Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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I love this. Yes, you get priority too!lilaclovebird wrote: »@MelissaPhippsFeagins I think that's an idea. I did talk with someone else tonight and he asked if I had 'prioritized' my life. I realized it was like this:
1) Family(Mom, Dad, Uncle, Dog, Cats, and Ferrets)
2) Work(Covering for others when they call in sick and being ready at any time to come into work on my days off)
3) Myself (This includes but is not limited to, showers, painting my toenails, workouts, meal planning, and spending time with SSP)
When I verbalized this list he suggested that maybe I should put MYSELF as first priority for a while. He said he notices when I do it for a little while and I seem happier, less stressed, etc. I hadn't really thought about it. And doing it, even for just a little while (a month or so) would be helpful.
And if I put MYSELF first then I am going to schedule my family. If they aren't ready ready (Like walk out the door that second ready) then I will just drop the whole idea and just have to say "I love you guys but you're not following the schedule and being respectful of my time enough to go. I will buy what I need at the grocery store at a time when it is convenient for ME and you will just have to wait until your next scheduled appointment."
If my father had kept the government on their toes regarding his naturalization papers, he wouldn't have had to wait until his driver's license expired to go get a new one. As it stands I need a WHOLE DAY to get him his license now because he has to retake the written and the driving tests.
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lilaclovebird wrote: »@MelissaPhippsFeagins I think that's an idea. I did talk with someone else tonight and he asked if I had 'prioritized' my life. I realized it was like this:
1) Family(Mom, Dad, Uncle, Dog, Cats, and Ferrets)
2) Work(Covering for others when they call in sick and being ready at any time to come into work on my days off)
3) Myself (This includes but is not limited to, showers, painting my toenails, workouts, meal planning, and spending time with SSP)
When I verbalized this list he suggested that maybe I should put MYSELF as first priority for a while. He said he notices when I do it for a little while and I seem happier, less stressed, etc. I hadn't really thought about it. And doing it, even for just a little while (a month or so) would be helpful.
And if I put MYSELF first then I am going to schedule my family. If they aren't ready ready (Like walk out the door that second ready) then I will just drop the whole idea and just have to say "I love you guys but you're not following the schedule and being respectful of my time enough to go. I will buy what I need at the grocery store at a time when it is convenient for ME and you will just have to wait until your next scheduled appointment."
If my father had kept the government on their toes regarding his naturalization papers, he wouldn't have had to wait until his driver's license expired to go get a new one. As it stands I need a WHOLE DAY to get him his license now because he has to retake the written and the driving tests.
I've been married to Denni for 23 years. I truly believe it's because he's the first person on my schedule. -- there is Hershey ice cream in my diary from Saturday because he kidnapped me to the ice cream/coffee shop, no kids allowed. (It's good to have teens.)
ETA: And yes, you should prioritize you. I think I am going to work in a mani/pedi this week.0 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »I appear to be living on cake batter and biscuit dough this weekend
I have made: 48 cupcakes; a train cake with 5 carriages, 50 safari animal biscuits, endless jelly lego bricks and lego robots and jelly dinosaurs.
I am exhausted (and a little sick). As well as entertaining an (almost) three year old for three days. And boy can he outrun me!
However, on the positive side, after dropping Charlie home tonight, i drove to 3 different supermarkets looking for junk to cram in my face (sour cream to make ranch; big packs of crisps; pizza). i picked stuff up and put stuff down and ultimately did not buy anything, in any shop. I found that i really didn't want any of it, none of it appealed. So i put it down and walked away. (I was actually in the supermarkets for a baking product, which i couldn't find in any of them - but my plan to was buy the junk in any of the shops i got the product in). So, despite all the cake batter i may have had, i'm still calling it a win.
That is an awesome NSV! I am always so proud when I can do that!!
Happy Almost Birthday to Charlie!!!!
@orangesmartie agreed with everything Kelly put here.
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It's always an accomplishment for me when I don't buy any ice cream or snacky foods when I am at the store. I took the rest of the Brownie Batter Oreos to work & put them on the table for a morning meeting & then left them for other coworkers to enjoy.
Yep yep I agree with everyone else!
I went on a baking spree this past weekend and managed to not cram my face full of soy free/gluten free/dairy free cake and bread and PannuKakku and flapjacks... it was awesome!0 -
OK so I am back from my mini Vacation (we didn't go anywhere; I just had doctor consults and didn't want to be at work for a few days). Trying to catch up with everyone but with 900 new posts...not sure how well I'll do.
Wed I had doctor consults for my surgeries all day and...discussed it with DH and I booked surgeries for 10/30! 2 surgeons estimated they'd remove about 8 lbs of skin, the 3rd and 4th ones said it'd be closer to 10 lb. Either way, in 10.5 weeks I'll be having surgery! Yippie! I'm a candidate for insurance covering some of it, but we're preparing like they won't cover anything, so we'll see... I'm getting a full abdominoplasty with an extended cut to grab skin from the sides and a fleur de lis (vertical) cut which grabs even more. Plus a breast reduction. I'll have extensive scarring but it'll fade and it's worth it.
All 4 docs said not to lose anymore weight, just maintain, because I'm actually on the "skinny side" underneath all the skin. That was weird but I guess it's to be expected. I see myself as lumpy and fat but it's almost all skin- I weighed in at 127 and 128 at 2 of the offices (the other 2 didn't weigh me). If they take 8 lb of skin that puts me at 119-120. I'm 5'4.5. So now I'm trying to figure out how to eat enough to maintain.0 -
orangesmartie wrote: »The weather here is beyond vile. Its is so dark outside and the clouds are pretty much sitting on top of the houses. Very heavy rain, but still quite warm and humid.
So of course, my mood is affected. Feeling a bit icky and low. I want to go to the gym but can't quite find the motivation to go. Or do anything really. I have ordered a set of dumbells from amazon, they should be delivered tomorrow.
I was reading an article on this the other day. We've had a very foggy winter in my city, with very little sunlight in the mornings (sometimes the fog merely thins around midday before thickening again in the evening). There's a link between sunlight and mood - I can't remember exactly what, but they were saying there was a definite correlation between the foggy winter and the general mood of the people who live in the city. Something to do with vitamin D, I think. I noticed it myself recently - if it's super-foggy, cloudy, my mood will generally be worse, than today for example, when I was really tired (sleep problems last night) but really happy and upbeat because the sun was out and shining with some warmth.
I'm weird because I'm actually the opposite. I'm in a better mood when it is foggy, rainy, stormy etc.
But I've always heard that the bad weather can make people feel down too.
I'm trying to catch up but it's going to be another busy day at work with no computer to use for most the day. 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »I have not had a good experience when I went to a therapist in high school (dermatologist told my mom I didn't have an acne issue... I was picking my face to death for 'other reasons' and that my acne would be fine if I would leave it alone) and I found it useless... BUT I know lots of people who have good experiences but you need to find the right one. This guy might not be for you.
Glad you ended up having a nice evening. Post the shoes! I want to see!
Thanks for the comments everyone.
I'll post a pic later but they are just sneakers so you probably won't be as interested.
I'll have to post pictures of the few heels I do have though because you might like them.
I'll try to remember to do that. It's going to be a busy week. I have physical therapy (last one tonight!!!) and the regular therapy and then we are going camping next week so I'm trying to get all packed up/get supplies for that. Plus at work we are opening a new location so I'm helping set that up (which means no computer since they don't have anything set up yet :-P )0 -
Anyone heard from @KylerJaye? Hoping she's doing ok. Me too. I'm still way behind but I hope that she posted something. 0
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You know, I am always amazed by Americans, who thank military personnel for their service, particularly when they don't know the person/people. I see it online/hear it a lot. Its just not something we do over here. And I wish we did. I am awed by our military personnel, the sacrifices they make and the risks they take.
There is a brilliant set of videos on youtube, called 'You're not in the forces now' which explains how basic training works, installing the symptoms of PTSD, and the effects thereof. They explain, really well, that is not seeing action/combat/missions that cause PTSD, those symtoms are instilled from day 1. It was so enlightening.
It also explained to me why 'extraordinary interrogation' techniques are so effective. Its exactly the same way we train our soldiers.
Mr Smartie has told me some of the missions he went on (he was special forces) and I cannot contemplate seeing some of those things, never mind living with them day after day.
As my mum pointed out to me on Friday, every man and woman that makes it through basic training should be thanked, and told just what strong people they are. Not everyone can get even that far.
Obviously, all of this stuff hits very close to home. I live with the after effects of this training every day.
So break with British tradition, to everyone who is currently serving, has served, or who has family and friends serving, thank you for your service.0 -
I need a day off to recover from my weekend. Think my boss will go for that? LOL0
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xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »OK so I am back from my mini Vacation (we didn't go anywhere; I just had doctor consults and didn't want to be at work for a few days). Trying to catch up with everyone but with 900 new posts...not sure how well I'll do.
Wed I had doctor consults for my surgeries all day and...discussed it with DH and I booked surgeries for 10/30! 2 surgeons estimated they'd remove about 8 lbs of skin, the 3rd and 4th ones said it'd be closer to 10 lb. Either way, in 10.5 weeks I'll be having surgery! Yippie! I'm a candidate for insurance covering some of it, but we're preparing like they won't cover anything, so we'll see... I'm getting a full abdominoplasty with an extended cut to grab skin from the sides and a fleur de lis (vertical) cut which grabs even more. Plus a breast reduction. I'll have extensive scarring but it'll fade and it's worth it.
All 4 docs said not to lose anymore weight, just maintain, because I'm actually on the "skinny side" underneath all the skin. That was weird but I guess it's to be expected. I see myself as lumpy and fat but it's almost all skin- I weighed in at 127 and 128 at 2 of the offices (the other 2 didn't weigh me). If they take 8 lb of skin that puts me at 119-120. I'm 5'4.5. So now I'm trying to figure out how to eat enough to maintain.
Awesome, and exciting, and a little terrifying! Congrats to you!0 -
orangesmartie wrote: »I appear to be living on cake batter and biscuit dough this weekend
I have made: 48 cupcakes; a train cake with 5 carriages, 50 safari animal biscuits, endless jelly lego bricks and lego robots and jelly dinosaurs.
I am exhausted (and a little sick). As well as entertaining an (almost) three year old for three days. And boy can he outrun me!
However, on the positive side, after dropping Charlie home tonight, i drove to 3 different supermarkets looking for junk to cram in my face (sour cream to make ranch; big packs of crisps; pizza). i picked stuff up and put stuff down and ultimately did not buy anything, in any shop. I found that i really didn't want any of it, none of it appealed. So i put it down and walked away. (I was actually in the supermarkets for a baking product, which i couldn't find in any of them - but my plan to was buy the junk in any of the shops i got the product in). So, despite all the cake batter i may have had, i'm still calling it a win.
That is a fantastic NSV!!!0 -
Our fire (Soda fire, southwest Idaho) is 70% contained, with no major losses. Outbuildings and livestock, but no human lives or residences. Thanks for the well-wishes and prayers, everyone.0
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lilaclovebird wrote: »Confession: I am extremely frustrated that I have been trying to schedule outside of work time with SSP and it just has NOT been going the way I want at all.
To add to my frustration, SSP wants to have some spontaneity in things and keeps propping up with impromptu times we could hang out, and I have to say no because my dad doesn't have a driver's license still and I have to drive him and my uncle everywhere. My schedule is SO FULL and every time I try to rearrange things something comes up to ruin all of my plans.
The worst part is I'm afraid he will stop asking for those impromptu moments because I've said no so many times. I worry that one time I might say yes, to keep that from happening, and I'll miss out on a bunch of sleep and that will make him feel guilty and not ask for those times anymore.
I just want to curl up in a bubble bath and cry. I feel like I work so hard to make up for my mother's absence and it just never goes my way sometimes. Then, when my mother is here, I have time to actually SEE SSP and I can't because I feel guilty leaving my mom because I don't get to see her that often.
Sorry you are so stressed out! SSP has to understand how busy you are and spontaneity just is not in the cards for you. He is a grown man, so he should be able to understand that, do not stress about that.0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »I need a day off to recover from my weekend. Think my boss will go for that? LOL
I feel like that too. I need a day BETWEEN Sunday and Monday!0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Our fire (Soda fire, southwest Idaho) is 70% contained, with no major losses. Outbuildings and livestock, but no human lives or residences. Thanks for the well-wishes and prayers, everyone.
Thank God!
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Prayers for your sister and hugs for you!I'm waiting to hear from my BIL. My sister's been having headaches and funny vision for a couple of weeks. Yesterday she thought she should get it looked at, so she dropped in hoping her optometrist could see her. She still hasn't been home! It's a partially detached retina. They sent her straight to a specialist who said she had to get picked up (no more driving!) and go directly to the hospital. She needs emergency surgery, which should have happened last night, but the surgeon was already operating, so she had to stay in. Hopefully it will happen this morning. When she gets home she has to spend 2 weeks face down on a massage table, and 6 weeks total off work.
If she's lucky, she'll keep the sight in that eye.
I think we're all in shock.0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »OK so I am back from my mini Vacation (we didn't go anywhere; I just had doctor consults and didn't want to be at work for a few days). Trying to catch up with everyone but with 900 new posts...not sure how well I'll do.
Wed I had doctor consults for my surgeries all day and...discussed it with DH and I booked surgeries for 10/30! 2 surgeons estimated they'd remove about 8 lbs of skin, the 3rd and 4th ones said it'd be closer to 10 lb. Either way, in 10.5 weeks I'll be having surgery! Yippie! I'm a candidate for insurance covering some of it, but we're preparing like they won't cover anything, so we'll see... I'm getting a full abdominoplasty with an extended cut to grab skin from the sides and a fleur de lis (vertical) cut which grabs even more. Plus a breast reduction. I'll have extensive scarring but it'll fade and it's worth it.
All 4 docs said not to lose anymore weight, just maintain, because I'm actually on the "skinny side" underneath all the skin. That was weird but I guess it's to be expected. I see myself as lumpy and fat but it's almost all skin- I weighed in at 127 and 128 at 2 of the offices (the other 2 didn't weigh me). If they take 8 lb of skin that puts me at 119-120. I'm 5'4.5. So now I'm trying to figure out how to eat enough to maintain.
How exciting! I'm super psyched for you.0 -
Again, thanks for positive thoughts for my sister. It's very encouraging to hear of people who have had good results after the same injury. If anyone knows of bad outcomes, thanks for not telling me about them.
She's still waiting for surgery, unfortunately. I don't know what's going on. They seemed pretty sure it was going to happen today, but everyone is very vague about it. (For US people - this is the price you pay for socialised health care! Yes, you don't pay for the surgery, but on the other hand, you have to be patient.) (A patient patient).
Anyway, I saw her earlier and took her some stuff so she could shave her legs and dry shampoo her hair because a girl likes to look respectable before having surgery. I also ran around and picked up the after-surgery equipment she needs - this is stuff like a massage-table type bed arrangement and a chair that enables you to sit up while keeping the face tilted downwards. I hope that will help.
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riderfangal wrote: »Guess I should shave my legs. My dear son jas leaning up against my leg and turned around and rubbed it and informed me that it felt like spikes.
That made me LOL! We have a month of jeans/capri days (if you donate enough) here at work because of a charity thing they have every year. I wore jeans all last week and roasted because I was too lazy to shave so I could wear capris.0 -
riderfangal wrote: »Guess I should shave my legs. My dear son jas leaning up against my leg and turned around and rubbed it and informed me that it felt like spikes.
Kids! They have no filter. LOL!
No, they don't! Danny's cousin gave birth to her second daughter a while ago, daughter 1 noticed her mum got fat before giving birth and so proceeded to ask me, in front of everyone, if I was having a baby as well.
Ground, please open up and swallow me.
My son told me several times after I had my daughter that I still looked pregnant. 0 -
FTFY.thank you all for the thoughts, it's appreciated
i realized after three days of heavy sobbing, much grief bacon, and large quantities of alcohol, that me "taking a break" was really just giving me more time to focus on him, and my misery and disappointment. so i figured might as well try to chat with some ppls, and find a little distraction.
*post date update*
ok, went out with a dude last night.
full disclosure, i'd already had a few beverages, so i walked (trying to be a more responsible person, kinda) to a nearby bar to say hello. now dude was the one that suggested meeting up for beverages. ok, i have no problem with that (obviously). but then he didn't actually drink. was fine serving them to me, but stuck with soda for himself. even my lil drunken brain tabbed that as slightly strange.
spent about two hours chatting, dude seemed nice, but a large chunk of his conversation had all to do with his "nylons and high heels" fetish. and how he likes to be "teased." i would like to think i'm pretty open minded, but dude, this is the first time i'm meeting you, chill. but of course me being me, i was like dude, that's fine and all but i'm a total jeans and tshirt kinda girl, you're in for a world of disappointment.
he then went on to let me know that that's totally ok, but he would just expect a few little things here and there for his enjoyment. yeah...
left the bar and walked him out to his truck, where he then tried to have sex with me.
yeah, not so much. disengaged from the situation and despite the offer for a ride (pun not intended but it does work so well!) and a request to come back to my place, i declined and walked home.
bleh.
What a sleaze ball! And why do so many guys seem to think that that type of conversation is appropriate for a first date?!
Good fix!
ETA: I do agree with those who said they would eventually be okay talking about it, but definitely not in the first "getting to know you" phase.0 -
Tomorrow night is meet the teacher for my daughter's kindergarten. I have to say I am a bit anxious about her teacher, but am hoping all will go well. After all that kid has been through, school should be nothing.0
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orangesmartie wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Two days early, but I'll chip in with everyone else and wish Charlie Bucket a happy, messy, delicious, and wonderfully sticky birthday!
Hahaha thank you!
We're having a lovely birthday weekend so far, we came to a soft play centre this.morning and we're still here! He's having a whale of a time. I want to go home and nap he shows no signs of slowing down!
I think your Monday is almost over there, but hope you had a great birthday weekend with Charlie! And happy birthday Charlie!0 -
MelissaPhippsFeagins wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »So there is a pretty major wildfire near my house. Luckily we have the river between our house and the fire. A coworker, however, had to evacuate yesterday and may lose his home. I've been thinking of, and praying for, him all day. His name is Dave, if anyone wants to chip in.
You got it, Dave is on the list. Fire is my fear. My neighbors' house burned in 30 minutes when I was 10 and years later my friend Teresa died in a house fire because the landlord (also a candidate for *kitten* of the year) had painted the windows shut.
W.o.w. How awful terrifying that must have been for her
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@KylerJaye I hope you seriously kicked that frog to the curb and down the storm drain. Dude has no couth or respect for anyone but himself. Sorry you had to come in contact with that person. I hope copious amounts of antibacterial were used after you talked to him. Possibly even a shower.
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lilaclovebird wrote: »********************ETA: POSSIBLE TMI POST! BEWARE!*************************************************
My relief for tonight has called in sick. He's supposed to be here at 7am and he called in at 4am.
Apparently, he's claimed he got a bacterial infection from me.
Most of the day shift knows I have been taking an antibiotic for a bacterial infection but no one knows exactly what for. I only told them because the medication makes me nauseous, sometimes dizzy, etc and everyone was informed that the infection is NOT contagious. No one knows what the antibiotic is for except for the one other night shift person and of course SSP. The on staff nurse, Kim, also knows, but she saw me for my dizziness at work and answered my questions/concerns regarding side effects.
So, someone gets to tell "Mr. I-got-sick-from-PSO-968" that he somehow got Bacterial Vaginosis!
Bacterial Vaginosis:
An inflammation of the vagina due to bacterial overgrowth.
HAHAHAHAHA!
HAHAHAHAHAHA that is hilarious. Obviously the guy was just looking for an excuse to get out of work. You should ask him how his vagina is doing once he comes back in.
ETA: read your later post where he was told he couldn't have what you have.0 -
WestCoastJo82 wrote: »I'm curious - to those who lift, do you wear a HRM to track calorie burn? I'm just curious about it because I recently got an HRM and was wondering whether the chest strap thing would get in the way if I was lifting.
I have a Fitbit Charge HR, so I'm always tracking heart rate, but my understanding is that heart rate data is really only useful for steady cardio-type things (like your Zombie running). So I wear it but don't really pay attention to it except for when I'm running. Someone who uses real heart rate stuff might know more/better/different information.
Oh interesting. I didn't know that... I may have to check Auntie Google to see what info I can find.
Love Auntie Google! When I was pregnant with my first kiddo I Googled everything and did so much other research...not shocking. My husband and I were always saying, "Well, they say...." so we gave "they" a name and started saying, "Well, Peggy says...". We still use that!0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »Guess I should shave my legs. My dear son jas leaning up against my leg and turned around and rubbed it and informed me that it felt like spikes.
Kids! They have no filter. LOL!
No, they don't! Danny's cousin gave birth to her second daughter a while ago, daughter 1 noticed her mum got fat before giving birth and so proceeded to ask me, in front of everyone, if I was having a baby as well.
Ground, please open up and swallow me.
My son told me several times after I had my daughter that I still looked pregnant.
My 3.5 yr old tells me all the time that my stomach is so "wrinkly it's snuggly" and then pets it. I never yell at him about it, because 3 yrs old, but I hate it every time.0 -
@orangesmartie - Happy Birthday to Charlie!!0
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xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »OK so I am back from my mini Vacation (we didn't go anywhere; I just had doctor consults and didn't want to be at work for a few days). Trying to catch up with everyone but with 900 new posts...not sure how well I'll do.
Wed I had doctor consults for my surgeries all day and...discussed it with DH and I booked surgeries for 10/30! 2 surgeons estimated they'd remove about 8 lbs of skin, the 3rd and 4th ones said it'd be closer to 10 lb. Either way, in 10.5 weeks I'll be having surgery! Yippie! I'm a candidate for insurance covering some of it, but we're preparing like they won't cover anything, so we'll see... I'm getting a full abdominoplasty with an extended cut to grab skin from the sides and a fleur de lis (vertical) cut which grabs even more. Plus a breast reduction. I'll have extensive scarring but it'll fade and it's worth it.
All 4 docs said not to lose anymore weight, just maintain, because I'm actually on the "skinny side" underneath all the skin. That was weird but I guess it's to be expected. I see myself as lumpy and fat but it's almost all skin- I weighed in at 127 and 128 at 2 of the offices (the other 2 didn't weigh me). If they take 8 lb of skin that puts me at 119-120. I'm 5'4.5. So now I'm trying to figure out how to eat enough to maintain.
That's super great! I want to see pics!0
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