WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2015
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Lisa, I LOVE that photo of you! You are not the first person to tell me that I need to write a book about my life. Often after I gave a presentation I would get people from the audience coming up to say the same thing. I hesitate for several reasons. The first is that my mom and grandfather were severe narcissists. My grandfather wrote and self published numerous memoirs and they just make me cringe- so entirely focused on "me". For instance, the one about his time in the Army during WWI would make one wonder if there ever was a war. Absolutely NO mention of fighting or wounded. He was in the band, and their "other" job was to be stretcher bearers. But all he talks about it musicians he met (especially the famous ones), architecture, cities, and his feelings. The second reason is that memory is such a fluid thing. I remember certain things so much differently from other people in my family. For instance, there was a time when my oldest sister was having a hard time at work with irritable outbursts. She was told by her supervisor to seek counseling. There, she was diagnosed as Bipolar Type 2 (hypomanic episodes, not full blown mania) and advised to start lithium treatment. She has TOTALLY blocked the physician visit from her mind- it did not fit in to her perception of the world. But I totally remember it because it confirmed my independent diagnosis of her (I am a rehab counselor, qualified to diagnose). So members of my family will argue/ get angry/ etc. Another reason is finding the time to focus. And certain memories do bring up PTSD symptoms (nightmares that make me feel weepy the following day).
Lisa, I love what you said about coming to this group throughout the day!
Sylvia, what a great idea for matching fabric for gussets! I never thought of that, but have often wanted to put in gussets so shirts or dresses would fit my massive upper arms. I bought one shirt. I could fit the 2x one so I got the one in red. The only blue one was a 3x so I assumed it would fit. Somehow the sleeves were TIGHTER than the red one. So I have not been able to wear it! But it is short sleeved.
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Miriam (and Heather in the UK!) If you can find it at your local library, pick up a book called "The Art of Memoir" by Mary Karr... she talks about exactly the things you mention, family objections, etc., and the nature of truth when writing down memories. The book would be more for you, and for your children, than the rest of your family.
And, having written my own, I can tell you that writing your past burdens can finally lift them in ways I would never have predicted. It let me finally lay down my anger with my abuser--not to forgive him, but to forgive myself. It was a most valuable exercise in moving into the next phase of my life, and the years since I wrote it have turned out to be my most personally and professionally powerful years, as well as the happiest.
Just saying.
Regards,
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well got everything done, that needed to be done this morning,except walk the dogs and I will do that in a bit..
DFIL was in a great mood, ate all his breakfast.. which is good..
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Lisa, I will look for that book!
I have been able to lessen the impact of the painful episodes in my life by incorporating some of them into my presentations on mental illness, recovery, psychiatric rebab, peer support, etc. I mentioned in a previous comment that you can alleviate many PTSD symptoms by finding a reason or a way they had a positive impact. I have always felt that I had to go through the abusive marriage to become more effective in working with my clients with abuse histories. When I was in college, I had a girlfriend who showed up in class with a black eye from her boyfriend. I was horrified (at that point only having been subjected to emotional/ verbal abuse and severe neglect) and could not understand why she didn't "just leave" him. Having been chosen as a victim by a similar abusive male, and going through the insidious indoctrination that occurs, helped me so much in working with clients. It is not easy to just leave. The abusers brainwash you first, to think that it is all your fault, not theirs. That is long before they raise a hand to you. They learn just how much abuse you will take. They isolate you from family or friends who might point out how wrong their behavior is. They control the money usually. And it is extremely dangerous to leave- that is when women are murdered most often- when he loses control of them! I would never have really KNOWN all that without having been through it. So I was much more effective working with clients.0 -
Sharon in Sunny Alberta: Acid reflux is very painful and also can lead to serious problems. I've been taking medication for in since I was in my 30s. I hope this was an isolated incident & you don't have to endure it too often. :flowerforyou:
Heather: The real-estate sale seems to move forward at the speed of a glacier, and that has to be hideously frustrating. I bet the buyers are frustrated, too. Your comment about retreating into yourself at this time of year made me wonder about seasonal affective disorder. I've had problems with it most of my life and have been told it is common among those with summer birthdays. I have noticed my mood sagging lately. I work hard to combat it as the days get shorter with a combination of lights, exercise, and vitamin D3. They help me. :flowerforyou:
Peach: I took over Thanksgiving when I got married at age 20. Mom was always nervous about cooking big meals. I enjoyed being in charge. Some years later I got the notion of focusing specifically on new world foods, which are foods that originated in the western hemisphere. Most of the traditional Thanksgiving foods qualify. Turkey qualifies. So does a list including corn, potatoes, pumpkins & squash, beans, wild rice, quinoa, cranberries and coffee. There are other yummies, too. Cocoa beans are on this list. Chocolate is a gift to us all from South America. I go off on this tangent with less common New World foods from time to time and enjoy it. People like the food, too.
Lisa: The ranch is beautiful! So are the kids and you.
Yoga today! Yay!!! I need to get a blood test this week to see whether the changes I made in vitamin supplements have reduced the excessive amounts of calcium that showed in my blood test this summer. I'm hoping for a noticeable improvement. I think I'll go in on Wednesday morning. I need to verify what time the lab opens.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
November Goals :
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week. Work on flexibility and back strength.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least three glasses of water daily, preferably more!
5. Eliminate alcohol.
6. Monitor sleep. Try to average 7 or more hours of sleep nightly.
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Good morning ladies! I have read everyone's post but have 1 million things to do so not anytime to respond. We prepped for painting all day yesterday. We took off all of the trim boards. And took all the nails out of them. Now I am just finishing up with removing wall plates and taping and covering the kitchen cabinets. The whole ceiling is wooden planks as well as all the walls and the beam in the living and dining area. I will hopefully get the first coat of Bin on to seal the wood because I am allergic to pine. A lot of people like knotty pine wood but I can't breathe well with it. We decided to seal it and paint it and if we do not like it we will remove it next year.
I already did my workout this morning. I did kettle bell swings for 20 minutes.
Have a great day everyone!
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Katla- I had a question about acid reflux. My DS IL is having trouble with high blood pressure. She also has trouble with belching, a heavy feeling in her chest, and pain in her back. She has gone by ambulance to the hospital twice since last Thursday and was driven in on Saturday as well. They can't or don't think there's anything wrong with her heart. Her regular physician thinks it is acid reflux and has been treated her for that. She is having a stress test done this morning. Have you experienced any of the above symptoms?
Mary from Minnesota0 -
I am honored and blessed to be part of this community.
Barbie perfectly expressed what I am feeling about this group. I didn't post over this weekend and am several pages behind in reading, but I wanted to pause and affirm how fortunate I feel that I found this group of ladies.
Mia in MI
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Miriam I understand what you mean. Right now if I dwell on the health issues my family faces I can get what I believe is the beginning of an asthmatic attack, so I am being careful about talking too much about it and I find ways to give myself space. I understand why others have caring bridge websites. It sounds like you have found your own way to deal with your traumas in productive ways that help others. Your sharing has helped me for example. I think if you relive traumatic events in a way that helps others or as Lisa said can reframe the issue for you it is helpful. You are the best judge of what works for you and I respect you for it. Margaret 0
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I'VE EXCHANGED! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
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Completion Friday. I have just rung the clearance company and they are coming on Thursday.
This is wonderful news for me!
Love to all!
Heather UK
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Well, my ticket buying adventure didn't go so well. Tickets were supposed to go on sale at 8:30. I got there at 8:00 but didn't realize that every human being in the four-state region would be there in line to buy them. There were at least 300 people in front of me and another 300 behind me. Each person was limited to 6 tickets and the venue holds 1200. So, you can guess what happened. I got about halfway down the line after waiting about a hour and 25 minutes when somebody came out and said they were sold out. My poor sweetie missed out on his only chance to see Bill Clinton speak. I should have been there at 6am like the ones in the front of the line. They brought their folding chairs and thermoses and settled in for the long haul. Oh well, we saved a hundred dollars!
I went to the hospital here in town to get my medical records, and this afternoon have to go to Joplin to get the records over there. Tomorrow at 10:00 is my appointment with the gastro doc at KU Med Center, so I have to leave really early in the morning. Can't even take the kids to school. While I'm there I'm going shopping. Trader Joes, Ikea and Costco are on my list. My friend loaned me her Costco card. I hope they let me use it. I've never been to Costco but heard it's good.
Now I have got to buckle down and work on a postcard and poster for our potters group show that's coming up. Somehow that always gets put off till the last minute. But could somebody else do it? NO! Even when I asked for somebody else to do it they all say, but you do such a good job! Grrrrrr. It takes so long to do. Every potter is supposed to send me a picture of his or her pottery to use on the card and so far THREE have done it. Out of 28 potters. Double GRRRRRRR! So, it's down to the wire now.
Have a great day everybody!
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Sylvia, sometimes Costco will let someone in as a guest, to give it a "test drive". goodluck getting artists to get things in on time and correctly! That "but you do such a good job!" is an often used manipulation for others to get out of work, I have stopped falling for that one after being burned too many times! Love reading the many posts, haven't been able to respond, but knowing we are in this together is helping and drum roll please..............I am off the b.p. medicine..........as long as I keep reporting my pressure from my home machine to the doc for about a month straight WEEEEEEEE
Feels real good, and I am going to stay motivated if you all have anything to do about it!
T-day is all about the side dishes and I am really amping up my veggie recipes, brussel sprouts with shallots and pear, sweet potato casserole without the marshmallows, and roasted rainbow carrots are the start, only going to use the Breast of the turkey, since nobody is a real big fan of it. I will roast some chickens on the grill, that was a big hit last year. I always have the guests bring deserts and wine, just makes things easier.
I have off this coming Wednesday and will try to get a punchlist going to check that I am well prepared for my favorite holiday.
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Heather - I am so excited for you! Congratulations!
Sylvia - I am so sorry to hear about you not being able to get those tickets for your DH.
Just taking a little break!
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Oh my goodness! I haven't been on since October and I'm behind 2500 posts since then! This is a chatty group and I'm a slacker!!!
Well, I didn't meet one single October goal. So, I am going to approach November differently and only have a few key goals. Here goes...
In November, I will:
* Lose 5 lbs
* Significantly decrease sugar intake
* Establish a routine exercise plan
* Journal every day
* Check in with my MFP groups every day for inspiration and so I don't get 2500 posts behind again!
My daughter has agreed to work with me on my weight loss journey and be my Wellness Coach. It's what she does for a living, but up to this point we haven't wanted to do this because she doesn't want to have to scold me I think. Ha! Anyway, we started last week, and I am down 1 lb. I know it's not much but I've been steadily going up 1 lb a week for about a month now so at least it's in the right direction.
I hope you are all having a great day! I'll try to read and catch up later so I can respond to some of you.
Love this group and missed you all!
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Dr. Katie, thanks for your organizing advise. I mostly sell vintage costume jewelry and what you see in the pic is just a part of it. The upstairs bonus room has shelves that I originally used to store but I got lazy and brought a lot down to the office. The large box of handbags were some that belonged to my mom and "may" be sold online if I get around to it. I have already donated at least a dozen 30 gal. bags of her clothes to the thrift (she loved clothes). Now I have some very nice and expensive coats that no one in the family can wear and will probably end up donating. I just need to get off my lazy behind and organize. Sadly, I'm one of those who can clean everything up so it looks great and within hours it is a mess again. If any of you love vintage jewelry message me and I will send you my ID.
Rain, rain, and more rain here. Think it's going to clear up toward the end of the week.
Carol/Peach
Are you one sty??? Love vintage jewelry, looking for Miriam Haskell pieces, do u have any??? Gayle Minneapolis0 -
Happy Monday ! ! !
Miriam – Nice points about the Holidays. My Dad is flying to Arizona to spend time with my middle sister’s kids Dec. 12 – 20. This is JUST before all the price increases in flights, rental cars, and Hotels (well, maybe an increase coming home, but I try not to ask him about all the details). I’m trying to help my DD “survive” her latest depression that began a few days ago. If she lets me, I’m going to make a “tool box” like you mentioned. I tried a gratitude text, but she’s struggling to choose anything right now, so I’m just sending back to her the things she texted me last week. I struggle tolerating this about her, so having a tool box of my own is helpful. Thank you to EVERYONE who helped me see and find this option ! ! ! // Hugs for you and your son regarding your previous Golden. The whole thought of that sends me into tears ! ! !
Pip – You are really getting life organized. Congrats ! Kirby’s temporary room looks comfortable. You are both so good to each other. And you are so lucky to have nice friends/neighbors ! ! !
Glo – So sorry you are feeling overwhelmed. I hope everything settles in for you soon. Hugs ! ! ! // I’m with you, I hate packing. Whenever I do so, I keep questioning : Will I need to use this again before the actual move? So people come on moving day and I’m never done. One time I had to open a box to get my work shoes, because my Dad was so mad at me for not completing the packing process. I just can’t do it. I wish you calm, energy, and organization. (try to channel katiebug and barbiecat)
Allison – Congrats on your wonderful day, from the massage to dinner to the aromatic soak. I’m envious ! // You go on those trips, without any guilt. That’s part of taking care of yourself. Enjoy to the maz !
Connie – Babysteps are good. I rarely exercise more than 15 minutes at a time, and try to do that a few times during the day. I am currently on a plateau, so I am not recording my exercise so I do not eat back the calories earned. Hugs !
Grits – I wish you were closer, because I could patch that knitted blanket with the hole. It wouldn’t be perfect, and it would be crochet, but it can be done. To keep it from getting worse you can do a blanket or whip stitch into the loops and/or threads. It’s such a shame to not use or display such works of art.
Sylvia – Your dream of James Earl Jones made me laugh. It sounds like it would have been wonderful. How nice of you to forge the tiles ! Hugs for your chest pain, and hoping that it never comes back ! ! !
DJ – Beautiful. I also like the shirt under the blazer.
Rori – admiring your pj day. Good for you getting in at least a little exercise. When we have auto-immune diseases we sometimes have to fight our bodies cues, and sometimes we just have to listen. Hugs ! ! !
Lillian – The hat? I had no idea. Thanks for sharing and educating.
Janetr – I hope you are feeling better quickly ! ! !
Heather – although the transgression is different, I hated having “that talk” with the lady that used to be my best friend. It was terribly traumatic for me at the time, but I was able to maintain a friendship (through Facebook) with her husband. Hugs and Prayers for this situation.
Although I am aware that is not the best choice, my DH has made a baby step in the right direction. He now packs a granola bar for when his blood sugar plummets. Before he would either suffer, or drink a HUGE Pepsi, or eat numerous burgers (like 3-4). This way he is a little less hungry when healthier food is available, and he only eats twice what a “normal” person would, instead of 5 times more.
Another good donation item for Mental Health Facilities is Magazines. We have someone who stops in a few times a month to take them. Not only do they read them, but they cut them up for art projects, too. Recycling at it’s best!
DS had a pretty good bowling weekend, but no work, so no spending cash. Saturday at league he has a 596 series, and after the first ½ of Sunday’s tournament he had a 616. Unfortunately, his “pro” only had a 633 and his partner only had a 430, so that seeded them 36th going into the second round which was Baker. All 3 of them bowled pretty good for the first Baker game for a 215, but then in the next one, they left 2 opens in a row twice in that game, for a 150. We didn’t even wait to hear who was moving on to the top 24 because we knew it wouldn’t be “our” team. That’s okay, because they boys enjoyed meeting and bowling with their Hall of Famer, and DS will talk to him now when they bowl together in the Wednesday Sport league. Every tournament is meant to be a positive experience. The youngest daughter of the bowling alley where DS bowled a few years ago had an AMAZING day. Her series score after the first 3 regular games was 737 ! ! ! I think she is in 6th or 7th grade, and bowling is her second sport; dance is her first. I’m going crazy waiting for them to post the results on the Internet, so see if she and her partner won the tournament !
Finally up to paage 19. Sorry if I missed anyone, but such is the life when multi-tasking at work.
Hugs to Everyone ! ! !
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Gayle, I have a Miriam Haskell piece that unfortunately got damaged. It is a five strand green glass beads short necklace. One of the strings broke when I was wearing it and the beads scattered all over the road so I could not retrieve them. It is still wearable, but not valuable any more. This piece was my mom's but I collected and wore vintage jewelry exclusively during my entire career. Now that I am not working, and living in small town Iowa, I rarely wear any jewelry. But I do love it and love looking at it. I have some victorian items too. A pair of red baklite dangling earrings ( I did have to modify these to wear). So much fun and so much history.0
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Miriam -miriamwithcats wrote: »Gayle, and all others. If you decide to clean out crafting supplies, a good place to donate them would be to your local mental health center for their clients. People living on disability income do not have money to spend on hobbies or recreation (even bringing a dish to a pot luck is often beyond their budget). Yet most people with mental illnesses are normal, or if they are bipolar way above normal, intelligence. And they want to be doing something productive with their time. So unused needlepoint kits, fabric for quilting, left over quilt batting, etc. will be snatched up by folks.
Thank you for that suggestion. I have been dreading my second round of decluttering because I have several boxes of craft supplies that I know I will never use, but didn't want to just throw all of it away. If I know it can be put to use by someone else it is easier for me to let it go to a new home.
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Sharon – 20 outfits from one person is showing off in my book too… but that happened at the last shower I was at too… I don’t plan out dinners in advance either really, but I do like to do something that will be 2-3 days and then on day 3 I do something else and usually do meal A on day 1 and 2 meal B on day 3 than meal A on day 4 Meal B on day 5 and Meal C on day 6…. Any way it means I don’t have to eat the same thing more than 2 days in a row… I get bored!!!
Lisa – great picture! So fun
Miriam – I agree with Lisa about you writing a book, but I hear you on the issues of other books by family, I am thinking that 2 things could help that 1 – someone you trust as an editor and 2 think about historical fiction it is truth with the edges filled in, could you do a memoir as a historical fiction (NOT that you are that old!!- but in that style where each memory is filled in to make a story but not verbatim?
Sylvia - Heads up on the Costco event - If you do not have the card in your name you’ll probably get in they just glance, but you will have to pay with CASH, not credit, debit, or check and even then they do look a bit more closely so it may or may not work. As with any thing but cash the names on the Costco card and the other payment type have to match – I had a friend get married and a huge hassle until she got the name on her card changed. Now maybe that is just my Costco and others are more relaxed…
Heather – CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Karen – NY – Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Great NSV
Tracie – 1 lb a week is EXCELLENT
November Goals -
Attend yoga each wednesday evening
Walk everyday –would like to see 160 miles
continue counseling and hold my weight where it is as I deal with my current set of emotional issues
weekly fun things
W1 – football – we won! Working on craft show crafts
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Kim from N. California
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Joyce, Indiana -I can't remember, is it Miriam with all the needlepoint, etc? Thsoe are as breathtaking as Sylvia's ceramic and Mia's blown glass. My Mom did all sorts of needlepoint. All I could do was counted cross stitch, I couldn't even do regular cross stitch. There were some of the pictures that I did that had some needlepoint in them and I would have to take them to her to finish. Some day I will have to take pictures of the grandma sweatshirts I made for her. Made the patterns and then made the sweatshirts.Haven't done any cross stitch i a long time. You have inspired me to maybe start back????
ALL you could do was counted cross stitch???? There are plenty of people who cannot manage that so say it with pride. I'm amazed at just how much talent all of us have and we don't see it in ourselves. And yes, I do acknowledge the irony of me saying this since I too am one of the ones who has expressed insecurity in my abilities.
You ladies are helping me to change my tune and look at my work with a sense of accomplishment.
Mia in MI
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Happy Monday. I was off the weekend, but was sick. I have this darn cough and been keeping me up at night. I am so far behind on reading posts, will do my best to get caught up. I am working 7-3 today and then have a meeting with my director. Guess they are starting where every two months we meet with the supervisor or director. Not sure what the point is. Tomorrow is weigh in day and not sure how I will do. Been all over the place with my eating.
Our friend that had the metal breakdown was sent home last Tuesday, but whatever meds they gave her was causing her to fall. So Saturday I get a text that they are in the hospital ER. So been up visiting her and sounds like they are sending her home today. So been lining people up to make meals for them for a couple weeks. I am making something for tonight since I get off early.
Kimses--So sorry about what happened at work. I know how it feels to do your job and have someone undermind you. Pray it all works out.
DH and I cleaned out closets out Saturday. Took to large boxes to the church as they have a free giveaway every Thursday. I got rid of everything that does not fit. Feel good about that.
pip--Glad to hear Kirby is doing well. Saw the picture and he does look good for what he has been thurough. Both of you take care of yourselves. Hugs-sometimes the memories come back and we just have to remember how lucky we are this time. Hugs! Love the get well message from the kids.
Katiebug--you can come to my house anytime. Love your closet and book shelves.
Meg--So sorry to hear about Benny. Pray things calm down for you soon. Boy, this year has flown by, DGD's first birthday all ready.
Sylvia--Sending prayers and hugs. Beautiful sun raise. Happy Dance they fit!!
Miriam--Beautiful work. Thanks for sharing.
Mindy--You have nothing to be sorry for. We all have our times when life overcomes us. Sending Hugs and prayers. Important thing is not to give upl
DJ--You are looking really good in the modeling outfit. Glad you had fun.
Gloria--Sending prayers and hugs that it will all work out.
Barbie--Love the picture of daddy and the puppy.
Irishteri--Congrates on the downward movement of the scale.
Well time to finish up this day and get ready for my meeting. Not sure what the point is, will see. Have a great rest of the day and thank each of you for your friendship and support.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE
November Goals
1. Weigh less at the end of the month then at the beginning.
2. Log every bite.
3. Stress less--Pray more
4. Write down something each day I am Thankful for
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Miriam and Gayle, I have a couple of hundred pieces just sitting around not listed. Weiss, Hobe, Carnegie, Trifari, Coro, Napier, Tullia Both, and Eisenberg to name a few plus many unsigned. When I retired from teaching in 2007, I started listing on my Dh's account and then started my own. At first it was lots of fun but over the past year I have lost interest and just dabble. My best find ever was two sets of Pools of Light rock crystal necklaces and earrings in their original boxes from the 1920's. I am hoping that someday the market will open up again for good sales. Right now, I think folks are loving the imported from China fancy stuff that you see in many of the antique malls and department stores. Please forgive if this is too much info.0
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@Katla49 Its because I lived with comedians in the 1980's check out Susan Rice and Art Krug
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yvD0jQD9f_k
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ID9Wos3oNlQ
Enjoy, sorry for some swear words in their videos, it happens.
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HI! been MIA for awhile I guess,just read 21 pages.Been taking care of a sick hubby.fun,NOT.Now I feel lousy.Hugs to everyone.
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Oh Vicki, you have me in tears! My entire career as a mental health advocate, trying to reduce stigma for folks with mental illnesses, one thing that came up over and over again was that mental illnesses are not "casserole illnesses". Most people when they come home from the hospital NEVER get any support or help from friends or family. They come home instead to people not wanting to talk about what happened to them, being ashamed, and never ever a card or casserole or visit a the hospital. Bless you! When I think about all the people I have worked with that just wanted someone to acknowledge their pain and offer some help and support, I am weeping that they don't have you in their lives.
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Quote: "Just because you see the hook does not mean you need to bite!" Posted earlier (I think by Margaretturk); however - whoever . . . LOVE IT! So true in my case. I see the point of the hook; and 'if' my DGDs are wrapped around it to disguise the pain I will endure if I 'bite' ... I still don't bite; but, I have to get it out ... but, not like trying to beat the bubbles coming up from a 'dive' out in the ocean. That causes the 'bends'; but, I get them whenever I try to deal with DDnL#1. She has become so caustic since DDnL#2 joined the family. It is almost like she is looking to 'pick a fight in the family' and so far, nobody has taken the bait, hook, line, and sinker. After her initial attack on DDnL#2 and then texting DYS - she found out the they had double team tagged her. DYS had called DOS to find out 'what the HELL was going on with his wife (DDnL#1) and then DDnL#2 sent her response to the numerous texts that had been sent, but, not seen. She is a tight little package; but, she can take anyone on toe-to-toe and she told her (DDnL#1) to 'never' send that sort of text or email to her again. DOS, got both barrels, but he was prepared. DDnL#1 apparently 'apologized' saying that she had been having a bad week. That is no excuse for being downright meaner than a rattlesnake who has been disturbed. With her "Good Morning" subject line in an email to me later (not knowing that all this had been going on). I was almost literally 'blown away' with her comments. Last night I wrote in my 'journal' for 3 hours straight; today I re-read my journal and the email and sent it all to my PsycheMD. Before it had just been me 'telling him' that she is a 'stressor' for me - now it is in writing and maybe when I go back for my normal visit we can talk about ways to handle this sort of outburst.
She's home today, came down earlier to get the key to her house - 'supposedly' locked herself out. Car still down there - so she apparently did not go to work for some reason. Inside me is a gnawing biting feeling that she is down there and I won't call to check on things. Thanks ... just found out I did not have to when DMGD brought the key back (after school) without any prompting she said that "Mama and Emilee" were playing hooky today for no real reason. OooooKkkkkkkkkkkkkk. That works for me, no questions asked and got the answer without feeling like I was prying. Just glad they are all 'ok'. I have really started worrying about what she is capable of doing if she feels backed into a corner. I have stepped back - it has become apparent that nothing I say will ever make her believe that we don't love DYS and DDnL#2 more than we love them (DOS and DDnL#1) - I have no control over that. I just 'hate' that she seems to 'poison' those babies that love me. They're old enough (except for the youngest one) to realize that the troublemaker is her and not us. But, that 'is' their mother/step-Mom insofar as the oldest 2 DGDs. She has used very divisive tactics; but, now we are 'on to her' and we don't take it any more. Burst her bubble of being able to 'tell us, especially me, what and how we/I should be and/or act to solve our/my issues', Mmmmmm, being someone who has been and is Bipolar I'm not going to allow her to put me into another tizzy. I've learned that place when to step back, holding back my hands and letting her make the next move and I don't have to apologize about it. Just step back out of the picture and back into my surroundings.
I could (and apparently) have written a book on how to deal with a 'crazy person'; but, being Bipolar does not make you crazy - only makes you 'feel' crazy, especially when someone is telling you that. No MORE! I've taken my Rx's as ordered and they are working for me - I just need to avoid as many 'stressors' as I can. Even though I know I will have to deal with some head-on. I don't care to be 'left hanging' ... I'd like to believe there is a 'creek' down there somewhere before I just 'let go'. But, I am learning how to 'let go, and let God' ...
Faith is 'knowing' that a net will appear when you let go. 0 -
Checking in quickly and without reading. I'm in the airport lounge in Bangkok waiting to board the flight to Singapore in about half an hour. Meanwhile I'm gorging on fresh papaya with lime juice.
Somehow I'd forgotten all about tropical fruit!
/Penny, on the way from the
to darn near the equator. My oh my...
You do get around! Love the idea of the tropical food.
Heather Woo Hoo! Congrats! I bet that's a relief!
I'm off to Craft in the morning, and I'm bushed, so having an early night! Healing thoughts and prayers to those who need them! Welcome to our Newbies. Sit a spell! 
Each one of us is a vital cog in an infinite universe.
We may not know our purpose, but each cog needs to be oiled and tended. May peace and joy shine on your day! 
Irish Terri0 -
Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Afternoon Ladies,
Heather, I never wear beige either and wouldn’t but it is what the store picked for me to try on so I went with it.
Dr.Katie, cool tea box. I’m not a tea drinker, except for iced tea, but that is what I’d want if I were.
Katla, you are right about developing new Christmas traditions for when it’s just the two of you. Last year was our first Christmas with just the two of us and I have to say it’s different. We need to do the same and come up with a plan. I do hope your blood tests show positive results.
CarolNC, so sorry to hear the mountain trip was not what you wanted or needed.
You know that we all wanted it to be as good as the beach trip. (((Hugs)))
Penny, it sounds like you will really have culture shock or at least location shock. Have a safe trip.
Sylvia,
so glad the leotard fit DGD!!!! Too cool.
Betty, downsizing is good. I know it’s hard for us to give up some things even though we know we don’t need them, but I feel so much better when I thin things out.
Kim, thanks for the Thanksgiving dinner suggestions. I did already warn my guests that we would have lots of roasted veggies and no green bean casserole. As far as what I eat, I’ll forgo the mashed potatoes for a little extra dressing. I only make it at holidays, after all.
Joyce, so glad that Charlie’s new expensive meds seem to be working. Still sending prayers your way. (((Hugs)))
Sharon, when you said,” Lazy start to the day. Lots of back pain. Sucked it up and got ready for the shower. My lack of planning showed up at the shower where I succumbed to the please of Baileys and coffee, Cheese and crackers and a cupcake.”, the first thing I thought of was, “Hell I don’t even have that stuff in my bathroom much less my shower!!!
Then I came back down to earth and figured out what you were talking about. Hope you had fun. I have to agree with you on the 20 outfits!!! That is a little over the top for a shower gift.
Irish, woo hoo on your weight loss. Fantastic results from the refocus! Keep up the good work.
Allison, you know that all of us want to be sure you are protected whatever happens in the future. Has he said anything more about what he is thinking or if he’s thinking??? (((Hugs)))
Heather, I hope they will schedule the settlement soon. Are you trying any of Miriam’s suggestions for getting out of the blues? ((((Hugs))))
Phyl, congrats on not boredom eating and yes that’s a NSV!!! Another one is doing what you need to do for you and not drop everything to help someone else…even our DD. Good for you.
Miriam, I know we are always our own toughest critics, but your picture looks perfectly normal to me.
Carol GA, we are getting rain, rain and more rain too. The ground is so soggy already. I do think it should end by mid-week if the weather people are right. We also do cornbread dressing an giblet gravy. We never had mashed potatoes with the meal but my DH had rice. He grew up in Louisiana. Most of the time has some type of fruit salad, which I’ll miss this year as I’m preparing a green salad.
Lisa, you stay so busy!! Love the pictures and it sounds like a fun time.
Sylvia, listening to you ladies I see just how mean I am.
If I were doing the poster for the potters group I’d do it with pictures from the three that sent theirs to me and the others would just be left out. I find I have little patience with adults that want to be treated like children. It’s nice that they think you do a great job but that sounds like a ploy my DMIL used to use. She used to have one dish (that she didn’t like to make) that she would assign as each person’s “specialty”. Anytime we were going to make that dish, the special person would make it because they did it the best!!! Mine was fried chicken. Sorry you didn’t get the tickets.
Karen, fantastic news to get off the BP medicine!!! Congrats!!!! I have the guests bring dessert too since I don’t want to get too involved with it. Plus that way they get what they want.
Tracie, what do you mean you have been slacking???? Shame on you!!! Just start now and no more slacking. Great that your DD will coach you. It really helps to have hands on support. I know she doesn’t want to have to scold, so if it’s needed, just let us know and we will do it for her, but I’m sure you will be staying on point from here on out. Just start reading the posts from here or you will spend the rest of the month trying to catch up. Lol Congrats on the pound loss. Glad you are heading in the right direction. We are with you every pound of the way.
Terri, any steps for DH are better than none. I did laugh at your description of him eating only twice as much as a normal person rather than 5 X more.
Vicki, so sorry you have been sick. I guess it’s getting that time of year. Hope you feel better soon. Congrats on cleaning out closets. That always makes me feel so good!
Jane, I hope DH is better and you don’t get sick. ((Hugs))
On the weather this morning they said we could get up to another 3 inches of rain by tomorrow night. Gosh I hope it is less. Everything is so saturated now. It’s been so gray all day that I haven’t done too much. DH and I are going to watch a movie. You ladies are the best and I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.
Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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