Do you post "gym selfies?"
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Re: point 2: they often do. That's why studies are peer-reviewed. To make sure the science is correct and not swayed by external circumstances.
The fact that you can't handle criticism is your problem. On the off chance that you're not just a Friday Troll, I'll advise you to think more about what you're trying to say/do. Create better threads and discussions. And actually try taking a stance. Your posts in this thread scream troll, as you haven't expressed any opinions - rather, tried to play "gotcha" with a couple of posters.
Clearly, this discussion has made you emotional and distressed. I am very sorry if I have offended you, but please your comments are unecessary. To prevent any more of said distress, I will cease to respond to your comments and I advise you to no longer take part in the forum.0 -
Ah! So including your sarcasm, are you implicitly saying you do not believe a gym selfie is 'narcissistic' as the Brunel University study says? If this is true, would you care to elaborate?
Am I narcissistic? No
Am I proud of my achievements and how far I've come? Yes.
And so you should be x
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MireyGal76 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
This refers back to the previous question:
If one is already proud of their accomplishment, regardless of what it is, by posting for a public audience to see, does that constitute as 'narcissistic'?
Possibly, yes. Or they're being social.
Are you being narcissistic by posting a study which allows you to showcase your advanced intellect?
Advanced?
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Exactly what I was thinking lolCranquistador wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
This refers back to the previous question:
If one is already proud of their accomplishment, regardless of what it is, by posting for a public audience to see, does that constitute as 'narcissistic'?
Possibly, yes. Or they're being social.
Are you being narcissistic by posting a study which allows you to showcase your advanced intellect?
Advanced?
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I take selfies at the gym, but they don't go to my facebook page. I'm using an app called PumpUp and I get the option of adding a picture when I log activities. I've found that when I look back through these pictures, I can end up with some pretty surprising differences to use for progress pictures. I'm proud of what I've accomplished and I don't see anything wrong with sharing with others the hard work I put into getting to where I am. Now, I tend not to post these pictures or talk about my diet/fitness things on facebook. Not that there is anything wrong with it, I just prefer to share with people who are also working on their own fitness goals. If that makes me narcissistic, well *shrug*0
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shhhh Cranq... I am also testing his ability to perceive sarcasm.
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MireyGal76 wrote: »shhhh Cranq... I am also testing his ability to perceive sarcasm.
Well according to how he responded to my initial post, he won't get it.0 -
MireyGal76 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
This refers back to the previous question:
If one is already proud of their accomplishment, regardless of what it is, by posting for a public audience to see, does that constitute as 'narcissistic'?
Possibly, yes. Or they're being social.
Are you being narcissistic by posting a study which allows you to showcase your advanced intellect?
He didn't actually post a study. He vaguely referenced a study that doesn't even exist yet.0 -
I made the mistake of posting a pic on FB that revealed abs. I was in a bathing suit and was fishing with my girls. We caught an amazing bass.
I received a private message from a "friend" telling me to cover up, that the person was shocked that I was so obviously calling attention to myself, and they thought I was a better person than that.
I save them for here now.
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Please, I hope these comments are Notdirected at me. Regardless the nature of my original post, I was simply trying to stimulate discussion of the topic. However, if the nature of the posts are meant to be negative, I hope it was not from offense from me.0
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When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
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MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
I find other people's weddings and babies inanely boring, a nice pair of abs on the other hand ..........0 -
I don't do selfies! I know people who do post gym selfies. I never had thought of it.0
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MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.0 -
MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
I can't speak for the poster, but that is not really what I took from it. I think their point was most things are posted in a some what "narcissistic" way. Whether it's a picture of you right after you broke a PR at the gym or a picture of you volunteering or a picture of you getting married, we share them because we want others to know they happened. People shouldn't be shamed for wanting others to know they're working hard and are super fit and feel awesome about it if they're not shamed for feeling super awesome about anything else they do/ are.
Although, it really depends on your audience. Honestly, I'd much rather see a bunch of gym selfies than a bunch of baby pictures and wedding photos. But that's because fitness and health is one of my priorities right now.0 -
MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.
Get married and have a baby so you can post endless pics about it how dare you work on your fitness and show people the results lol 0 -
MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.
but therein is the problem.
I have friends that CONSTANTLY talk about struggling with their weight, and having no time, and not knowing what to do. And yet they're posting recipes for these crazy desserts, and food parties and the like.
If i even hint at the fact that I watch my food... or that I go to the gym... or how I manage my life so that I fit that stuff in... it gets reduced to me saying "look at my abs"
That is bullsh!t.
Nothing I said in the quote you placed said I had abs. I talked about progress made. I talked about the results of putting in time and effort. Training and dedication. You are the one who whittled it down to being about abs. Just like most everyone (non fitness minded) on FB does.
So, if I spend hours and hours crocheting a blanket. Is it safe to post a picture of the blanket? Am I bragging about the blanket? About my skill at chrochet? Am I assuming anyone gives a crap about what I did? I shouldn't assume that my crochet skills are interesting to anyone because they're not on par with volunteering or pushing out a baby?
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MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.
You truly think your family cares more about your workout than if you got married?
Fwiw, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with gym selfies, or any other kind of selfies; i just don't agree with the comparisons you used.0 -
So are what's allowed as far as gym selfies go dependent on the person? I'm guessing no one wants a shirtless ab shot of me since I"m 5'11" 230lbs 28% body fat right? But I've spent years working on my body though. Too bad I started at 365lbs. Maybe then I could "just be proud of my hard work" publicly.
Who said you can't be??0 -
So are what's allowed as far as gym selfies go dependent on the person? I'm guessing no one wants a shirtless ab shot of me since I"m 5'11" 230lbs 28% body fat right? But I've spent years working on my body though. Too bad I started at 365lbs. Maybe then I could "just be proud of my hard work" publicly.
as far as I'm concerned? I'd say hell yes - post that pic. Because you worked freaking hard. Post the before, post the after. And I'll celebrate with you vehemently. Because you worked hard and you were determined, and you have a RIGHT TO BE PROUD of that.
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MireyGal76 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.
but therein is the problem.
I have friends that CONSTANTLY talk about struggling with their weight, and having no time, and not knowing what to do. And yet they're posting recipes for these crazy desserts, and food parties and the like.
If i even hint at the fact that I watch my food... or that I go to the gym... or how I manage my life so that I fit that stuff in... it gets reduced to me saying "look at my abs"
That is bullsh!t.
Nothing I said in the quote you placed said I had abs. I talked about progress made. I talked about the results of putting in time and effort. Training and dedication. You are the one who whittled it down to being about abs. Just like most everyone (non fitness minded) on FB does.
So, if I spend hours and hours crocheting a blanket. Is it safe to post a picture of the blanket? Am I bragging about the blanket? About my skill at chrochet? Am I assuming anyone gives a crap about what I did? I shouldn't assume that my crochet skills are interesting to anyone because they're not on par with volunteering or pushing out a baby?
I think the issue is that appearance is used as the measuring stick of a person's value all too often. The same isn't true for blankets. If you post a good looking blanket you made and I post an ugly one no one is going to say "Man, look at his blanket. What a loser. He really shouldn't of posted that. He's probably lazy and didn't work very hard on it. How did his blanket even end up looking like that?"
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MakePeasNotWar wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.
You truly think your family cares more about your workout than if you got married?
Fwiw, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with gym selfies, or any other kind of selfies; i just don't agree with the comparisons you used.
my family knows I got married.
look at your feed and what it's made up of:
- pics of kids (I do that)
- inspirational quotes
- funny jokes
- recipes
- buy my seacret / partylite / epicure / miracle cream that makes you look like julia roberts
- work vent
- quilts
- vacation trips
- wine glasses half full
- painted toes
- fish stories
- new cars
- new homes
- cd release parties
I haven't seen a "Hey I got married, here's my pics" post in ages
So why is it that a reference to the gym is not acceptable with the rest of these? Why is that narcissistic, and these are not?0 -
MireyGal76 wrote: »MireyGal76 wrote: »MakePeasNotWar wrote: »When people have a baby they post a picture, get married post a picture, graduate post a picture would these pictures also fall under narcissism, I think any period in your life you are happy/proud and feeling accomplished you should be allowed to share without being labelledMireyGal76 wrote: »Didn't you know? If you are fit, you're supposed to be ashamed of that progress. You should not share it on Facebook, because that would be narcissistic. You should not post status updates of successes in the gym or progress made. That is braggery.
However... If you are volunteering at your child's school - THAT is FB worthy. Because that shows you are a good parent. Or if you make a delicious meal. You should post THOSE pics. Or, you can always feel free to post a meme about how you are NOT fit or beautiful, that you have curves and focus on your family. Those are acceptable.
But posting pictures that show you may have a nice physique? Despicable. Heaven forbid someone feels that you are telling them that you are a better at parenting er... cooking er... taking care of yourself. You may come across as having a better family life er... cooking skills er... body than them. And that's clearly wrong.
ETA: Oh and don't forget vacation photos... those are perfect photos to post. No one will ever think that you are posting those because you're richer than them, or have better opportunities. Everyone wants to see your posts of your world travels. But not your running route... or your new work out clothes. Fancy shoes? yes... Runners no.
Clear... right?
I might be misunderstanding, but are you honestly suggesting that having nice abs is on par with volunteer work or as relevant and interesting to your social network as a wedding and/or a new baby?
clearly, if I agree with your understanding of what I'm saying, I must be highly narcissistic... or at the very least, have a flawed sense of understanding about what my "social network" - aka family and friends - want to know about my life.
but therein is the problem.
I have friends that CONSTANTLY talk about struggling with their weight, and having no time, and not knowing what to do. And yet they're posting recipes for these crazy desserts, and food parties and the like.
If i even hint at the fact that I watch my food... or that I go to the gym... or how I manage my life so that I fit that stuff in... it gets reduced to me saying "look at my abs"
That is bullsh!t.
Nothing I said in the quote you placed said I had abs. I talked about progress made. I talked about the results of putting in time and effort. Training and dedication. You are the one who whittled it down to being about abs. Just like most everyone (non fitness minded) on FB does.
So, if I spend hours and hours crocheting a blanket. Is it safe to post a picture of the blanket? Am I bragging about the blanket? About my skill at chrochet? Am I assuming anyone gives a crap about what I did? I shouldn't assume that my crochet skills are interesting to anyone because they're not on par with volunteering or pushing out a baby?
I think the issue is that appearance is used as the measuring stick of a person's value all too often. The same isn't true for blankets. If you post a good looking blanket you made and I post an ugly one no one is going to say "Man, look at his blanket. What a loser. He really shouldn't of posted that. He's probably lazy and didn't work very hard on it. How did his blanket even end up looking like that?"
I can guarantee you... if you posted your progress pic, and I posted mine - same stance, maybe flexing a bicep - on the same FB feed list... yours would be very well received. mine, would be seen as narcissistic.0 -
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I post selfies periodically and so do a lot of my Facebook friends. It's a way of connecting. I don't think of any of them as narcissistic .0
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MireyGal76 wrote: »So are what's allowed as far as gym selfies go dependent on the person? I'm guessing no one wants a shirtless ab shot of me since I"m 5'11" 230lbs 28% body fat right? But I've spent years working on my body though. Too bad I started at 365lbs. Maybe then I could "just be proud of my hard work" publicly.
as far as I'm concerned? I'd say hell yes - post that pic. Because you worked freaking hard. Post the before, post the after. And I'll celebrate with you vehemently. Because you worked hard and you were determined, and you have a RIGHT TO BE PROUD of that.
Post it.
So why the before AND the after? Why not just the after? The answer to that question is why people think gym selfies are douchie.
then do the after. your real friends will know the before anyways and respect the work you put in.0
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