Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Wow glad you're okay @KylerJaye !!0
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riderfangal wrote: »Glinda1971 wrote: »AngryViking1970 wrote: »Goodness, what a weekend! This time next week, I could possibly be lying on a beautiful beach in Florida sipping a mimosa. I will be thinking of you all.
Friday night the husband and I went to Outback for dinner. I was not thrilled about this because I didn't think I had enough calories for Outback because I always get the Alice Springs Chicken with fries. I decided to order the chicken, but subbed fries with steamed broccoli, which, if you've being paying attention at all, you'll know how incredibly difficult that decision was. I regretted not getting the fries until I tasted the broccoli, it was delicious. I ended up only eating half my dinner, and I even got to share a piece of cheesecake with my love and STILL managed a deficit. Yay, me!
Saturday, my daughter and I were going to go shopping for Father's Day, my eye appointment, and get some last minute things for our trip, but we were also going to go to the candy shop for snacks so my husband wanted to come too. We ended up going to the candy shop first which was a big success except they were out of my favorite trail mix (luckily, I still had some left over from the last visit) so I got buttered toffee pecans (holy sweet, salty, and crunchy, they are amazing), and some dried apples. He got mostly candy.
From there, we went to the mall since that's where my appointment was to kill some time, but also so I wouldn't be late. We ended up in JCP looking at dresses. Husband picked out some he wanted me to try on (his questionable taste presented itself again) but nothing worked. We met up outside in the sitting area of the mall and he asked me if I wanted to kill some more time at Helzberg, and I said sure. Long story short, we ended up looking at diamond rings and bridal sets. I didn't think we were really going to purchase anything since he said we'd do shopping in Florida. Apparently, he'd been really thinking about that and decided if we were going to get one, he wanted to get it before we went so it could be sized and everything beforehand. I tried on several rings before falling head over heals for a 1/2 ct. princess cut in white gold. It was absolutely mesmerizing. I could not quit staring at it. That's pretty much how I felt the first time I laid eyes on him. Love at first sight. Anywho, I tried on a few different guards and finally found a perfect fit. The lady sized my finger (size 5 btw, I was pretty shocked by that) and I was off to my appointment.
My appointment took maybe 20 minutes so I went to Auntie Anne's for pretzels and a DP ( I know, I was doing to so good) and then headed back to Helzberg. Well, come to find out, he bought the ring while I was at my appointment and was finishing up paperwork and stuff when I got back. I was shocked, I didn't expect to get anything finished so soon. Turns out, the ring I picked out is a VVS2 (3rd from highest quality you can get) and almost completely colorless. It is also a limited edition diamond which I didn't know either. I just knew I loved the ring. When they were telling us all the stuff about the diamond, they said I have really good taste. I said, putting my arm around Husband, "Obviously!" He blushed. It was adorable. I hope to have my ring by Thursday, but I might have to wait until after we get back from Florida.
Now for stepdaughter news.
She was a no call, no show Saturday and Sunday. She DID tag him on facebook saying Happy Father's Day and I love you, but I guess she was just too busy to come by and give him the only thing he really wanted which was some of her time. He fell asleep last night while watching TV and then woke up and asked me what time it was. I said 8 or 9, and he said, really, no way. He then pulled out his phone to check for messages. Nothing. The look on his face was so painfully sad I started crying. I told him I was sorry she didn't come by, and he said, "I can't believe she didn't come over on Father's Day." To make matters worse, Rachael told me she thought it'd be fun having a sister, but it's not. I hate that she's treating them so badly.
I'm sad because she'll never know how incredible her dad is and that she seems to have zero interest in being a part of our amazing family. If it were up to me, I'd take the car back and tell her off, but I don't want to do anything that could hurt the chances of a future relationship. What I don't understand, is she found him, he didn't seek her out, she came to him. Why would she do that if she didn't want to have anything to do with him, just his money?!
I'm heartbroken for my loves. Why did this crap have to happen a week before we leave?!
TL; DR: I AM getting a new ring, I married an incredible man, and his daughter is a selfish little twit.
Oh man. What a mix of awesomeness and crappiness in this post. I think your new ring sounds pretty amazing, but the fact that your step-daughter is being such a selfish brat is making me so sad for your husband.
+1
A mix of yays and hugs for you.
Thanks!kellienw335 wrote: »Goodness, what a weekend! This time next week, I could possibly be lying on a beautiful beach in Florida sipping a mimosa. I will be thinking of you all.
TL; DR: I AM getting a new ring, I married an incredible man, and his daughter is a selfish little twit.
That's awesome news about your ring! Sounds like you had a good weekend except the stepdaughter part. Just curious...why wasn't he involved in her life when she was younger? Counseling may be good for all of you to work through this difficult place. It may reveal some things about her past that provide insight as to why she's acting this way. I hate that Rachael is so disappointed.
(Hugs)
He wanted to be, we both did.
When her mom and my husband broke up, they shared custody (they were never married). For some reason, I'm not 100% clear on this as he doesn't like to talk about it, she quit allowing him visitation. I guess, in the state of Kansas, a mother can say anything she wants against a father, even one paying child support, and it's basically her word against his. She petitioned to increase his child support (this happened several times during our relationship) and was awarded more each time.
In the almost 15 years we've been married, until recently, I had only seen her twice. Once for her 5th birthday (her mother didn't know about this) and once for Christmas (same year, mother didn't know). When Rach was about 2 maybe a little younger, we found out where she worked and Husband asked if he could see her and she told him she didn't think she (daughter) was ready for that. Because, at the time, we didn't have the money to take her to court, he didn't fight his ex anymore and just did was what right by paying his child support and not fighting it every time she wanted more.
He would never admit it, but he's a pushover and hates confrontation. Hence the situation we're currently in. Her mom was pretty pissed when she found out she had sought him out. I'm sure she has a lot to do with the way she's been acting recently since she's staying at her house.
Sorry to be such a downer on a Monday.
There's the key, right there. Nineteen / adult or not, that sole-parental influence is HUGE. My husband and I both had joint custody of our kids, but the influence of the other parent was always present. I'll shut up on this subject after this, but once she becomes independent, breaks away from her mom, goes through a few serious relationships of her own, she will see your husband's side so much clearer.
Example scenario: say she gets seriously involved with a guy who has a child. Mother of the child does the exact thing to her (hypothetical) boyfriend that her mom did. He wants to see his child and be involved, but he is denied. He's hurt and she doesn't like it. Light bulb moment. She won't necessarily see her mom as the bad guy, but she'll apply all those same feelings to her current situation and eventually she will see things differently. IMHO.
I hope you're right. For his sake, her sake and Rachael's sake. Thank you.
As a single mom I wish my son had a dad that gave a s*** like your husband does. My ex didn't he even bother answering the phone when my son called to wish him a Happy Fathers Day. He texted me later that it was because he got so drunk and passed out in his front yard that his neighbour called 911 because they thought he was dead.
Wow, what a fantastic role model for his son. It is unfortunate the a lot of guys out there (present company excluded, of course) couldn't care less about being a father. It is also unfortunate for the guys that DO want to be fathers either aren't able to for one reason or another, or aren't allowed to things out of their control.
I'm glad your son has you!
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riderfangal wrote: »yesterday afternoon i had plans to take my mom to see jurassic world. yesterday we also had a massive storm that dumped tons of rain. it was still slightly raining when i left the house to meet her at the theater. of course i'm perpetually late for everything and was probably driving a smidge too fast for the road conditions.
then i started to fishtail on the four lane highway, and i completely can't pull out of it, totally lose control, the car does a full 360 spin across the two lanes of oncoming traffic and i bounce off of the opposing guardrail.
by some tiny miracle, no one was coming when i crossed lanes. if anyone had been, i probably would have killed them and myself. so i'm on the wrong side of the road facing the wrong direction. see no one coming at me head on, and drive back over to the right side of the road to a stoplight. this dude pulls up in the lane next to me and is like ARE YOU OK?!?!! i'm all shaky and say yeah, i think so. light turns green and i drive on to the theater like everything is fine.
i meet up with my mom and i'm like, i think i might have just almost died, and explain the whole thing to her and she's like... well maybe you should slow the hell down. and i say no, this was REALLY scary, and she's just like yeah, i've done it before too. slow down.
thanks mom!
confession: my mother's total lack of empathy and concern really ticks me off sometimes....
Wow!! I am so glad you are okWow glad you're okay @KylerJaye !!
oooo, my first double quote!
thank you!!!0 -
Confession - I find it extremely creepy that MFP tracks what I enter in my diary for their ads. I'm quite sure I haven't done any search on whipped cream, the only way it was picked up is because I had some at lunch. The other day just LOOKING at the calories of something in the app, an ad popped up for it.
I keep getting adds for plus size clothing rental sites...
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Confession - I find it extremely creepy that MFP tracks what I enter in my diary for their ads. I'm quite sure I haven't done any search on whipped cream, the only way it was picked up is because I had some at lunch. The other day just LOOKING at the calories of something in the app, an ad popped up for it.
I keep getting adds for plus size clothing rental sites...
That made me laugh.0 -
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yesterday afternoon i had plans to take my mom to see jurassic world. yesterday we also had a massive storm that dumped tons of rain. it was still slightly raining when i left the house to meet her at the theater. of course i'm perpetually late for everything and was probably driving a smidge too fast for the road conditions.
then i started to fishtail on the four lane highway, and i completely can't pull out of it, totally lose control, the car does a full 360 spin across the two lanes of oncoming traffic and i bounce off of the opposing guardrail.
by some tiny miracle, no one was coming when i crossed lanes. if anyone had been, i probably would have killed them and myself. so i'm on the wrong side of the road facing the wrong direction. see no one coming at me head on, and drive back over to the right side of the road to a stoplight. this dude pulls up in the lane next to me and is like ARE YOU OK?!?!! i'm all shaky and say yeah, i think so. light turns green and i drive on to the theater like everything is fine.
i meet up with my mom and i'm like, i think i might have just almost died, and explain the whole thing to her and she's like... well maybe you should slow the hell down. and i say no, this was REALLY scary, and she's just like yeah, i've done it before too. slow down.
thanks mom!
confession: my mother's total lack of empathy and concern really ticks me off sometimes....
I confess I might be a lot like your mom.0 -
riderfangal wrote: »yesterday afternoon i had plans to take my mom to see jurassic world. yesterday we also had a massive storm that dumped tons of rain. it was still slightly raining when i left the house to meet her at the theater. of course i'm perpetually late for everything and was probably driving a smidge too fast for the road conditions.
then i started to fishtail on the four lane highway, and i completely can't pull out of it, totally lose control, the car does a full 360 spin across the two lanes of oncoming traffic and i bounce off of the opposing guardrail.
by some tiny miracle, no one was coming when i crossed lanes. if anyone had been, i probably would have killed them and myself. so i'm on the wrong side of the road facing the wrong direction. see no one coming at me head on, and drive back over to the right side of the road to a stoplight. this dude pulls up in the lane next to me and is like ARE YOU OK?!?!! i'm all shaky and say yeah, i think so. light turns green and i drive on to the theater like everything is fine.
i meet up with my mom and i'm like, i think i might have just almost died, and explain the whole thing to her and she's like... well maybe you should slow the hell down. and i say no, this was REALLY scary, and she's just like yeah, i've done it before too. slow down.
thanks mom!
confession: my mother's total lack of empathy and concern really ticks me off sometimes....
Wow!! I am so glad you are okWow glad you're okay @KylerJaye !!
oooo, my first double quote!
thank you!!!
I'm glad you're okay, too! Super scary! Although, I saw your post a page or two ago that you were completely caught up - jealous! I keep trying, but cannot seem to do it.0 -
Confession - I find it extremely creepy that MFP tracks what I enter in my diary for their ads. I'm quite sure I haven't done any search on whipped cream, the only way it was picked up is because I had some at lunch. The other day just LOOKING at the calories of something in the app, an ad popped up for it.
I keep getting adds for plus size clothing rental sites...
LOL me too.0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »This one is pretty awesome...it should be a Friday thread.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10193742/why-am-i-gaining-weight/p2
I kitty gif'ed it. It should be about dead now. LOL0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession - I find it extremely creepy that MFP tracks what I enter in my diary for their ads. I'm quite sure I haven't done any search on whipped cream, the only way it was picked up is because I had some at lunch. The other day just LOOKING at the calories of something in the app, an ad popped up for it.
I keep getting adds for plus size clothing rental sites...
That made me laugh.
I want there to be one for smaller sizes. How awesome would that be while you were between your starting and goal sizes?!
Confession: We were talking outfits for our engagement photo shoot (end of August) and I panicked at the thought of pictures because my brain still thinks I'm 20lbs heavier. Sometimes I need to chill the eff out.0 -
Is it me or is it mostly women posting here? Did we scare off most of the men?0
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CountessKitteh wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Confession - I find it extremely creepy that MFP tracks what I enter in my diary for their ads. I'm quite sure I haven't done any search on whipped cream, the only way it was picked up is because I had some at lunch. The other day just LOOKING at the calories of something in the app, an ad popped up for it.
I keep getting adds for plus size clothing rental sites...
That made me laugh.
I want there to be one for smaller sizes. How awesome would that be while you were between your starting and goal sizes?!
Confession: We were talking outfits for our engagement photo shoot (end of August) and I panicked at the thought of pictures because my brain still thinks I'm 20lbs heavier. Sometimes I need to chill the eff out.
There's Rent the Runway! It's great for special occasion stuff. I rented a crazy ostrich-feather-covered Milly dress last month that I would never have been able to afford to buy. Soooo fun.0 -
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quiksylver296 wrote: »
and we have mixmode..I can't remember the correct way to spell it with numbers and such!
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quiksylver296 wrote: »
and we have mixmode..I can't remember the correct way to spell it with numbers and such!
Isn't @m1xm0d3 a girl?0 -
LMAOI'M FINALLY CAUGHT UP!!!! *falls over*
(...trying to catch up on this thread, after being 'behind' in even the remotest sense, can begin to feel like walking up a going-down escalator...
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(...and if further behind, it can seem like walking with lead boots... up a sand dune... filled with quicksand... )
(...but as for me, whose behind-edness (am not referring to my *kitten* ) could be described as being so massive (again, not referring to my *kitten* 
), that it would seem to require a timeframe on par with eternity, in order for me to 'catch up'... well, I stand nary a chance of truly catching up (though I've made peace with such (by having sat myself down, after 'talking myself off a ledge' (when pondering the 4-digit post count I found myself facing, after several days away), and chanting the Seinfeldian mantra, "serenity now..." ))) 0 -
I just wish it were harder for people to get pets. I get depressed just thinking of all the pets the oldest sibling in our family owned... and the dog she has now
Ack - this makes me so incredibly sad! I wish we could screen people prior to them having pets.Caught up!
We went camping this weekend and I ate EVERYTHING (did you know you can roast Pillsbury cinnamon rolls over the fire in foil? Or that you can do pizza dough from scratch as long as it's warm enough to let it rise in the sun?)
We also had my friend's dogs with us and I was in tears laughing at them when we put their puppy life jackets on to swim in the river. They have little handles on the back so you can pick them up like a suitcase...
They look hilarious. And even better is that when you hold them over the water they just start paddling in the air. If you hold them up high, they paddle slowly, but the closer you put them to the water, the faster their little legs go. So freaking cute.
I have one of those jackets for my Mastiff. She loves to swim, sinks like a brick without it. On the plus side, i have my own trolling motor in the river when I am on the float. Attach the leash and let her swim!
Oh, so cute! Large dog, though, right? How big is your Mastiff? My youngest son has a Mastiff / Boxer mix and he's like 120 lbs. I think. He's a tank. I call him "Roadblock" because he will stop abruptly right in front of you and turn around to see if you're still there. Then I either fall over him or come to a complete stand still until he decides to move again. His other dog is an Australian Blue Heeler and she's a smarty-pants. Very mischievous and smart.
Yes, she is a large dog. She is actually small size for her breed and is about the size of your Mastiff/Boxer mix. I used to have an Australian Sheperd/ Heeler mix and loved that dog. Unfortunately he ended up with my ex who didn't take good care of him.
The original picture is very cute @peleroja !
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Yes! It may take time, but things will improve.
No, no, no! You are so VERY important to all of us here! I'm sorry that you haven't been up to posting much, but selfishly I'm glad I didn't miss your wonderful posts over the weekend!Susieq_1994 wrote: »I haven't posted in here for a while. I've been feeling pretty down lately. I've been reading it all, though--Sadly there have been too many posts that needed attention that I didn't catch up on, so consider all of you in my thoughts.
I feel like such a loser. Ever since Ramadan started I've been fasting all day, then spending the night pigging out and eating TONS of food instead of worshipping or spending extra time in prayer. I have NEVER done this before, and I don't know what's wrong with me. I've probably gained even more over my recent 20-ish pound weight gain.
I feel worthless and out of control and like a fat pig. I don't really know what to do. Still trying, though.
You've made a lot of progress and had some really good days, from what you've posted. We all have bad days, too. Maybe after Ramadan is over you will get back to a better routine. Also, there is nothing "wrong" with you. We all have ups and downs.
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