anyone else get super frustrated at friends/co workers?
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People tell me all the time I'm "too skinny". Um no I'm not, 5'4.5 and 139 is NOT too skinny. I can safely lose another 10-15. I just have a thin face/bony shoulders now. Most of the people who tell me that are either struggling with their weight themselves OR competitive/jealous of my loss (like my best friend). It's usually indicative of their issues not mine.well i think when they say things about us its really a COMPLAINT OR DIG about themselves.
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The only time I get frustrated or annoyed is if someone asks me for advice and then basically just craps on everything I say. I mostly am one of those people who keeps to themselves about their weightloss / fitness unless asked, but if you ask me for advice, and I give it to you, don't then tell it won't work for you because you're some kind of special snowflake who won't lose weight eating less and moving more.0
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The only time I get frustrated or annoyed is if someone asks me for advice and then basically just craps on everything I say. I mostly am one of those people who keeps to themselves about their weightloss / fitness unless asked, but if you ask me for advice, and I give it to you, don't then tell it won't work for you because you're some kind of special snowflake who won't lose weight eating less and moving more.
This ^.
This thread and others make me realize my coworkers aren't the worst, but they need some work. Most are supportive of me, but I've acquired food police - one even asks "is that real chocolate?" with a big grin on her face like she's busted me. I tell her "of course, and I'm not sharing." One former coworker, who was in mid management and was always throwing out the idea that if you don't want to change things (work situations) don't complain, was always looking at me and whining about how she wants to look like me. Yet, she refuses to change anything food related or exercise, I've even suggested a ten minute walk and just get excuses. She now does a perdiem shift here and there and when I see her start to do her routine, I cut her off and tell her I don't want to hear it. If you want advice and support, I'm glad to give it, but I'm not interested in being brought down by useless whining. Mostly I keep my weight loss efforts to myself - I'll tell how many pounds I've lost when asked because I'm proud of it. But I keep it off Facebook, and I don't friend anyone on here I know in real life and just try to do my thing.
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I try not to give much advice since it seems to just go in one ear and out the other when it comes to friends and co-workers unless explicitly asked by them then I try to help them and tell them what works for me.0
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The only time I get frustrated or annoyed is if someone asks me for advice and then basically just craps on everything I say. I mostly am one of those people who keeps to themselves about their weightloss / fitness unless asked, but if you ask me for advice, and I give it to you, don't then tell it won't work for you because you're some kind of special snowflake who won't lose weight eating less and moving more.
yup- everyone thinks they are 'special' and can't lose weight the 'old fashioned' way.... mmmmkay then porkie.....I saw it and thought "well, there's your problem..." she's just stuck in that mindset that "I exercise, therefore, I have a free pass to eat whatever I want"
man, i wish that was the case! LOLOL!
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kraft_kris wrote: »Not my circus, not my monkeys....
While I agree in spirit, the company I work at has decreed that they will pay no more or less than $X per person to cover health care costs. If they end the year in the red, the difference will made up by increasing next year's premium cost for health insurance. Similarly, if they are in the black, the savings is passed on to the employees via decreased premiums. So in a not so subtle way, they are encouraging not only individual employees to live and eat more healthy, they are also hoping we use peer pressure to encourage our co-workers to do the same now. The obese guy eating McDonald's every day who ends up developing diabetes or having a heart attack will directly hit me in the pocketbook next year.0 -
peter56765 wrote: »kraft_kris wrote: »Not my circus, not my monkeys....
While I agree in spirit, the company I work at has decreed that they will pay no more or less than $X per person to cover health care costs. If they end the year in the red, the difference will made up by increasing next year's premium cost for health insurance. Similarly, if they are in the black, the savings is passed on to the employees via decreased premiums. So in a not so subtle way, they are encouraging not only individual employees to live and eat more healthy, they are also hoping we use peer pressure to encourage our co-workers to do the same now. The obese guy eating McDonald's every day who ends up developing diabetes or having a heart attack will directly hit me in the pocketbook next year.
I know of a few companies that do that and I have mixed feelings. On one hand, yep - that really does increase accountability and prevent people from reporting false problems just for time off.
On the other hand, that might really decrease someone's chances of going to the doctor for a "minor" issue that's actually an underlying, major medical problem. Case in point: a coworker of mine went in for chronic fatigue. Turns out, she had a form of cancer (that's skipping my mind at the moment).
Depending on the size of the company, I'd also feel sort of guilty if I ended up having to have a bunch of really expensive tests done and everyone else's premiums were increased.0 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »The only time I get frustrated or annoyed is if someone asks me for advice and then basically just craps on everything I say. I mostly am one of those people who keeps to themselves about their weightloss / fitness unless asked, but if you ask me for advice, and I give it to you, don't then tell it won't work for you because you're some kind of special snowflake who won't lose weight eating less and moving more.
yup- everyone thinks they are 'special' and can't lose weight the 'old fashioned' way.... mmmmkay then porkie.....
Yeah - I liked the woman at my old job. After losing about 50 lbs or so, she started asking me questions about my "diet plan" (just CICO). When I explained to her, using more detail and nicer language, that I just ate less than I burned, she responded, "I'm just too busy with work to do all that."
Well, I was her counterpart in the same position for a different department, so it took some willpower not to answer, "Oh, and I'm not?"0 -
I am probably the one annoying them! Instead of eating a cake in the cafe where I volunteer, I say "I am fine, I have some grapes and juice" and I guess it stops them from munching cake too! They all say they want to lose weight and for a change I am the healthy one, must be so irritating! Love it though0
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I work in a nursing home and work with some larger ladies. I'm talking about the 300-400 lbs range. They always complain to me about their weight, however I watch them go to the kitchen and stuff their scrubs with cookies...
saying they deserve it because they're having a bad day. And try to get me to eat junk with them, which I pass over most times. Then they complain that they are over weight and deny how big they are by wearing the smallest scrubs they can.
when I try giving them advice, they brush me off. Whateves. I just hate hearing them complain though. I used to be 215 and now at 177 because one day I woke up and discovered I'm the only one that can make me lose the weight and make me be happy
however they recently started to notice my 25 pound weight loss since I bought new scrubs and keep telling me I need to be careful to not lose anymore, or my head is going to look "too big"
lol
or they try pushing their diet pills on me and can't believe I lost weight just by diet and exercise.
I just stopped talking about my program and goals. If they comment on my weight loss I just nod and thank them.
they don't really know I'm losing weight until I bring in scrubs that are way too big to give them away.
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I don't get frustrated. Mainly because I've been in their shoes. Tried all the fad diets and ordered all the workouts from infomercials looking for FAST weight loss. I was the one saying "two pounds a week?! Are you kidding me? That's gonna take me, like, forever!" I work for a staffing agency so when I work somewhere I haven't been in a while I hear a lot of "wow you lost a lot of weight! How the h*** did you do that?" When I say I just eat less than I burn they give me the saddest look. Lol. I just give them a sympathetic smile and say "yeah, it sucks, but it's really the only thing that actually works"0
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I have heard most of the things mentioned here. I get a bit frustrated sometimes, but more often speechless and/or giggly.0
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peter56765 wrote: »kraft_kris wrote: »Not my circus, not my monkeys....
While I agree in spirit, the company I work at has decreed that they will pay no more or less than $X per person to cover health care costs. If they end the year in the red, the difference will made up by increasing next year's premium cost for health insurance. Similarly, if they are in the black, the savings is passed on to the employees via decreased premiums. So in a not so subtle way, they are encouraging not only individual employees to live and eat more healthy, they are also hoping we use peer pressure to encourage our co-workers to do the same now. The obese guy eating McDonald's every day who ends up developing diabetes or having a heart attack will directly hit me in the pocketbook next year.
Hmm, I wonder how well this works. I'd think a current carrot would work better than a potential future stick.
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At my job all of us are varying degrees of overweight but I've lost 45 pounds so far this year. (.8lbs from healthy!) When I first started losing weight some asked how. I shared mfp with them and gave them my username to request me. Nobody joined. Now when my loss is mentioned they say its because I'm young. No! It's because I made the effort!0
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When my co-workers mention I've lost weight, I give them a confused look and say, "have I?"0
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Whenever I tell people I don't eat bread and that I don't drink milk or eat milk products:
"wahhwahh I could never live without bread or milk! wahwah!" ('wahwah' added for dramatic effect, it always sounds really whiney)
Well.
No one forces you to do that.
I chose to exclude these types of foods from my diet because I can't digest them properly and buying 'gluten-free' bread that tastes really weird and expensive lactose-free milk products just isn't worth it. I don't even like milk and cheese, ew.
Also:
"What CAN you eat?"
Whenever they forget there's like three entire food groups to choose from. (All things meat/fish, veggies and fruits.)
Oh and, whenever people misunderstand me when I explain my diet, they think, it's a 'weight loss' diet instead of 'a way of eating' diet (we have two different words for this in German). That's super frustrating because I'm not starving myself or anything. I simply don't eat like most people in my country do since I can't anyway and I don't want to.0 -
dont even get me started on the ' im too busy' *kitten*..... i challenge anyone to live my life for a week and then tell me *THEY* are too busy .....
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Sometimes the kids have serious underlying medical issues. Sometimes the parents desperately need a course in basic nutrition. Sometimes, though, they seem determined to ruin their kids' lives through...I don't even know.
My kids would rather play than eat. They will lose weight over the summer if I didn't force them to have a meal before going out. (Really, not joking.) If I let them become severely underweight, I would get into hot water.0 -
MamaBirdBoss wrote: »
Sometimes the kids have serious underlying medical issues. Sometimes the parents desperately need a course in basic nutrition. Sometimes, though, they seem determined to ruin their kids' lives through...I don't even know.
My kids would rather play than eat. They will lose weight over the summer if I didn't force them to have a meal before going out. (Really, not joking.) If I let them become severely underweight, I would get into hot water.
Yeah but I have a hard time believing that the kids pediatricians haven't talked to them about their kids weight. My kids weights always come up. They just decide not to do anything about it.
Ok I'm judging again. But still giving most of them the benefit of the doubt when at least the kids are not drinking sodas or having fries and chicken nuggets.
But as I've said... my kids play on their tablets a lot and they eat a good amount of junk (their diets some days is poor to say the least), and they're both healthy, if anything, on the low weight side, so I can't even imagine what parents of obese kids feed them.
I was the fat kid. I was eating junk all day. My parents never did anything about it.0 -
This post has been so interesting to read I'm loving it! Except I'm in the complete opposite situation - a coworker who is now a close friend of mine has lost over 70kg (154 pounds) in the past 18 months, mostly through weight watchers (she's a group leader/team leader now and is starting her own weekly meeting) but she has tried numerous other weight loss strategies. She is truly my inspiration and has been the person to keep me accountable for the past month that I've been calorie counting - and is the reason why I'm still at it, 4kg lighter!
I will admit that I joined WW thinking that it might have been a better option as opposed to calorie counting which I have done in the past. Despite numerous debates between her and I over WW vs MFP - I believe 100% that it all comes down to personal preference and I can wholeheartedly say that MFP is my #1 for various reasons. Mainly because I felt very uneasy calculating food in 'points' as opposed to calories (and ended up double tracking a week later anyway), and their app/food database has nothing on MFP! Very off topic I know but just had to put it out there.0 -
I get this a lot but it is because I eat gluten free due to celiac disease. You would not believe the eye rolls and snide looks and comments I get when I have to turn food down for safety reasons. I try to remind myself that they are coming from a place of ignorance but some days....
Now that I've changed my way of eating I probably don't get as many weird looks and comments as you all do because people are used to seeing me eat strange things. LOL0 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »i dont get frustrated with other people, but it does make me re-evaluate what i think their intelligence level is
i have people ask how ive lost so much weight and when i tell them ' eat less, move more' they roll their eyes and go back to talking about special foods or diets or wraps. whatever. its their money and their body. not mine.
THIS (especially your first sentence). Some people are disappointed when I don't tell them it's some miracle cure of fad diet.
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I wouldn't say super frustrated but I do SMH sometimes. Couple of the guys at work are on this eat normally for three days, fast for two days diet and they keep trying to get me to join them despite the fact that I have had more success on MFP than they have had on their diet.
They keep going on this diet for a few weeks, losing a bit of weight, then eating normally, putting the weight back on and going back on their diet again.
I've given up explaining that it is simply eating a bit less and doing a bit more. I get fed up with being told that counting calories is far too much bother and wouldn't work for them. I get blank looks when I ask if they intend fasting for two days for the rest of their life and how that could be less bother than monitoring calories.0 -
AlisonH729 wrote: »kraft_kris wrote: »Not my circus, not my monkeys....
I just heard this saying for the first time a few weeks ago, but it has become my new favorite.
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ETA: I'm sorry, really? Someone flagged me for this?
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MamaBirdBoss wrote: »
Sometimes the kids have serious underlying medical issues. Sometimes the parents desperately need a course in basic nutrition. Sometimes, though, they seem determined to ruin their kids' lives through...I don't even know.
My kids would rather play than eat. They will lose weight over the summer if I didn't force them to have a meal before going out. (Really, not joking.) If I let them become severely underweight, I would get into hot water.
Yeah but I have a hard time believing that the kids pediatricians haven't talked to them about their kids weight. My kids weights always come up. They just decide not to do anything about it.
Ok I'm judging again. But still giving most of them the benefit of the doubt when at least the kids are not drinking sodas or having fries and chicken nuggets.
But as I've said... my kids play on their tablets a lot and they eat a good amount of junk (their diets some days is poor to say the least), and they're both healthy, if anything, on the low weight side, so I can't even imagine what parents of obese kids feed them.
I was the fat kid. I was eating junk all day. My parents never did anything about it.
There was a documentary on the BBC about a government program trying to help obese primary school children in the UK. It was amazing in that these kids were morbidly obese, many of them twice the weight or more they should be, their eyes getting closed up from their chubby round faces, crying as they describe to the child psychologist the names they get called at school and their parents would be in a consultation with a pediatrician telling the doctor that the child was not overweight. Total denial, it was really sad. My heart broke for the kids.0 -
Wanted to share this anecdote: my mom came by a while ago (we don't see each other much and that is a good thing) and she started raving instantly about me loosing weight and how I must be starving myself. I work out too much, am hurting my body, yada yada yada. I know my mother well enough to know that's her instant reaction whenever other people do somehting she wishes she had the willpower to do herself so I didn't engage. Instead, I have been sending her images of the (big and nutritious) meals I have over WhatsApp, and voila! Now all talk about food and weight loss is positive and she is even eating a little better so she can share images of her food with me as well. And her weekly gym hour (she had COPD)? She now always goes and tells me how it went because I share sweaty post-workout pictures as well. Whatever works, right? 0
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Faithful_Chosen wrote: »Wanted to share this anecdote: my mom came by a while ago (we don't see each other much and that is a good thing) and she started raving instantly about me loosing weight and how I must be starving myself. I work out too much, am hurting my body, yada yada yada. I know my mother well enough to know that's her instant reaction whenever other people do somehting she wishes she had the willpower to do herself so I didn't engage. Instead, I have been sending her images of the (big and nutritious) meals I have over WhatsApp, and voila! Now all talk about food and weight loss is positive and she is even eating a little better so she can share images of her food with me as well. And her weekly gym hour (she had COPD)? She now always goes and tells me how it went because I share sweaty post-workout pictures as well. Whatever works, right?
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How about the one that says I diet all week long and have the weekend off but I'm not losing weight. And when you tell them that they are probably going over their calories for the week at the weekend they get all huffy and tell you that according to weight watchers they still have lots of points left over!!! Frustrates me...0
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The trend in my office at the moment is for all the people with "slow metabolisms" to get a gastric bypass done.
I don't want to be one of them.0
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