WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2015

Hi folks, I'm home!

Been in my pj's all day. I got a memo card for my phone in London and got the serving staff to transfer my photos over. Of course a whole lot of other photos came flying through the ether and clogged up the thing. Drat! Been deleting stuff. Masses. I've probably deleted something important, but I guess it doesn't matter. My phone doesn't sinc to the wifi usb very well, so that was a lot of time wasted. Will try again another day. It's still as slow as treacle, even though I've moved apps around etc. The nice young man did tell me I can get a new phone 73 days before the end of my contract, so I will check when that is.
Part of it is that I like to be tidy and I like things to be efficient. Don't like clutter and excess stuff.

Well, I forgot Margaret's maxim about the hook last night and got very irate with my difficult friend. She was going on non stop about all the property her tax avoiding husband was buying. I should have let it ride, but I couldn't stand her nonsense any longer. She took it ok, but it left a bad taste in my mouth. The restaurant was pretentious and crazy prices. :grumble: I got home to a very grumpy DH because my train was late and he had had to wait. We went to bed not speaking, but all is well now.
November is a difficult month for him because his previous partner died then. It has also been raining non stop.
I will have to think very carefully about another meet up. I am not good at groups and when other people are organising they don't measure up to my high standards. :laugh:

I will have to get over myself.

So sorry for all those suffering. I have been bingeing on pain killers myself. Glad to see Kirby on his feet!

Love Heather UK

Heather I have had a few moments the last couple of days. I just got through them best I could.
It did not sound like your favorite kind of evening. I have trouble breaking away when something is irritating me. I need to remember I can always excuse myself. In the case of subbing for that difficult third grade yesterday I found myself saying to myself. Remember you do not have to come back to this class. It did help.

We went to see a Thomas Jefferson presentation this morning at our History Center. It sold out and we got the last two tickets. Out lucky day! An actor takes on the role of the famous president. He did a phenomenal job! He was interviewed by a local radio broadcaster and then took questions for the audience. If I had asked a question I would have asked him about his gardening and would he be involved with GMO's.

Pip Glad to see Kirby up and about.

Lenora I just joined Facebook and wish I had not. I only joined it so I could see photos of my great nieces and nephews. Now because what I learned about Identity Theft I would rather they not post. I now will never share photos of children who are easily identified. Tagging is out for me too. I only like posts that have posters I like and nature. Anything political or controversial I stay away from.

Joyce hugs and prayers. I will try to follow my own advice and take care of yourself.

Margaret

Pip~ wish I could zoom over and help you.. hurts for me to be so far away and not be able to help...
just got back from the massage and let me just say it was heavenly,
I feel like a wet noodle...
it is 60 degrees outside but feels cool to me.. maybe because we were tucked under nice warm covers, they even had heated pads on under the sheets on the massage table..
Miriam~ just stunning.... I have to say I am sooo proud to know so many wonderful talented ladies..
it just makes my heart feel like it is busting all over

Miriam, your stitchery is beautiful!

thanks grandmallie - just knowing you're thinking about me wanting to come over is good enough! :0)....

Mindy, it sounds like seasonal depression and holiday anticipation has hit you hard! Crying jags are an "early warning sign" that things are starting to go downhill, so now is when you pull out your wellness tools to get yourself back on track before it gets worse. I don't know what works for you, or if you have even thought of making a "wellness toolbox" which is just a list of things that might make you feel better. Some of my best wellness tools are exercise, light (sun or full spectrum in high intensity), planning something socially, starting a new project, watching a comedy movie or show, and a trip to the library but I know other people have things like taking a bubble bath with candles and mood music, getting a pedi/mani, throwing the ball with their dog, getting a massage or new hairstyle, going to a football game, etc. Of course, it might help to schedule an additional session with your counselor if you find that is helpful. And maybe talk to your doctor about a med change IF the down period persist.

I often around this time of year gave talks about how to get through the holidays, and one of the best bits of advice is to enjoy the moment and lower your expectations. The media, TV, magazines, etc. (paid for by ADVERTISERS, remember) promote this idea that everyone should be having the time of their life with family and friends during the holidays. Remember, they are out to make money off us buying things. In the past before media took over our lives, people just expected to have some quiet time with a few friends or family and there wasn't the push to have perfect holidays. Do you think the travel industry has influenced media to promote that we should all be together at the holidays? It is really just another day, and it may not be the best time to spend with family. Tickets are MUCH more expensive during the holidays and it is because they can get away with it. They have taught us that we have to have ALL our family around us. It is a much healthier attitude to drastically reduce what we want out of the holidays, and to enjoy the moments we have. There are so many people around the country who have no one to spend the holidays with- elderly, disabled, kids in foster care. Maybe giving to others during the actual holiday, and planning time with family at another time might be a good idea. Then you could really enjoy a more relaxed visit without all the emotional baggage of the holidays (and a cheaper visit!). Just some thoughts about what has helped me get through many a holiday spent alone with no family, or working every day during the holiday period, and I know many people that these ideas have helped.

The bottom room is cleaned out and the bed made up! Now more laundry , got help from a neighbor!

Pip Wow! What a time you've had lately!!! I am so glad Kirby is doing good!!! Sending hugs and prayers for a fast healing! I'm glad you have a neighbor who can help you, like many others here, I would be there if I lived closer! Tell Kirby even all cut and bruised up, he's still HOT!!!

Sylvia I love your bowls!!! I think my favorites are the white ones with the pinched rims....beautiful!!!! I hope you have luck finding a leotard for your granddaughter, my friend that owns a dance studio here said if you could find a supply house for dancing attire, you could get one that would fit. Healing thoughts for your son!!! I also wanted to say I love the picture of Molly in the Oct. thread, what a beautiful regal girl she is!

Mia Your glass art is beautiful!!! I love especially the flowers!!! I used to do a lot of painting and I never thought my art was very good, yet I sold everything that I didn't give away!

Miriam Wow, such beauty!!! I love love love the first picture with the gorgeous flowers!!! How is your son doing! Did he get all settled in? Congratulations on the adoption!!!

Katiebug Anytime you're in the area you are welcome to come organize my house! You know you could make a lot of money organizing people and their stuff!!! Awesome!!

Mindy Sending you a warm hug!!!

Mary I'm so inspired by you and all you've been doing! You and Michele are like the energizer bunny!

Katla Glad the windows are in!!! Hope you're enjoying the riding lesson today!

Margaret Keeping you and DH in my prayers!!! Glad you're getting out and having some fun!

Rori Keeping you and your DH in my prayers also!!! Sending you hugs!!!

Meg Noel and I send Benny Beagle hugs!!!

DJ Hope you had a wonderful time modeling, I did that a few years for one of my friends that owned a store, we had a great fun and also got a good discount on the clothes if we wanted to buy them! Are you getting a lot of rain at the beach? It's been so rainy here lately, my poor mums evidently drowned!

Michele Congrats to Denise!!! Hope you're having a good time this weekend with Jess!!!

Heather A pj day sounds absolutely fabulous!!!

Wishing everyone health and happiness !!!

Hugs,
DeeDee in soggy rainy NC

DeeDee2211 wrote: »

Pip Wow! What a time you've had lately!!! I am so glad Kirby is doing good!!! Sending hugs and prayers for a fast healing! I'm glad you have a neighbor who can help you, like many others here, I would be there if I lived closer! Tell Kirby even all cut and bruised up, he's still HOT!!!


Hugs,
DeeDee in soggy rainy NC

deedee- that will really make him smile, when i get back to the hospital, i'll tell him!

evening folks~
well this afternoon has been just lovely~ that massage loosened me up I had some tough knots...
we went to 99 for dinner and i ordered chicken pot pie, it came with mashed potatoes and cranberry sauce... I tried a bite of the mashed and they were yummy, but found a piece of paper in them the pot pie was so hot I only ate a few forkfuls , and they comped my meal because of the piece of paper...
came home and soaked in a nice hot bath,, with lavender and epsom salts.. now in my pj.s with a cup of sleepytime vanilla tea...
I am looking to buy myself a tea box for my tea as I have sooo many boxes, but me being the bargain hunter I am ,I dont want to spend to much...
Pip~ tell Kirby we are all blowing him gentle kisses from all over the u.s and abroad..

Gayle in Minneapolis - what'll you take for that needlepoint wise men kit? I have not done needlepoint in quite a while; my Mother did it all the time - while watching TV. About the only thing she did not do was crochet and crewel work. Knitted beautiful baby blankets for all her grandchildren and I only have a piece of one left that she made for my youngest son - has a hole in it about the side of a baseball; and no way to fix it. If my DYS & DDnL have a baby (especially if it is a boy) ... I will try to make some sort of pillow out of it somehow. I've been reading a lot lately and just laughing at Cracker who acts just like a baby who has discovered her feet and that she can hold her squeaky toys with them and play. My husband will motion for me to watch her and when I do, she takes her eyes of the toy and just looks at us.

We went to a fundraiser for a young woman with brain cancer and no insurance. I sure hope they made a lot of money - I'm sure my DDnL (the one who acts like ) will have good news. She helped with the silent auction and not until it was announced that they were having it did people walk over and look and bid. We got a beautiful Christmas wreath for $25; a pecan pie for $20, spent $40 on a homemade pound cake (yes, all the money is going to this girl to help with medical expenses so it was more or less a donation. DDnL was getting upset because things were not getting done the way SHE wanted it to be done. But, she was not one of the people putting it on. They had liquor there and she had 4 big glasses of some sort of very sweet cocktail (and she wonders why she won't lose weight) and keeps putting it on. They'll stay there until it ends ... so tomorrow she will wake up with a headache and be miserable. I went up to her and hugged her and told her I loved her and her remark was: "I'm not Tami". My response was "I know you're not." Still holding onto her anger and I told her I thought we had already talked it out and had it settled; she then said that everything was going wrong in every area of her life and I just bit my tongue ... shaking . . . she is bringing all this on herself. Told DH about it and he said that we were just better off ignoring it - things said by her are only going to cause problems if we don't take the 'high road'. GGGggggrrrr. I heard her telling someone about her weight ... "I'm FAT!" (translation - "Poor little [no pun intended]; I am the victim - make me feel better". She was trying to take charge and screamed that they were going to have to turn that damn music down, she couldn't concentrate. The eye rolls just mean that others tend to ignore her, too.

DOGD and DMGD came - DOGD was asked about her mother - she told her not long ago to stay out of her life; and then hugged her step-mom and said, 'this is my mama'. She has been a good mother figure for her; but, I still caution her about talking smack about her mother especially to others - it is 'ok' for DOGD to make remarks about her, any maybe even my son ... if he is being protective of his daughter by this woman (his 1st wife); but DDnL should learn the lesson of tact. DYS and my DDnL#2 have gotten over the remarks that were made and moved on ... they live away so they don't have to deal with it constantly like we do. I'll let it drop but, I told her the email was totally unnecessary since we had talked about her feelings about a 'new member' into our household before. Guess we will see how it goes. Thanksgiving coming up and DYS and DDnL#2 will come at different times - she'll fly in maybe Wednesday night or he will have to go pick her up in Tallahassee, FL (about 90 miles away). They will spend one night with one of his college buddies who came to their wedding. Got to be back in Louisiana by the 30th; so it will be a 'short visit' with her. She did not have her daughter last Thanksgiving; so I am surprised that she doesn't have her this year - they are supposed to alternate. Maybe she swapped up for some reason and that is why DGD can't come this time. She is supposed to have gotten with her 'ex' about making sure she could have her next Thanksgiving so she can also visit with us.

DH and DOS always go out there for a week of hunting in early - mid December. I wish I could go with them; I went one year when my DOS had started a new job and could not get off. He decided that the job wasn't worth it because of the swing shifts and time away from home. He's always wanted to be in law enforcement and tried it twice; but DDnL#1 just *kitten* so about it that he came back to work for his Dad instead. Wishing he would get a 'real' job instead of my DH having to always work to make sure he has a paycheck. Not that he isn't a hard worker; he just sometimes doesn't understand why DH is so grumpy all the time. Hells Bells ... he just turned 74 and is still lugging 44' foot ladders (with some help) and it is beginning to drain on him. I am the cat that gets 'kicked' because he is mad at the dog. Just gets old and does not seem to improve much for very long. I'm still convinced that DDnL#1 would benefit from some sort on antidepressant or something (before it is too late). If she were to get 'sick' to the point of a 'nervous breakdown' things could get really bad (insofar as finances for them).

On a higher note - Cracker is bringing so much joy to our household. Both Louis and I have enjoyed her so much. She got her first spanking yesterday and did not want to come to me. Pooped on the floor in the bedroom and then pooped on the floor of the deck. "NO! NO!"

Hugs to all of you - this is such a great tread and everybody is so talented and supportive.

Love to all, Lenora

Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

Good Evening Ladies,

Miriam, how nice of you to offer to alter the tights for Sylvia’s DGD.

Lillian, I hate that you did all that moving right after your massage and didn’t even get a day to relax and enjoy. Bummer. Hope you enjoy the new mattress. Or was it for the guest room??

Carol GA, I don’t have any pictures of the modeling but will see if my friend can send me one or two. And yes it was fun.

Tallee, welcome. This is a great place for support and information.

MicheleNC, I haven’t made a pie in so many years I really can’t remember. I’ve never been a big dessert maker but if I did, it was usually a cake. I’m thinking about making the Crustless Spinach and Fetta pie to have with TG dinner.

Allison, you enjoy that massage!! I’m sure you left Tom his lunch before you went to work. (didn’t you???)

Katla, I hope you don’t have to cancel a riding lesson before your trip. I’ll send good thoughts your way.

Pip, I hope Kirby doesn’t have to be in the hospital too long because trying to spend time with him and keeping the house and dogs going can wear you down in a hurry. Sending you strength and love.

The style show was fun and a success from all accounts. A friend sent me this picture but not sure how it will show up. It was not a color of jacket that I would choose but the store picked it out for me. It’s been a long day so I’m off to bed early. Best wishes for all of you to have a healthy and happy day.

Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

DJ: Look at you rockin' that cute jacket. Hot mama, you.

Pip: Say the word and I'll send anyone you chose from this thread out to Tacoma to help you. I mean it. I have airline miles galore. I'm concerned about you overextending yourself just as you are getting that shoulder mended.

Miriam: Your stitchery is absolutely gorgeous. The one with the cat is my favorite, like that is any surprise. What you say about the holidays is exactly how DH and I have been living for the past 20 years. We've always been far away from our families, and just learned to visit at other times of the year. Stressing for a day that is sooo fraught with expectations designed by Madison Ave. is not my idea of a fun time or good investment of energy.

I spent the day in my pjs, which I haven't done in years. Got up and into the gym at my usual time, but half way through the workout I had pain throughout my body. I used to suffer daily with fibromyalgia, and this was reminiscent of that. Showered, went back to sleep and took it easy the rest of the day. Feeling much better now except for pain in my hips and back. I've got to set up a massage appointment for this week.

Take care, friends. Get well and stay well. We can do this.

Rori
Colorado Foothills

Sylvia, I love it!!!!!