WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2016

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Well ladies - we have just had an email to say that the package of compensation from BT (for the phone and Internet fiasco) amounts to a grand total of £326. That's near enough $500 .
Wow! :drinker: Very happy dancing going on here. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love Heather UK

Actually, my dear, your and DH's time are worth far more as far as I am concerned. However, I am amazed that you are getting anything. American cable companies get away with not compensating at all.
CJ

Sylvia As an alternative to a chiropractor, I go to a massage therapist who works out of a chiropractor's office. She is amazing. She explains the reasons for each stretching, or positioning that she does and has given me homework between sessions. Some community colleges have therapeutic massage certificate programs and can give recommendations or you might try student sessions ( very closely supervised by instructors) to try this out.

Those in weather harm's way Please stay safe. It appears to be a very long list of people who are threatened with hail, floods, ice, and tornadoes. Everyone else- the best thing we can do is contribute to the Red Cross or other experienced organization. The folks affected will need our help for a long time.

Joyce World Naked Gardening Day? I live in a college town. Can you imagine if the students found out????

Sue I used to board my girls at a big farm with a large three story barn with a ramp from the ground to first floor which could also be entered from outside. The hayloft was on the top floor that was entered from the top of the hill. Several of the horses were escape artists and someone did not close the main grain storage correctly... Several ponies and a SB had to be tubed. My pony, who never had to be sedated for dental work, was never quite so cooperative after this with the vet.

Katla Did you say what color your new jacket is?

AllieSometimes people feel the need to take out whatever is wrong in their lives on someone else. Unfortunately, you were the target this time. Please give yourself a {{{{hug}}}} from me.

Penny I feel that I am really getting to know Norway through your stories and pictures. Keep them coming.


Off to exercise. I get cranky when I don't get my walking completed.

CJ

Nikki – I guess I must be lucky … my deck is about 5 – 6 feet off the ground; and I hang my baskets out a little so they’ll get rain water. 20' off the ground, easily. They have not attempted to climb the stairs. Unfortunately, last year the deer discovered our grapes. Ate every last one of them before we could get to them. We might have to put up some sort of fence around them to keep them out. Talking about your phlox putting out their fabulous display – can you get a piece of plastic and put stakes under it to keep it off them; put bricks to hold it down and get a heat lamp to go under it? My husband puts a heat lamp out in our greenhouse during the coldest times. It does not have a heater – small anyway.

KJLaMore – Sometimes taking ‘fiber’ (Benafiber (sp?) and stuff like that - can make you constipated and block you up; but, the muscles are trying to get it to pass through - so the pressure. I’m told NOT to take ‘fiber’ … just eat more ‘fiber’. You could have hemorrhoids if you push and really shouldn't. I would suggest taking something like ‘Ducalax’ stool softeners (at night before bed) and see if you have a BM; if not, you probably need to see a MD about it. I got really constipated and could not pee because of it. That was extremely uncomfortable. Had been to the MD earlier in the week for a UTI; and, he had suggested taking a stool softener and see if that worked. The next AM, still had not had a BM (about 3 days in a row). Had appointment later that day to have a catheter put in so they could empty bladder and also to run a test on my bladder. I wanted to have a BM ‘before’ I went; so I took more (different) kinds of stool softeners, laxatives the night before; and had a ‘blow out’ that morning. This is going to be WTMI; but, it took 4 flushes to empty the toilet, too. LOL!!! Then I had 5 or 6 bouts of diarrhea. Told GYN’s nurse that he could NOT do a ‘rectal exam’ because I’d be ‘mortified’ if I had another one while being examined. Thankfully, she gave him a heads up (or should that be a ‘tails up’) and he did not perform any kind of exam, pelvic or rectal. Put the catheter in my bladder; and, that was ‘instant’ relief! AAahhhh. I went home and got in bed for the rest of the day.

ljdw99 – We divided my Mother’s ‘stuff’ before we had to put her into an Assisted Living Facility. She got to see that we did it fairly and no arguments or hurt feelings. Later on, we made some ‘exchanges’ with one another for things that we really wanted. My oldest sister had gotten the dining room table that would let out to seat 12. Middle sister and I gave her our 4 chairs for something she had that we wanted. But, I will admit to being a pluperfect B**** when my DH’s daughter by a previous marriage ‘screwed’ him and his brother over by getting DMnL to ‘add’ her as if she was a ‘child’; and pulled a POA off the Internet AFTER we had had her ‘rescind’ one that she had gotten her to sign earlier. BnL was 'pissed' because she was 'co-mingling' their funds and had transferred the title to the car over to he; he made her sign it over to both of them. Told her NOT to pay her insurance out of his mother's account and he balanced the accounts. They had given her a ‘Limited Power of Attorney’ to get ‘medical treatment’. Karma WILL come visit her ‘someday’; but, at this point – don’t care. We have not seen them in nearly 9 years since. DH was ‘hurt’ that she’d do this to them. I think what upset me most was that ‘she’ being the ‘only’ granddaughter did not bother to have the 4 grandsons added. She took DMnL to the bank and had her sign another signatory card; then it was never convenient to go have them added back; then she took the POA and went into DFnL’s lock box 4x from the day he died until the day of the funeral. Both sons ‘knew’ that he had money in it. Again, never sent any paperwork to have them added to the Mutual Funds that she bought with the $$$. The worst thing she did was on the day of the visitation for DMnL … they were having a ‘pool’ dug in their yard (while the supper was about to eaten in the back yard). I made a comment to DH about how it was the ‘height of disrespect’ for them to have workers in the yard when we would be eating out on the patio. Her husband was standing 2 feet away from me and he went over and told them to pack it up. His daughter came screaming and cursing out the back door – saying that it would then be the end of the summer before they could reschedule them. Oh well ….

Karen – My oldest DGD played the violin. She’s rusty now with being in college; doesn’t have the time – always studying. I love violin music.

If I don’t sleep well; for instance pull off my C-pap and/or forget to take my evening meds; I am dead on my feet the next day. Good thing I am retired and can sleep any time I want to. Usually, if I can’t get to sleep within 5 minutes of putting my C-pap on, it is because I have not taken my meds, so I get up and take them, then I go to sleep.

Lenora

Becca - be kind to your self, and those noodles???? they need to be spaghetti squash Family relationships can be a challenge, and while it would be nice to have things be smooth we each have our own issues. Take care of you and remember how much work it is taking for you to make changes and you want to - your sister will not make the changes she needs to until she is ready for.
(((((((((((((hugs for you)))))))))))))
Kim

Michelle- I am in your neck of the woods -in a very general sense- about an hour NE of DC. And I am new to the group too!
D-in yucky wet Maryland

evening ladies~ didn't get out of work until 6:20 tonight, took the boys for a walk and they ate.. now I am just chillaxin... Tom bless him is still driving. he left at 3 this morning, he has taking a few breaks...
I got a call from Maryanne and I will be taking Margaret to the Dr tomorrow... so have to be an hr away from here at 1:30 , so I will be up and out early getting stuff done

Marcelyn, cello is the preferred instrument in my extended family. My mother played it and was good enough to play in the Nashville Symphony when we lived there. I played it from 5 until high school and was forced by circumstances out of my control to quit then. My oldest sister and her husband have both dabbled in it (she is a concert level pianist) and my niece and namesake plays it. I tried playing it again a few years ago at my sister's house, but it was too painful with my bad right shoulder (torn rotator cuff and separated shoulder) and the arthritis in my hands, wrists, elbows and shoulders. I cried, since I had always hoped to be able to get back to it after my kids all left home.

Becca-
Thanks for the kind words.
Xander is very good and has set records for his school this year.there have been several national websites that have posted about him and my daughter Marina's boyfriend- aka baby daddy- who is on the same team with Xander and also about to graduate. Xander is going to a college in NC on academic and athletic scholarships to play lacrosse next year but wants to join the navy after college. My dad was Navy and we live 20 minutes from the Naval Academy so Navy is in our blood- kudos to your son!
Marina played lacrosse and went to college on scholarships to play too, but found out she was pregnant during her first semester so came home and is in school at the college here. It is a growing sport in the last 15 years for youth which is weird since we live only minutes from Johns Hopkins where college lacrosse started in the late 1800s.would have thought it would have been more popular long ago except that it is expensive to get the equipment needed.
My oldest is 35 and married with 2 kids and is about to move into her MIL house so she and my SIL can help his mom with the house. My oldest son is 27 next week and he lives about 2 hrs away near the beach. My 31 and 18yo daughter and 20 and 17 yo sons still live at home... Soon Lindsay 31 is hoping to buy her own house. That will make eating better easier as she is a phenomenal baker! She is a chemist and she says that baking is all about chemistry... She must be right because her brownies are to die for!

I work part time nights as a pediatric private nurse with terminally chronically ill children in their homes so I have lots of time in the day to be active and plan meals etc. Not that I always do, sometimes I'd rather watch dvrd TV shows and crochet or knit:) Hubby works from home so the house is always full and someone is always in the kitchen cooking something.We have a pool in our yard so that keeps me away from all the food being made during the summer and very active as I love to run and do yoga in the pool. Hopefully the weather will warm up soon so I can get back to it.

Dawn-in ever cloudy Maryland

Dawn - Which college in NC?

Becca - Quit beating up on yourself!

I received a callback from the orthopedist's office today. Evidently, it is not unusual to have a random flare up and, if it still hurts on Monday, I'm to call back. It is better than now than it was this past Monday, so I hope it finishes going away on its own! I have most of my range of motion back which is a huge relief.

I was approached again at my second job with a firm "request" that I change my hours. I will talk with the pastor at job #1 and then potentially offer a small compromise. I refuse to mess up a job with twice the hours that pays more and offers paid leave for a job I don't even like! Sometimes, even at my advanced age, it still surprises me how dense people can be.

I am getting more and more frustrated with sharing two cars between three people. It has been six months since his accident and the boy child still has not found a replacement vehicle! He is required to have one for work this summer so he HAS to get moving. Both his grandmother and I are being very inconvenienced by his lack of action

I really wanted to go see my parents this weekend but Andrew is working sound, etc. for a two night production at church In theory, he could ride his bike but I am so uneasy about him riding after dark that I will forego the trip. If I don't go this weekend, it will be June and I haven't been up there since Christmas.

I'm going to wind down for sleep now. Hope the storms stay quiet!

Carol in NC

Good evening ladies! Tonight I BBQ'd for the first time this spring! Somehow chicken breast just tastes better cooked on the grill.
Good news! The phlox survived the cold and were happily soaking up the sun this afternoon.

Becca, don't beat yourself up. The best of us have set backs. I must have gained and lost those same 5 pounds at least 6 times last year. You'll get yourself over that hump.

Heather, Bea is soooo adorable! and congrats on the pounds from BT!

Penny, love your wonderful pictures!

Allie, Margaret's advice to you was spot on! Even if the person has been dealing with a lot (aren't we all??), it doesn't give her permission to attack you. An apology is a step in the right direction, but she really needs to learn that type of behavior is not acceptable.

I definitely need to abstain from naked gardening day...my poor neighbors would never get over the trauma of seeing me!

Looking for words of wisdom from the group: I've been thinking about it for a while, and I think I'm going to try online dating since I don't meet single males anywhere, and none of my friends know any either. It would just be nice to have a male someone to go for dinner with, or talk to sometimes. It's been 8 years since my divorce, so I think it's time . Does anyone have any advice regarding which site(s) are better? Also, any advice about writing my profile, greeting line etc? The articles on the internet make it sound so intimidating just to write it! Thanks!

Stay safe everyone
Nikki from just outside Boston

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Ordered some new monkey feet! Aren't they purdy??

I confess I did skim over posts since mine last night. Sorry ladies. I do love all of you and think of you all the time. I am sure that my family gets tired of me talking about all of you.

About the naked gardening day. It was on my Facebook page in the trending section so I am sure lots of college students saw it. I will not be participating!!!!

I like Pandora. I have never tried Spotify. When I told my daughter that I helped my brother set pandora on his phone she said I should have set up Spotify. I have no idea really what it is.

Yes, we have had a lot of bad weather today!I am listening to the 10 PM news and they said that there were numerous tornados in western Kentucky. We had an F1 yesterday here in town but it was on the north side of town and I live on the east side. Our local weather man, well my favorite, told us that the storms that were in Kentucky would be hitting us at 5:15 so I made sure I went to church a little early. It stormed real bad while we were there but we were in the basement.

Joyce, Indiana

Nikki from just outside Boston~ I know we are our worst critics....Did have a fantastic dinner though, of pasta, and didn't even smear the last slice of french bread in the leftover sauce like I normally do. Proud little moments of perseverance! Thanks for your wise words though!
Becca
typing one handed still...my finger is taking forever to heal!
Oregon

Dawn-in ever cloudy Maryland~ My youngest son was thinking of going officer, (so that his older brothers would ALWAYS have to salute him) but it going into the Nuclear Engineering field. He is my scary smart kid, and even though we have told him there is A LOT of testing and constant re-qualifying in that field, he said he is used to taking tests. (Yeah, keep saying that son). I never made girls, (didn't get the manual) so it was just sons for us.

We are retired presently, husband rec'd a liver transplant in 2014, so we are just taking it easy. We aren't rich, but I would rather be poor with him, than at a job and worrying about him, and not appreciating him. So we lead quite the simple life.

Becca
Oregon

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon~ Funny story....when we used to live in Vacaville (Northern California area) we had a cute older couple. There were no two story homes next to us, so I would do my thing in the back yard. My neighbor Nadine would go out in her back yard, because they had a garden. She would maybe hear my music going and would yell over..."Rebecca are you nude over there?" I would reply as quiet as I could, "Nadine, why yes I am"....(thanks for telling everyone in a megaphone kind of voice...) They were a sweet couple though....and grew GREAT tomatoes!
Becca
Oregon