Good-bye MyFitnessPal

That's so sweet that you're wife is here, too, encouraging you.

One thing I would advise... forget the scale for a bit. Pick a fitness related goal and focus on that.

For me, it was running. I was never a runner. Thought my knees and lungs were too bad to run. Hated it. But I heard about the Warrior Dash, and it sounded like too much crazy fun to miss out on. And I realized that genetically, I can't be too much different than my healthy and strong brother and niece who run 5k races all the time. If they can do it, why can't I? My focus became learning to run, and I realized that it didn't matter if I gained or lost. It only mattered that I was healthy and strong.

You're already strong. You know that. You couldn't do the heavy work you were just doing if you weren't strong. If you're strong enough to do that, especially with the excess weight you're carrying, you're strong enough to lose the fat.

But there's some things you need to know. Your weight is going to fluctuate. It happens to all of us. I "gained" 8 pounds between Saturday morning and Sunday afternoon, thanks to going out to eat for breakfast twice (BACON! Yum!) and having a pile of pork, pasta salads, chips and cake (and booze) at a luau Saturday night. That's not gaining weight. That's retaining fluids.

If you have stuff that's salty, you're gong to retain fluids. If it's really hot and humid, you're going to retain fluids (ever notice how your wedding ring is loser in the winter than the summer?). If you don't drink enough water, you're going to retain fluids. If you do drink enough, but you're body isn't used to it yet, you're going to retain fluids. If you bust your *kitten* and work out really hard and heavy (you know, like hauling rocks!), your muscles are going to be fatigued and swell and ... you guessed it... retain fluids.

If you're eating at a deficit and working your bum off... you're not going to gain weight. It might not show on the scale right away, and you may need to tweak your calorie intake to find your own personal sweet spot, but you'll get there.

Don't give up. Not that you have a choice in the matter. I know your wife won't let you.

WOW with so many comments so fast I cant quote all of them and respond so ill do it real quick right here. Yes, I felt down from this mornings weigh in. And thank you all the negative people that want to call me a quitter or they feel apauled because I felt like quitting your posts started becoming very funny and I was picturing you on a soap box preaching to everyone who read it like none of you ever thought about quitting so I am going to say this........GO PISS UP A ROPE.

For everyone else thank you for the kind supportive words I am not going to quit. I tried to friend as many as I can I love and appreciate the help. Thank you

haha, Good for you man! Good Luck!

WOW with so many comments so fast I cant quote all of them and respond so ill do it real quick right here. Yes, I felt down from this mornings weigh in. And thank you all the negative people that want to call me a quitter or they feel apauled because I felt like quitting your posts started becoming very funny and I was picturing you on a soap box preaching to everyone who read it like none of you ever thought about quitting so I am going to say this........GO PISS UP A ROPE.

For everyone else thank you for the kind supportive words I am not going to quit. I tried to friend as many as I can I love and appreciate the help. Thank you

ummm how does one piss up a rope?? lol


haha, Good for you man! Good Luck!

Maybe examine your attitude and have some accountability. MFP isn't a diet. It's tools to help you make a healthy lifestyle change.

20 Million pounds lost...MFP works if you do!

Bye...you won't be missed!

WOW!!!! YOU are not a nice person!! Just sayin'

but honest.
I agree with the first two lines.
the bye you won't be missedpart was a little too much, but otherwise, amen.

LOL dude gave it 9 days? It can take up to 6 weeks before your body starts changing. Its totally frustrating but taking pride in small victories makes a difference. Today was the first day running that I didnt feel like I was going to have a heart attack, yet I've only lost a pound. But I know by exercising I am getting my heart in better shape, lowering blood pressure, cholesterol, elevating mood by endorphins, and making healthier eating decisions.

If you are just going to quit then you might as well tell your children you are going to die much earlier because you afraid of failing. Go ahead and tell them that by the age of 50 you will probably be on 20 different medicines and will have to ride the motorized cart at WalMart because you weigh so much your knees can't handle the stress. I'm sure your child wont feel embarrassed. Or how about the example you are setting your child by being fat and quitting? You are going to raise fat kids who will have no self esteem and probably raise fat kids themselves.

It's the harsh truth every one of us has to face. Get back in the game! If you try it for 12 weeks and dont lose a pound then something else is certainly wrong. But what do you have to lose by trying? Weight? Oh yeah, thats a GOOD thing!!

You have a really nice wife!

To the OP:
I just read a good bit of this thread. I'm so glad that you decided not to give in to the discouragement that naturally stems from what seems like a setback. I'm glad you have a wonderful supportive wife who clearly sees that you are succeeding and cheers you on. I'm glad that you have found more positive and helpful friends on MFP to help you on your journey.

Taking control of a part of your life that has been out of control is a huge step for anyone. It is daunting to grapple with all of the lifestyle changes, the emotional issues and the physical challenges of the task all at once - especially in the beginning. Those who were negative and harsh in their responses need to take a long hard look at their own humanity - to flippantly dismiss your pain and confusion, kick you when you are down and mock your very real concerns reveal MUCH about them, just as the fact that you have come around and decided to persevere reveals much about you.

You are strong. You are committed. You love your family and want to give them the very best self you can. You are human enough to falter, but wise enough to get up and try again. You're going to succeed. That is the destiny you are writing for yourself every day that you keep working toward health and happiness. Keep up the good work!

This is what I get from this thread. It's not about instant gratification. Establishing the habits for a healthier life takes time. But, it's easy to get frustrated and want to quit. It is never helpful to lash out and be judgemental towards others. Losing weight takes time and has it's ups and downs. And speaking of up, I can't shake off the image of p*ssing up a rope. Maybe some firworks will take that off my mind. For those of you in the States, have a happy 4th.

I absolutely agree, I'm actually pretty disappointed in how many responded so judgmentally. This site is fantastic, there are a lot of fantastic people here!

it's easy to get frustrated and want to quit. It is never helpful to lash out and be judgemental towards others. Losing weight takes time and has it's ups and downs.

Weight loss isn't easy. I can go a week and never lose a lb. Fact is sometimes I gain when I work out realy hard, go figure. I think controling sodium is one of my problems, and the conversion of fat to muscle could be another reason. I haven't quit however. myfitness pal is a boom for me since starting it i have lost 20 lbs before it I lost 107 but the calorie tracking sucked. Quittig is easy I have done it also. Sticking it out is hard but becauae I did I can walk up a flight of stairs again.