WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2016

Heather- thank you for sharing your holiday with us! I'm so happy that you had such great adventures to share!



Mary from Minnesota

NYKAREN

Talked to my husband a lot over the last couple days about the job thing, and asked him a question that really got him thinking, instead of simply reacting. I asked him, "What would it take to make you want to stay in the job?"

He called his boss, and the gist of it was, a) he wants to be in Fort Stockton with me, b) he would be willing to drive to and from the ranch each day (and a few other people do), c) he hasn't had a raise in more than a year. So, what he offered as a solution was that he get a raise that basically pays him for drive time, which at his current salary would bump him up quite a bit (like ten or twelve grand a year). We move completely out of the house on the ranch and into town, which relieves them of the expense of our staying there, plus frees up our house for the owner's son-in-law, which would give him both an office and a place to sleep besides the bunkroom of the big house, as well as a place for his wife and kids to come and stay, etc. It sounds to us like a good solution. Will it sound like that to them? Who knows.

But, what it does do is keep him in a job that he genuinely likes, even though they do make him crazy, keeps our health insurance, etc., intact until I can get him on mine, and helps make them aware that he doesn't want to leave, but will in order to get what we need, which is to be together. Burning bridges is seldom a good idea, and this keeps him from doing that. They're good people, if a little chaotic (OK, a lot chaotic), and it should be interesting. If they flat turn him down, he'll simply keep looking for another job until he finds one.

Anyway - the sale was successful, if not ragingly so. However, it may get even more successful today. One customer said she wants a number of the large pieces of furniture, but didn't have the cash yesterday. She is supposed to be back with a truck today to pick up and pay for all of them, around five p.m. Will she show? Not sure--but if she does, it will almost double the take from the sale, as she'd be getting all four eight-foot tall cabinets and both beds. Hope she's got tall ceilings. These are all massive! So, fingers crossed.

It feels like a massive burden lifted, to have the sales off my plate until the fall. Two jobs is definitely one too many. We'll see how it all turns out in the end.

Thank you to all for the good wishes on both the sale and the DH's job. Karen in VA, what a lovely compliment that was for me and my husband.

Speaking of which, my husband's mother died yesterday. She abandoned 11 of her 12 children (seriously) and her husband when my husband was 13 years old, taking only the youngest daughter with her. He's not seen her since, though the older sisters have gone to see her a few times. I asked him how he felt about her death, and his answer was that, as far as he was concerned, she died the day she left. Most of her grandchildren never even met her, including our two kids. I ache for them all, but respect his right to his own emotional substructure. It explains a lot about who he is now.

Love y'all,
Lisa in West Texas

Karen in VA ~ Yesterday, DH and I plugged zoysia into one area of our front lawn that is weedy and bare. I started all of this with just a very few plugs and have been amazed at how it has spread. We got the Amazoy brand that you order on line. You are right about it being mostly weed free. We do have a problem with wild violets trying to take over. I had one lawn care company come and try to take care of it and they killed all the grass but the violets. Luckily the zoysia came back.

Carol

Good morning everyone! I hope you get to enjoy your Father's Day with your loved ones!



Mary from Minnesota

Good Morning lovely ladies~
And Happy Father's Day to all the dad's that are attached to all of you...
just a stunning day here in Connecticut.. went down and fed DFIL he has been cranky and disruptive the last day or 2, but at lunchtime I will run to McDonalds and get him his favorite, hamburger,fries and a vanilla milk shake.. and spend lunch time with him.. Tom brought Homer(Killer) down to visit, how they love to see him..
Faith was asleep by 6 last night and was awake early so took care of her and will get her lunch together before I go, then will be back after that to make dinner for her,,,
Sean ,Jean and Dad will be going up to Lake Winnie to Jeans familys place up there to check on it and visit withmy aunt June who is acutally a cousin but is 8 yrs younger than my dad.. she is end stage COPD and her son lives right next door, she, my dad and my dads brother,my uncle are the only ones left of that generation..sorta mind blowing because that means we are the generation that I remember as kids that they were OY..
My dad is really enjoying himself this weekend and it makes my heart happy,wish I was with them but know that I am helping them do what they can and that Faith is in safe hands..I will make him his favorite nut cookies his mom used to make for father's day I know that would thrill him to pieces..
He will have a busy summer, with this weekend, then going with me for 4th of July weekend and then Sean and Jeans wedding ...

morning peeps!

just saw the donation keystonedaren!! thank you so much!!! u alone put me over $100!! YOU ARE MY HERO!!

Peach - thanks.. all i do is try.

thanks :0)

Got the camera pics downloaded.
one of me and Penny meeting a polar bear. I am wearing the hat I lost later at the museum and which Penny posted back to me. It was on my mat when I arrived home!



And now a view from the top of the Varden viewpoint in Molde. DH climbed up there while I went to the museum and spoke Norwegian.



love Heather UK

Cheri
Sunny NE oHIo soon to be in......??

I love the thot that no matter where your husband decides to go, you will still be just as close as ever to us. Great to have options.

Janetr OKC (which its still HOT)

Janetr- Love the photo!

Heather UK

Well I did it, 25.15minutes into my 54minute ride!

Margaret – Way to go with the pink flamingos!

Mary – Pressure wash the garage with some Clorox (or other bleach); maybe that will get rid of the cat urine smell because it will permeate the concrete. I don’t know about coyote urine; but, you can probably buy it at some place like Bass Pro Shop or Gander Mountain. I know my guys use some kind of stuff that doesn’t smell so bad that a human’s nose picks it up; but, other animals can. I agree with Michele, I probably would not put it inside the garage, especially if you have doors and keep it shut. Another way is to take the kitties for a ride (near a place with a barn) or to another neighborhood that has a reputation of feeding feral cats.

Michele – A belated party. He got a grill for DDnL#1, us, and DDnL#1’s mother, we got him a nice brush; the grill is great; just the right size for when they entertain or have a small group or just their family. Cast iron, so friend told him to cook a tenderloin and put a pan under it to catch the liquid; then rub the inside – top, sides, and grate down with it … and then he won’t have to ‘clean’ it like some others. DOS has very dark hair (almost black, speckled with gray, dark hazel eyes, and dark skin – his nickname is “Taco.” He got 4 T-shirts – one looks like the label off a Vintage bourbon bottle – aged 40 years; one with what looks like he has a name tag on it with the “Hello My Name is Taco”. I can’t remember the other; but all had something to do with “Taco” being on it. He has the coloring of my Daddy as well as my DFnL. My Daddy’s hair was so black that it looked midnight blue. Birthday was on the 16th. I occasionally falls on Father’s Day.

Lisa – Talking about colors; I have this thing on my bulletin board that has various colors down it; one side it lumps several colors that a person sees all as ‘red’, ‘yellow’, blue, green, pink, and orange; on the opposite side it shows what an ‘artists’ sees (all the colors). Black IS a color; white is ‘lack of color’; black can be made by mixing the primary colors; or colors opposite of the color wheel, or by mixing all trinary colors; which are the 3 colors like red, blue, and yellow; or if you turned that triangle like a clock still makes the color ‘black’ by mixing those colors (when using the right amount in the mixture). These 3 colors (primary colors) are the ‘only’ ones you cannot make by mixing any other color. True colors.

Mixing the opposite colors or trinary colors you can make shadows correctly – using black as a shadow color is not what an artist sees; they see just a darker color of whatever color they are using. IF I was stuck on an island and could get a bucket of things sent to me every month; I’d want brushes, palette knife, canvases, and black, white, red, blue, and yellow paint sent to me. Something to mix them on like a wax paper roll or stack of Styrofoam plates, and some mineral oil. I’d also like a set of pencils, erasers, and some drawing paper. I could keep myself busy every day; and, I’d paint on the trees as well. I know I’d be asking for a lot; but, I could entertain myself if I was on that island alone. Whenever I paint and finish for the day; I take my wax pallet and gently roll one side the other; top-to-bottom, side-to-side – making sure I don’t make a crease. Then I hang it up; and look at it at all angles to see if I see ‘something’ in it – like children do with clouds. Now painting my ‘new’ granddaughter some ‘sunflowers’; but, she’s asked that I use pink instead so they will match her ‘pink’ room. So to keep them from looking like zinnias; I am also painting in a few yellow ones; and, then use a black pen to outline the shapes I see. I did one not long ago that looked like 2 women with hats on and in 'fancy' dresses - like in the 20's; one holding up a cigarette and cigarette holder, Colors associates with race – red, yellow, black and white are what “Jesus Loves” … all the children of the world.

Love your philosophical article about how humans think. I don’t think you are wrong.


We also are estranged from DH’s daughter and her child – he looks at it as if she died (along with her husband and child) the day his Mother died. One day, Karma, will visit with her and sit down and have a discussion about how she ‘cheated’ her Daddy, our 2 sons, her uncle and his two sons with her 'greed'; and, a General Power of Attorney that she had pulled off the Internet and gotten their Mother and Nana to sign giving her full power over her and what would have been her estate. God doesn’t like ‘greed’; that is one of the ‘deadly sins’. It’s also ‘illegal’ in FL and probably in most states for one to prepare a POA for someone to sign that gives away their power to do things to that person who prepares it. She got her to sign it and told her that it was something the A.L.F., needed - a lie; but, not her first one. We could have taken her to court over it; but, DH and DBnL said, ‘it was not worth the arguments’ and attorney's fee of $500 a hour. My biggest issue was that she ‘took’ a painting that I had given to my DMnL one Christmas (the only one that I apparently did not sign). I wrote and asked if she’d send it to me to sign it and I’d send it back. Did not get, so much as a "Kiss my @$$." We’ve not heard a peep out of her for nearly 10 years.


Joyce – We have Centipede grass; before we moved here we also had it in our yard in a neighborhood; one neighbor had Zoysia; the other had Bermuda grass. Where they met – it was like they fought one another about where the line was. I think the Centipede won most of the time because it shoots out roots on a 'runner'. So when we planted grass out here we’d take piece of sod and cut them into pieces, sprinkled sand over it and in 2 years’ time or less it had covered the yard.

Cheri and Allie – My first OB/GYN did not have the best of ‘bedside manners’ – he still is someone that you either ‘love’ him or ‘hate’ him. I absolutely LOVE him; but, not always. One day as a patient in the hospital after have a really rare complication of pregnancy (Hydatidiformole pregnancy); we walked in the room, never coming in but 7 or 8 feet at the most with a nurse. I told the nurse to leave the room and told him to come over by my bed … I railed him up one side and down the other because I still could not understand what I was going through. Did not see him over the weekend; and the one OB/GYN was doing rounds. I questioned if I had made the ‘right’ decision. It was after dark; and, he told me to look out the window and see the light on in their office. He was researching what was wrong with me, because he did NOT want to perform a hysterectomy on a 24-year-old women with no children. Said he would do research for hours. That Monday, he walked in, without a nurse, and sat down on the end of my bed and explained what he had found out; and, that I should be able to try to start a family (waiting at least a year or until the HCG levels got out of my body). Started kidding him that we were feeding Duke University’s Medical Center’s vampire all my blood. Every Friday I would go to his office and have 5 tubes of blood drawn to send there, so that the following Friday he'd have the results. Had to take 9 weeks of chemotherapy because pieces of it (Placenta) had migrated to other organs of my body – that had to also be cleared up. I now have 2 smart, good-looking, kind, and loving sons; 2 DDsnL, and 4 DGDs. I don’t think I could be more ‘blessed’. This complication only occurs in 1:2000 pregnancies whereas naturally conceived twins occur in 1:89. The last time I saw him he told me that he had only had 2 others in the 40 years since mine in all the years he has practiced; but, they caught them early because of the 3-and 4-dimentional x-ray machines they now have in their office and sonogram machines. Now they can take pictures of the baby and you can tell 'who' they look like. That is amazing to me.

Cheri – I’d be wanting to move to TX (or any place that is warm) … I can’t handle ‘cold’; and even in summer there is a blanket on our bed; and a small blanket on my chair in the den. We ‘might’ get a few inches of snow every 15 or so years actually more like 40 since we got our last big snow; had another 3” about 4 or 5 years ago. DGDs had a ball; but, it was almost gone by the next day. YEAH!!!!!

Janetr - 6 girls! HA! HA! Probably like my Daddy - he was the KING of the house; and we were 'all very spoiled'. My Mother used to say 'she wanted 6 boys; but, stopped at 3 girls because they were twice as nice'.

Lenora

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