WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2015

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Janetr - my DH and I met on line too! That was 12 years ago. We were married 18 months later.

Heather UK

That's great. I really have heard from many that have met that way. We moved in together after six months, married a year after that. Together for over 8 years now. Thanks for sharing.

Happy Tuesday. I had a very nice couple days off, but I see there has been almost 400 posts since I was last here. What an active group we are.
Weigh in this morning I was up just over a pound. I have to get this snacking, stress eating under control. One day at a time. I find most the time I eat without thinking about it. I have to stop and think. One thing is my blood pressure was down the last couple days. Sunday we went on a motorcycle ride and I put my hair up under the helmet since it is longer this year. Didn't really think about it, now the back of my neck is sunburned and tender. My own fault. Time to get sun screen out.

Lisa--Got your book yesterday and started reading last evening. Enjoying it.

Lesley--Good to see you back. Keeping you and DD in our prayers.

Janetr--I agree saving the $1700 a month is something to celebrate. I know when my DH was done paying child support it sure made a positive difference to us.

Pip--I agree you are a star in my book, just for doing the race and finishing.

I am up to page 64 so going to mark my place and be back tomorrow. One Day at a Time.
Blessings, Vicki GI NE

DamitJanit wrote: »

Cheri, as long as DH can find a new job, what’s to stress about? (hee hee) Just think of it as a new adventure. The one really nice thing is, we are portable and go anywhere with you.

Love ya,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

I should explain a bit. I have known and been married to my husband for 30+ years. We met at the University of Virginia while we were both in graduate school. We have moved so many times that it is second nature to us. Started in Charlottesville, VA and after graduation moved to Gaithersburg, MD. My husband is a native New Yorker and thought how much fun it would be to go home....moved to Howard Beach, Queens, NY. Lasted 6 months. Enter Portland, CT where we had our 2 children (Rosalyn now 26 yo and Benjamin now 24 yo). They were both born on the same day 2 years apart but that is another story. Mitch's parents retired to Florida and we thought let's move there before we are old and crotchety and let the kids enjoy their grandparents. Enter Parkland, Fl for 11 years. I then said well let's go live near the other grandparents for a while so we moved to Carmel, IN. Husband has now been through several jobs/careers at this point. He gets downsized and we moved to Fairlawn, OH where we are currently where he will probably be downsized out of a job again. Hence the job search. As a child we lived in Connecticut, Wisconsin and Ohio several times in each state.

So moving is nothing new to me! Sometimes we moved ourselves sometimes his company did it for us.
The stress comes from the hubs who at 55 yo is suddenly aware of his limited use in the job market. The stress comes from the fact that I don't really want to move anymore. The stress comes from just not knowing what is next or how long this process will be. The stress comes from knowing that I may be moving even further away from my kiddos. They are both in Chicago about a 6 hour drive from here. The stress of having to find new specialist and doctors. Just all kinds of stress.

So I will embrace it once again and I will prevail over the process and know that it is yet another adventure in our lives. I am in a different place this time around mentally and physically so I think I have a better handle on things.

Thanks to everyone for the support. Means sooooo much to me. I will keep you informed.

And of course you all will be coming with me!

Cheri

grandmallie wrote: »

Well the cabinets are in, they are coming to measure for countertops today, and they will install the other upper cabinets today, and then put in the dishwasher.. will be another 3-4 weeks for countertops I think.. and still trying to figure out the floor

*grandmallie: I envy you your kitchen. DH hasn't spoken to me for 3 days because I wanted to change the color of our new dishwasher from white to stainless steel. I've been crying and overeating for 3 solid days. I usually overeat when he gives me the silent treatment.

I went from happy to miserable in the space of one morning. Help, ladies, I'm drowning
I seriously don't know what I said to make him so mad.

Whew, it's been a busy couple of days so once again, I'm just poking my head in and waving hello. As for the self destructive weekend, wish it had been more fun than it was! Right now what I'm struggling with is getting bored and eating All The Things because I don't want to get off the sofa and do anything.

I think it's partly just a matter of getting used to my husband's work schedule - with his new job he works weekends. On his days off I work, so it's hard for us to get time to do stuff together. Plus our new town is a good ways from any friends, making it a little harder to do spontaneous get-togethers. It doesn't help that both the A/C and the radio in the car that's here during the day have quit working. It's time to start saving up for a new (to us) car but in the meantime I guess it's good motivation to go ahead and take the bicycle out when I run local errands... I won't arrive any sweatier than I do in the car!

Need to start going to the monthly art crawl here and making some local friends! In the meantime, if I'm not doing anything else I've certainly got plenty of unpacking to do.

-Yvonne (the other one)

SlenderClassyElegant wrote: »

csofled wrote: »

Part of the problem was unbeknownst to us he had Aspergers. That explained so much of his behavior. Also the therapist worked out something with me to say to him when he turned on the silent treatment.
Cheri (who has been there and is feeling your pain.)

Thanks, Cheri. I swear I've often wondered if he has high-functioning Asperger's. That sounds terrible, doesn't it. But I used to think it was me.

anywya, thanks for letting me vent. I'll get over it; I always do.

Jen in CA

My husband has high-functioning mild Aspergers. NO it does not sound terrible. It explained SO MANY THINGS in our relationship. He was blown away by the diagnosis and went through a period of "mourning" the person he always thought he was and it was hard to watch. It made such a difference in his relationship with me and the kids. We would not be where we are today if that diagnosis had not been made. Mind you this came about because we were in therapy with our daughter and son who both have their own diagnosis'
We have all come a long way!

I always got over it too but I always felt that I was the one who created these issues.

Cheri

total stats for the day:
ride hm 2 gym - 12.24min, 14.1amph, 2.9mi = 96c
lateral machine - 35min, 49floors, lvl 8-10, 5lat, 2.13mi =193cal
ride gym 2 wk - 54.47min, 12.4amph, 11.3mi = 450c
ride dome 2 hm - 16.21min, 9.8amph, 2.6mi = 183c
total cal 922

Did an hour of HIIT on the elliptical today. The plan for tomorrow is to do the ASAP Sculpt DVD.

Lilly - ROTF...too tired

Renny - do you remember when MFP would have something under your photo that said something like "member since...." I know that I've been here for quite a while, not sure how long, tho. Can you still find out that info? Already had 106oz of water and it's about 3:30

Kim - I don't know how you manage a week of baking cakes etc. I guess that's because I admit it, I'm "addicted" to raw cookie dough. But I bet that after a while you lose interest in it. Maybe that's what I should do. I remember back in the day when I worked in a fast food place, the french fries and hamburgers were free, so I totally pigged out. Today I don't care if I never go in a fast food place. What a great goal...adding that plank in there

The float for the pool that I use totally deflated yesterday. So today we blew up the other one that I have. They're made in China so they aren't real sturdy. A friend is going to sell me her float, we'll see how that works. My float you are in the water some, hers you aren't. But I'm thinking that maybe I can just put a wet towel on the float and it won't be that bad.

I don't remember who it was but there was someone who was mentioning about how their (was it?) boss took a piece of the terriyaki tofu without even asking. I'm going to ask again, how do you eat the terriyaki tofu? Do you put it in a salad? Do you have it like a side dish? Please answer me.

Poop - better not bring Kirby here to NC or he might not go back to Washington...just sayin'. you DO have a lovely smile.

JanetMMc or anyone else - do you have a recipe for sweet potato fries where the sweet potatoes aren't mushy? I don't want them deep fried, but they seem to get mushy in the oven. Whenever I make something, I ALWAYS freeze individual portions. It also makes less work for me. Love your cheer to terri. That was so sweet how you made Sheldon feel so good

janet - a kitten with its mouth glued shut? I'm horrified. thank goodness your daughter was able to get some of it off so that poor thing didn't starve

After exercised went to WalMart, Vince needed milk. Wanted to get this Yopa yogurt, it's nice in that it's a small container (I just don't put the topping on). Well, they had a Twix topping and a Snickers topping. I don't like Snickers so I got that one. Both are just vanilla yogurt. Came home and had some breakfast then went in the pool. I do hope that the Y will help me get a kickboard. See, I bought these weights from them thinking that I'd use them. Well, I've never once used them, they're still in the original package. But now my kickboard is really showing its age. I really need a new one. The company that makes the weights won't exchange it for me since I didn't buy it from them but from the Y. I guess if worse comes to worse, I'll sell it myself. But I do need a new kickboard. The day before yesterday I saw online that one was $8, I went to order it yesterday and it's $11.

naiomi - welcome back!!!! Good for you not gaining weight while away

A friend of Jess' and her hubby (I think it may be exhubby) and son are coming here for 2 nights. They want to move to NC. It seems that the son doesn't like to sleep in a strange room, (he's about 8 or 9) Well...whatever. They're supposed to be looking for an apt but I have no idea what their itinerary is. Jess said that she really doesn't trust this ex (or whatever he is). Personally, I think she's being a bit overlycautious. He's the brother of Zac and I'm sure there's some bad blood between her and Zac which I think is probably translating to the brother.

Machelle - how great that it was just scar tissue! Stay away from the foods that you shouldn't eat, that's an order

Carey - I've heard that about the potato takeing away the salt, just never tried it myself. I have no idea how long it takes or what. Let me know if you do try it

mia - how scary that torado and everything else! Glad you're safe and sound

DJ - never thought of swimming (not really) burning more calories....sure makes sense

Heather - enjoy those grandchildren!

Nancy in TX - I've found that I have some silken tofu with unsweetened cocoa in it. Being unsweetened, that really takes away cravings. I've also made myself a BIG salad and used just vinegar on it. The sour helps, too. Just have these things ready for when a ravenous urge strikes.

yanniejannie - dogs are some amazing animals, if they are trained correctly.

muscadinejelli - welcome! Cool name! Muscadine wine is big around here. Come in when you can. Pretty soon you'll fine that you miss not coming in

Meg - I tell you, at first we didn't think the blowdryer would work. But finally we decided "well, what do we have to lose?" And it did work, even if it was temporarily at least we got some temporary relief. I had always heard how good water aerobics was. I remember taking them when I was pg with Jess. then when I got older I gave it a try. Someone said "you'll be sweating in the water" and I thought "yea, sure". Boy, did I ever sweat! One nice thing about water aerobics is that you don't feel like you're working.....until the next day. And I can't get over how much water I drink in class!

Cheri - you WILL get thru this, stress and all. And you'll be stronger for it. It's good that you know that we'll all be with you.

Jen - if your hubby is anything like mine, he's probably upset that he gave you what he thought you'd like (the white d/w) and then you told him you didn't like it. To be honest, when we first got the tile for the wall from the spa to the pool, at first I didn't like it. Vince was quite upset with me because we had spent so much money. But you know something? Now I am ever so grateful that I got what I got. I like the little "pattern". Give it time, you might very well come to like the white d/w. I have a feeling that stainless steel appliances are a fad right now.

Michele in NC

Vicki G - I love going for a ride! Can't do that this year, my DH still doesn't have all the feelings back in his hand since he cut his wrist with his chainsaw last Labor Day weekend. I had to stop over eating but I do it knowing that I am but just couldn't/didn't stop. I started my own 35 day challenge.

Meg - is it usually too hot there to walk? We are only in the mid 70"s here I won't complain about that. What a sad story about the dad.

Michele in NC- my DH sells food for a living. He said Simplot makes the best sweet potato fries. They use a particular potato, not known, and they remove some of the moisture first before they cut and flash freeze them. Then you would deep fry them. I don't know if you can do that at home. But we have not had any better.

Have a great night everyone!

Mary from Minnesota

nite ppeeepps

GodMomKim wrote: »

OMG 700+ posts since I was here last, I have too much going on! But still alive and thinking of you all.

Yes - it gets to be like that. A bit overwhelming. Whenever you can, pop in and say hi Kim. No obligation.

Renny

G'nite; Morpheus is calling...........

Sylvia........Glad you had such a great evening and got such a big hug. antelope?

I've often thought DH was outside the norm socially. He is a good guy, never misses work. Zero bad habits, would never cheat....I'd bet my last dollar on that. He's generous, doesn't try to direct my life, and we don't fight but he has absolutely no interest in any kind of social life with anyone; I truly was surprised when he attended DD's h.s. and college graduations. I've made my own life.........and I quite like it!!! It works for us. Met and married in 1981.

Sweet dreams all,
yanniejannie

Thanks everyone for sharing your "how I met my hubby" stories. I have so enjoyed them and each one is so unique. I saw a sign just yesterday in a catalog that said "I love all love stories, but ours is my favorite". I too, after two previous tries, have the best guy in the world for me. Could not be happier. Thanks for sharing with us. I had a day of wanting to snack and nibble, didn't give in too badly. Logged what I did eat. Stayed within my calories but think I'll go to bed early and hope the munchies have gone away by morning light.

Good nite all you courageous and successful ladies!!

I left my 2nd husband with the help of my DB and rented an apartment up north for the summer in the same town where DB lived. When viewing the apartment with the caretaker outside a car pulled up and a handsome gray haired man nicely dressed walked up and we were introduced. At the time he invaded my personal space. I found out he had just donated a kidney and I had just been trying to talk my DB into taking mine (diabetes) so we would talk about that after I moved in. He lived across the hall. I went outside and he was on his motorcycle giving rides to his DGsons. I said you should give me a ride sometime. The next Friday he was going I was coming he was dressed for a ride I said I thought you were going to give me a ride and he said go get ready...

Have a great night everyone!

Mary from Minnesota

fanncy0626 wrote: »

I left my 2nd husband with the help of my DB and rented an apartment up north for the summer in the same town where DB lived. When viewing the apartment with the caretaker outside a car pulled up and a handsome gray haired man nicely dressed walked up and we were introduced. At the time he invaded my personal space. I found out he had just donated a kidney and I had just been trying to talk my DB into taking mine (diabetes) so we would talk about that after I moved in. He lived across the hall. I went outside and he was on his motorcycle giving rides to his DGsons. I said you should give me a ride sometime. The next Friday he was going I was coming he was dressed for a ride I said I thought you were going to give me a ride and he said go get ready...

Have a great night everyone!

Mary from Minnesota

Love it, Mary. Thanks for sharing with us. We are all winners!!