anyone else get super frustrated at friends/co workers?
lucyholdcroft363
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Bro-science everywhere! One of my friends moans to me every day that he isn't losing weight even though he 'barely eats' and I've seen the man eat two large chip shop servings with salt and vinegar! So I try to explain to him and he just says 'no. My metabolism is just crap. I barely eat anything and I work out loads.' I know for some folks its difficult to admit that actually, its not the metabolism, its you, but sometimes I wanna pull out my own hair! And another friend of mine busts her *kitten* lifting weights every day saying she's gonna get super muscular and huge arms etc...but eats practically nothing! Its crazy how uneducated we all were at one point and now we are all super diet gurus...lol.
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Yep. The best is the old gem "Why aren't you eating these doughnuts/cookies/cupcakes/whatever here for the whole office? You're so skinny!" It's hard sometimes not to say "Yes, I'm not fat because I don't eat this stuff every day when it appears in the break room."
I don't talk about this stuff with people IRL if I can help it, and if they ask I give a vague "Oh, you know, I watch my calories and try to stay active," because it's just not worth it.1 -
Meh...it doesn't frustrate me any more. I just smile and nod and carry on.
If someone asks me for frank, honest advice I'll give it to 'em. But that's pretty rare.0 -
I have a friend who constantly wonders why she only gains weight even though she works out all of the time. However, whenever I see her she eats HUGE meals multiple times per day. I'm talking 1500-2000+ calories before getting into soda consumption. She is far past the unhealthy barrier of large, but anyone even mentioning anything about her weight completely crushes her. I've tried to talk about it before, but it's come to fighting/tears, so I'm hands off now.
I worry about her health, but she refuses to even be honest enough with herself to have an open conversation, so there's nothing that anyone other than her can do.
It is definitely frustrating.0 -
My co-worker tells me she is eating to fix her broken metabolism and to avoid starvation mode. I just nod and move on after seeing her breakfast of a fast food sandwich, lunch is some fried fast food and she has informed us all that she isn't cooking at home anymore.0
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Why would I get frustrated at other people? My nose doesn't belong in their business.
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YES. My co-workers literally eat out every day (McDonald's, sushi, etc.) or bring mayo and pork rinds, only to lecture me about how I need to not eat fruit ("too much sugar"), protein bars ("they're for men") and carrots ("they have carbs"). I have to refrain myself from laughing every single time. They will literally say, "Oh I'm eating so healthy today" as they're munching on McNuggets....2
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I don't get frustrated by other people's weight loss failure. I do me, they can do them.1
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My boyfriends mother is always complaining about her weight and want to lose enough to go down a couple of clothing sizes. But she claims she never eats breakfast or lunch, and only eats a small dinner, and is the size she is because she's not eating enough. She also says that all women become overweight after having children so there's really nothing she can do about it anyway.
It's frustrating to hear her complaining about her weight but refusing to actually do anything. I think that moaning about it has actually become a hobby for her, she enjoys talking about how she can't lose weight more than she actually wants to do it, iyswim.0 -
I thought this was going to be about office sabotage.
I like this topic much better.
Carry on.1 -
It is a funny thing. At work and at the gym I have been going to for a year and a half, people have seen me drop 125 lbs of fat and add back muscle.
9 months ago I would get questioned about not going out to lunch and what not.
Now I get asked how I did it.
And I will share how it worked with people and they know me before and after
Some try and make a positive change. Others keep going to fast good 1200 calorie lunches and 400 calorie snacks from the machine after that. And they have not quite gotten to join a gym.
It does not matter really.
I used to do that too. So I have no right to say anything.
When a person wants to see, they usually get a clear vision.1 -
i dont get frustrated with other people, but it does make me re-evaluate what i think their intelligence level is
i have people ask how ive lost so much weight and when i tell them ' eat less, move more' they roll their eyes and go back to talking about special foods or diets or wraps. whatever. its their money and their body. not mine.0 -
WinoGelato wrote: »I thought this was going to be about office sabotage.
I like this topic much better.
Carry on.
^^^ me too but I agree!0 -
Some people in my office will tell me off for eating sandwiches, or red meat, or crisps for lunch, because they're apparently fattening/bad for your heart/will make you feel sluggish. I just smile and carry on enjoying my lunch. I don't think they mean badly, they're just sharing their thoughts during a social part of the work day. It probably would bother me more if I was just starting to try and lose weight, possibly, but I'm comfortable with how I eat and pretty set in my ways now, so it's water off a duck's back.
My office is pretty food obsessed in general though, so it's not weird for us to talk about each other's lunches.0 -
People ask me all the time how I lost my weight. When I say get a food scale and use it the don't want any part of it lol0
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Yep. My old coworkers used to complain that they had "slow metabolisms" and tell me that I was "just lucky" but I would mentally calculate their food intake and they'd be up to 2000+ by 4 pm while I was sticking to 1700-1800 and losing 2 lbs a week. I never gave out unsolicited advice to them, but they loved to dole out their "wisdom," gems like "You are going to get bulky," "you can't eat this," "you should try a body wrap (lol)," "diet soda makes you gain weight." I would just smile and nod. Just like them, if I told the multitude of people on MFP spreading misinformation that they're wrong, I wouldn't have time to do anything else. Pick your battles.0
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I try to be supportive, but yes I do get frustrated when a friend laments about not being able to lose weight.
She insists her metabolism is very slow and she can't lose weight. When in reality she just needs to be more active. She insists going keto will work for her, when her lifestyle indicates it probably won't.
I've given up and I just smile and nod and honestly we don't talk much about weight loss anymore. She's gained weight and I've reached my goal weight, though I'm ok with losing more
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I have a friend always trying to one-up me. My weight is her obsession. If I lost 5 pounds in two weeks, she lost 4 in 3 days. No exaggeration, that was our conversation today.
Another friend has a serious family issue with obesity, and has gained nearly 100 pounds since her wedding 13 months ago. She'll diet for a day and give up for a month. She's always calling me asking to go get Chinese, Mexican, pizza, and so on. I feel like she almost wants me to be in the position she is with weight. I just had to tell her today "No, I can't make twice baked potatoes, Mac and cheese, and burgers for the 4th... I'm trying to stick to my goals!!" Rrr...
My coworkers, thankfully, are great. I've had jobs in the past where they were the root of much of my temptation.0 -
I ranted last week about my co-worker starting Isagenix. Complaining that nothing else has worked for her. (Nothing else = Weight Watchers & the occasional exercise video.) She brings decent enough food for lunch, just way too much of it. I've tried to casually drop hints about how I weigh & measure my food and log my calories, but to no avail.
The other day she was talking about taking the 'accelerator pills' that help with metabolism and I almost just facedesked right in front of her.0 -
it's a losing battle. I get a hard time everyday for eating chicken and veggies at work and then today I was questioned for getting Jimmy John's "are you going to eat that"? I just shake it off but I would love to say eat whatever the hell I want when I want to and no I don't think that my tuna sandwich on wheat is going to kill me, but that quadruple burger you are eating might...
Seriously though, just do your thing and people will get used to it being what you do and the comments will taper off.0 -
peaceout_aly wrote: »YES. My co-workers literally eat out every day (McDonald's, sushi, etc.) or bring mayo and pork rinds, only to lecture me about how I need to not eat fruit ("too much sugar"), protein bars ("they're for men") and carrots ("they have carbs"). I have to refrain myself from laughing every single time. They will literally say, "Oh I'm eating so healthy today" as they're munching on McNuggets....
Protein bars are for men bahahaha
Well you keep doing you
My grandma desperately wants to lose weight but won't try anything new, so...
Also, she fought with me on my birthday about my own weight, thinks I've gained 50 - 60 pounds (I haven't), and told me loads of people also have knee surgery but don't gain weight. She, however, is allowed to be an emotional eater and have depression, when I talk about the struggles I had in the past. Thanks for the support...0 -
Not my circus, not my monkeys....0
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I have a co-worker who just started doing the advocare challenge and is trying to sell every other woman in the office on it. So much bro science today. She told me that she's tried it twice before and gained the weight back each time.
My frustration comes from co-workers being unaware that I'm in recovery for an eating disorder. So constantly questioning my food choices, or giving me tons of food for the hell of it sucks. They don't know though, so totally not their fault.0 -
Yep. The best is the old gem "Why aren't you eating these doughnuts/cookies/cupcakes/whatever here for the whole office? You're so skinny!" It's hard sometimes not to say "Yes, I'm not fat because I don't eat this stuff every day when it appears in the break room."
I don't talk about this stuff with people IRL if I can help it, and if they ask I give a vague "Oh, you know, I watch my calories and try to stay active," because it's just not worth it.
THIS!!!!!!! People in the office notice I have lost weight... they compliment me... I just smile and say thank you. I don't explain how. 1) because they don't actually ask and 2) if they did, it would be too exhausting to explain something that should actually be so simple to explain... It should be so simple but a lot of people can't seem to grasp the whole CICO thing and the fact that you can actually eat the "bad foods" they are staying away from but don't seem to help them in their quest to lose weight. They all want a magic pill, not to have to actually take responsibility for their weight loss.
My family is the only one who gets it because they actually see me weigh my food and eat the "bad foods" and lose weight.0 -
kraft_kris wrote: »Not my circus, not my monkeys....
I just heard this saying for the first time a few weeks ago, but it has become my new favorite.
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ETA: I'm sorry, really? Someone flagged me for this?-4 -
I've just started working in an office environment after working in retail for 12 years and I completely understand these conversations now! One office worker told me her stomach was bothering her and that she was going to eat lunch in the hopes that it would stop hurting. Her lunch was a personal pan pizza. The company I work for caters our lunch once a week. I don't deprive myself but I limit myself to one small serving of whatever I want. Then dinner is what my lunch would have been (fruit and a protein bar). So far I've been able to maintain in the 5 weeks I've been there.0
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It only frustrates me if that person is actually my friend and not just a work acquaintance.
I have a close friend that is so very depressed about the way she looks, wants to change things but just hasn't made it work for her yet. I feel sad for her, so I don't even talk about it unless she does first and even then I only listen.0 -
chelsy0587 wrote: »
I have a close friend that is so very depressed about the way she looks, wants to change things but just hasn't made it work for her yet. I feel sad for her, so I don't even talk about it unless she does first and even then I only listen.
ditto to that. and it breaks my heart
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DoreenaV1975 wrote: »
THIS!!!!!!! People in the office notice I have lost weight... they compliment me... I just smile and say thank you. I don't explain how. 1) because they don't actually ask and 2) if they did, it would be too exhausting to explain something that should actually be so simple to explain... It should be so simple but a lot of people can't seem to grasp the whole CICO thing and the fact that you can actually eat the "bad foods" they are staying away from but don't seem to help them in their quest to lose weight. They all want a magic pill, not to have to actually take responsibility for their weight loss.
My family is the only one who gets it because they actually see me weigh my food and eat the "bad foods" and lose weight.
YES. I have a friend who is always questioning me "So do you do low carb?" "No, I eat fewer calories than I burn in a day"... I've said this to her 10 different ways in the last month. It is that simple. Yes, I have certain things that help keep me on track when I'm feeling weak, and recipes I like and so on... but it's seriously, burn more than you eat. End of story.
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ercarroll311 wrote: »DoreenaV1975 wrote: »
THIS!!!!!!! People in the office notice I have lost weight... they compliment me... I just smile and say thank you. I don't explain how. 1) because they don't actually ask and 2) if they did, it would be too exhausting to explain something that should actually be so simple to explain... It should be so simple but a lot of people can't seem to grasp the whole CICO thing and the fact that you can actually eat the "bad foods" they are staying away from but don't seem to help them in their quest to lose weight. They all want a magic pill, not to have to actually take responsibility for their weight loss.
My family is the only one who gets it because they actually see me weigh my food and eat the "bad foods" and lose weight.
YES. I have a friend who is always questioning me "So do you do low carb?" "No, I eat fewer calories than I burn in a day"... I've said this to her 10 different ways in the last month. It is that simple. Yes, I have certain things that help keep me on track when I'm feeling weak, and recipes I like and so on... but it's seriously, burn more than you eat. End of story.
yup. people make it so much harder than it is0 -
My co-workers don't really offer alot of advice, but some have become my calorie police, as they know i've been losing weight. I follow an "anything in moderation" mindset, and eat anything as long as it fits in my calorie allotment for the day. Can't tell you the times I've had a cookie from the lunchroom, or picked out something other than a salad for my lunch, and have been told "oh no, you can't eat that". Umm, yes I can. I count it, and move on with my day.0
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