WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2016

Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

Good Morning Ladies,

Margaret, thanks for sharing. I hope the positive that you received from your experience will stay with you for a long time.

Welcome to all the newbies. Please tell us about yourself and your journey so far. We appreciate if you will sign each post with the name you want to be called. A location is great, also, general or specific.

Kay, glad you got the workout you all wanted today. I agree that you should tell her what you want. All she can do is say no and keep on with her plan.

Vicki, NE, when you ask, I try to come through for you. You know you can eat right, so get with it, girl.

Terri, you are right that sportsmanship has to be taught and demonstrated. Your Spa visit sounds heavenly. You enjoy!!!

Kristan, I don’t know any way that anyone can delete a post. Are you sure you clicked on “Post Reply” after you typed it in? That is the only thing I can think of. We welcome everyone’s comments.

Joyce, sending prayers for your sister. I hope the time won’t make a difference. I still haven’t downloaded Windows 10.

Betty, so sorry you are suffering and sad. Try meditation to help clear your mind. Our adult children can cause us such grief. Sending happy vibes!!!! ((((Hugs))))

Gayle, so sorry that you have been so sick. Sending healing thought and prayers for a speedy recovery. (((Hugs)))

Allie, I’m just glad you didn’t sleep in your car!!!

Rosie, congrats on your loss!!! Doesn’t it feel great? Good luck on the new hairdresser. It sometimes takes them two or three times to really get the feel for your hair. I know having her closer would be nice.

Heather, I have had problems remembering names of people and things for many years also. DH makes fun of me for the terms I come up with when trying to describe things or events. The thing is, I get the message across even when I don’t use the right word.

Sylvia, it’s so exciting that you are getting close on the co-op. I hope things go smoothly!

KJ, one of my best memories of my Mom is her always whistling or humming while she cooked or cleaned. I’ve never been good at whistling and she did it so naturally that she didn’t even realize she was doing it. Gosh, do you go through that with your “bigger baby” each morning? He must be a sound sleeper..

Margaret, I hope the meditation helps.

Cheri, I’m glad you feel less alone in your journey. I hope you know we are always here for support. If it helps, please share more often. We are here for you. ((((Hugs))))

Debbie, welcome. You will find this a wonderful place for support and information. Changing our lives is what this is all about. Most of us have tried diets over the years and know they don’t work long term. Please tell us a bit more about yourself to help us get to know you and sign each post with the name you want to be called. Come often.

Terrie, you scored at Kohls even though you didn’t get what you went for. Hopefully they will get some in soon.

Katla, love your new shoes, darling! Thanks for sharing.

I made my chicken pot pie last night and thought it was good. For some reason that he couldn’t put his finger on, DH was not that crazy about it. Oh well. I have line dancing today so will venture out in the rainy day. I hope all of you have a healthy and happy day.

Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

DamitJanit wrote: »

Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

Cheri, I’m glad you feel less alone in your journey. I hope you know we are always here for support. If it helps, please share more often. We are here for you. ((((Hugs))))

Words I live by:
Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
and
Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
I Love you,
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC

Thanks DJ. I have a hard time unburdening my woes/stresses/etc. I guess they are mine and mine alone.

Comes from my childhood and growing up. Raised by an angry and depressed mother who had 5 kids in a very short time period and a workaholic husband. So you did NOT say much when mom was in her mood which surprisingly was just about always. Cause saying something led to .... nothing except perhaps a much more angry and depressed mother. So I was your exceptionally excellent child always giving in to smooth the waters. And here

I am in a marriage of 32 years doing the same thing as to not upset the Asperger's apple cart of my husband. We have been through a lot. Love each other immensely. But boy is it a test of my patience. I could go on but.....for now I will let it sit and know that you are all here for me. THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRESENCE IN MY LIFE LADIES!

Cheri in Fairlawn oHIo

Hi gals,


Sylvia – great gallery plans – you will be part of the re-vitalization of you town!

Joyce – sending good thoughts to you and your sister

Katla – LOLOLOLOL

Kristian – if you ever get back to CA – I’d love to have you over – I have a guest room and a pop up dining room LOL

Cheri – some one else here has a DH with Aspergers….. hmmm is it Teri?

Mary – I am so impressed, I can’t do even 1 push up.


Last night went great! Everyone seemed to like the tent and the meal. The dishes were done before bed and the walls are off the tent this morning, but I have a 10 -1 commitment, so will not finish dismantling it until this afternoon.

KJ - I am barely 5 ft 5. At high school, before I went to uni I was between 115 lbs and 124 lbs. I married at 20 weighing 124. I aimed for a goal in the middle of the healthy range, around 23 BMI . According to some authorities it is better for bone health to be nearer the top of the healthy range when you are older. Also, if you have put on muscle through weights etc you will be smaller in size at a higher weight. My dress size is a British 12 (sometimes a 14 for my broad shoulders) which is US 8/10. I am happy with my figure, but a couple more pounds off my waist would not hurt. I dislike the texture of my skin, which is wrinkly and bobbly, but I am 66, so I'm not going in for Miss World. :bigsmile:
I lost 57 lbs to get to 140. It took me 19 months. I have kept it off for over 2 years. I log every day and do 600 calories of exercise each morning. I eat up to 1800 calories a day.

Went out to get my hair trimmed and to buy some groceries, mainly salad and veg. Also visited the fishmonger and spent a ridiculous amount on fish to go into the bottle of French fish soup I bought. Prawns, scallops, cod and fresh tuna. Having it with a blob of rouille, grated cheese and croutons for DH that are in the freezer. Easy and quick, but not cheap. :embarassed:

Watching a tv series tonight that I go up to our bedroom to watch as it's too violent for DH. He is very sensitive, so I prefer to watch anything a bit challenging on my own. We are still ploughing through the stuff I recorded while the family was here. DDIL severely limits the grandchildren's tv viewing, only allowing them to watch 30 mins of specified young children's programmes before bedtime. They can choose in turn.

I have my TROLL HUNTER to watch when DH is out one day. And another Norwegian film waiting in my Amazon basket.

Love to all. Sending love and hugs to the strugglers.

Heather UK

Kim - missed your pics so I had to scroll back. Looks splendid! Love the lights. Lighting is everything. I have string lights in the kitchen/diner, blue ones around the window, heart ones on a shelf, normal ones inside the wood burner with red crepe paper. My DGC wanted them on even for early breakfast! :drinker:

Fish soup was stunning. Thought DH was going to have an orgasm. :bigsmile:

Tomorrow the car is going to be serviced. It's its second time since new. Because we bought it new the garage comes and picks it up, services it, cleans it and brings it back to the house again. Service! ! !

Love Heather UK

Kim, just lovely.

Cheri and the other person married to a guy on the autism spectrum. I just read a great book on autism that you HAVE to read! It is called Neurotribes, and goes in to the history of the diagnosis and "treatment" over the last two centuries. I have a brother on the spectrum but never diagnosed, and it really helped me when I realized what he was good at and what he sucked at and adjusted my expectations accordingly. This book goes in to a lot of detail about the different "symptoms" one might see, how each individual in the spectrum is unique, and how the disability isn't in the person as much as in society's inability to make accommodations (something the general disability advocacy and the mental health advocacy communities have been saying for a long time). It talks about how much people with this way of learning and thinking are important to our society, much as Kay Redfield Jamison's book, Touched with Fire, does for mood disorders. Two of my three sons would probably be diagnosed on the spectrum now too. It mentioned that toe walking is a marker trait- my former husband, my oldest son and my grandson are all toewalkers! So my grandson may be on the spectrum too. All are very bright people. Anyway, I highly recommend running out and buying a copy, or at least getting it from your local library (the Iowa City library had five copies at least!).

miriamwithcats wrote: »

Kim, just lovely.

Cheri and the other person married to a guy on the autism spectrum. I just read a great book on autism that you HAVE to read! It is called Neurotribes, and goes in to the history of the diagnosis and "treatment" over the last two centuries. I have a brother on the spectrum but never diagnosed, and it really helped me when I realized what he was good at and what he sucked at and adjusted my expectations accordingly. This book goes in to a lot of detail about the different "symptoms" one might see, how each individual in the spectrum is unique, and how the disability isn't in the person as much as in society's inability to make accommodations (something the general disability advocacy and the mental health advocacy communities have been saying for a long time). It talks about how much people with this way of learning and thinking are important to our society, much as Kay Redfield Jamison's book, Touched with Fire, does for mood disorders. Two of my three sons would probably be diagnosed on the spectrum now too. It mentioned that toe walking is a marker trait- my former husband, my oldest son and my grandson are all toewalkers! So my grandson may be on the spectrum too. All are very bright people. Anyway, I highly recommend running out and buying a copy, or at least getting it from your local library (the Iowa City library had five copies at least!).

Thanks for the recommendation. I'll look into the book. As someone who worked in the public elementary schools for 8 years as an Instructional Assistant in Resource I fully understand "when I realized what he was good at and what he sucked at and adjusted my expectations accordingly" as I did this with all my little students on my own and as a part of their IEP. My husband and daughter are both extremely intelligent. My daughter referred to herself throughout her school career as "twice blessed" - gifted and disabled! The question my husband and I grapple with at periodic intervals is how much I should accommodate "who he is" and how much he should accommodate "who I am" being the nuerotypical in the relationship. It is not an equal equation. And then when we all get together it's me running around accommodating each of them and my son (who has no tolerance for his father or sister) and it is stressful and mentally/emotionally exhausting. AND neither of the 3 of them remotely understand the stress they "inadvertently" put me under just by being who they are...oy vey!

I'm going to go look for the book right now! Love your take on things Miriam as you are so well versed!

Cheri Fairlawn oHIo

@Katla49 Once when I was at my resort pool I had my flip-flops stolen! (Well someone took mine, while I was in the conversation pool) I was able to borrow another friends flip flops, but it was a wee bit awkward trying to explain THAT to my husband because the acquaintance was a dude. I found them the next day though!
Have you every FLOPPED out of your flip flops? THAT is so embarrassing! I seem to always look behind me, like what WAS that, that tripped me...ooooh it was my own stupidity!! hahahaha!

Becca
clumsy in Oregon

Terri- tomorrow I add a Nother set so it will be six sets of 10. However do as much as you can.



Mary from Minnesota

Dr Katie, if I wore neon yellow, I would look like a school bus! LOL

Yes, you are describing one of the differences of neurotypicals (so cool that Cheri has the lingo!) vs Autism spectrum individuals. I constantly say that I had to learn to not depend on my brother for emotional support- it is just beyond him, but if my air conditioner is broken or I need to borrow money, he is right there showing how much he cares. When I talked to him about how I felt, he would try so hard to "listen" but his face would be totally flat and all he could say was "okay" over and over and over again. What is funny is we were so close growing up. But I thought he walked on water! Younger sister! So I didn't realize he was "different". I am a pleasant blend of both sides (or maybe unpleasant to some?) - loved and did very well in math and sciences, but chose to go in to human development/ mental health because THAT was where I didn't "get it" and had to actually work hard to learn!

Mary - I can do 6 sets of 10, but can't even imagine doing 60 in a row without stopping. I'm going to do a set of 10 before bouncing on my ball, then "jump in with both feet" tomorrow. Yay ! ! !

Holy cow..maybe bratty boy is on the spectrum.. Could be the furnace guy calls him anal with a capital A.. And he does have alot of the traits that alot of you are speaking of.but I will tell you right now he won't do a think about it

((((((HUGS)))))) for all those with difficult husbands.

Heather UK

Betty: I agree with you. DJ is a wonderful person. :flowerforyou: Heather: I'm taking the liberty of assuming the hugs go to all of the women with husbands. Thanks! :devil: