Men, what should a woman eat(or not) on the first date?
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For relationships in general, I recommend attempting to be yourself and be genuine as quickly as possible.
This doesn't mean laying out all of your flaws and bad habits on the first date or even first few dates, belching and scratching yourself are not recommended, but try to practice some "truth in advertising". If you have a dish you like, order it; it just seems weird that women order a tiny salad ("see how health conscious I am!") or a giant burger ("I'm so real, a girl who is just one of the guys!") in trying to portray some sort of image rather than just ordering something that you like.
Also, keep in mind what happened to this guy:
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I ate what I wanted on my husband's and my first date. Because I do what I want, when I want, and if you can't handle what I freaking eat, then you can't handle being a part of my life.
I also ate what I wanted on all of my other first dates, ever. I don't understand why this is even a thing.0 -
Is this a real question? Why do you even care what men think about what you eat? What does their thinking have to do with your stomach? Very strange question.0
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allenpriest wrote: »On our first date I accidentally locked the keys in the car at the restaurant. I have no idea what she ate. I do remember how mortified I was as to my error. And how gracious she was to walk home with me to get the spare key - then walk back to get the car. Been married 33 years this summer.
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Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »
Poor guy should have ordered an appetizer.0 -
Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »
Poor guy should have ordered an appetizer.
Or at least a drink! Sheesh.0 -
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Sad I want to go out now ...
Glad I don't have to go through this dating lark anymore ( married 10 years)
My first date with husband was Nandos , and it was gooood ,
But now if he takes me out its steak and champers baby all the way
Eat what you fancy and just enjoy the date .
Might draw the line at eating fish heads though ....0 -
Eat a banana while looking right into his eyes. ;-)0
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Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »
Like when we have bananas for dessert at school. "Whatever you do, DO NOT make eye contact with coworkers"
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beautifulsparkles wrote: »Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
I agree with about half of these.
1. I don't think it matters. Is a kiss even guaranteed, aren't you just getting to know each other? shouldn't put pressure on these things.
2. Kinda. I usually just eat with my fork, lol. Guess I'm kind of rude.
3. Don't care, I don't even drink alcohol. I think beer smells/tastes gross.
4. If we are both pigging out, then I don't see a problem. I would see it as a sign of him either not giving a damn what I think or being reaaally comfortable with me
5. Don't have a problem with them putting food in my mouth if they are trying to be cute or romantic but I have food issues, I don't like people snatching things off my plate.
6. Never a good look
7. Haha, that really doesn't matter at all. He should be able to order whatever he wants!!!
Why should he pay for the date? if I asked him out, shouldn't I pay? if we met on a dating site, or it was a blind date, we should probably pay for ourselves. If we are just getting to know each other, we don't owe each other anything. Paying is just a nice gesture. It's not neccessary.Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
do you announce these rules prior to the date?? or is just on a hand out?
Omg, that would be hilarious!!!
Seriously, this first date happens over 7 months ago. Why was this bumped?!0 -
Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »
Her date matches this thread, seeing as it is necromantic.0 -
beautifulsparkles wrote: »Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
I agree with about half of these.
1. I don't think it matters. Is a kiss even guaranteed, aren't you just getting to know each other? shouldn't put pressure on these things.
2. Kinda. I usually just eat with my fork, lol. Guess I'm kind of rude.
3. Don't care, I don't even drink alcohol. I think beer smells/tastes gross.
4. If we are both pigging out, then I don't see a problem. I would see it as a sign of him either not giving a damn what I think or being reaaally comfortable with me
5. Don't have a problem with them putting food in my mouth if they are trying to be cute or romantic but I have food issues, I don't like people snatching things off my plate.
6. Never a good look
7. Haha, that really doesn't matter at all. He should be able to order whatever he wants!!!
Why should he pay for the date? if I asked him out, shouldn't I pay? if we met on a dating site, or it was a blind date, we should probably pay for ourselves. If we are just getting to know each other, we don't owe each other anything. Paying is just a nice gesture. It's not neccessary.Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
do you announce these rules prior to the date?? or is just on a hand out?
Omg, that would be hilarious!!!
Seriously, this first date happens over 7 months ago. Why was this bumped?!
One of my friends commented on it, and I found it and thought it was hilarious. Sorry for bothering you?0 -
i love dead threads LOL
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It's funny, because if you're thinking of eating salads because it makes you look "dainty", I feel the opposite.
When I eat salads I shove so much lettuce in my mouth at a time I can almost hear the "nom nom" sound circling over my head. I'm just not a pretty salad eater.0 -
Choose based on BREATH and GAS... Don't eat onions and garlic, or anything that's gonna make you have to roll down the window in his car lol. That's my only dating advice ever.0
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beautifulsparkles wrote: »Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
I agree with about half of these.
1. I don't think it matters. Is a kiss even guaranteed, aren't you just getting to know each other? shouldn't put pressure on these things.
2. Kinda. I usually just eat with my fork, lol. Guess I'm kind of rude.
3. Don't care, I don't even drink alcohol. I think beer smells/tastes gross.
4. If we are both pigging out, then I don't see a problem. I would see it as a sign of him either not giving a damn what I think or being reaaally comfortable with me
5. Don't have a problem with them putting food in my mouth if they are trying to be cute or romantic but I have food issues, I don't like people snatching things off my plate.
6. Never a good look
7. Haha, that really doesn't matter at all. He should be able to order whatever he wants!!!
Why should he pay for the date? if I asked him out, shouldn't I pay? if we met on a dating site, or it was a blind date, we should probably pay for ourselves. If we are just getting to know each other, we don't owe each other anything. Paying is just a nice gesture. It's not neccessary.Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
do you announce these rules prior to the date?? or is just on a hand out?
Omg, that would be hilarious!!!
Seriously, this first date happens over 7 months ago. Why was this bumped?!
I feel like I need to know how the date went now
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lemonlionheart wrote: »beautifulsparkles wrote: »Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
I agree with about half of these.
1. I don't think it matters. Is a kiss even guaranteed, aren't you just getting to know each other? shouldn't put pressure on these things.
2. Kinda. I usually just eat with my fork, lol. Guess I'm kind of rude.
3. Don't care, I don't even drink alcohol. I think beer smells/tastes gross.
4. If we are both pigging out, then I don't see a problem. I would see it as a sign of him either not giving a damn what I think or being reaaally comfortable with me
5. Don't have a problem with them putting food in my mouth if they are trying to be cute or romantic but I have food issues, I don't like people snatching things off my plate.
6. Never a good look
7. Haha, that really doesn't matter at all. He should be able to order whatever he wants!!!
Why should he pay for the date? if I asked him out, shouldn't I pay? if we met on a dating site, or it was a blind date, we should probably pay for ourselves. If we are just getting to know each other, we don't owe each other anything. Paying is just a nice gesture. It's not neccessary.Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
do you announce these rules prior to the date?? or is just on a hand out?
Omg, that would be hilarious!!!
Seriously, this first date happens over 7 months ago. Why was this bumped?!
I feel like I need to know how the date went now
Dude, they're already married with 2 kids.0 -
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lemonlionheart wrote: »Wow, the fact that this is a legitimate thing women are made to feel they have to worry about makes me feel very sad
This made me sad, as well0 -
I pretty much always get a bbq bacon cheeseburger no matter where we're eating. I do eat it with a knife and fork because I don't like stuff on my hands, but at least the guy knows I can eat.0
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jennifer_417 wrote: »lemonlionheart wrote: »beautifulsparkles wrote: »Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
I agree with about half of these.
1. I don't think it matters. Is a kiss even guaranteed, aren't you just getting to know each other? shouldn't put pressure on these things.
2. Kinda. I usually just eat with my fork, lol. Guess I'm kind of rude.
3. Don't care, I don't even drink alcohol. I think beer smells/tastes gross.
4. If we are both pigging out, then I don't see a problem. I would see it as a sign of him either not giving a damn what I think or being reaaally comfortable with me
5. Don't have a problem with them putting food in my mouth if they are trying to be cute or romantic but I have food issues, I don't like people snatching things off my plate.
6. Never a good look
7. Haha, that really doesn't matter at all. He should be able to order whatever he wants!!!
Why should he pay for the date? if I asked him out, shouldn't I pay? if we met on a dating site, or it was a blind date, we should probably pay for ourselves. If we are just getting to know each other, we don't owe each other anything. Paying is just a nice gesture. It's not neccessary.Whitezombiegirl wrote: »I have a few PERSONAL guidelines:
1. Don't eat anything stinky- personally I can't stand fish/ seafood or to be around anyone eating fish, baked beans, scramled eggs or blue cheese. Bleugh, but I would mention it beforehand.
2. Good table manners are a must. Must use a knife and fork properly and not talk with mouth full. No elbows on the table etc.
3. Have some knowledge and appreciation of wine. It's a turn off for me when a man doesn't know anything about wine. No sweet wine - unless with desert.
4. Don't pig out. Guys who stuff themselves on a date are a turn off for me- especially if they are so full afterwards that they get gas and can't move etc. Personally I like to eat light on a date so I'm not too full for 'afterwards'.
5. Don't 'feed' me. This grosses me out. Plus, taking food off my plate to try it- huge turn off.
6. Don't get drunk and sloppy.
7. Lastly- I'm being picky but I don't like it when a guy orders 'dainty' and 'sterotypically feminine' things- yes, it's just my perception. For example- ordering half a pint of larger or a hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows etc. It's just my taste but I like a 'real ale and bloody steak' kind of guy.
Oh, and I'm okay with splitting the cheque. You might think some of these things are common sense (table-manners etc.) but I've encountered them on dates in the past. I'm sure loads of people on here have some good horror stories- I'd love to hear them!
Of course, once I'm in a relationship (I'm married)- most of those 'guidelines' go out of the window.
do you announce these rules prior to the date?? or is just on a hand out?
Omg, that would be hilarious!!!
Seriously, this first date happens over 7 months ago. Why was this bumped?!
I feel like I need to know how the date went now
Dude, they're already married with 2 kids.
She gestates like a boss.0 -
take this dude to a grill and steak restaurant.... and you'll be fine.0
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carmkizzle wrote: »lemonlionheart wrote: »Wow, the fact that this is a legitimate thing women are made to feel they have to worry about makes me feel very sad
This made me sad, as well
Because this woman worries about what "looks better" to eat on a first date, does not mean that "women [plural] are made to feel" like this... (by whom???)
One individual's paranoia or insecurity or need to appease does not make for a social issue.0 -
the menu is always a bad option....0
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LOL. Eat what you want. I assure you if he's normal he won't care. 0
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