifying! stay away, the images are burned into my retinas and i seriously feel for anyone that has to think about this on a regular basis. omg0 -
omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
O M G
yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...
I shouldn't have looked. That is DISGUSTING.
I was thinking it was more like the bubbles in the Aero bars
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Glinda1971 wrote: »
omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
O M G
yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...
I'm sorry. I really thought it wasn't that common. It never seems to be.
I guess I'm not as weird as I thought.
dude, you are NOT weird at all0 -
I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.nicsflyingcircus wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!
you are seriously awesome, thank you
Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.
My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.
We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.
i absolutely detest flowers.
most ppl who know me, know this.
of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.
besides the fact that the scent of almost all flowers bring on a migraine for me, i just see them as a total waste of money. $40 for a bouquet of flowers? there is so much more i could do with that $ that would help me out more in the long run.
which in the company world, no one gets. i literally make 17% of what my boss does. but she's at the income frivolity point, where yay! let's get flowers! everyone loves flowers!
while i'm like omg my head is pounding, these will be dead in two days and my phone bill is still overdue....0 -
I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.nicsflyingcircus wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!
you are seriously awesome, thank you
Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.
My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.
We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.
i absolutely detest flowers.
most ppl who know me, know this.
of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.
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mantium999 wrote: »mantium999 wrote: »qn4bx9pzg8aifd wrote: »mantium999 wrote: »mantium999 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Confession: Honestly, I'm not happy with the thread being stickied. We'll very likely get an influx of sarcastic, unkind, or snarky people ruining our nice thread mojo. *sniffle*
Call me jaded, but that was my first thought too.mantium999 wrote: »
Ok, serious answer, after thinking about it a little. Honestly, I believe this thread alone has kept a bunch of us here on MFP - people who may have wandered off, lost their motivation, felt intimidated to ask questions, or unsupported elsewhere. If one person improves their health and wellness by being part of this thread, then, yes, it warrants sticky status.mantium999 wrote: »What value does this thread bring to General Diet and Weight Loss Help that warrants a sticky status? If page count is a factor, there are plenty of "who wants to see who naked" discussions in Chit Chat that are probably more worthy than this.
I have no problem with the existence of this thread. I just stand by the belief that suggested reading (ie, stickies), should be educational and pertain to the topic of the forum. As far as fun items to give people a reason to return to the site, that's what Chit Chat is for. But that's just me, don't let me rain on your parade. Obviously this thread is popular, just not informative.
"Informative" is a matter of opinion. I, for one, feel VERY "informed" when Pancake announces that he has to pee or we get health updates on various pets.
I now know 100% more about the Muslim religion than I knew a week ago. And this is a good thing.
I've learned a bunch of terms for unusual phobias.
I know how many more exotic varieties of Pop Tarts and peanut butter and breakfast cereal exist in countries other than Canada.
Knowledge is good.
Sure, informative is a matter of opinion. And I also agree that knowledge is good, I seek out lots of it! I simply fail to see the value of directing members, often times who are new, who are seeking information and knowledge about General Diet and Weight Loss (the purpose of this particular sub-forum) to this particular thread. And thank you for making my point with examples of non-diet/weight loss things your learned from this thread.
It was tongue in cheek, as I'm sure you realized. Although I do think Pop Tarts and peanut butter and cereal fall into the diet category.
There have been hundreds of diet/fitness/weight loss questions and tips posted throughout this thread, you just have to wade through 783 pages to find them. Several of us have learned a rather effective upper body workout right here.
A few effective tips, among 783 pages, warranting a status of a helpful thread. Got it.
For the sake of ceasing to derail the purpose of THIS particular thread. I confess to having 3 IPAs last night, BEFORE hitting the weights.
Well, hello, Snarkmeister...
Listen, we aren't suddenly convening before some sort of MFP Supreme Court (and you aren't some sort of Chief Judge (though you do appear to be embracing a role akin to that of a Prosecuting Attorney)), and we don't suddenly need to justify the actions of someone (let alone, someone who has nothing to do with this thread!) doing something we never requested in the first place (and, frankly, involves a reality some of us don't *want*) -- and so we shouldn't be expected to have you or anyone else 'set up kleig lights', and expect us to 'subject ourselves to interrogation' (as though you were some sort of self-appointed attorney, judge, and jury... or some such entity hellbent on seeing a perceived form of 'justice' done)...
If you don't want to participate in the thread, then please, by all means, move on...! -- that is, unless you need to rant about something (other than 'this', or 'us', that is), in which case you are welcome to rant away...!
The world has enough people p*ssing on others -- there's no need to add to *that* 'status quo' (which, not-so-ironically, is part of what this thread is about -- assisting, being helpful, not judging, etc.)...
(...and yeah, my not sprinkling your sudden sarcasm-laced insults with 'rose petals' is not exactly representative of 'this thread'... however, it is a rare thing for rudeness to 'swoop in' on this thread... and I can't stand behavior that reminds me of my favorite bumper sticker -- Mean People Suck...)
Hi there aggressive one! I have no desire to see this thread removed, pretty sure I made that clear. But I stand by what I believe to be a valid point regarding MFP choosing this as a helpful thread within the context of the sub forum in which it exists. Not attacking the participants of this thread, not the purpose of this thread, simply stating that it's purpose isn't necessarily on point with the purpose of why a thread should be a sticky. Sorry you have such a personal attachment and felt offended as a result, but I prefer logic over emotion.
she's not agressive, she's being honest.
if you're struggling so much with the purpose of this thread, and can't see how it might help newbies who are normally ripped apart for the most simplest of questions elsewhere, that's on you, not us.
There's no struggle, the purpose of this thread is not currently related to General Diet and Weight Loss. Again, I have not said it serves no purpose, it just doesn't serve the purpose of this sub forum to the point of being a sticky. New members should have a central location, supported by MFP, to find valuable info to assist them in gaining the knowledge requires to successfully navigate through the contention that occurs in the forums. There are no questions in here that are being clarified, so I don't follow your argument of it being a safe haven for newbies. Is this designed to educate? I don't see it if it is. If you have a rational argument as to what this brings to newbies as far as helping them reach their fitness or weight goals, I'm all ears, but don't chastise me for making a valid comment that none have been able to debate within the context of my point.
"none have been able to debate within the context of my point"
in your opinion, that is.
have you read the last 787 pages?
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I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.nicsflyingcircus wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!
you are seriously awesome, thank you
Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.
My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.
We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.
i absolutely detest flowers.
most ppl who know me, know this.
of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.
I love flowers too. I'm so sorry your husband has hay fever and can't surprise you with them.
Mine did tonight, although it is my birthday tomorrow.0 -
Glinda1971 wrote: »
I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.nicsflyingcircus wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!
you are seriously awesome, thank you
Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.
My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.
We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.
i absolutely detest flowers.
most ppl who know me, know this.
of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.
I love flowers too. I'm so sorry your husband has hay fever and can't surprise you with them.
Mine did tonight, although it is my birthday tomorrow.
Wow, my birthday is tomorrow, too. Happy birthday.
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actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I TOTALLY understand this. I'm the type of person who buys a bunch of co-workers gifts for the holidays every year. Most the time they don't even bother doing anything for me. No one even remembers anything about me anyway. I said this year I'll only gift to those who bother thinking about me.
It just makes me even madder because there is this guy I work with that is basically pointless (he is on his phone ALL DAY-doesn't work very hard). Everyone showers him with gifts (holiday gifts, promotional freebies, birthday gifts, cards, free food etc). He never does anything for anyone. They just like him that much.
I just think, what is wrong with me that no one ever thinks of me. I think I'm pretty nice...
totally. and you are nice!
but i completely understand where you're coming from. there are a few ppl where i work that are basically treated like the second coming and i can't help but think...really? did you not hear what he said? did you not see what he did? it drives me crazy.
my company recently went through a ton of changes, and i no longer "supported" my previous peeps on paper...but they still come to me for EVERYthing. but then despite that, admin day hits and no one even acknowledges that i'm alive. everything is taken for granted, constantly.
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krissyreminisce wrote: »Confession: I'm starting to get annoyed with eating my two snacks at work. I'd rather ignore the hunger and headaches than eat.
I also have to send my mother a photo of every meal so she knows I'm eating. Though she has asked me twice if I'm lying to her about whether or not I actually eat it. (I do eat my food, btw).
Is the actual food you dislike? The interruption to your work day? Or eating period? I know you are struggling with this so I'm just wondering what specifically the issue is so that maybe we can offer some help. Maybe just drink 2 quick protein drinks in place of those 2 snacks? Quick, easy, yet nourishing.
Remember, you just reached your new PR - the better you take care of yourself the sooner you'll reach your next one!
The only thing about the food that annoys me is I have yet to find something that takes the edge off of the hunger for longer than 20 minutes after I eat it. I'd rather eat nothing than eat something only to be hungry again almost immediately.
But as it stands today, I had a meltdown in front of my dad about how I pretty much can't even say I'm skirting along the edge of an eating disorder, and that I'm in fact beginning to just lose. I skipped dinner last night on purpose (which when my mom found out she was pretty devastated) and I'm just starting to feel apathetic about eating at all. I'm also pissed and sad because I found myself in this place and can't quite seem to climb back out.
I am going to make an appointment with their GP so at least I'll have a doctor (mine up and left for 'personal reasons' and I just never found another).
I also ended up going to urgent care tonight. I may have my first UTI or a kidney infection. I'm on antibiotics and will find out in a few days what my cultures were.
And @Italian_Buju, I'm a few pages behind, but I'm so sorry about your degu.
I kept secretly hoping he'd bounce back. My cat did that when she was 18, looked like she was about to pass, but perked back up until her kidneys finally gave out at 19.
I'll be thinking of you!
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Happy Birthdays!Glinda1971 wrote: »
I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.nicsflyingcircus wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!
you are seriously awesome, thank you
Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.
My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.
We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.
i absolutely detest flowers.
most ppl who know me, know this.
of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.
I love flowers too. I'm so sorry your husband has hay fever and can't surprise you with them.
Mine did tonight, although it is my birthday tomorrow.
Wow, my birthday is tomorrow, too. Happy birthday.
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Sometimes I buy them for myself anyway!Glinda1971 wrote: »
I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.nicsflyingcircus wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!
you are seriously awesome, thank you
Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.
My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.
We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.
i absolutely detest flowers.
most ppl who know me, know this.
of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.
I love flowers too. I'm so sorry your husband has hay fever and can't surprise you with them.
Mine did tonight, although it is my birthday tomorrow.
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@KylerJaye they're adorable... I have to ask... does Plankton ever look happy?
lol awww! and no, he really doesn't!
on the extremely (like seriously once a year) occasion that he's running around with his tongue out panting, we're like OMG! look! plankton's being a real dog!!
he's my grumpy soul mate
I thought maybe he just disliked being photographed and that was his camera face. Good thing I don't have a dog like that or I'd spend all my time shovelling treats and toys at him, thinking I needed to cheer him up. Smart tactic, Plankton!
Ok, I had to Google. I obviously don't have it - all I see is bad photoshop jobs.Glinda1971 wrote: »
omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
O M G
yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...
I almost want to look. But the reactions have been unanimous so I think I'll spare myself.
The first thing I thought of with tiny holes was a colander. Specifically, The World's Most Useless Colander, which I happen to own and it's only good for draining something really fine because it has TINY HOLES. (My SO insists on using it to drain pasta, which is incredibly ineffective, and I hate watery pasta but I can't seem to steer him toward one of the other two perfectly normal colanders. Sigh.) Anyway, the colander is annoying but not exactly horrifying or freakish so I assume no one is googling pictures of my colander.
No it's organic things. Like lotus pods. Tiny bubbles all together. Stuff like that.
Or if you've had a pilleated woodpecker have a go at a tree.
Nice. So this is turning into one of those "do you see the old woman or the young woman?" "do you see a blue dress or a gold dress?" things. And it means I may end up looking just to see which camp I'm in.
Except I don't sleep that great as it is and I don't want to risk a night of insomnia, just in case.0 -
Glinda1971 wrote: »
I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.nicsflyingcircus wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.
My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.
My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it.
confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.
actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.
so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.
and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.
I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!
you are seriously awesome, thank you
Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.
My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.
We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.
i absolutely detest flowers.
most ppl who know me, know this.
of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.
I love flowers too. I'm so sorry your husband has hay fever and can't surprise you with them.
Mine did tonight, although it is my birthday tomorrow.
Wow, my birthday is tomorrow, too. Happy birthday.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!
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